So i will describe the story short. we work together, he is 4 years younger than me. we havent noticed each other for 6months, then started dating and been together for 4 months, after that he split up with me and became fwb for 7months, now only "friends".
the reason for splitting up was that i didnt feel he wants sth serious and started losing my security. he has started losing inerest once i showed im into him (took me a bit of time as cancers dont trust easily). i had the feeling he was chasing other women (didnt like to give up to others we were together ie didnt want to add pics of us on FB, didnt show any affection around his friends, talked behind my back about problems in our relationship).
what annoyed him the most was my sending messages (tons of them - to moan, explain, say sorry etc) and that i went with my ex on holidays (was a month after we got together, he himself went for hols with family, ive told him id never cheat on anyone - and its absolutely true, besides he allowed me to go). Since then his mum started to dislike me - it didnt even help when shes met me and i helped him with stuff for his party until 2am, made his family xmas cookies, etc. Generally hes had like 10 relationships already (he is 25), and even his sister said he has committment problems.
now we still talk but whenever asked him for something he is "too busy". we went out for drinks but i felt he behaves different - the spark is missing. he has admitted he is afraid to meet with me because i all the time want to get back together with him..i still see how mch fun we have together (he said im the only woman that makes him laugh a lot, feels comfortable around me), he gets jeleous when he hears i meet with someone and keeps coming at work to chat, laugh etc.
he says he doesnt want a relationship at the moment, is happy being single. whenever i mention sth about rel he gets annoyed. soon one of us will probably go to work in another city. is here any chance he would want to try something again? i know for sure leo women dont come back (i have a few leo gfs), not sure how it is with the guys
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May 04, 2016Comments: 82 · Posts: 2348 · Topics: 51
He already said he doesn't want a relationship
yeah i know atm, but wonder if theres any chance he might come back in the future as i wrote - we understood each other really well but there was a bit of damage we both did
Thanks Sssupes
so you mean theres no chance at the moment as he wants nothing or at all (as too many bad things happend)?
whenever i ignore him at work he comes and keeps checking on me and he gets jel when i talk about other guys or when i say im going away he wants to know everything - its quite confusing..
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Jun 27, 2016Comments: 975 · Posts: 5791 · Topics: 44
It seems to me that you were too emotional and he didn't like this. As a result, it pushed him away. Give yourself space. At least a week. No talking at all. This will give you time to distance yourself and not feel so emotional. Next time you talk to him, be chill. Be a friend. Not a crazy ex.
so the update is he has been coming over to my desk last week, following me to the common kitchen, being flirty and touchy, feeding me with food,,when I got annoyed with him not replying to my message, he came over to check on me
this week hes cold and distant - didnt even say hello to me..
i dont think this is a normal behvaiour..?