Are Libras into casual sex?
This topic was created in the Libra forum by Ferocity Dravidian on Sunday, July 29, 2007 and has 40 replies.
What do I mean by casual sex? sex for the heck of it with someone you are familiar with I suppose. What about 'one night stands'? Libras into it?
Yes and no, it really depends on their mood and the stage of their life they are in. Most Libras I know go through a period of getting it on like it is going out of style for several months or even years in some cases but after that fades they actually become very sexually selective. Like they have to get it out of their system.
So yes for a while, then no.
So yes for a while, then no.
The only Libra I know well enough to know her opinion on casual sex wouldn't sleep with someone she wasn't in love with. She did, however, sleep with an ex to make the ex that came after the first ex jealous. She soon realized it backfired, and she doesn't do such crazy things anymore.
From what I've learnt, just as TexasWaterBearer said..."wouldn't sleep with someone she wasn't in love with"....not necessarily "in love" but I think they need to love somebody to sleep with them. I find it difficult to believe many can to be honest - no matter what sign!
When I am in love I cannot be with another person. That one or noone.
When not in love - I have not done it but could do it if I can be bothered to escape the lazy me. I get loads of energy when I realise I am in love. And usually I lose all appetite.
When not in love - I have not done it but could do it if I can be bothered to escape the lazy me. I get loads of energy when I realise I am in love. And usually I lose all appetite.
Depends as most Libras I know are in serious relationships or marriage but when single for long periods of time ... yes.
I agree with LS, and Nic, most of the ones I have known. Definitely can have casual sex, with no attachment or feeling. However, it changes and become more meaningful if they have with someone they care about or in love with. But yup, especially Libra men.
I'm one of the libras that hit anything that moves... however, I prefer girls I'm friends with, even to the point where I'd take a homely girl I like over some super hot chick whom I can't connect with on any level. If I don't really like a girl, the sex is almost mechanical, no real passion. It ain't fun. You could say I'm picky in that way.
Yes...i do.
However, I think that Libra men only shag women they are physically or generally attracted too, whether it is casual or not, unlike some men I know who will just stick anything. Doesn't matter. They are picky to an extent.
Hi I think libra males can have casual sex since they are very observant and beauty means alot to them. They tend to fall in love quicker only later to find out it was just infatuation.
I agree with LS, and Nic, most of the ones I have known. Definitely can have casual sex, with no attachment or feeling. However, it changes and become more meaningful if they have with someone they care about or in love with.
i agree with that, but it depends on your situation ,i think if you have been single for a while then any thing that moves would do
i agree with that, but it depends on your situation ,i think if you have been single for a while then any thing that moves would do
they can do the casual sex thing, but in my own experience, the sex is more meaningful for them (the men) if it's with someone they connect with. not necessarily in love, but love or connect with. i say this from experience too because my boyfriend is not "in love" with me but loves me and our sex life is amazing.
how come this thread popped up at the same time with casual sex thread in main section???
Libra
Libras want one thing - total partnership. Sex is a mental turn on and lots of talking and foreplay is part of the seduction. There's no need to warn a Libra that causal sex isn't for them - they would never go for it anyway! It's far too boring when there is a real partner out there waiting to be found and brought in to the intense passion of the Libra romance. If you really want to turn a Libra off - proposition a one-night stand.
Libra
Libras want one thing - total partnership. Sex is a mental turn on and lots of talking and foreplay is part of the seduction. There's no need to warn a Libra that causal sex isn't for them - they would never go for it anyway! It's far too boring when there is a real partner out there waiting to be found and brought in to the intense passion of the Libra romance. If you really want to turn a Libra off - proposition a one-night stand.
thelibran, I know of 5 libran males - friends of mine and relatives, who has religiously had casual sex, a couple times they end up really liking the girl, but there were many they just shagged because of other things about them they liked, but didn't want to be in a relationship with the.
I can agree that most times it is never a "one night stand" it is more like an off and on thing with an understanding the thing betweent them is casual not serious.
I can agree that most times it is never a "one night stand" it is more like an off and on thing with an understanding the thing betweent them is casual not serious.
I would think that libras who like casual sex have not fully understood themselves or what they would like. They're following the crowd or whatever might they.
Once they find a partner they're smitten with, casual sex is out the door. You can be very sure about that. That activity is just to satisfy their craving for being loved, which solves it for them for a while. And they usually want more after that.
Once they find a partner they're smitten with, casual sex is out the door. You can be very sure about that. That activity is just to satisfy their craving for being loved, which solves it for them for a while. And they usually want more after that.
"I would think that libras who like casual sex have not fully understood themselves or what they would like. They're following the crowd or whatever might they."
I disagree. It may be true in some cases but I don't think it is a rule. I think it is more true for Libra women, most of what you said rings true for the Libra women I know who have had casual sex. I think with the men it has a lot more to do with what they are going through at the time. The same guy that would take a girl home from the bar for a one night stand one night, would turn it down the next night depending on where he is at. Casual sex is something that happens when making love is completely out of the question for whatever reason.
I agree that sex is different for Libra men regarding if they love someone or if it is casual. We are very sensitive to courtship and seduction, which while fun is pretty meaningless in a casual sex situation. Casual sex happens when one or both people are just so horny that they give in. We would much rather make love than screw...but I think sometimes we would rather screw than go to bed alone. There IS a double meaning there.
I disagree. It may be true in some cases but I don't think it is a rule. I think it is more true for Libra women, most of what you said rings true for the Libra women I know who have had casual sex. I think with the men it has a lot more to do with what they are going through at the time. The same guy that would take a girl home from the bar for a one night stand one night, would turn it down the next night depending on where he is at. Casual sex is something that happens when making love is completely out of the question for whatever reason.
I agree that sex is different for Libra men regarding if they love someone or if it is casual. We are very sensitive to courtship and seduction, which while fun is pretty meaningless in a casual sex situation. Casual sex happens when one or both people are just so horny that they give in. We would much rather make love than screw...but I think sometimes we would rather screw than go to bed alone. There IS a double meaning there.
I guess I don't know Libra men as well as I would like ..lol.
Does it necessarily mean that a Libra guy in a relationship may go for casual sex too?
A libra guy once told me he would never do it with anyone he didn't love.. I don't know how true that really is.
Does it necessarily mean that a Libra guy in a relationship may go for casual sex too?
A libra guy once told me he would never do it with anyone he didn't love.. I don't know how true that really is.
if i dont feel anything for that person i cant do anything with them. even a kiss. even when im drunk! lol. there has to be some kind of mental or love or heart or all of the above connection for me to have any sexual relations with anyone.
I have had a one night stand or two. Most turn into relationships though. I really have no problem whatsoever having sex with someone I am not in love with. I really don't need sex to have meaning to be fufilled. Sure it is better when you have a partner you are connected to and will repeat the experience with but that is because you aren't worried, "where your next shag is coming from." Sorry to be blunt but that is how I think and where my next shag was coming from was very much the huge worry of my single life.
I use to be more prudish but having gone through a few years of being single after spending my whole adult life in monogomous long term relationships ... I don't think sex is half the deal I made it out to be and I found the lack of reliable sex painful.
I actually think sex with a friend is a beautiful thing because you love the person but there is none of that possessive bullshit people get into in unhealthy romantic relationships. You love them but they aren't it for you long term. If you are friends, you aren't dating probably because both or one of you know it isn't going to work longterm.
I use to be more prudish but having gone through a few years of being single after spending my whole adult life in monogomous long term relationships ... I don't think sex is half the deal I made it out to be and I found the lack of reliable sex painful.
I actually think sex with a friend is a beautiful thing because you love the person but there is none of that possessive bullshit people get into in unhealthy romantic relationships. You love them but they aren't it for you long term. If you are friends, you aren't dating probably because both or one of you know it isn't going to work longterm.
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Not sure what is going on with you but just lettin' you know I am thinking of you.
Not sure what is going on with you but just lettin' you know I am thinking of you.
I partly agree with spica,
I would think that libras who like casual sex have not fully understood themselves or what they would like. They're following the crowd or whatever might they.
**I don't quite feel like I have ever had casual sex because of not fully understanding myself or what I would like. Or that Libra's follow the crowd in that way.
Once they find a partner they're smitten with, casual sex is out the door. You can be very sure about that. That activity is just to satisfy their craving for being loved, which solves it for them for a while. And they usually want more after that.
The part you stated about needing to satisfy their craving for being loved is right on target. Libra's don't do very well if they are not in an active relationship for long periods of time. And when this does occur they will put themselves out there to see what may be available to them that could end their being alone.
So what may appear as something that is just a one night thing on the surface is not exactly what they are trying to achieve from the contact. At least I never have decided to be with someone just for the sake of having sex and then saying see ya! We may seem like we are being kind of casual in our encounters at the time, but for this libra anyway I would not go to bed with someone unless I thought they might have long term potential for me. I can not speak for a libra male though in this area.
I would think that libras who like casual sex have not fully understood themselves or what they would like. They're following the crowd or whatever might they.
**I don't quite feel like I have ever had casual sex because of not fully understanding myself or what I would like. Or that Libra's follow the crowd in that way.
Once they find a partner they're smitten with, casual sex is out the door. You can be very sure about that. That activity is just to satisfy their craving for being loved, which solves it for them for a while. And they usually want more after that.
The part you stated about needing to satisfy their craving for being loved is right on target. Libra's don't do very well if they are not in an active relationship for long periods of time. And when this does occur they will put themselves out there to see what may be available to them that could end their being alone.
So what may appear as something that is just a one night thing on the surface is not exactly what they are trying to achieve from the contact. At least I never have decided to be with someone just for the sake of having sex and then saying see ya! We may seem like we are being kind of casual in our encounters at the time, but for this libra anyway I would not go to bed with someone unless I thought they might have long term potential for me. I can not speak for a libra male though in this area.
Sorry one more thing about my last paragraph! It has become necessary at times to wind up being with more than one partner sexually over a period of time to find that potential new mate. This is because sometimes we may discover something about a new person we are trying to get closer to that becomes a potential relationship breaker for us. Therefore the process starts all over again to find a comfortable fit or match that will work for us.
That has always been the motivating factor for myself in this kind of situation anyway. Libras are relationship oriented and are most stable and happy when parred, so this is the underlying goal for us.
That has always been the motivating factor for myself in this kind of situation anyway. Libras are relationship oriented and are most stable and happy when parred, so this is the underlying goal for us.
(( If you are friends, you aren't dating probably because both or one of you know it isn't going to work longterm. ))
Dont you think it dont seems to work bcoz people try it out with a preoccupied idea that it wont work for long?
Dont you think it dont seems to work bcoz people try it out with a preoccupied idea that it wont work for long?
* So what may appear as something that is just a one night thing on the surface is not exactly what they are trying to achieve from the contact. At least I never have decided to be with someone just for the sake of having sex and then saying see ya!
As a libra female, I have zero problem with this at all. The only problem I have with it is it doesn't provide a reliable sex outlet.
* Dont you think it dont seems to work bcoz people try it out with a preoccupied idea that it wont work for long?
No. In my life, I have never turned a friend into a romantic partnership. I do not look at my male friends with romantic interest. The more I get to know them the more certain I am that it would never work out.
As a libra female, I have zero problem with this at all. The only problem I have with it is it doesn't provide a reliable sex outlet.
* Dont you think it dont seems to work bcoz people try it out with a preoccupied idea that it wont work for long?
No. In my life, I have never turned a friend into a romantic partnership. I do not look at my male friends with romantic interest. The more I get to know them the more certain I am that it would never work out.
***A libra guy once told me he would never do it with anyone he didn't love.. I don't know how true that really is.***
With anyone he didn't love or wasn't "in love with"? There is a difference for librans. They can love a casualsex partner without being in love with them. I don't think they make it a habit of having random sex, but they can have a casual sex partner for quite some time. Years even.
With anyone he didn't love or wasn't "in love with"? There is a difference for librans. They can love a casualsex partner without being in love with them. I don't think they make it a habit of having random sex, but they can have a casual sex partner for quite some time. Years even.
***Once they find a partner they're smitten with, casual sex is out the door. You can be very sure about that. That activity is just to satisfy their craving for being loved, which solves it for them for a while. And they usually want more after that.****
Depends, some libra guys can still have casual sex when in a relaitonship. Sorry, but they can. Some.
Depends, some libra guys can still have casual sex when in a relaitonship. Sorry, but they can. Some.
***if i dont feel anything for that person i cant do anything with them. even a kiss. even when im drunk! lol. there has to be some kind of mental or love or heart or all of the above connection for me to have any sexual relations with anyone.****
libra chick, are you sure you're not a scorp... That would be me. Some chemistry attraction and desire to bed... I can't randomly have sex with anyone just because I am horny.
libra chick, are you sure you're not a scorp... That would be me. Some chemistry attraction and desire to bed... I can't randomly have sex with anyone just because I am horny.
(( Depends, some libra guys can still have casual sex when in a relaitonship. ))
If they are unhappy in a relationship, they can.
If they are unhappy in a relationship, they can.
they can..my bf mentioned about his flings in the past..and its quite a number..
I find it quite boring
Sorry - I know this is an old post, but I'm curious about a libra male I was dealing with a lil' while ago. We were dating and seemed to have clicked. But he vanished... (as they do), but recently got back in touch with me.
He has told me he's still interested, wanted to know if I wanted to catch up sometime. We've been chatting on and off and he know's I'm not into casual sex (typical cappy lol)... he know's that I'd want to go out on dates etc and has told me I'm "worth that".
What he has offered is a casual relationship (he's been in one that went for two years, and reckons we'd last a lot longer than that as he wasn't really attracted to the other girl at all). Can't say I'm overly flattered with that comment lol... but he has told me he's not looking for a "relationship" as such.
We had talked about our thoughts on casual sex, and told him I know I can't do that - I'd get emotionally attached. His response kinda surprised me there though - he'd be happy for that to happen, apparantly means I wouldn't leave him. What tha?! Told him I'm not the substitute kind... I was involved in something on a casual basis before, which is how I knew it wasn't for me - got attached & too many boundaries I wasn't allowed to cross (kinda feels like you're in a cage if you can't be allowed to express yourself).
He has me confused now though... what is he really wanting if he doesn't mind me letting the emotional side get in & we're dating?! Not just about the sex... what is going through this libra males mind? Any advice/insight would be greatly appreciated!!!
Thanks heaps
He has told me he's still interested, wanted to know if I wanted to catch up sometime. We've been chatting on and off and he know's I'm not into casual sex (typical cappy lol)... he know's that I'd want to go out on dates etc and has told me I'm "worth that".
What he has offered is a casual relationship (he's been in one that went for two years, and reckons we'd last a lot longer than that as he wasn't really attracted to the other girl at all). Can't say I'm overly flattered with that comment lol... but he has told me he's not looking for a "relationship" as such.
We had talked about our thoughts on casual sex, and told him I know I can't do that - I'd get emotionally attached. His response kinda surprised me there though - he'd be happy for that to happen, apparantly means I wouldn't leave him. What tha?! Told him I'm not the substitute kind... I was involved in something on a casual basis before, which is how I knew it wasn't for me - got attached & too many boundaries I wasn't allowed to cross (kinda feels like you're in a cage if you can't be allowed to express yourself).
He has me confused now though... what is he really wanting if he doesn't mind me letting the emotional side get in & we're dating?! Not just about the sex... what is going through this libra males mind? Any advice/insight would be greatly appreciated!!!
Thanks heaps
Posted by Pecheresse
I can relate with you. I'm cap rising. My ex dude was a casual sex freak and I met him at a party, so yeah it was a one night stand which ended in something serious. (My point was to be serious, too.) I'd never be into one nightstands much because I find them dull, but with this one dude I felt there was something else, like an instant soul connection or something.
I don't think your libra actually knows what he wants so it's more along the lines of "yeah sure whatever, I could do with something serious, a relationship would be nice right now". It's not quite about you yet, it's about him seeking for some sort of stability. I don't know if it's all worth it though, a Libra into casual sex has a lot of casual sex friends texting him when he's not into casual sex anymore. You might always be afraid he might cheat or stuff. It's up to you really. Good luck!
Thanks Pecheresse - that actually made quite a lot of sense there... I haven't really gone any further with this at the moment, as still trying to suss it all out and see whether it's worth my time going into it... but you've def given me food for thought there - thank you
yeah, some are and others not.
Know libra's that stayed faithful to their partners and know libras that would go home with a different person every other night.
Know libra's that stayed faithful to their partners and know libras that would go home with a different person every other night.
yeah . . it works when you did it with a sag or a gemini.
Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by libra08
yeah . . it works when you did it with a sag or a gemini.
I have a sagittarius rising ..
would *we* work well ?
& btw, do you have venus in scorpio ?click to expand
venus in libra ;P yeah we might. I have this thing with the stallions they keep me awake thinking about the next adventure.
Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by libra08Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by libra08
yeah . . it works when you did it with a sag or a gemini.
I have a sagittarius rising ..
would *we* work well ?
& btw, do you have venus in scorpio ?
venus in libra ;P yeah we might. I have this thing with the stallions they keep me awake thinking about the next adventure.
lucky girl ..
I'd love to be in your top 5
shall I show up at your office one of these days,
to prove myself ?click to expand
ild prefer parking lots than cubicles.hurry before winter time comes.
Uh yes some Libra's believe in casual sex LOL. I know and even partook in a casual sex affair with a Libra. Not all but yes some do. They may be lovey lovey when the right gal/guy comes along but in the meantime they want some groovy oovy. Nothing wrong with that as long as all parties are on the same page. But I think this goes across the board for all signs.
Posted by oldskoolflavor
*clears throat*
I don't take orders very well
things will start under your desk ..
and be done in the parking lot
ild be happy to do role swapping then .. make sure youll frighten me with your command. . i wouldnt mind a little spanking. i have my mars in leo baby. . i bite.
Posted by thelibran
how come this thread popped up at the same time with casual sex thread in main section???
Libra
Libras want one thing - total partnership. Sex is a mental turn on and lots of talking and foreplay is part of the seduction. There's no need to warn a Libra that causal sex isn't for them - they would never go for it anyway! It's far too boring when there is a real partner out there waiting to be found and brought in to the intense passion of the Libra romance. If you really want to turn a Libra off - proposition a one-night stand.
I agree with that but I think it may be all those other planetary alignments causing my conservative nature.
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