Assertive women
This topic was created in the Libra forum by LiBrat on Saturday, April 22, 2006 and has 6 replies.
Ok, Question for the guys:
What do you think of assertive women in terms of dating. Let's assume the woman in question is attractive.
How would you react if she came up to you and asked you out for lunch, not a DATE per say, but to either lunch or to go to the library or something like that?
How would you react if a woman you are NOT dating sent you flowers with her number on the card?
And how would you react if someone who you were attracted to made the first move? For instance, she knows you find her attractive because you've been casually flirting. Then she calls you and just tells you that she finds you attractive. Would that freak you out?
What do you think of assertive women in terms of dating. Let's assume the woman in question is attractive.
How would you react if she came up to you and asked you out for lunch, not a DATE per say, but to either lunch or to go to the library or something like that?
How would you react if a woman you are NOT dating sent you flowers with her number on the card?
And how would you react if someone who you were attracted to made the first move? For instance, she knows you find her attractive because you've been casually flirting. Then she calls you and just tells you that she finds you attractive. Would that freak you out?
I've done all of these things.
There was a guy I asked out to lunch. After seeing him every week at the same club and dancing with him, he never made the first move. We would spend the eintire night dancing and then we'd leave and that would be the end of it. Pisces guy. Finally, I just asked him out to lunch, he accepted and then we were bf/gf for about a year.
Flowers: Sent them to one of my college profs. He taught math and wasn't much older than I was. I used to sit in the front row and stare at him. He never made a move, obviously because he was my teacher, so then I did. I sent him a bouquet of flowers and told him that if he wanted to go out with me I'd wait until the semester was over if that was an issue. 3 days later we were having dinner. He was a Cancer. We ended up dating for about a year as well.
Telling someone you find them attractive: Done that LOTS of times because so many guys out there just never seemed to make the first move.
BLING: If you were older or I was younger and the situation was different, WOW, I'd give you a run for your money babe
There was a guy I asked out to lunch. After seeing him every week at the same club and dancing with him, he never made the first move. We would spend the eintire night dancing and then we'd leave and that would be the end of it. Pisces guy. Finally, I just asked him out to lunch, he accepted and then we were bf/gf for about a year.
Flowers: Sent them to one of my college profs. He taught math and wasn't much older than I was. I used to sit in the front row and stare at him. He never made a move, obviously because he was my teacher, so then I did. I sent him a bouquet of flowers and told him that if he wanted to go out with me I'd wait until the semester was over if that was an issue. 3 days later we were having dinner. He was a Cancer. We ended up dating for about a year as well.
Telling someone you find them attractive: Done that LOTS of times because so many guys out there just never seemed to make the first move.
BLING: If you were older or I was younger and the situation was different, WOW, I'd give you a run for your money babe
I prefer assertive women, but they are rare, VERY RARE. The alpha female types are great, but i think alot of our culture doesn't really encourage them to be more aggressive ( i find women get more aggressive as you get to know them more)
the only time i was approached by a woman i was about 19 with my girlfriend, the woman was in her mid to late 30's. She came up to where we were sitting started talking about how cute i was and left me her number...She was English and i think on drugs, my then girlfriend was laughing at me, but still, i was flattered. I ran into her a couple of weeks later and she invited me into her store...
the only time i was approached by a woman i was about 19 with my girlfriend, the woman was in her mid to late 30's. She came up to where we were sitting started talking about how cute i was and left me her number...She was English and i think on drugs, my then girlfriend was laughing at me, but still, i was flattered. I ran into her a couple of weeks later and she invited me into her store...
I am not a boy, but I want to play.
> How would you react if a woman you are NOT dating sent you flowers with her number on the card?
Don?t do this. It is emasculating. I can?t think of any man who likes to be sent flowers, but I can think of many who told me that some ?crazy/psycho? girl sent them flowers and they thought it was funny.
I have done the ?I find you attractive? thing. It has works fairly well. My technique is very different. I wait for the right moment like at dinner or at a party sit very close and lean in and whisper in his ear, then smile, and walk away. They can think what they like.
I have also done the follow up email with success. After someone meets you sending them a very nice email saying it was great meeting them. Usually, they respond and ask you out.
> How would you react if a woman you are NOT dating sent you flowers with her number on the card?
Don?t do this. It is emasculating. I can?t think of any man who likes to be sent flowers, but I can think of many who told me that some ?crazy/psycho? girl sent them flowers and they thought it was funny.
I have done the ?I find you attractive? thing. It has works fairly well. My technique is very different. I wait for the right moment like at dinner or at a party sit very close and lean in and whisper in his ear, then smile, and walk away. They can think what they like.
I have also done the follow up email with success. After someone meets you sending them a very nice email saying it was great meeting them. Usually, they respond and ask you out.
Well, the flowers worked for me....
Although I missed getting a "B" in his class by one point. Bastard
Although I missed getting a "B" in his class by one point. Bastard
I'll second your name calling. Bastard.
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