Am I exaggerating? Or is it just normal?
This topic was created in the Libra forum by GeminiSoul on Tuesday, October 5, 2010 and has 8 replies.
Hello Poeple 
Would like your input on the following:
I was with a Libra bf for years and broke up two years ago because he was so busy with other things (no matter how important or not) and never kept in touch. I did all the calling/texting all the time until I had enough as I was the only one keeping the relationship alive anyway. We're now back together after him trying to get back with me for two years. I rejected him a few times not wanting to go back to that "I'll ignore you, but you chase me" mode. He promised to change and contacting me more and stuff. Yes, he changed and now he keeps in touch and all. I do love him so much, but the thing is that whenever he says "I'm busy can't talk now", or won't reply to a msg I sent I go to a "disappearing mode" where I ignore him and get busy with other things. After he's done with whatever he was doing he would ask if we can talk now and I would either ignore his msg or say I'm busy.
I'm not usually this type of person as I'm a Gemini and love being connected and communicate to others. I'm also a very understanding person and not that needy or clingy. However, everytime I remember how things were between us I get scared and disappear.
Also, the mirroring thing doesn't work for him at all as he's the kind of person who when ignored would chase, but when chased will relax and get all busy.
Am I over-reacting?
Would like your input on the following:
I was with a Libra bf for years and broke up two years ago because he was so busy with other things (no matter how important or not) and never kept in touch. I did all the calling/texting all the time until I had enough as I was the only one keeping the relationship alive anyway. We're now back together after him trying to get back with me for two years. I rejected him a few times not wanting to go back to that "I'll ignore you, but you chase me" mode. He promised to change and contacting me more and stuff. Yes, he changed and now he keeps in touch and all. I do love him so much, but the thing is that whenever he says "I'm busy can't talk now", or won't reply to a msg I sent I go to a "disappearing mode" where I ignore him and get busy with other things. After he's done with whatever he was doing he would ask if we can talk now and I would either ignore his msg or say I'm busy.
I'm not usually this type of person as I'm a Gemini and love being connected and communicate to others. I'm also a very understanding person and not that needy or clingy. However, everytime I remember how things were between us I get scared and disappear.
Also, the mirroring thing doesn't work for him at all as he's the kind of person who when ignored would chase, but when chased will relax and get all busy.
Am I over-reacting?
LibraLuv - Thank you ! To make things clear yes I've changed a bit. He's trying his best to make up things and not screw them up like he did before, because we discussed why we broke up in the first place before getting back together. Thing is, I usually don't trust people quickly and in his case I trusted him and I was left with a broken heart after I tried all ways to save that relationship. Now that we're back together, I'm honestly still scared that he would go back to doing what he was doing (ignoring and me chasing and all that) so therefore I'm protecting myself by disappearing or sometimes distancing myself eveytime I notice he's being busy, or getting caught up in some task, or can't talk to me. It just make me think "oh ok he's relaxed now we're together so he'll get caught up in other stuff and ignore me like before". When I say ignoring life before I mean he actually wouldn't talk to me for weeks or a month unless I call him up and once I call him we'll talk for like 5 or 10 minutes and then he'll say oh I just have to do this or that - excuse me? We haven't talked for a month lol! Yes, I agree with you that it's always good to open up to a Libra and let them know how you feel as they like to please others. However, I feel like I can't tell him "oh I'm too scared you'd ignore me just like you did before" it's just not the thing I want to say. Also, maybe this is weird, but it usually takes me a long time to trust a person, let alone a person who hurted me before.
! To make things clear yes I've changed a bit. He's trying his best to make up things and not screw them up like he did before, because we discussed why we broke up in the first place before getting back together. Thing is, I usually don't trust people quickly and in his case I trusted him and I was left with a broken heart after I tried all ways to save that relationship. Now that we're back together, I'm honestly still scared that he would go back to doing what he was doing (ignoring and me chasing and all that) so therefore I'm protecting myself by disappearing or sometimes distancing myself eveytime I notice he's being busy, or getting caught up in some task, or can't talk to me. It just make me think "oh ok he's relaxed now we're together so he'll get caught up in other stuff and ignore me like before". When I say ignoring life before I mean he actually wouldn't talk to me for weeks or a month unless I call him up and once I call him we'll talk for like 5 or 10 minutes and then he'll say oh I just have to do this or that - excuse me? We haven't talked for a month lol! Yes, I agree with you that it's always good to open up to a Libra and let them know how you feel as they like to please others. However, I feel like I can't tell him "oh I'm too scared you'd ignore me just like you did before" it's just not the thing I want to say. Also, maybe this is weird, but it usually takes me a long time to trust a person, let alone a person who hurted me before.LibraLuv - Thank you so very much! Your post was so engaging to the point I didn't want it to finsih lol. You're so right, of course. I know I should forigve and forget if I ever want to be happy with a person. It's like we're starting all over again, baby steps, bright white page. Again, I guess it's a gemini thing with "trusting" and "forgetting", but I'll try my best !
"Give Love and open your full heart to receive Love" I like that! It reminds me of a book I read recently and yes, the giving and recieving love works all the time even with things like my car
!"Give Love and open your full heart to receive Love" I like that! It reminds me of a book I read recently and yes, the giving and recieving love works all the time even with things like my car
PandorasBox - make it a double curious lol .. common tell us 
Posted by QLIbraMale
GeminiSoul have you been nagging his ear off? this might be the case from what i'm reading. it sounds like you're doing all the work in this one-sided romance. have you unlocked his interests? cause he'd be calling you if you did.
No nagging or complaining, I hate doing that as it shows me needy and it doesn't work with Libras anyway. I just broke up with him I thought I couldn't do this anymore to myself or to him. He's a very nice guy but it's too much for me to handle.
Thanks for the help guys
Good luck with the next one. I know how difficult it can be, i have one of them trying to worm his way back into my life after I told him i don't want to see him ever again. I'm a Leo doing the Libra thing at the moment and weighing up both sides before i decide what to do but i think i'm pulled towards allowing him back into my life. It's been 9 months and I can't let go and I feel empty without him. But I had to let him go because i loved him so much it hurt, and he wouldn't commit to me at the time because he had to get himself together and it was breaking my heart to have him but not completely. He contacts me every month or two but i have brushed him off each time but i know that without him i feel like an empty shell existing but not living.
lioness81 - yeah I had that commitment issue and he also needed time to pull himself up. I just couldn't hold on anymore given the fact that we are LDR, it was just too much for me to handle.
QLIbraMale - Thanks
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