This Leo girl...

This topic was created in the Leo forum by mercurian on Sunday, April 20, 2008 and has 13 replies.
im a gemini wanting to be with this leo girl, REALLY BAD!
I feel like she totally dislikes me at times, and then at other times i feel like she really admires a lot of things about me.
despite the fact that Gemini CAN and COULD and probably WOULD (roflmao) cheat if given the opportunity (or if they MAKE their opportunity); i am not one of them.
believe me... ive learned that from other peoples mistakes, my grandfather leaving my grandma, and then my uncle doing the same to his wife...
but whatever... i KNOW i have a good head on my shoulders; and though i do walk around checking girls out EVERYWHERE i go, i am not really making moves on anyone...
the funny thing is, i have given this Lion TONS of advice, on general stuff... we have graphic design class together in college, and ive helped her out tons!
also with stuff to do generally in life... her ex; dealing with credit cards; stuff about how I envision relationships; and even just musings about sex...
and yet, i havent even gotten a kiss from her.
maybe im way too old fashioned??
ive asked her for a kiss twice already, and she tells me that she isnt ready... now i can understand that, knowing what she went through with her ex (im not going to elaborate on that, but she got F***** over, BIG TIME)... and yet, last tuesday i was hanging out with her having a few drinks and i kind of talked her into a conversation where she acknowledged that she had ( at LEAST ) made out with another guy since having met me....
to be honest with you, this REALLY pissed me off and made me feel like i've been wasting my time with her... but i know better, so i didnt go off on her, i just told her that i felt a bit disappointed, and moved on to another topic within the next 30 seconds... (gotta love that gemini trait)
does anyone in here think im wasting my time with her??
i dont understand how she can just make out with some dude, who she's known for a lot less longer then she's known me...
also she told me that she was taken advantage of by a guy she had met one night with some friends... on that one i continue to give her the benefit of the doubt; though i do feel like she DID mean to hook with him, though not go as far as he took it, and then she told me that she basically got 'raped', or just 'taken advantage of'
i truly like her, we have way too much in common, from our pasts, to interests and things we would opt to do...
at times i really do feel like i have smothered her, but that is kind of
lol
that is kind of who i am.
._.
i dont wanna smother her, she told me she doesnt like that (odd for a Leo)
or maybe it just be the situation where she is at right now...
umm... help?
can i still 'win' her?
how?
thank you Leos! or just knowledgeable individuals in the zodiac. lol
=)
I'm pretty sure she sees you only as a friend and nothing more. Had she been interested she would have approached you rather than the two other guys, and also would have accepted a kiss from you. Us leos know what we want and go after it.
thanks for the comments.
i guess for now we're just friends...
i realized that today.. i spoke with her online and she was REALLY upset at the fact that i keep on pursuing her...
its also my fault, she had already said that she didnt want a relationship right now; though i just dont understand why she would just mess around with other guys and not me.
i just find that strange...
she also made a comment that she was trying to confide in me, she thought that I was different and now she has doubts...
so thats kinda where we're at.
either way... we can be friends for now; as much as i would like to be more than that; there is no other way.
so im just moving onward as her friend... if she realizes things down the road, i guess i could give her a chance... lol
im looking to get into a serious relationship, fooling around is not for me...
so i guess i'll be looking for a while.
thanks for the comments!
yeah... i think i know what you mean.
we'd normally hang out every tuesday night, go somewhere after class and have some drinks...
today she told me that she cant go out tomorrow night.
when she said that, i pretty much knew why.
i dont want to play games with her... but im going to play along. maybe she really has a lot of stuff going on and she cant make it, or maybe i've gone a bit too far, and she doesnt want to be around me for now...
however it may be, i told her that i had no problem with that.
and i told her to just let me know when 'its cool' with her to hang out again...
she agreed to.
i can always talk to her online, and i see her in class once a week.
so im not too worried about not being in contact with her.
whatever she decides to do regarding messing around with other guys; well as much as i disapprove of it, it really isnt my place to say anything.
and if she isnt the girl im gonna end up dating, well then, that is out of my control... though i dont believe in fate.
funny side note... she has this weird belief than when the number 1111 shows up, the person gets to make a wish...
this has happened twice already!
kinda funny. and its always for some reason, me the one that has to make a wish...
you can imagine whats going on through my head ;P
than again,... maybe you cant.
crap
we'll according to her we're not 'cool' anymore
so who knows...
i guess its time to move on.
i wouldnt be surprised if she doesnt talk to me any more..
i think i screwed this up.
sure thing Latinindia!
Thanks for the advice!
we have class tomorrow night... i dont even know what to expect.
actually, i plan on showing up to class a little bit late... normally i would show up 15 minutes early and wait for her to show up and walk in to class together...
however after today, i dont think that would be a good idea.
dont worry about the whole staring and stalking thing... im not very good at that anyway. lol
i also promised myself i wouldnt contact her on IM or on facebook.
so if anything she would have to be the one to initiate contact from here on out.
i guess i do have to 'avoid' her like that from here on out.
thanks! Winking
actually, im even thinking of being more 'aggressive' towards the rest of the girls in the class... you know? just flirt a bit more with them as opposed to spend time with her and our projects.
leoKitten...
send me a private message, please.
i dont follow.
thanks!
speaking for myself own-layy...
when people are pushy, it repels me. it's a red flag; i don't trust them, and i feel like they're using me for something rather than getting to know me. one phrase i read some time ago that i'll never forget: "with a leo, tread lightly toward love."
mercurian, look for my new publication in july. how to make a leo love you. guaranteed or your money back.
oh, Leokitten...
those were 2 completely different conversations.
sorry, you might've misunderstood...
when she got taken advantage of, that was about 2 or 3 weeks back... before the conversation in which i told her i was disappointed.
two totally different ocassions, two totally different conversations.
i should've been a bit more specific. im sorry. ^^;
either way... as of right now, we're kinda starting over.
i took the advice from Latinindia, and it kind of worked.
though i did approach her after halfway through class and talked briefly with her.
basically, regardless of what anyone might say or think; we're kinda starting over.
i know that you guys might think that it might've been a mistake to talk to her or whatever... be we did talk. and after class (we were the last 2 people to leave) we walked to the parking lot and everything is cool.
i basically told her i wasnt apologising, but i knew i fucked up; and made it clear that it wasnt supposed to have been like that.
I told her "i know i've been acting retarded for the past 2 months.... but thats your fault"
then she just started kinda laughing, not at me, but more like she didnt know what to say so she just smiled and laughed.

i know she's not using me or playing with me... i can tell.
but whatever.
we're supposed to go to the bar next tuesday.
though now i've gotten a taste of an angry leo, and thats not something i will trigger again. Winking
has it been 10 days yet??
umm... we're still hanging out.
I havent been doin those things which i was... and ive been kind of playing mind games with her... cause after all she said she kinda liked it when a guy would play her off....
so we were at the bar, and she was saying that she wanted to 'move out'
and i was like 'have a good night!'
it was hilarious... then somehow i managed to get the conversation to the point where I told her..."dont worry, we'll be out of here soon... well, at least you will.. I'm gonna walk right back in and get me another beer"
i dunno... it was kinda funny, even when we left, she drove off and i was still just standing by my car 'pretending' that i would walk back inside the bar once she left. lol
of course i didnt, i am not sure if she's even thinking about it... i kinda hate doing that stuff myself. but whatever.
i was also umm.. flirting with the waitress, i dunno if she liked that or nor (the leo, not the waitress lol)
but whatever.
we're still hanging out. so thats good.
yeah, thats probably what she thinks
but its not like im that worried.
to be honest. im kinda losing interest in her.
if anything she'll come back looking for me.

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