Relationship advice/mixed signals

First off I'm love with her. Please help me. I've been seeing this woman for about a couple weeks now and I've kissed her many times so far. She's 39 and I'm in my late 20s, she has 4 kids I'm more than happy to meet. She finds me very funny, passionate, romantic, intelligent, and mature over all. She likes the way I'm manly and gentle at the same time. The problem is lately she's been acting very weird her texts aren't as let's say passionate no more kissing emojees and all that. The down turn is she has a boyfriend in the navy, he's 32 and he's been with her a while yet he hasn't met her kids. Remember he hasn't even met her kids!!! We talk about this last and she said she needs to be faithful to him but if he wasn't in the picture then I would've taken her already, I told her I understand that said some good things about her boyfriend. I'm supporting her relationship to get get to be with me. Here's another thing, I've done everything to avoid the friendzone and I'm not friendzoned thankfully. It's the mixed signals that's killing me. Literally everything is going a bit down hill and I wanna prevent it!! Now I'm not in yet because she likes the way i flirt with her. She responds positively. Is there a plan of any sort to get her and win her over this boyfriend of hers? I understand this is not right and immoral and this n that. I really don't give a damn! I want her. If you boys can gimmi advice then do so. If your gonna bash on me and call me a prick then leave. I'm gonna mark you down. (My sun is aries my moon is taurus)

Thank you for your input pm me so we can chat more on this. I'll give you guys more details.

You're a trainwreck. You know that, right?

Rockyroad your right!! I am a trainwreck.

Markov23,

are you 23 yrs old? Hello Boy.. You are NOT IN LOVE! you're just obsess. please be careful.

Yea the plan is buy her really expensive things. Spend some cash. Chances are a woman taking care of 4 kids is cash stapped anyway. Take her out to dinner.

The 16 year age difference is too much so I hope you just want some and not a long term thing.

Do not stick and stay. I repeat do not stick and stay this will not end well for you.

This thread is giving me deja vu. Did you post this before?

Ya I posted this but things have excalated. My emotions escalated for her. She's starting to become more distant I've noticed. What does that mean? Text wise I mean she's starting to become distant but aside from that she's very very busy.

SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU

DAMN HOW MANY TIMES DO WE HAVE TO SPELL IT

STOP POSTING SO DAMN MUCH ABOUT A WOMAN THAT DON'T WANT OR NEED YOU

Lol taurusnikki your not crazier than I hahaha

@markov23

I think maybe you should take some time and think about everything.

Let's say (for example) you and her started a real relationship. Are you ready to be a step father to 4 children? Picking them up from soccer practice, helping with homework, etc! If she asked you to go out on a family dinner, would you be able to help afford a family of 6? Are you aware that there isn't much room/time for intimacy?

Have you thought about any of this? Are you strong (mentality, emotionally and financially) enough to be in a relationship with her? Maturity is evaluating the WHOLE situation! I hope your not only thinking with your 'yoo hoo' but also with your mind.

Good luck! 🙂

she has 4 kids and is single... chances are she will try her best to get that guy to marry her for those military benefits for her and those 4 kids..... I think you really need to ask yourself are you really this in love with her? or in love with just getting her attention?

this isn't just about love bro, you need to be financially stable, she has 4 kids after all and im positive she already has it in her head that you cannot support a family.

Cmccask1 has the best answer on this one. you need to look at the bigger picture here.

Bottom line, I think you should just let this go. Not worth the stress because at this point, you're just making your own bed.

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Posted by M143
Markov23,

are you 23 yrs old? Hello Boy.. You are NOT IN LOVE! you're just obsess. please be careful.

Stupid statement... you can be young and in love 23 isn't even that young

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..yes it is.

Posted by Cmccask1
@markov23

I think maybe you should take some time and think about everything.

Let's say (for example) you and her started a real relationship. Are you ready to be a step father to 4 children? Picking them up from soccer practice, helping with homework, etc! If she asked you to go out on a family dinner, would you be able to help afford a family of 6? Are you aware that there isn't much room/time for intimacy?

Have you thought about any of this? Are you strong (mentality, emotionally and financially) enough to be in a relationship with her? Maturity is evaluating the WHOLE situation! I hope your not only thinking with your 'yoo hoo' but also with your mind.

Good luck! 🙂

lol at yoo hoo but still this is a great advice. look at the whole situation man.

To which I said 23 is young...

Sun Aries/Moon Taurus..... Enough said!

Your going to do what you want, Aries have tunnel vision and this is a perfect example of it. You see nothing but her, right now you live, breath, eat, and sleep this woman. She's presented you with a challenge and you have concured her yet. Most likely if she gave in your fire would burn out fast after anyway. An older woman with 4 kids is looking for stability, goals, what they have to offer a single mother with that many kids, and how well a man can provide for all of them.

At your age you have no idea the amount of responsibilty that postion requires, I'm not saying you cant do it, but the amount of stress that will be added to your life if it works out... It will burn out the relationship at some point. The level of intimacy your in need of will by far be on the back burner. Which will lead to resentment on both sides.

I'm sure at some point in your life you want kids of your own, even 1 makes 5 in that family. Do you know what the grocery bill alone would be, minus school clothes, diapers, baby wipes, the constant growing and buying clothes in the middle of the year. Kids in sports alone will be a fortune.


Personally you aound like a typical Aries that hasnt gotten what they want yet and you'll keep RAMMING till you do or get hurt hard.....

Good Luck

BTW: I'm a big lover of Aries/leo relationships... you've had a taste of Leo magic, go find one your won age 😄

*own

Great Advice @justaleo and @emotionalaries