Disappearing Act with Libras.

This topic was created in the Libra forum by jessgoogoo on Wednesday, April 24, 2013 and has 18 replies.
I never knew how much I have done this, until I joined DXP...
There are several reasons why I do this to people. When I feel like someone is wasting my time and confusing the hell out of me, I step back and have to see if this is worth my time, takes me awhile to find the answer and sometimes I regret the decision. Another is if the person has truely wronged me, then I can disappear with no remorse at all. If I feel that we do not connect and I sense that you want more then I would disappear for awhile too. Another reason is I don`t realize sometimes that I do it, and really am just busy.
Why are Libras known for this? and what reasons do other Libras have for doing the disappearing act?
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Well said Tiz. I find myself doing this kind of thing all the time. I don't mean to either. I'll even do it to my family, if I have something else on my mind or am busy. Took me years to finally understand this aspect of myself and I hope my family and friends have figured it out too, lol. Men, on the other hand, have called me mysterious, cold at times (ugh), living in my own world and distant. They also have said I'm very caring, I give too much of myself to others.
And where matters of the heart are concerned, I'm one to back off if I feel I'm being wronged or used. And will end the relationship with no looking back if my needs are not being met, not just sexually either. I will say that I give everything I have to give when I'm in a committed relationship and its takes a long time to end it, but a point comes when I'm thru for good if the balance is not right.
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Posted by jessgoogoo
I never knew how much I have done this, until I joined DXP...
There are several reasons why I do this to people. When I feel like someone is wasting my time and confusing the hell out of me, I step back and have to see if this is worth my time, takes me awhile to find the answer and sometimes I regret the decision. Another is if the person has truely wronged me, then I can disappear with no remorse at all. If I feel that we do not connect and I sense that you want more then I would disappear for awhile too. Another reason is I don`t realize sometimes that I do it, and really am just busy.
Why are Libras known for this? and what reasons do other Libras have for doing the disappearing act?


Describes me to a tee. Especially if we do not find a connection. There was an Aquarius Man I was dating for about 2 months. Very nice man and all, but took things way too fast. Was too overbearing. When I feel smothered or rushed into a decision too quickly, I believe it's known for us Librans to retreat in order to weigh the decisions.
Also, my recent ending in a relationship with Taurus: I went completely cold turkey because of his wrongdoing. We might be indecisive as Libras, but when we finally reach that decision (whatever it is), we tend to stick to our guns and logic with it (even if it is regretting or another perspective pops up). That's me at least! Haven't looked back once after my recent Taurus relationship, and don't care to.
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This Libra FWB I have has gone 'ghost' on me out of nowhere. One minute we're on Skype and he's asking me if he can come over tonight and asking repeatedly what our plans are for tonight and says he can't wait to get hold of me and then he disappears off Skype suddenly and not a word since.
WHAT THE FUCK?
I sent him a message this morning saying "Please be a gent and let me know early enough if you are still coming over tonight so that if you're not, I can make other plans."
Polite, reasonable.
NOTHING but silence in return!???
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Thanks... I figured today already that if I haven't heard from him by 2pm, I'm making other plans.
It's irked me so much that he doesn't even have common courtesy to let me know what's going on. I sent him a text now saying it's game over. I've seen him active on social media throughout the day and haven't said anything to him while he's been on there... leaving him the space to get in touch and respond. He couldn't even do that!
Not sure whether he thinks he's the only guy I can find to have sex with me, but I feel like assuring him that I have other options.
I'm so mad right now, because I want to tell him that, but I also don't want to be a mean bitch... you know what I mean?
I really can't be bothered with a time waster! There are plenty more fish to fry!
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Disappear on him too, we do hate when it`s done back to us, once we notice...don`t bother to text him again, and I mean not at all even to ask how`s it going, let him miss you....
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He needs time to think, and if she keeps popping in to see how his doing or whats going on its not giving him space..He will text her back eventually when his done, or maybe not at all..
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Thanks for all your considerate advice peeps smile
I deleted his number and to be honest it doesn't really burn. I'm 34, he's 23. I also have other options who are better in bed than he is, but I enjoyed his company. He was a gent went he came over. Not like others that just wham, bam, thank you ma'am and are out the door as soon as the deed is over. We would give each other massages in between rounds and stuff.... His character was refreshing, and so I kept him around. But I'm not going to put up with bad behaviour.
I don't even feel the need to bite his head off. I don't need to be THAT girl!
Just... Walking away and ignoring any contact from him when he decides to pop up again.
He lives an hour away so he might not felt like driving all the way but its still no excuse for not letting me know. Unless his fingers are broken, which I highly doubt.
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lol.
I'm dealing with a 23 year old and I can totally empathize. Lack of patience for this type of shit isn't working in his favor.
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Posted by leoliza
oh well he's 23. and a libra. so this is all a duh factor.


Yup... haha... when I think about it the only thing that comes into my mind is "Little fucker!"
He's about to learn the difference between girls and women. And I'm going to teach it to him.
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Posted by lotuslily
Posted by leoliza
oh well he's 23. and a libra. so this is all a duh factor.


Yup... haha... when I think about it the only thing that comes into my mind is "Little fucker!"
He's about to learn the difference between girls and women. And I'm going to teach it to him.
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Right? It's amusing that they think that we're blind to their bs. Honey, I've been in the dating scene much longer. Your little bs moves are nothing new. Nice try though!
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Libra men are hard work, I met mine 3 months ago, at the moment he is so stressed and had to go away on business which he has discussed with me, he said he would be gone approx a week, what does that mean. I sent him a friendly text cos I missed him but got no reply it has now been a week since he has gone away and he has not contacted me at all even though I asked him to keep in touch, I won't be texting again, if he does contact me again, I will be busy, this is no way to treat people.
PS: I am an Aries girl.
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Posted by janjee
Libra men are hard work, I met mine 3 months ago, at the moment he is so stressed and had to go away on business which he has discussed with me, he said he would be gone approx a week, what does that mean. I sent him a friendly text cos I missed him but got no reply it has now been a week since he has gone away and he has not contacted me at all even though I asked him to keep in touch, I won't be texting again, if he does contact me again, I will be busy, this is no way to treat people.
PS: I am an Aries girl.


Make your own thread?
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Posted by oldskoolflavor
Posted by rockyroadicecream
lol.
I'm dealing with a 23 year old and I can totally empathize. Lack of patience for this type of shit isn't working in his favor.


Sad
if you gave me a chance, I'd never disappear on you for more than 3 days .. we'd have lots of fun.. even outside the bedroom

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You must be bored.
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Posted by jessgoogoo
Disappear on him too, we do hate when it`s done back to us, once we notice...don`t bother to text him again, and I mean not at all even to ask how`s it going, let him miss you....
Yep I hate it when it's done back to me.


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Posted by janjee
Libra men are hard work, I met mine 3 months ago, at the moment he is so stressed and had to go away on business which he has discussed with me, he said he would be gone approx a week, what does that mean. I sent him a friendly text cos I missed him but got no reply it has now been a week since he has gone away and he has not contacted me at all even though I asked him to keep in touch, I won't be texting again, if he does contact me again, I will be busy, this is no way to treat people.
PS: I am an Aries girl.
Damn!


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Libra guy here.


Aries girl, a week is bogus! He should've replied within 24 hours.


These others seem more immature than Libra specimens. I will say that a Libra may decide that the relationship isn't going to work, "ending" it unilaterally to avoid a conflict/confrontation. Often, this may be based on their own insecurities, so a message of "I'm not being clingy, but really like you . . ." might head that off.
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Posted by tiziani
I think most of it boils down to decisions. For us, spending time with someone is a decision. For others, it happens naturally. If someone goes wrong, we want to take time out and know if we are still making the right decision or if we've made a mistake spending time with that person. If it's still right for either side, not just us.
We live in our own heads. So if we share that with someone we tend to take that decision (and ourselves) very seriously. Often too seriously.
But then, we are thinkers, Air Signs... and disappearing acts are our prerogative. Many people can benefit from the downtime we take in these acts. More so than what people stand to lose if we weren't around to think or be in their lives to provide a different perspective.
So, honestly, if anyone is giving you rubbish about disappearing from time to time, just tell them you can't look a gifthorse in the mouth.
Live in your heads to the point that you won't listen to someone else....that's what I have experienced. I sure hope that isn't typical of Libras.


How do you know when its a disappearing act that is temporary vs on that is final?

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