Creepy Scorpio Dudes

So I started an online dating profile. I am not that into the bar scene and my current activities are not conducive to meeting guys. Oddly, not that men are into sewing, my new hot hobby.

Every single Scorp that has contacted me is creepy, creepy, creepy. Kind of looks like an axe murder, sitting in their mother's basement, with one hand down their pants. The last guy was so creepy I am going to block him and with all the typos, I am afraid to know what he was doing while typing.

Oddly, the libra lads are the ones that are most persistent. Even if you say no and give them a reason why, like they have grown up kids (hello?), they don't see why it is a problem. ha.

Everyone I know has tried online dating. In fact, a huge majority of female friends have found their husband there. I use to think it was odd. Now, not so much. I think it depends on where you are and what stage you are in your life.

But yes, I suspect these particular creepy dudes (who you can tell are lying about their ages.) are doing the online cause there is NO WAY in hell they would pick up in real life. The funny thing is they are so obviously shoot way out of their league.

Honestly? I have met way more unattractive Scorp guys than I have attractive ones. As for their behaviour, yikes. But you are welcome to take it up with my Scorp stalker of .... trying to remember the number of years ... 12yrs? Despite me trying everything in my power to get rid of him. I am probably going to have to get an unlisted number. Sucks.

Angel had a scorp stalker too. He was actually her boss at the time. He would walk over to her desk when no one else was around and say things like "I want to bend you over this desk and ..... you so bad." She changed departments then eventually left that company, she wanted to go over his head and get him fired but his boss was this guys best friend.

He contacted her on some several social networking sites, dude was certifiably creepy. She had to get her number changed several times, once several years after she left that job.

I wish we were together at that point, I would have ended that real quick. Two things I have no tolerance for, using a position of authority for sexual gain and victimizing someone I care about. However, I probably wouldn't even have to. She has proven time and agian that she can handle herself though. She is really good at sticking up for herself regardless of the consequences....probably has a little to do with that particular experience.

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Miss Scorp you have no idea the situation or what I am talking about. How is unlisted number = to dating site? I would just rather when this guy took it into his head to call me countless times in a night, that I didn't have to unplug my phone. I have told him up down I am not interested. I have encouraged him to figure out what is wrong with his life. Encouraged him to work things out with his wife. I was completely bored of this situation YEARS ago. He stopped for almost two years then ... returned about a year ago. Yay. (not)

I really thought he was over his obsession but apparently not.

Anyway, your comment doesn't make sense.

Nic

Poor Angel. It is really annoying. I have no idea what this guy is obsessed about. He has done all sorts of weird crazy shit. At one point, he actually gave me his bank account numbers. WTF? Obviously, I just deleted them. I seriously wish he would go away. I have tried reasoning with him but reason don't work on crazy. lol.

Mr Nice - true. I just am not into the bar scene at the moment and all my hobbies are more conducive to meeting girls not guys. Aside from online, I have no idea where to meet someone, unless I force myself to do stuff I am not really interested in. Then it would just be a lie. It just seemed like the best way to get my feet wet and meet some new people.

And I am sure not all Scorp males are weird. I just have really bad luck with them.

Until Miss Scorp, I actually really liked Scorp females and thought they had a good heads on their shoulders. I guess every sign has loose cannons you know.

LS. that is really interresting about the account numbers, Angels stalker used to try and convince her that he had enough money that they could dissapear into a Mexian Paradise and fulfill her material desires. He was married and she was engaged to her ex, the one they share a daughter with.

Interresting similarity. It sounds like he was thinking you would act on curiosity and check his account ballance and that would somehow bring you around closer to him.

If your current dating site keeps turning out wierdo's try e-harmony. I have heard good things, they actually have an application process to screen out some of the less desirables. I had a friend that tried to sign up and was notified that "He didn't posses the qualities the community was looking for". I don't know all of the details but it seems from what I have heard that they are looking for people who are relationship worthy.

* "He didn't posses the qualities the community was looking for"

Ouch. ha ha ha! Rejected by a dating site. yeesh. that might be the ultimate rejection. ha ha ha.

I might try it. Maybe on one of their free weekends, just to see.

As for angel's story, crazy similar! He has done some weird, weird stuff that i just don't understand. And as you said, he is with someone else. WTF? He also emailed me all his sexual fantasies which was a trip I never want to go through again. Any interested I had in him evaporated. I have a hard time respecting him now as I found some of it way too disturbing.

Has angel managed to get rid of him? If she has, would you mind asking her to pm me and telling me how to do it? the guy is pretty prominant in his community and I am banned from his events because his wife found a bunch of pictures of me on his computer. He proceeded to send me an email telling me to leave him alone, one she must have made him write and sat over his shoulder while he wrote it, only I never sent him any pictures of me. lol AND the next day, from his work email he wrote me.

*sigh*

At least this time hasn't been as bad as last time. He usually only freaks out once a week now and I simply don't answer my phone.

Too funny we are talking about this. The last bad freak out brought me back here. I was going to write on the Scorp board and ask for help getting rid of this guy.

Email him, the scary thing about email for people in a situation like his is that it is considered documentation that holds up as evidence in court (At least in the U.S.) I am assuming this is the same/similar in Canada because of the fact it is an exchange of communication that is timestamped and transacted through a third party.

Angel told him via email : The reason she has changed her number several times was because of him, the reason she left that employer was because of his behavior and his attempts to contact her including any interraction that involved blatant sexual advancement by him was never, has never been appreciated. She went on to let him know that she considered that conversation to be a clear statement on her behalf to stop contacting her and that she would feel threatened if he continued to do so.

It helped that I was a fugitive recovery agent at the time. I was able to spice up the exchange with some legal jargon to give him some "food for thought".

The beauty in handling it this way is that any attempt by him to continue to get on your good side is a blatant disregard for you wish to left alone by him. Doing so gets into the legal areas of harrassment and even intimmidation depending on his language in the communication.

You also want to notify him that you have saved electronic communication exchanges between the two of you (if you actually have) then you can send them to him so he realizes that you are not bluffing.

Be very clear that regardless of your interactions up to this point, at this point you do not want to be contacted by him in any way and if he chose to ignore that IT WOULD FRIGHTEN YOU and that after trying to get him to leave you alone for so long AT THIS POINT YOU FEAR FOR YOUR SAFETY. Using these words are very important because the next step after this is involving law enforcement/the courts. If you threaten involving law enforcement or the courts you have to act on the terms of that threat or you risk "crying wolf".

The next idea is in these communication exchanges you let him know that up to this point you have had the irrational hope that he would just stop, and because of that hope you have not involved outside parties in the matter but because of how his actions are affecting your actions it is to the point where it could affect your character with mutual parties that are unaware of the situation and you may be forced to share your documented interactions with those parties including but not limmited to his wife.


The most important parts though is that your communication is DOCUMENTED, you state PLAINLY that you do not want him to continue contacting you AT ALL (no, "if you continue to act this way" kind of stuff), and that his behavior has gone from causing you concern to causing you FEAR.

Posted by little_sparrow
So I started an online dating profile. I am not that into the bar scene and my current activities are not conducive to meeting guys. Oddly, not that men are into sewing, my new hot hobby.

Every single Scorp that has contacted me is creepy, creepy, creepy. Kind of looks like an axe murder, sitting in their mother's basement, with one hand down their pants. The last guy was so creepy I am going to block him and with all the typos, I am afraid to know what he was doing while typing.

Oddly, the libra lads are the ones that are most persistent. Even if you say no and give them a reason why, like they have grown up kids (hello?), they don't see why it is a problem. ha.

lol wowthe mothers basement thing was hialrious

I totally agree with creepiness..

One scorp stalked me before. I changed residences twice while I was studying and he was always my neighbour (after a few days)

I was creeped, of course, but definitely flattered. But he was a good scorp.. just compulsive.. he didnt think he was creepy..

gave up after a while.

some tip: don't feed him; just ignore. conversations are feed, as well as replies. you can try the 'block contact' thing. It works wonders.
they wont miss you because scorps and libras arent essentially compatible anyway..

Posted by wtf?
everything on the internet..
should be taken with a grain of salt..

True!

Posted by spica
I totally agree with creepiness..

One scorp stalked me before. I changed residences twice while I was studying and he was always my neighbour (after a few days)

I was creeped, of course, but definitely flattered. But he was a good scorp.. just compulsive.. he didnt think he was creepy..

gave up after a while.

some tip: don't feed him; just ignore. conversations are feed, as well as replies. you can try the 'block contact' thing. It works wonders.
they wont miss you because scorps and libras arent essentially compatible anyway..

So you were stalked by a scorp too huh?

I am sure mine doesn't think he is being creepy at all.

'Stalking' is quite natural for a scorp; I was told it is a way for them to want to get to know you better/ indicate interest.

"So you were stalked by a scorp too huh? "

Yes and he got a cancer pregnant and left her in the lurch. I didnt want to be the next statistic.

oh puhleeeez. they're not creepy!
& I've never met unattractive scorpio man before... I don't wish to anyway lol
Cancer men are creepy to me

Applemint, you are absolutely right! Scorpios are not natural stalkers. It's the other way around! People actually stalk us and want to be with us! The sign who tends to stalk the crap out of you is the King of the Jungle, Mr. Leo. A Leo man will put anyone to shame with their stalking behavior!

Posted by size zero superhero
lol this is going to sound insensitive--and it is--but

you access an online dating network and you are SURPRISED that creepy male members approach you? what did you think might happen instead? 🙂

LOL! I was just surprised that all the really creepy ones were Scorpios.

Ummm you guys can say what you want but my best friend is a Scorp. When I want info on someone, she knows how to get it. She is very good at watching from afar if you prefer.

anyway my long term stalker, is 4 planets of Scorp.

And they may be cute when they are young, but all the creepy looking older guys I know are Scorps.

(I really wish people didn't feel the need to defend their signs without detachment. It is annoying.)

oh, you said it, sparrow 🙂
sometimes this section looks like some psychiatry ward or something, full of patients in different degrees of pain, reacting oddly, violently, same Scorp emotional game playing, same wounded Leos girls, the Pisces who doesn't understand, etcetc. Must feel a bit punishing for a Libra at times? 🙂 dunno..

I bought this book today, Cosmic coupling by Starsky and Cox, most of you guys know about it its so good, but for the newbies who don't please, PHLEASE do yourselves a favor and read the section about you and the Libra in your life to spare so much agony!