WTF Just Happened—

Leo's.....help please! Leo Ex and I are just friends now (with benefits), and there was never really any down time between the end of the relationship and friends part. I believe we both still love and care for each other, but he has made it clear we never will be husband/wife and that's what he is looking for. So we both start dating other people. He usually likes to share ALL of his dating new women stories/experiences with me (including sex), while I've only ever told him about one guy I like. It is hard to hear, but I've adapted and even engage him in conversation about his dating life sometimes. He goes back in forth with me though. One minute, he doesn't want to hear about me and any other man period. The next minute, he says he doesn't care what I do and hopes I find someone. The other night we had dinner, and afterwards I was meeting the guy I like for drinks (the same one I told him about). He tried to get me to stay with him instead, but I said no and went on my date. Now he won't talk to me (this happened 2 days ago), and I'm confused as to why. Any help?

You need to read more about Leo traits.

Once you do, you will know where you did wrong.

I was wrong? I didn't do it to try and make him jealous or hurt his pride. I just chose not to let him cock block once again like he always does.

You rejected him, lol.

I meant cock block. LOL! I guess I didn't see it that way, but maybe you're right. I guess I just don't know what to do know. I would never intentionally hurt him and want us to continue to be friends. Do I apologize or just wait until he eventually calls me.

OMG!!! C**k must mean chicken on here, and I meant now.

I understand that you are friends... but then, you two are still having sex as well... So why did you break up in the first place? :-/

I withheld some important information about my health from him, that I should've disclosed when we first got together. He couldn't get over what happened or deal with the situation. We initially broke up in April and went through a lot of ups and downs for a few months, but are finally at a good place now. Or so I thought....

Posted by aquarius80
I was wrong? I didn't do it to try and make him jealous or hurt his pride. I just chose not to let him cock block once again like he always does.

No, you weren't "wrong"-- not technically.

But you bruised his ego.

(Nevermind your ego (or feelings) when he regales you with his escapades!) 😛

Montgomery.....that last sentence was exactly on point! Well he did leave clothes here, so he has to eventually call. I am big on communication and hate conflict, so this whole thing is driving me crazy!

Posted by Jynja

Posted by aquarius80
Now he won't talk to me (this happened 2 days ago), and I'm confused as to why. Any help?

You are such a liar.

You say you withheld health information from your Leo and that caused your breakup? And of all the people to tell that lie to, Enfant! ::::SMH::::

You keep thinking you can somehow trap this Leo man, but chances are he's well in touch with his intuitive side and can see through your many lies.

You cheated on him with another man. That is what you did when the Leo man left you.

Then you begged and begged to become friends with him again, hoping to land him in your good graces again. Congratulations, you managed to lure him back into your bed like you planned. Still trying to control him with talk about some one guy you like.

Fuck this nonsense. If he was really just your friend with benefits and you liked another guy, you wouldn't give 2 hoots if he came or went in 2 months or 2 years.


Why do you tell so many lies?

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I hate not knowing the whole story.

My comments-- consider them withdrawn, aqua80.

Ok JYNGA ------ STOP!!!! YOU ARE ASSUMING.....LET ME REPEAT.....ASSUMING YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENED. THE HEALTH INFORMATION WAS THE START OF OUR DEMISE. THE OTHER MAN THING HAPPENED AFTER HE DECIDED TO GO BACK ON A DATING WEBSITE TO MEET WOMAN AND I DID THE SAME TO MEET MEN. I ACTUALLY HAVE BLOCKED HIM MORE THAN ONCE, AND ASKED REPEATEDLY IF WE COULD DO THE WHOLE NC THING FOR A WHILE. HE PURSUED BEING FRIENDS THE WHOLE TIME. IT'S FINE IF YOU HAVE YOUR OWN THEORY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED WITH MY STORY, BUT DON'T COME ON HERE AND PUBLICLY SCORN ME AS A LIAR WHEN YOU DON'T PERSONALLY KNOW ME OR WHAT HAPPENED. YOU HAVE THE CHOICE TO NOT READ MY POST AND STAY OFF MY THREAD IF YOU DON'T LIKE ME OR MY SITUATION!!!

Thanks for your comments Fum! We will never be where we once were, but I was hoping we could at least maintain our friendship through all this. I take great offense to someone calling me out of my name who doesn't know myself or my character though. Bottom line....if he wants his stuff, he'll eventually call. I talked to a male friend who explained that his behavior is a way to try and control me because he wants to have his cake and eat it to. He also said it was selfish of him to get mad at me for leaving him for a date, when we're just friends and he is actively dating as well. So with that being said, I'm glad I went with my first mind and went on my date instead of staying with him.

Posted by aquarius80
Ok JYNGA ------ STOP!!!! YOU ARE ASSUMING.....LET ME REPEAT.....ASSUMING YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENED. THE HEALTH INFORMATION WAS THE START OF OUR DEMISE. THE OTHER MAN THING HAPPENED AFTER HE DECIDED TO GO BACK ON A DATING WEBSITE TO MEET WOMAN AND I DID THE SAME TO MEET MEN. I ACTUALLY HAVE BLOCKED HIM MORE THAN ONCE, AND ASKED REPEATEDLY IF WE COULD DO THE WHOLE NC THING FOR A WHILE. HE PURSUED BEING FRIENDS THE WHOLE TIME. IT'S FINE IF YOU HAVE YOUR OWN THEORY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED WITH MY STORY, BUT DON'T COME ON HERE AND PUBLICLY SCORN ME AS A LIAR WHEN YOU DON'T PERSONALLY KNOW ME OR WHAT HAPPENED. YOU HAVE THE CHOICE TO NOT READ MY POST AND STAY OFF MY THREAD IF YOU DON'T LIKE ME OR MY SITUATION!!!

I'm doubled over with laughter over the sudden shift in composure.

only you know your situation and what's going on... in the heart and mind. don't let anyone take that away from you. on these boards we are only able to decipher what is written or interpet what's going on by relating them to our own experiences. life is short, do you. if he wants you (fwb also) he will get you. Leo's (fromy experience) are great about saying one thing and doing another. listen to what he's not saying :-)

Geminiloveleo - Thank You! You're the first person ever to say that. Sometimes I do focus on words instead of actions. I called him at work this morning, and he hung up on me. It's sad this happened, but maybe it's a blessing in disguise. On the other hand....I let him borrow my Dyson a couple of weeks ago, and now I'm wondering if I'll ever get it back :-/ Lol @ Huntress. Sometimes that other side of Aquarius seems to come out!

he likes drama. you calling him is showing him attention. let him hit you up. you feel what you feel for a reason.
my Leo has spent almost 5 months fighting me about being "ready" 3 days ago he said "just friends" again. but last night we slept on a wet ground underneath a tree, 3 miles back in the woods. we spent all night cuddling, holding hands, and a little making out. I don't know many roommates (friends) that get all intertwined and hold hands but if that's what he wants to call it lol. I have followed my heart (not my head by any means) 5months now and I've had to push and kick all the way. he has a lot of baggage and personal problems, but I'm forcing him to deal with them as opposed to just existing. he's very loyal and I have put him THROUGH it! he's still here. I'm good to him and he's good to me. a lot of times on here I only talk about the "ME" of it or "what I want" :-) it's not all bad.
Keep your Faith, Follow your Heart and you define what your Happy is!

Awww....that is so sweet! Your story is an inspiration to stay in there and stick it out, but just as friends for me. I couldn't imagine going through a lifetime of this drama! Lol. You're completely right about his liking drama and even though his phone just called me by "mistake". I'm not calling back or giving this anymore of my energy. I'll I can do is hope and pray we can eventually get to a good space, and I can get my vacuum back. Lol. But I do sincerely hope you and your Leo get to have your fairy tale ending!

Posted by seraph

Nice to see you around, Huntress. 🙂

Thank you, Seraph.

Soooo......my leo text me Wednesday morning and said we needed to talk in person. When he came over that night, he told me when he got in early Wednesday morning (2-3am), he walked into his house and 2 men were in there robbing it. He ran out and is ok, but he was clearly shaken up about it. We talked about it for a while, and I asked him where he was going to stay now (he refuses to go back there unless it's during the day). His response was "I'm home". My response was "ummmm.....what?". Lol. Now don't get me wrong, I love and care about him and he is always welcome if he needs a place to stay. But after the last silent treatment incident, and given our past and the fact that he is adamant that we will never be together, I'm not sure if that's such a good idea. I think it could end up going really wrong, and we still haven't discussed what happened last week. Any thoughts about how I should handle this?

OMG.....something has to give! I allowed my Leo ex to stay with me due to his situation and things have gotten super stressful! One minute he has to find somewhere to move to ASAP, the next minute he refers to my place as "our home". Anytime I show him love, he automatically pulls away, so I follow suit and he tells me I'm sometimesy. The ONLY time he shows me love is when I either catch him in a lie or when he thinks another man is involved with me. I cleaned up last night, and he accused me of having another man over. I told him he had 2 weeks to find another place, and he told me he would take that into consideration. WTF!!! He wants to have his cake and eat it too, and I'm not having it. Ugh!!! Sorry I had to vent!!!

Seems to be a trend lately.

I keep reading cake and eating anywhere I turn my head around.


Aqua... it was nice of you to give him a place for 2 weeks. Just don't get too hung on him.

His jealousy does not prove he loves you. My Leo guy was even jealous over my brother.

Lol. Me too! At this point, I just want peace if he's there or not. After reading up on narcissistic personalities, I truly believe he has some of those traits so I contribute the Controlling, Possesive, Jealous, Lying behavior on that. Lord help whoever gets him as a husband.

Posted by MellyMel909
Is this the same guy from your other thread that you've been "double clicking" the mouse in front of?

I'm not gonna lie....it took me a while to catch on to what you were saying. Lol. No, we get it in on a regular basis. That thread was inspired by my talk with a friend who has been with her guy for 3 years, but it's not so regular anymore 😢

wow keep us updated. sounds familiar

You are worth more than this treatment. I get that you guys have a rocky history but,it seems as though he is unwilling to move forward in a healthy way.

Posted by firewaterearthvenuspisces
You are worth more than this treatment. I get that you guys have a rocky history but,it seems as though he is unwilling to move forward in a healthy way.

You are exactly right! What makes it hard is always the "hot" times that reminds me of how much love/passion we have for each other, and reminds me of how things used to be when we were at our peak. It always makes me immediately miss that and want to go back there. Needless to say....we're going through a "hot" period right now. FML!!!