Difficult men/hard/incompatable relationships

Do Libras prefer difficult/hard and incompatable relationships? Over harmonious alliances?

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When we are younger and haven't taken the time to really dig down and figure things out we are more opportunistic and idealistic about relationships. I think the guys and the girls of our sign have a bit of a savior complex naturally and tend to gravitate towards hard relationships. For some reason we seem to be most attracted to people we think we can help, in some way. It may not be something big, but in my past relationships I can see that commonality. At some point we concede and realize that we are not doing anyone, including ourselves any favors by doing that and we change our attraction to similar people who are going to provide an easier relationship. We tend to, in my experience with myself and observing the other libras I know....seem to be attracted to those who have had to struggle, or have had a hard life. For some reason someone who has had a hard past and moved on from it and is on a path of sucess is attractive to me. Overcomming hardships and diversity is an attractive trait to us it seems. It goes along with the savior mentality that we seem to have before we mature a lot in the relationship department.

It does work both ways, we tend to be attracted to the more difficult situations but we tend to attract them as well. libra, especially the guys with other women seems to be accross the board the one people call when they need to talk about something personal, or difficult. Were the sign who gets random phone calls from friends to go to coffee just to talk, or a call late at night when a friend just got in a bad argument with their s/o, or even a call from the s/o we barely know for help with the friend. So it attracts us as well and the opportunity is always there to get into a relationship with someone who has problems.

We also tend to be skeptical of people who seem like a "really good" match from the beginning. wondering where the catch is or when the other shoe is going to drop. Take Chatz's situation as an example. Great woman who has gone above and beyond what anyone should do for the one they are interrested in and he was for the longest time making it harder.

Yes!!!...or at least I do...i like the challenge until it starts to stress me out too much then i let it go

* Do Libras prefer difficult/hard and incompatable relationships? Over harmonious alliances?

Absolutely not. I find them spirit crushing. I much rather have something easy and fun.

* a savior complex naturally and tend to gravitate towards hard relationships. For some reason we seem to be most attracted to people we think we can help, in some way.

This has not been my truth.

* our attraction to similar people who are going to provide an easier relationship.

True.

* seem to be attracted to those who have had to struggle, or have had a hard life. For some reason someone who has had a hard past and moved on from it and is on a path of success is attractive to me.

Everyone has had a hard path. Everyone has their own version of pain. No pain is greater or less than.

I do agree with the last part. People who get over it attract to me.

* one people call when they need to talk about something personal, or difficult.

I don't know if this is true. I tend to be the friend who buys you a stiff drink, claps you on the back, and makes you laugh yourself silly about the situation. I tend to be the feel good friend not the deep hand-holder.

* So it attracts us as well and the opportunity is always there to get into a relationship with someone who has problems.

Absolutely not. I expect my partner to be an equal. I don't want to save anyone, I don't expect anyone to save me. I definitely don't look for someone with a lot of problems because why would I want them to be my problem?

* people who seem like a "really good" match from the beginning.

Disagree. People can be a great match/great people but there has to be an attraction. I have to know that I can be loyal to them. I have to know that they are my equal. People who set me up to high are no longer my equal. It has to be equal. I give. They give. If one partner does too much, it is off-balance and if they overgive ... I wonder what is wrong with them that they would settle for so little.

Like they say, nothing says unsexy like Martyr.

L.S., does any of the part about hard relationships or being attracted to struggle hold true for you at a younger age in your life? I am not like that now, but I was up until recently. I have always seemed/acted/carried myself as someone who is older and more experienced than my age reflects, however I think the relationship department was one of the last areas I "matured" in.

If not that is awesome. Oh, and I agree it is those who have OVERCOME diversity that are very attractive. Especially those who have without a large change in character through the process. But that is probably a given, as if there was it would probably not yet be to the point of overcome.

when I was young I wanted to be saved than save. I didn't have a strong sense of self so I needed relationships to help with self-definition. Now, I have a much firmer sense of self and am looking for someone to stand up with me not for me. (if that makes sense. 🙂)

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