Decision Made

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Chatz on Tuesday, February 13, 2007 and has 133 replies.
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Well ladies and gents,
Its pretty late in the afternoon here (I know you have yet to experience V.Day), however, I've lost hope and my decision has been made....I give up on Mr. Libra.
I've pretty much done all the things suggested on here - to a fault *rolls eyes*, I know there is something between us but just not enough for him to make a move or make me feel secure....he knows how I feel and continues to keep me hanging while he, well I dunno what he's doing.
Just now I've checked (not that I've done much of that in the past few weeks) and there he is online on his singles sites at work (yes I know Im at work too but this isn't a singles site even though Nic might think so LOL). Its Valentines Day and he's got enough time to go on there and chat to all and sundry or whatever he does on there but not enough time or thought to even just send me a text to say "hope you're having a nice day, thinking of you"....he only sends texts when he wants to hook up....he's so damned good at sending texts - THAT's how he communicates and goes to show how sad it really is. I never wanted flowers, nor a card, nor anything, just a thought from him woulda been good - glad I went shopping for myself though LOL
Unfortunately I have the answer I am looking for - just took me a bit longer than most to figure out I have no hope with this one....pity he gave off all those signs though and yep some of them were VERY obvious....he really isn't in the right place and he's got me there just in case, but I can't continue this way...I have to pull away from him totally. I can't call him or text or email to say its over, Im just going to disappear coz to think strangers online are more important on this one day??? whatever!!! Im sure my disappearance won't be noticed, let's face it, he hasn't bothered to think of me today or the previous 2 weeks prior to the last time we hooked up - oh yeah, they are great times but yeah....you all know where Im coming from here....Im just the girl he wants to snuggle up to, etc when he's had enough of being alone every couple of weeks.
Anyway up and on.
Thanks for all your support, etc....I did enjoy the ride while it lasted but this could last for years and he'd be happy with that but at the end of the day, Im not happy...I miss him, think of him every day, would drop what I was doing to go and see him but he doesnt want or ask for any of that. I give up!!
xoxox
Men!!!
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(((Chatz)))
Oh honey I am so sorry. I know how you feel. He isn't ready and it has NOTHING to do with you. I hope you find a new guy soon. You are such a sweetheart I am sure you will.
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Sorry hun, I know it's hard.
But, like LS says, you are way too bright, fun and amazing to settle. You should have EXACTLY what you want in a relationship.
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My sista Chatz, here we are in the same situation again. I have pretty much disconnected myself from my Libra friend in that way. We are friends and I am thinking of giving that a break too, since my feelings have gotten involved. Didn't expect to hear from him today at all, however I got 3 other VM's and texts from guys I am not interested in ofcourse. I thanked them and thought it was sweet.
Lib men drive me crazy... But like you, my friend does care, just not enough in the way I desire, and he can't help it. I am aware that it isn't about me at all, like LS said and you have to look at your situation the same way.
There is a reason for everything, atleast that is what I believe, on to bigger and better things as well. Keep on this post, as we love your sense of humor and encouraging words. I will. Share your experiences with other women, being strung along by these Lib men and those who actually finally get them... HAPPY V-DAY ALL!!!
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Chatz, I am sad for you. GLAD you are shopping for YOU!
Wow.
You really do deserve someone wonderful.
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Thank you my lovelies smile....I'll be ok and yup I know he'll try to drag me back in again next week (it goes in fortnightly cycles)....just have to find a way to avoid him but texts are hard to avoid coz they sit there looking at you and I hate being rude.
Archer you could be right....and aquabrat also suggested the same.....I've got nothing to lose if Im letting go anyway. My plan?? just that...let him know why I can't continue (in a nice way of course coz I don't want to upset him and I know it would upset him to see or hear me upset - this I do know). I know he'll probably try to talk his way out of me walking away and it might even work, who knows and maybe it might give him the kick up the butt to realise there might have been something worth keeping, but probably not hahahaha...Im prepared for the worst either way smile Now just to be able to look into those eyes and tell him all I need to - THAT'S the hard part - those damned eyes!!! and that smile that melts me every freaking time!!
You're right about the silent quitting - that's not fair either. Aaaaaaaaand I don't really want to lose him as a friend - its just that I have to let go for the time being until Im over him....that can and will take a while though Sad
Thank you my friends...as per usual you're kinda right smile
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Oh and the most pathetic part??? last night (Valentine's Day) he went to see his daughter as per every Wednesday night, and then came home and went to his chat sites for a while and stayed home alone - what on earth is in that I just do not know!!!! He only ever sees me every fortnight but its just all so odd. I know had I sent a text he'd have replied but its always me who instigates...that's certainly not a balanced r/ship *shrugs*
LS and QS...like you, there are guys who are interested in me but not me in them, yet the one I do want just isn't in the right mindset...dang as Aqua says LOL
I'll be fine.....plenty more fish in the sea so they say smile
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We are good woman, however we know what we want... Chatz, after I got home my Libra friend texted me Happy Valentines Day, Hugs and Kisses, I made it light, like a joke and replied: Excuse me, do I know you. He thought that was hilarious, texted back Haha, very funny, I think you do, I know you. Still, I am keeping it light including my feelings. It is hard with them. I am way tooo impatient for the back and forth... I will hear from him whenever he contacts me again. In the meantime. Keep it movin...
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Chatz, you're doin' good. I'm starting a new topic to let you ladies know of my current situation.
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QS that's good news!! At least he thought LOL.
I will certainly keep you all posted in regard to what happens with my lovely LIbra man....I know he'll try to charm the pants off of me once again - he'll no doubt succeed but I WILL ensure he knows how I feel - haven't done this before and he will HAVE to sit there and listen as I intend to do it face to face smile...no escape, no emails, no texts hehehehe and he does not suspect a thing. Wonder how he'll take it - OMG that'll unbalance him LOL.....not that I want to but sheesh I've been patient, I've been understanding and I've been the doormat long enough smile
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Chatz, hope you check out my new topic under Argh---I would sure appreciate your insight.
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Chatz, you do just that and watch, the funny thing is he is going to feel so bad and act as if he had no idea (in most instances they really don't)he made you feel that way and he will be apologetic too and then charm your pants off
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I intend on doing the same with my Libra friend eventually, just letting him know exactly how I feel without the generalizing. Lightly, nothing heavy though, but he now has to wait awhile.
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As I know it is about him, not me. Keep that in mind Chatz, not about you. It is the blocks in their heads.
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QS thanks - yeah I know.....its just so tragic that he spends so many nights alone and there I am ready to make it all worthwhile venturing out in the wide world once more!!! He still says "I've only just gotten out of a long term r/ship" when in actual fact its been 2 years - goes to show how caught up in the past he really still is. Dunno if there's any hope but somebody has to rattle his cage - might as well be me!!! I'll do it nicely and yes I know its him and not about me....he values me as a person/a friend/a lover but just not a partner or g/friend......we'll see what we can do about it but Im still ready to discontinue investing so much of myself in him too....I am a Leo - I have my pride too Tongue
Thanks QS and HP too.....you keep me positive about this one smile
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No probs, I have had enough experience with these dudes to know.. Oh, clearly I haven't, hence here I am... Glutten for punishment...
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Chatz, you KNOW what to do. Leos turn heads ALL the time. Can't wait to see who you attract next!
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I sure could use a Leo Girl right now!
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Kris...that's a good comment LOL.
Atom???....awwwww how sweet....that's a good comment too - OMG so much advice!!!
I just have to wear that new perfume the Libra suggested and that's enough to drive them insane!!! OMG...oh and I will be wearing it this weekend Tongue
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wooooooohooooooooo Kris!!!!
Leos don't like being put on the back burner.....THIS my Libran is going to find out when I see him next week smile
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kris, I think she'll be back, because she's been coming back for four years! Anyway, she has been a little too busy with other guys for me to get too serious about her. I need a NEW Leo Girl---of course, talking about that PURRRfect glow and intuitive intimacy they have. Meow!
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Right on, kris.
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Atom a leo or a fierce scorp!!! LOL!!!
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Hmmm yes@loyalty!!! We give it and expect it back in return smile
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Chatz,
I can see where he is comming from but it isn't fair in anyway to you to drag you through the emotional mud with him. Once again I am impressed with confidence in the way you know yourself and through all of this being able to take everything in stride. Youv'e got some serious moxy to keep the perspective you have in the last four months. I raise my glass to you.
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MOXY seems the exact right word for our dynamic lioness!
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Nic, what cha drinking? I sure could use a drink right now...
Chatz, you da bomb girlll!!!
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Thanks kind sir and all the other lovelies!!
Don't worry, I've done my fair share of crying at night - Im not quite THAT strong!! I am female afterall but he knows nothing of this and I'd rather he not know ever so thanks for always being there to pick me up - I do appreciate it and I'd share the liqueur with you all but well you know..its a long way to catch up *sigh*
Its not over quite yet but yeah...it isn't fair to live in a fantasy...love him to bits but yeah...even I know when to walk away!!
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Chatz, I can't say I have cried at night because of him, however, I can say I have dropped a tear or two because of the loneliness. Don't waste any more tears, I know it is hard, but you are the prize.
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well if you put it like that??? how can I argue? LOL thanks again
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"Don't worry, I've done my fair share of crying at night - Im not quite THAT strong!!"
This guy made you cry? Give me his address he just earned himself a one way ticket to Serious Ass Beating, population: Him, Elevation: Bleeding on the floor.
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many a times but hey, its my fault - I got attached to a guy who's not in the right place...he was honest about that...I just thought, well never mind. Thanks Nic...Mwwwahhhh to you too!!! How tall are you?? he's 6'5 - do you really wanna mess with him?? but then again the big ones fall the hardest don't they?? LOL
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Chatz, my ex is 6'5, and my libra friend is 6'6. I am 5'4, love those tall glasses of water.
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I am 6', but I love the advantage that comes with being underestimated. Love it.
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OMG I struggle to give him a kiss at 5'9!!! How do you manage??? LOL
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Tall guys love to pick up short girls.. I dunno they feel like da man I guees. Love being picked up or lifted... And during sex, boy the way they flip and flop you around... ummm.
Nic, 6 feet? that is what I am talking about...
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Yeah his ex was 5'0 but now he looks for taller women LOL.....hmmmm to be picked up?? that'd be nice but alas Im too tall Winking
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Girl he can still probably pick you up. My ex is muscular and built and so is my Libra friend. 220 - 240 all muscles.
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Ooooh NIc I didnt' realise you were 6'...wooohoooo....do you girls know how difficult it is to find a decent tall man??? sheesh!!! They should have chopped some height off of me when I was younger!!! Now it would hurt a little more but then?? I was tougher LOL.
So how was your Valentines Day NIc?? ooops, forgot, you guys are still on that day!!!
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yeah he could QS...he's built quite well too - muscular and mmmm mmmm....damn, can you please stop reminding me??? please??? LOL.
Why are all these Librans absolute spunks???? that includes you Nic!!!!!
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Don't Nick have the sexiest lips??? Did you see him with that gun, probably a replica of his other gun... LOL!! OK I am naughty, might have to settle for the BOB tonight. smile
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LOL...I say nothing further...Nic Knows!!!
QS there is nothing wrong with BOB....BOB knows all the RIGHT moves smile Enjoy~! Tongue
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Yeah, never quite as satisfing as the real thing.
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good practice though!!!
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Hi All: Shirley Here
Sorry Im going to be more brave just had a nice dinner with Libra #2 who is VERY nice (but waiting for the big turnabout). Not really interested in him, still into Libra #1, I think Im going to just text him a VTD message. What do you all think? Yes, I know, we are still talking as friends, with me doing the contacting, I know he's just nice and answers back, but hey I think Ill just see what happens.
No VTD message from him and it is LATE, maybe this one doesnt do that. (STill making excuses for him). CAnt wait to get this guy out of my head.
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shirley....we all make excuses for their lack of, communication!! What's wrong with Libra #2? why isn't he as good as Libra #1?....he took you out and yet the one you want isn't communicating??? always the way huh?
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C: I dunno - even tho Libra #2 is still a Libra he is still different, attractive wise and he doesnt talk as much - seems connection doesnt flow as well, like we are looking for things to talk about and he is very vague, like doesnt really want to talk about his life and makes comments like, is it important to tell you that? hhhmm #1 just told me everything, about his old girlfriends, etc. we always found things to talk about and could spends hours with. I find myself yawning with #2.
So do you think I should text him or is VTD too personal for a closer relationship?
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Well communication is definitely the key...and there's nothing worse than feeling like you've had to try too hard with the talking factor on a date......I'd say go with the gut feeling then smile....VTD? Im not sure what that means - text or voice mail...I live in the land down under...perhaps we haven't gotten that advanced yet LOL...we only have our days before you, not the technology hahahahaha.
Ummmm...perhaps leave it if he hasn't responded or made the effort for today...there's always tomorrow....slowly does it remember??
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and why would you do this to yourself?? I mean TWO Librans??? OMG woman!!! Winking
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Sorry VAlentines Day. I think you are a Leo right? I thought Leos were just as impatient as us Scorps. How do you do it? You are lucky though cuz Leos and Libras are suppose to be compatible. This is the first time Ive dealt with alot of Libras er maybe I just never noticed before this site. I seem to be able to attract them then I start to open my mouth and that's it. They seem to take what I say all wrong. Like tonight Libra #2 kept insisting I do not like to go places with kids. I had only mentioned on our first date cause he hasnt any kids and I was concerned about being in a family restaurant with all the noise, making sure it was alright with him. Seems they remember everything you say. I do not take things so seriously and half the time do not remember comments they may make.
Cmon do we really believe the astrological connection stuff?
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