Sag women dating a Leo man

This topic was created in the Leo forum by Bambi1180 on Monday, May 19, 2014 and has 19 replies.
I am Sag women dating a Leo man. We were dating for six months. The first four months were great but for the last two months we have an argument every week. The arguments happen when I ask him about communication. After six months of dating I believe we should talk on the phone at least once a day, well that's what he got me use too especially on the days we don't see each other. To be honest any question I ask I have to accept the answer whether it makes sense or not. He claims the questions I ask hurt his feeling and make him feel guilty. He either gives me the silent treatment or he goes on texting rampage telling me I don't appreciate him and every character fault he has I rub in his face. So finally last night he said he doesn't want to see me any more because he doesn't feel like arguing with me and his choice was hard because he loves me. I'm okay with ending the relationship but I'm hurt for a couple of reasons; I feel like it's so sudden, I love him and I wasn't arguing with him when I asked the questions. I chose my words carefully. What gives? Why is he so angry with me? As a Sag I just want to know because I really don't understand.
Well I've had a few guy leo & from what I know he doesn't like females telling him what he should do ! So if your telling him you need to communicate more & he doesn't it makes sense ! They are hard headed & do things when they please ! .. He may feel like he's lost control of the relationship ! Which may be a blow to his ego ! I say move on ! If he can't compromise ! You should be able to speak your mind in a relationship ! That's how situations like this get handled .. Or he could be going through something & that could be where the lack of communication us coming from ! My leo friends always needed space from the girl once in awhile he probaly feels smothered as well ! I know that will make them call it quits as well !
Thank you for replying. At this point is okay for me to ask why is he so angry. This stupid question keeps running through my mind. I don't want be a stalker or anything. If it was me initiating the break up I would explain.
Lol, JustaLeo. Your right Im pissed as he'll he broke up with me. I was thinking If I keep telling myself I'm okay with the breakup I'll start to believe it. I'm pissed because I actually tried my best to be sensitive to his feelings. I'm a true Sag and my mouth does get crazy but I kept it tame when it came to him. I spoke to him earlier today. He claims the questions I ask are insulting. He says I know the answer to the question but I strategically try to hurt him when I don't get what I want, basically I'm a spoiled brat. Lol, f... It, two tears in a bucket. I almost gave him my soul, he's the first guy that had me caught up. I guess you live and you learn.
Posted by Bambi1180
Lol, JustaLeo. Your right Im pissed as he'll he broke up with me. I was thinking If I keep telling myself I'm okay with the breakup I'll start to believe it. I'm pissed because I actually tried my best to be sensitive to his feelings. I'm a true Sag and my mouth does get crazy but I kept it tame when it came to him. I spoke to him earlier today. He claims the questions I ask are insulting. He says I know the answer to the question but I strategically try to hurt him when I don't get what I want, basically I'm a spoiled brat. Lol, f... It, two tears in a bucket. I almost gave him my soul, he's the first guy that had me caught up. I guess you live and you learn.


What's with the copy/pasting identical replies from one thread to another?
That seems kind of insincere.

I need more than one point of view and was replying and I'm impatient.
just give him time... leave him alone... if you mean a lot to him, he will come back...
Posted by Bambi1180
I need more than one point of view and was replying and I'm impatient.


Good to know.
This may be an excellent illustration of why things didn't work out.
How many times did you bring up him and his flaws?
xtina!
omg it's so good to see you back. smile
How have you been?
Montgomery, Is every thing okay? I didn't know how the forums worked. You asked a question and I gave a honest answer.
Xtina, I brought them up as I saw them. Looking back I could have over done it.
We met for coffee today after work. The conversation went better than I thought. We cleared the air on a lot of things. We decided to continue the relationship because were in love and enjoy being with each other. I'm just afraid I'm going to unintentionally hurt him again. I'm a sag, I'm impatient and blunt. He's a Leo, secretly emotional and Stubborn. I love that he is loyal, confident and funny. How do we break the cycle? I can't take this break up to make up business.
Posted by tamara
xtina!
omg it's so good to see you back. smile
How have you been?


Omg Hahah hey gurl!!!! I'm good. How are you? How's life?
I understand completely what you're going through Bambi!! Actually this happened with my first great love (Leo).
Honestly, it is all a balancing act and you have to strengthen your mind do you are more of the decisions and choices you make.
It's good to keep in mind his feelings and not to trample all over his ego or take advantage of him...BUT you can not let it fall the other way either where you completely give in and let him reign supreme over your choices. He will never respect you for that.
So, next time, before you jump the gun on having a "talk" with him. Ask yourself what is the MOST important part of your relationship. Your love right? And ideally you want to give unconditional love. Now their are whole books written on this so I won't get into more than I already have.
But you have to decide and pick and choose your battles... ask yourself is this really important to bring up? Does what he do harmful to my character or integrity in anyway. The reason this is tricky is that there can be things that are not important in the whole scheme of things and things that can make or break your relationship. The best way to do that is set boundaries now. Make it clear to him and understand overall (the both of you) what you really want in this relationship.
Just the tip of the iceberg really... but I hope that helps.
*strengthen your mind so that you are aware*
Posted by Bambi1180
Montgomery, Is every thing okay? I didn't know how the forums worked. You asked a question and I gave a honest answer.


lol
I gave you an honest answer in return, but it looks like you took offense and opted for sarcasm instead of trying to understand.
I didn't think it was that difficult.
I am a sag woman with a leo man. 2 years now living together for a year. I have all the same problems with my leo. Our relationship is great he makes me happy we laugh and smile and joke 24/7. Even a lady at the grocery store last week commented to us how its so refreshing for her to see a couple that is actually happy??_??_
My leo does not express emotions or feelings verbally. Not once has he told me he loves me??_ we had this argument time and time again how I want more verbal affirmation from him.. he has the same response that I don??t appreciate what he does do.. that I hurt his feelings when I say this stuff??_ he said to me once that I need to see WHAT he does because the rest is just greeting card bull shit. He was hurt in his past so is carful of being emotionally open however im the first girl in many many years he wanted to commit to that to him is HUGE and he feels that should be more important then words being said??_. Now my advise to you is??_.
Does he show you? Is he good to you? Does he hug you when you need a hug? Does he say thank you when you do something nice? Does he ask about your day? Does he express interest in your interests? If so then I have learned that this is what matters most. Its hard as a sag to let go of hearing what we want to hear its hard to not be showered with affection but the pay off in the long run with a leo man is so worth it. I have a much deeper relationship and connection then I have ever had even with men who pawned all over me. I always remind my self of the sweet things he has done when I start feeling like I need him to talk more and open up more I remember that vauge one liner he told me that showed feelings last week was huge for him and I appreciate that im the lucky one who he opened up too. Everyone one shows love different you need to learn how he shows life and accept it not try to make him show love how you want him too.
Best of luck and im hear to talk if you want.
Thanks, everyone for your advise and support. Your post were insightful and they helped me to see things in a different perspective. I'll take baby steps and hopefully my Leo and I will grow with each other instead of participating in emotional warfare.