What to do with this Leo guy

I'd like some brains to help me out, I'm not sure if I should keep seeing this Leo guy. But it has been so sweet and fun, it's hard to let it go...

So I've known this Leo guy for a month. I met him on the street after watching a horror movie, it was midnight, he kinda scared the shit out of me when he approached me. I gave him my number because he was very polite and with good manners. He called me the next day and ask me to meet sometime. We met that weekend and we went for a walk.

We stayed at a park playing guitar for a few hours in the morning. It was a beautiful day and we lay on the grass and cuddled a bit afterward. We went to my place in the early afternoon, and he cooked me lunch. It was a very sweet day. The only thing I didn't like is he said he want to have sex with me, and he said I love you. I rejected him. He mumbled if we don't have sex, I may not see you again. I answered: I can accept that. So he didn't insist, and we just read some funny things together. He left early evening. I thought it was the end of it.

But he called the next day and almost every day for a month. We arrange several outings, they were all sweet and fun, hand-holding, passionate kissing, he would say I love you every now and then. But the thing that bugs me is he doesn't let me to know him, he said he doesn't like to talk about himself. One day we were in the park playing guitar, I asked to see his old photos, he refused to show me, saying there are too much photos with his exgirlfriend on his phone, he doesn't want to show them to me. I kind felt like he is like someone just went through a heart break and need a rebound, I'm just someone filling that void for him. But I didn't want to read into it. I only knew him for two weeks then.

About the four week, we were hanging out at my place, and it was getting late and he was ready to leave (I don't want to have him overnight because I'm not ready to have sex with him), I said jokingly: can I go with you? He replied: no, I don't bring girls to my place. I kicked him playfully. But later when I think back, it doesn't feel right.

This past weekend, I asked him if we should go out on a real date and meet more often since my schedule will be less crazy soon. I didn't consider the past month as dating since I had been busy and all our hanging out were spontaneous. I asked if he is seeing other people, he said no. I asked do you want to see more people? If so, we can both start to see others people and stay friends. He said I want to see you. I asked him: do you want to do a weekend getaway to some countryside with me? He asked: are we going to have sex there? I felt it's the right time to talk things through. So I told him that: I feel I only know you on the surface, and you gave the impression that you are only interested to have sex with me, you may not think that way, but that's how I feel. And you don't let me to know you. I'm very honest with you and told you a lot about me, because I want you to have the choice to decide if you want to be with me. But I feel you are withholding information from me, I need that information to decide how close I can be with you. I don't want to be with you yet feel lonely. I've never asked anything from you, I only asked to see your pictures, but you refused to show me. And I invited you to my place the first time I met you. You never invited me to your place. He explained the same thing, he doesn't want to looked back at his photos with his exes, and he had crazy girls knowing where he lives checking on him etc. I countered his argument that you don't let people to get intimate with you, but you want to have sex with, that's very intimate too, you are contradicting yourself. He got quiet for a while, then said: I should go. He gave me a long hug and kissed all over my forehead and hair and said I love you.

I haven't heard from him since, but he is on vacation with his buddies this week. So I think it's a good break for me to think about how I should proceed. I always have good time with him, but I just don't know if he needs time to open up or he will be always this way. I'm a Sag, I always give people the necessary information they need to get along with me, not too much, not too less. I don't get along well with secretive people long term.

Your gut is telling you something is off because it is ..listen to it!

It’s really not hard for a Leo to put all their cards on the table - when they want to.

And the only card he’s playing right now is the ‘I’m here for the sex’ card.

Which generally means that’s all he wants.

And he’s basically told you that from the beginning which in a roundabout way is pretty honest... so if it’s not your thang you’d be better off moving along x

He has a girlfriend...But, He will contact you again, to see if he can get you...And once he finally gets you, the chase will be over. He won the prize..The smartest thing to do is to never sleep with him, until you are comfortable, but most importantly, until he has earned the right to be with you on an intimate level. And that is by showing you that he can be completely open and honest with you, and proves to you what he is saying, is indeed a fact.. That statement alone about if you guys were not being intimate on the first date at your house would have force me to kick his butt out. And for the fact that you invited him into your home with out any efforts on his part, such as wining and dining you, made him believe that you were desperate, and a easy target. That is why he disrespected you by saying that to you. The next time that he contacts you, do not invite him over, let him take you out somewhere nice from now on, if not, lose his number.

Posted by freespirits

I'd like some brains to help me out, I'm not sure if I should keep seeing this Leo guy. But it has been so sweet and fun, it's hard to let it go...

So I've known this Leo guy for a month. I met him on the street after watching a horror movie, it was midnight, he kinda scared the shit out of me when he approached me. I gave him my number because he was very polite and with good manners. He called me the next day and ask me to meet sometime. We met that weekend and we went for a walk.

We stayed at a park playing guitar for a few hours in the morning. It was a beautiful day and we lay on the grass and cuddled a bit afterward. We went to my place in the early afternoon, and he cooked me lunch. It was a very sweet day. The only thing I didn't like is he said he want to have sex with me, and he said I love you. I rejected him. He mumbled if we don't have sex, I may not see you again. I answered: I can accept that. So he didn't insist, and we just read some funny things together. He left early evening. I thought it was the end of it.

But he called the next day and almost every day for a month. We arrange several outings, they were all sweet and fun, hand-holding, passionate kissing, he would say I love you every now and then. But the thing that bugs me is he doesn't let me to know him, he said he doesn't like to talk about himself. One day we were in the park playing guitar, I asked to see his old photos, he refused to show me, saying there are too much photos with his exgirlfriend on his phone, he doesn't want to show them to me. I kind felt like he is like someone just went through a heart break and need a rebound, I'm just someone filling that void for him. But I didn't want to read into it. I only knew him for two weeks then.

About the four week, we were hanging out at my place, and it was getting late and he was ready to leave (I don't want to have him overnight because I'm not ready to have sex with him), I said jokingly: can I go with you? He replied: no, I don't bring girls to my place. I kicked him playfully. But later when I think back, it doesn't feel right.

This past weekend, I asked him if we should go out on a real date and meet more often since my schedule will be less crazy soon. I didn't consider the past month as dating since I had been busy and all our hanging out were spontaneous. I asked if he is seeing other people, he said no. I asked do you want to see more people? If so, we can both start to see others people and stay friends. He said I want to see you. I asked him: do you want to do a weekend getaway to some countryside with me? He asked: are we going to have sex there? I felt it's the right time to talk things through. So I told him that: I feel I only know you on the surface, and you gave the impression that you are only interested to have sex with me, you may not think that way, but that's how I feel. And you don't let me to know you. I'm very honest with you and told you a lot about me, because I want you to have the choice to decide if you want to be with me. But I feel you are withholding information from me, I need that information to decide how close I can be with you. I don't want to be with you yet feel lonely. I've never asked anything from you, I only asked to see your pictures, but you refused to show me. And I invited you to my place the first time I met you. You never invited me to your place. He explained the same thing, he doesn't want to looked back at his photos with his exes, and he had crazy girls knowing where he lives checking on him etc. I countered his argument that you don't let people to get intimate with you, but you want to have sex with, that's very intimate too, you are contradicting yourself. He got quiet for a while, then said: I should go. He gave me a long hug and kissed all over my forehead and hair and said I love you.

I haven't heard from him since, but he is on vacation with his buddies this week. So I think it's a good break for me to think about how I should proceed. I always have good time with him, but I just don't know if he needs time to open up or he will be always this way. I'm a Sag, I always give people the necessary information they need to get along with me, not too much, not too less. I don't get along well with secretive people long term.

When I say that I am PROUD of you and this post.

Holy cow.

Gurl, your head is on so straight and you actually open your mouth and Express yourself.

5 stars.

Hes just not ready for that type of intimacy. Hes cool with being surface level. Thata fine but it's not what you want.

Stick to your guns. You've already proved you are NOT like all the rest.

Posted by Easha23000us

He has a girlfriend...But, He will contact you again, to see if he can get you...And once he finally gets you, the chase will be over. He won the prize..The smartest thing to do is to never sleep with him, until you are comfortable, but most importantly, until he has earned the right to be with you on an intimate level. And that is by showing you that he can be completely open and honest with you, and proves to you what he is saying, is indeed a fact.. That statement alone about if you guys were not being intimate on the first date at your house would have force me to kick his butt out. And for the fact that you invited him into your home with out any efforts on his part, such as wining and dining you, made him believe that you were desperate, and a easy target. That is why he disrespected you by saying that to you. The next time that he contacts you, do not invite him over, let him take you out somewhere nice from now on, if not, lose his number.

+1

Dont ever have sex with him till he proves his worth

She is not going to listen....And end up with a broken heart... You better take heed, and think with your head and not what's inside of your pants......

Posted by Easha23000us

She is not going to listen....And end up with a broken heart... You better take heed, and think with your head and not what's inside of your pants......

LOL. I'm listening. Already checking out new guys. Plenty fishes in the sea!

Thanks everyone for the unanimous vote NO, lol. Yeah, definitely time to step back and move on!

So after I went through several dates with different guys, this leo guy called me and invited me to his place, he lives by himself and has been single for a while...Jeez, why he had to make such a simple thing so complicated. Now I'm in the awkward position whether I should go out on date with this other cute guy I've been chatting for a while. I never dated multiple people at the same time, it doesn't feel right and I hate compare people...