Avoiding offenses

Can you avoid offending a Libra if you give a disclaimer first? ie: "I hope you don't get offended by me saying this but....(fill in the blank)...... "

Would that work? Would it still offend if you offered to apologize in advance for wanting to say what you want to say? Just wondering how to avoid offending when you need to say something and you don't want it to be taken as such.

What's the best way to approach a sensitive issue with a Libra without offending??

Ummmmmm....are THEY sensitive to YOUR feelings? Would you ALWAYS want to "apologise in advance" everytime you need to say something that needs to be heard?

ABSOLUTELY

Its not easy to offend a libra once he is matured.

I think whether they're offended or not, they would appreciate honesty very much, all the more if it's said in a nice manner.

They definitely perfer honesty. If they get offended it won't last long. I think my bluntness has offended quite a few libras, but I ended it wi "no offense" they get over it.

* "I hope you don't get offended by me saying this but....(fill in the blank)...... "

It usually means I am going to say the most offensive thing possible but not take any responsibility for it because I buffered it.

(I do it too but that is really what that sentence means. I know. Hypocrite. lol!)

You could just start the discussion without it.

This Libra Seems to be very defensive about everything & Criticizes a lot. The worst part is you never know what is going to be taken offensively or when. The individual certainly has some issues for sure. Just thought there might be an easier way to address "touchy" subjects with this person to let them know there isn't any need for them to take things so personally or feel insulted and get angry.

Are you sure they are defensive? Maybe they are just discussing. Libras are not balanced .. they are balancING. Meaning we often see the other side. As we nod along to you we are also saying but have you thought of this? We HAVE to bring the opposite point to the table because it is in our inherent nature to make the argument fair and represent all sides. Usually we do it with a bit of charm and a happy little smile on our faces so no one really notices or pays us any heed. But our need to argue although I prefer discuss (HA!) can be really annoying if you don't know how to take it.

On occassion, when I think something is WAY out of line, I will jump in with force but it is never personal. I rarely take anything personally cause often times it isn't.

Hell, I don't even take hate personal. Our ability to detach can be quite alarming. lol!

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LS, you might be right, the individual probably is trying to present another side to a situation but it's hard to take it as a "discussion" when the tone in their voice just seems to project a little too much defensiveness. I thought it was just me but I noticed others picked up on it too. Then,at other times........turn on incredible charm that can melt butter on bread.

ahhhhh, that ability to "detach" is quite a gift. Too bad it isn't transferable.