A question for THELIBRAN

ok, you seem to know a lot about libra men. Is it common for them to open up and be flirtatious, even ask you to come and meet up with them and then the next week just kind of clam up and pretty much blow u off and try to push u away. We had some really deep conversation and talked about a lot and now he is just kind of....well not saying much at all.

Yeh it's common. You're libra guy changed his mind about you.

He is prolly shy and afraid...

he could be...man he has me all confused.

Yup. Very much possible. Probably nothing to do with you. Cant be sure. May be he met another girl and got all confused. May be something he didnt liked in you turned him off. Just wait a bit. May be he will turn himself on again. It usually happens.

So, libran are u male or female? your profile doesn't say.

Ok, anyway, so u think wait and see. He asked questions and i answered. i asked questions and he answered. Since he has been single for quite a while i wonder if that has something to do with it. He hangs out with guys we work with all the time when not at work. And also me, The defense mechanism thing...where he pushes me away...sounds like a typical libra male trait. Well from what my girlfriends say about their libra men. Never been interested in one so i really don't know what is typical..i am use to aquarius,pisces,taurus.

ok i hv updated my profile. removed my age when some older people tried to use it to their advantage instead of defending their point. 🙂

Its not hard to get a libra. You will have to take a bit extra effort to make it very clear to him that you are interested and you are not just flirting around. An unexpected kiss from you can make things a lot easier and clear his head.

ahhh...i see. Thanks for the profile update.

So an unexpected kiss. I may do that if he returns to his normal self. I did find out that another girl isn't a possibility. Also a friend of mine at work said that he has liked me for a while now. I have pretty much made it clear to him that my interests are not just flirting. Man i am just really confused by this. I do know that guys and girls play games like these. A leo that i work with calls it the push/pull game. He says he likes to play this game. If u like someone why push them away? And then try pulling them back?

My intentions have been made quite clear. I was pretty dang upfront and honest. When we first started talking and messaging he said he didn't want to get involved with a co-worker for fear of someday feeling awkward. Then he made a total turn around. It was like he had never said that. Or that he didn't mean it. I even noticed how he pays attention to me when ever i walk thru.

A libra man cannot resist the presence of a libra women. We dont play games intentionally. Its normally born out of some confusions and our complicated nature.

Say if u tell him that he looks good, his brain will automatically process it like something is wrong with him. You tell him he looks stupid, he will enjoy it and will blush. Its jus that our brain automatically thinks just the opposite. Probably u said something which he interpreted in an opp way.

hmmm...well i did ask if he was interested and he said yes. i didn't ask in those words but you get what i am saying. i don't know whats going on with him.
so compliments don't go over well...i will have to keep that in mind

Is it common for them to open up and be flirtatious, even ask you to come and meet up with them and then the next week just kind of clam up and pretty much blow u off and try to push u away.

This is common among men in general I think ... a Virgo man did the same thing to me recently.

what sucks is i am usually very good at figuring people out...well, except for him.

((what sucks is i am usually very good at figuring people out...well, except for him.))

lol!!! same happnd to be a while ago when i was chking out a libra girl. But its easier if u make it a point to communicate face to face and avoid sms/phone calls.

I know what you mean babe! It must be that full moon coming on the 19th. It always seems to affect me about 2 weeks before and then til it comes. Ha!!! I just blame it on that....I just like to have fun. I'll give him a little more time to pull his head out and then if he still plays these games then i am out!

maybe i just need to come to grips with the fact that maybe like an earlier comment that someone posted said he just changed his mind about me. Everyone is entitled to change their mind.

So if a libran calls you and you answer "hey there good looking" they will like it?
Hope not cause I don't have much balls yet lol.

"well i did ask if he was interested and he said yes. i didn't ask in those words but you get what i am saying."

My fiance' has always told me that he's not a mind reader. if you weren't direct with him and skirted the topic, then i say you're not comfortable enough with him to open up. from what i've read, libras mirror the person they're with. you clam up, he clams up. you ask indirect questions, he'll ask indirect questions.

what's wrong with being to the point with him? i've learned that is how i need to be with mine.

""hey there good looking" they will like it? "

of course....who doesn't like flattery?

this whole thinking the opposite thing is questionable. not all libra men are like this.

Hmmm, I'm trying to catch myself a libran 🙂
Lets see if I can bait him in today!
Any idears?
😉

Lemme ask you guys, when you post a message, can you see it?

😄 😄 Arianlatay!

THANKS SOO MUCH! 🙂
I have to make the date first lol but I will go shopping for that button shirt 🙂

(My fiance' has always told me that he's not a mind reader. if you weren't direct with him and skirted the topic, then i say you're not comfortable enough with him to open up. from what i've read, libras mirror the person they're with. you clam up, he clams up. you ask indirect questions, he'll ask indirect questions.)

I was very direct, when i said not in those exact words i meant that there may have been a few things extra. But i pretty much said it to him like that. Believe me i know about this mind reader bs. They seem to think that i can hear everything they are thinking. Sorry pal! And as for what Arianlatay said i am working on making that an everyday thing. Looking good and acting good....well as good as i can anyway is my main focus. I'll try it out and let you know in about a week how that is working for me. Hopefully it will be good!!

((pleeeeeeeeeeaaaaaazzzzeeee expand on this, with great details on why and how. Pleeeeaaaaazzzzeeeee O))

Not for an Aries. 😛 You dont need explanations to get a libra. Just a lot of self control.

((this whole thinking the opposite thing is questionable. not all libra men are like this.))
You say questionable and then you say not all libra men are like that. What does that mean? How many libra men do you know? Its not just for men. same goes for women too. But purely depends on which zodiac says what.

haven't you heard that we always try to see the other side of the coin?? You are only thinking about how u perceive things out of your Libras reaction. Not about what goes inside his head. Get an air or fire sign to do the same with flattery and ask the libra if he felt good or confused.

(Let me know how "looking good all the time" goes duece! lol, its a pain in the butt, however, when you see the libra's reaction to you it becomes very motivating to look good.

U'll get used to it, what used to take me an hr and a half to do, now takes 30 minutes)

WELL, I DID UP THE HAIR, DIDN'T STRAIGHTEN IT I MADE IT CURLY. WHICH IS RARE. LOOKS GOOD TOO! LETS JUST SAY HE HAS BEEN THRU MY AREA OF WORK LIKE 5 TIMES ALREADY AND THE DAY ISN'T EVEN HALF OVER! I ALWAYS TRY TO LOOK MY BEST WHEN I COME TO WORK BUT I HAVE BEEN ADDING A EXTRA EFFORT LATELY SO WATCH OUT!!!

I have always thought office relationships wasn't a good idea...might work for very few people, but most people end up with horror stories or one person ends up leaving the company because they can't deal with the "ex" that works there...and it's usually the woman.

Arianlatay, it bombed.
I sent him a message saying "hey gorgeous looking great, how's your day going? 😄"
And I get a message saying, "what—?"
And then I get a call rushing me to tell him what it was all about!
I'm telling him I have no minutes and he's like in a state of SHOCK.
I am telling him I will call back from another number.
Ugh.
I was like "Ever heard of a joke?"
And he's like "ohhh, ok. bye."
??

It was hard to act embarassed while trying not to go over my phone bill and deal with a guy freaking out over the phone! lol.
I hopppee thats what it was, I think so too, a little 🙂
I called him back, however, on my other line, and asked him if he was ok.
He gave a nervous laugh and said he was confused. And I said "how can that be confusing??"
Lol, oh gosh.
He said he would get to his job and call me.
I think its a lie.
So...Idk what to do. I seriously think he isnt going to call, and I have sent the only message I was ever going to send 😢

"Anyone else, if you disagree with me...PLEASE SAY SUMN!!! I DON'T WANT TO GIVE HORRIBLE ADVICE, LOL!!"

I GREATLYYYYY APPRECIATE YOU!!

I love it how you write back, you don't know how much I do!

I would be SUPA lost lol!

THANKS! 🙂

Awwwww!
I want a mr. libra 🙂
Have fun!
And thanks again! 🙂

So, did he call—??
I was hoping he would and you would let us know..
I too want a Mr. Libra...I want my Mr. Libra though..Well i can report that the extra hour i spent on my hair may have done a little something. I caught him looking and coming through my part of the office all day long..That never happens. Well not as much as yesterday anyway. I guess its all up to fate. Just have to wait and see. But, if fixing myself up more than i already do can help fate along i am all for it!!

Yes, actually, I have. Also, when i talk to him or when he is walking by i catch him looking at me and when i make eye contact he gets a shy kind of boyish look on his face and looks away. Lately i catch him lookin when he thinks i am not. So when i catch him he kind of stumbles a bit.

I think you have him drooling already :] you should slip him a little post it with something hot on it lol. See if he freaks out too!
And if he denies it, look at him coyly, smile, and laugh it off!
It never hurts to try 😄
And as for mine, we talked for three hours till I said I was sleepy 😄
I still am taken back by how forward and charming he is.
He always plays around and says "your pretty and petite" for everything lol.
Ill tell you, I am not used to this.
I may have a date this Friday :]

Only thing is that he is 25. And I am 18 so its a little different for me 🦇
I almost dated a sag around that age. He used to sing to me lol!
These men are crazy!
And arianlatay... Have I told you how much I love your outfit?
How was it with your libra yesterday?

"you should slip him a little post it with something hot on it lol. See if he freaks out too!"

be leary of doing this in the workplace. If you are in the U.S., that could backfire.

My field is Human Resources...

HE IS IN SHUT DOWN MODE RIGHT NOW SO I GUESS THAT LITTLE NOTE THING WON'T WORK RIGHT NOW. OTHERWISE I WOULD BE ALL FOR IT. MAYBE I CAN GET HIM TO SLIP ME A LITTLE NOTE.

Lol well I guess I'm the one who gives horrible advice!
Thanks peach for that warning :]
Shut down mode?
He isn't walking around today?

Lol my rising sign is scorpio. Mixed with the cancer...its fatal!
I've always wanted that all about you attention so you are one lucky gal!
And I must say arianlatay, I am jealous. My previous relationship never even moved me sexually!
Argh. Sweet and good in bed.

Lucky 🦇

"Yesterday he said, he's not going anywhere unless I act up. I'm an aries so I'm sure he'll be gone soon, LOL. J/k."

Ohhh Arianlatay...you seem to be afraid of potentially not having all the security you have now, or am I getting it wrong?
A month is short, I dated my ex for a year and a half and I'm really cautious now.
So I totally feel ya.

That is why this Libra is confusing me, I'm not used to so much attention and someone who calls me so much lol.
Its nice, but more and more I'm getting nervous lol!
😢
And I can see that happens, they are just sooo charming that you wonder where it will end up, good or bad.

Lemme ask, are you "offically dating"?

And don't worry about the Susy B Mcfluzies lol, thats just what they are.
🙂

Wow, I wish I thought like that 😢
But secretly, I hope it does work out for you 🙂

Oh he was up in my work area all day yesterday and the day before. Today looks as if he is busy but hes been over here. I had to go ask him questions on a work matter and he was getting a little playful again. Oh and whenever i have to work thru his area he is looking. I know how to pretend like i am not looking and then when i see his head move or see him move to where he is able to check me out i turn and look right at him looking!!! Bust him almost everytime

Hmmm, this sounds like what boys used to do in elementary 🙂
Are all Libra men so childish?
Cause I'm starting to see it, but not in Arianlatay's case.

all men are childish, not just LIbras LOL

Hmm well, yes. Lol, your right.
🙂

And 2libras don't forget that he probably has his friends there watching you...just a heads up. The libra guy I was hangin out with told me this. I live in a different city but I come home during the week a lot which is where he lives and if his friends see me out they will let him know.The other night when we were out he had his friends posted around the room like little army men...for what I don't know...observation purposes I guess.

My libra guy pulled away after we hung out.....which pissed me off. Not because he pulled away but because IMO him pulling away showed he took that night way to seriously, which is what he told me he hates when girls do. So I had to tell him look mr. man really u can cut the push pull act because there is nothing for you to decide....I'm not trying to be your girlfriend. I mean I hate to be the pin that deflates his ego balloon but seriously!

Anyways if he's lookin he's likin and he wants you to see him when he walks through...also when he comes over by you he is wanting you to say something...he's trying to give you the opportunity to ask him out etc. So I would say go ahead...

Well, I am pretty sure i have it figured out now. I think he had stopped replying to my texts as a defense mechanism to keep himself from getting too into me. Our last few conversations before that were pretty open and pretty deep. We had no sort of fight or anything like that. Also a recent accident causing an injury has caused the use of pain meds. Those have strange effects on people. I think that has something to do with it as well. But, it hasn't stopped the whole checking me out thing. So the next move that is going to be made is going to have to be by him...

Do whatever you feel comfortable doing. I'm not going to say which way to move or which way not to.....lol imma libra. And with this guy it seems that you can pretty much choose...wait or approach.

oh and about 3 wks ago a friend and i are out and our waiter turned out to be one of the cutest guys i have ever met. He is younger than i am though. Younger guys....hmmmm.....never really dated one. Anyway the reason this guy matters is because he wants to take me to lunch next week. Well if he picks me up from work which is what he is wanting to do he wants to check out our service shop. Guys and tools and engines...i just don't get it. Well, that is where my libra crush is at. What should i do?

I hate waiting but i think that is what i need to do. I have heard it takes patience to snag a libra man. So i guess if he likes me he will eventually make his move. I guess he just needs to step outside of his little safety box and try to let me shake things up a bit.