Placidd
@Placidd
12 Years
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Reconnecting? Leo and Pisces
for those who wanna know, its "the reason" by hoobastank. I felt really badly that everything happened the way it did, and I was honestly sad because I really cared about her..I was ashamed of myself for trying to hurt her by making her jealous..Call me stupid for doing that, but the past is the past and I did what I did no matter how foolish it might have made me look.
I saw from my mutual friends' walls that she was really upset. It hurt me a lot to see her being so expressive because I hadnt seen that side of her at all. But I tried to let things go, hoping that what I did was for the best, and that she knew I didnt want to do it to hurt her. towards the end of our freshman year, we tried being friends but that didnt work because there was still a little bit of tension and she called it quits. That hurt me deeply, but I understood.
The next fall semester (2011) I kept seeing her around campus and we had different classes in the same classroom. A few times I tried talking to her but she would avoid me. This continued for a few more weeks, and I eventually just got frustrated and labeled it a lost cause. Towards December of that same year I ran into her and two mutual friends to whom we were both close. We had a short conversation, and that was it. I hadn't seen her since then until 2013.
This past January I ran into her at the mall. I walked in and saw her sitting with two friends, one of which was a mutual friend. I was waiting for my roommate to meet up with me (coincidentally everyone there lived in the same school district) and I decided to go talk to them. She greeted me warmly, and we talked until my roommate arrived. Honestly it was exciting because I could see that both of us were a little nervous , and I could hear her voice quivering whenever she was talking. When I got up to leave we both said that it was nice to see each other again, and went our separate ways.
I saw from my mutual friends' walls that she was really upset. It hurt me a lot to see her being so expressive because I hadnt seen that side of her at all. But I tried to let things go, hoping that what I did was for the best, and that she knew I didnt want to do it to hurt her. towards the end of our freshman year, we tried being friends but that didnt work because there was still a little bit of tension and she called it quits. That hurt me deeply, but I understood.
The next fall semester (2011) I kept seeing her around campus and we had different classes in the same classroom. A few times I tried talking to her but she would avoid me. This continued for a few more weeks, and I eventually just got frustrated and labeled it a lost cause. Towards December of that same year I ran into her and two mutual friends to whom we were both close. We had a short conversation, and that was it. I hadn't seen her since then until 2013.
This past January I ran into her at the mall. I walked in and saw her sitting with two friends, one of which was a mutual friend. I was waiting for my roommate to meet up with me (coincidentally everyone there lived in the same school district) and I decided to go talk to them. She greeted me warmly, and we talked until my roommate arrived. Honestly it was exciting because I could see that both of us were a little nervous , and I could hear her voice quivering whenever she was talking. When I got up to leave we both said that it was nice to see each other again, and went our separate ways.
In mid-march, I decided to send her a friend request over facebook, and she accepted it.
I sent her a message a week later, saying that I hoped things were going well overseas (study abroad) and that she was enjoying her visit. She replied saying it was great, and asked me how I was doing. From then on we continued to message each other back and forth, and she wished me a happy 21st birthday out of the blue, saying that she realized she missed it. It felt really nice to hear her say that. We continued to message each other when we had time, so once every 5-6 days. She recently replied apologizing for getting back to me 2 weeks after my last message, and continued the conversation.
Now comes my question: What do you other leos think about this? Is there any insight you can give to this fish?
I would like to ask her to meet up with me sometime this summer for lunch, but im not sure if the timing is right. I would usually be the one to keep the conversation going over facebook, asking her questions about this and that, to stay in touch with her. Although she would reply with a lot of text, she wouldn't ask me any questions, but go along with the conversation.
I felt that she would leave it open to a reply, but im not entirely sure if she is just being polite in replying or if she wanted to keep in touch with me as well. Im a little cautious to say the wrong thing or ask something too personal for our current rapport and have her dismiss me. The last message she replied was talking about coming back to America and about her 21st birthday which is coming up in a couple months, and Im feeling like replying to her making a comment on those, but im not sure if I should if she feels comfortable meeting up with me sometime.
We dated, things didn't work, lots of drama, we get back in touch and now this. Honestly I would love to meet up with her because that would pretty much signify we could refer to each other as friends (at least in my eyes). I don't know what the future holds, but I would be happy if we could at the least become good friends..
I sent her a message a week later, saying that I hoped things were going well overseas (study abroad) and that she was enjoying her visit. She replied saying it was great, and asked me how I was doing. From then on we continued to message each other back and forth, and she wished me a happy 21st birthday out of the blue, saying that she realized she missed it. It felt really nice to hear her say that. We continued to message each other when we had time, so once every 5-6 days. She recently replied apologizing for getting back to me 2 weeks after my last message, and continued the conversation.
Now comes my question: What do you other leos think about this? Is there any insight you can give to this fish?
I would like to ask her to meet up with me sometime this summer for lunch, but im not sure if the timing is right. I would usually be the one to keep the conversation going over facebook, asking her questions about this and that, to stay in touch with her. Although she would reply with a lot of text, she wouldn't ask me any questions, but go along with the conversation.
I felt that she would leave it open to a reply, but im not entirely sure if she is just being polite in replying or if she wanted to keep in touch with me as well. Im a little cautious to say the wrong thing or ask something too personal for our current rapport and have her dismiss me. The last message she replied was talking about coming back to America and about her 21st birthday which is coming up in a couple months, and Im feeling like replying to her making a comment on those, but im not sure if I should if she feels comfortable meeting up with me sometime.
We dated, things didn't work, lots of drama, we get back in touch and now this. Honestly I would love to meet up with her because that would pretty much signify we could refer to each other as friends (at least in my eyes). I don't know what the future holds, but I would be happy if we could at the least become good friends..
I am not sure what the true demise of the relationship was. I will say I dated a pieces in high school for a couple of years. So we were young. The problem with pieces, they want to share their love with everyone. Leo's are very giving to everyone but are loyal to the ones we love and expect the same from those we love. It is not good for our self assurance when we don't have that loyalty and have to compete with everyone else. Don't get me wrong, I loved his attention and passion towards me when he was with me. But when he wasn't that is different story. Boy gave me another girl's earrings before he left for college when I went to get my braclet I had left at his house by accident. I didn't even ear those type of earrings. SMH Many many years later he reconnected with me thru social media. Even telling me, I was the one what happened. (Eye roll) Nice try player. And I mean that truly. I maintained a distant friendship, he hasn't changed on bit. But again, that is just my experience.
Posted by TheLioness79
... Many many years later he reconnected with me thru social media. Even telling me, I was the one what happened. (Eye roll) Nice try player. And I mean that truly. I maintained a distant friendship, he hasn't changed on bit. But again, that is just my experience.
You were the one that happened? i dont quite understand what you mean by that...and are you calling that pisces guy youwere involved with a player? I know that some of us can be that way but i know myself well enough not to mess around with peoples feelings because what goes around comes around...
Id say that the demise of the relationship was the amount of attention that she wanted and was given versus the amount of emotional support that I wanted when I was feeling down. When we hung out by ourselves things were great, but in groups was a little stressful. Sometimes we'd hang out in a group of people and I would feel a little neglected because she would give most of her attention elsewhere, so I got upset which made her feel uneasy. We would argue a little, then the rest of the day would be tense. This was the norm for a couple weeks before we met up and talked about it, thinking we should stop.
Ive met other girls and dated around between now and then, and I do want to mention that a lot of things I thought was originally wrong with them was actually from my own doing, and I learned that I cant place so much pressure on my partner. I also concluded that controlling myself in uncomfortable moments can mean a lot to someone if she knows I am trying to make her happy.
honestly, Que sera, sera. Mainly my interest is to be her friend, but if things escalate into something more, then If we just stay friends I would be happy with that as well because I care about her a lot more more than I had those around me believe.
Oh, and about my whole dating around thing, I was mentioning that saying that I would legitimately start a relationship with a girl and it would end just because things didnt work out. I wasnt aiming to end those relationships, they just ran their course and some lasted longer than others.
Yes, that was my experience with him. Good that you recognize not to play with other people's feelings in that manner. But you can't control their behavior and conform it to what you want, especially a Leo.
As for her being the center of attention in social situations, another typical Leo trait. Not one for me though. I observe. So basically what I am hearing, in the social settings she was "shinning" but you felt that attention should have been more put on you? Fair enough. However, typically speaking we are social creatures and like the attention and admiration,
Nothing wrong with dating around. You are young. You are suppose to. How else will you know what you want in a person but the experience of different people?
As for her being the center of attention in social situations, another typical Leo trait. Not one for me though. I observe. So basically what I am hearing, in the social settings she was "shinning" but you felt that attention should have been more put on you? Fair enough. However, typically speaking we are social creatures and like the attention and admiration,
Nothing wrong with dating around. You are young. You are suppose to. How else will you know what you want in a person but the experience of different people?
Posted by PlaciddPosted by TheLioness79
I care about her a lot more more than I had those around me believe.click to expand
Just something to think about. If you can't be truthful and genuine with your feelings for a Leo woman around other people, how can you expect her to feel you are being truthful and genuine with her alone? That for me would bother me, I don't need my man to be flamboyant with his feelings but I can sense it in your demeanor, but if I feel he is one way in public and another way in private that makes me question your true intentions with me.
Posted by TheLioness79Posted by PlaciddPosted by TheLioness79
I care about her a lot more more than I had those around me believe.
Just something to think about. If you can't be truthful and genuine with your feelings for a Leo woman around other people, how can you expect her to feel you are being truthful and genuine with her alone? That for me would bother me, I don't need my man to be flamboyant with his feelings but I can sense it in your demeanor, but if I feel he is one way in public and another way in private that makes me question your true intentions with me.
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i understand. Throughout all the drama my friends didnt want to listen to anything I wanted to say, to open up to them if I felt down. all they would reply was "Youll be okay, just give it time," or "Just get over it"..I eventually stopped talking about it but it took me a lot longer to move on because I couldnt open up to anyone when I needed to talk,and kept running away from my emotions as a result.. I didnt tell anyone how much I cared because I felt all they would do was act indifferent, and the first few times they did I was extremely hurt because I thought they would be there for me.
I wouldnt do some things because I felt that it would make things tense, like going in a group together to hang out. I would say that I had to study so that my 'friends' wouldnt say anything about it.I kept it a secret because I felt that leo wouldnt listen to me either if I tried telling her that I cared a lot about her, and I didnt want to make her feel smothered because when we broke up I was reluctant and did so with a little "kicking and screaming" so to speak. But I will keep that in mind for the future, and will remember to be honest and open about my feelings.
Great music choice, by the way!
It's wonderful that you can circle to this point, Placidd, so I think there is a chance she could be hoping things will get further for you two. If she's talking about her birthday plans with you and not throwing any new boyfriends or potential lovers in your face but keeping the conversation alive, then she could be hopeful.
At the same time, from my experience, keeping communication with Piscean friends are not always easy. What to say, what to say?? It has taken some time to get cool with my Piscean friend now and be expressive. I don't know why I held back (I'm betting it's trying to figure the allure of the fish out 😛 ) but I imagine she might be feeling the same too.
Y'all are not easy to figure out. 😛
So, I suggest keep on keeping on and let time decide where it goes from here. 🙂
Thank you! 😄
yeah..honestly I feel the same way sometimes hahaha. Like I want to reply, but I dont know what to say. But when I do she would reply with a good amount of stuff. She was being a little open about where she was and how she was getting used to the climate there, and did tell me when her birthday was when I asked, and also said that she felt a little strange coming back to US with a couple months left of not being able to legally drink (Like thats ever stopped anyone lol).
She didnt say exactly what she had planned, but I dont think that we are that close yet because right now I am thinking "I want to be more open with you but i dont know how you would react", or I am just being careful with what I say, and like you said she could be feeling the same way, you know? I dont wanna reply something to taboo for what we have right now but I am staying hopeful and optimistic.I will reply to her and keep things polite and (hopefully) interesting! 🙂
"Throughout all the drama my friends didnt want to listen to anything I wanted to say, to open up to them if I felt down. all they would reply was "Youll be okay, just give it time," or "Just get over it"..I eventually stopped talking about it but it took me a lot longer to move on because I couldnt open up to anyone when I needed to talk,and kept running away from my emotions as a result.. I didnt tell anyone how much I cared because I felt all they would do was act indifferent, and the first few times they did I was extremely hurt because I thought they would be there for me."
Here is what I was saying, needing the love (or attention) of all in a Pieces. For you it is mutual respect and friendship, it appears. I will swing back around to this.
"I wouldnt do some things because I felt that it would make things tense, like going in a group together to hang out. I would say that I had to study so that my 'friends' wouldnt say anything about it.I kept it a secret because I felt that leo wouldnt listen to me either if I tried telling her that I cared a lot about her, and I didnt want to make her feel smothered"
The social interaction caused problems because she wanted to be out, but at the same time these people are the same ones that you feel let you down in your friendship? You are allowing the perception of others to dictate your romantic relationship. She is having to compete with your friends here as well.
"But I will keep that in mind for the future, and will remember to be honest and open about my feelings."
Part of this comes down to this. Communication with your partner. Yes it is great to have friends for a sounding board or to work it out, but ultimately, your relationship is with her and she should have these words, not someone else. Key to a successful relationship is communication.
Here is what I was saying, needing the love (or attention) of all in a Pieces. For you it is mutual respect and friendship, it appears. I will swing back around to this.
"I wouldnt do some things because I felt that it would make things tense, like going in a group together to hang out. I would say that I had to study so that my 'friends' wouldnt say anything about it.I kept it a secret because I felt that leo wouldnt listen to me either if I tried telling her that I cared a lot about her, and I didnt want to make her feel smothered"
The social interaction caused problems because she wanted to be out, but at the same time these people are the same ones that you feel let you down in your friendship? You are allowing the perception of others to dictate your romantic relationship. She is having to compete with your friends here as well.
"But I will keep that in mind for the future, and will remember to be honest and open about my feelings."
Part of this comes down to this. Communication with your partner. Yes it is great to have friends for a sounding board or to work it out, but ultimately, your relationship is with her and she should have these words, not someone else. Key to a successful relationship is communication.
Posted by TheLioness79
Here is what I was saying, needing the love (or attention) of all in a Pieces. For you it is mutual respect and friendship, it appears...
Okay Im not really sure what you mean here..are you asying that she needed attention or was that in general?
Posted by TheLioness79
The social interaction caused problems because she wanted to be out, but at the same time these people are the same ones that you feel let you down in your friendship? You are allowing the perception of others to dictate your romantic relationship. She is having to compete with your friends here as well.
Yes I agree with you in the fact that I let my friends control me in a sense. One thing that did confuse me was the part reading she had to compete with my friends? If you mean that after the breakup and during the drama then I would understand because both of us were trying to get the majority attention of our friends.
Posted by TheLioness79
Part of this comes down to this. Communication with your partner. Yes it is great to have friends for a sounding board or to work it out, but ultimately, your relationship is with her and she should have these words, not someone else. Key to a successful relationship is communication.click to expand
You're right...Even if it is hard for someone to talk about their feelings I still believe that in a relationship if someone doesnt know they are doing something wrong then that person will continue to do it until the partner can no longer take it and wants out..
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