Do i email his girlfriend

This topic was created in the Libra forum by gem88girl on Friday, March 28, 2014 and has 42 replies.
I've been seeing this libra male for a few months now and I just found out that he is still living and going on holiday with his ex a leo. I think they might still be together but he says they aren't. im going to send her an email telling her everything that has been going on as if I was her I would want to know. I would like to know, how do you think my libra male will react?
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At the end of the day, I say do what you think is best for you
If you feel like you should tell the Leo what's going on, then do it because you feel like he is playing you both, and you want to warn her about the libra and be prepared to answer some questions to show proof
Its up to you
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My main reason I want to email her is because ive watched him cheat on her for the last few years but no one has ever sais anything to her because they don't want to cause any hassle. im just so sick of him getting away with this he needs to learn that's not the way to live
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Won't solve anything, she'll still be with him and you'll end up looking like a jealous psycho.
There are so many excuses that he can provide for example he'll tell her you're stalking him, you were just a fling, fun, I was seeing her/you while after we broke up etc etc, so you see it's so many valid excuses he can provide to her that will only bring them both closer.
Your hurt and your beef is not with her, your beef is with him, hurting her, and/or attempting to hurt her by revealing his indiscretions will not ease your pain/fury.
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He lives with her? That sounds fishy.
Have you met her? I mean it's been a few months, surely you've been to his place. Does he talk to you in front of her?
Everyone else is correct, whether he's with her or not, you sending that email would be bad if not fatal for your relationship. If he is then you bust him and it gets ugly. If he ain't, it's worse. Then it's him being honest and telling you what's going on, and you not trusting him. I'm not a cheater so I know where I'd stand in this situation and if a gf called a friend of mine asking about our relationship...yeah that's no good. Then again, I wouldn't be living and going on vacation with an ex.
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Posted by gem88girl
My main reason I want to email her is because ive watched him cheat on her for the last few years but no one has ever sais anything to her because they don't want to cause any hassle. im just so sick of him getting away with this he needs to learn that's not the way to live


Wait....
WHAT THE FUCK?!?!??!?!
Um... How do you respond to...
What do you say...
You know he's been with this girl for years and he sleeps around...and you've been seeing him for a few months...
You think SHE might be the "other woman"

Am I reading this wrong here?
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I 100% think she will stay with him because she will be scared of being alone but this wasn't just a fuck buddy thing and I have hand written letters and cards from him that I will tell her I can send to her if she would like. I'm not going to be mean, not in any way shape or form but at the end of the day he has cheated before more time than you can count on two hands and she only found out about 1 and she still stayed with him. he needs to learn that he cant just go around and do this and every girl will just do nothing because they don't want to look like the are jealous.
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So you fucked her boyfriend so she would learn what a jerk he is?
Great plan. No way that'll go bad.
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You should definitely send the email, I'm sure she'd love to hear all about it.
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Posted by gem88girl
My main reason I want to email her is because ive watched him cheat on her for the last few years but no one has ever sais anything to her because they don't want to cause any hassle. im just so sick of him getting away with this he needs to learn that's not the way to live


I'm sorry I must be reading this wrong. You say you know he's been cheating on her for years and yet you have been dating him for the past few months. Am I missing something here? Did they ever actually break up? How did you get with him if he's been with the leo (cheating on her) for years? Are you one of the women he's been cheating with? How can you possibly expect fidelity from a man you KNOW has cheated on his previous (possibly still current) GF for years. I'm very confused...please elaborate.
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no, no she deffo aint the other women. I don't know what goes on in his mind all I know is he lies about EVERYTHING even when he has no reason to lie, he clearly needs help, maybe this will make him realize that, even tho he said hurting me has made him want to get help. surprise surprise I don't believe him.
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JMO
If you want to tell her then do it
Have your proof, and tell her what's going on if that's what you want
I don't care if the girl gets hurt or the libra at this point, if you think that Leo should know the truth then do it
How the Leo takes it is that's Leo's problem, all your doing is telling her what's going on
I've done it, if I know my friend have been done wrong I told her, but I had my proof in hand otherwise I wouldn't have come forward for the fear she wouldnt believe me, but that's just me
Libras aren't that good at hiding stuff anyway, and I'm sure she knows or has a feeling that the libra is a dog and she doesn't have proof, so if your doing her a favor, then tell her
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Posted by gem88girl
I 100% think she will stay with him because she will be scared of being alone but this wasn't just a fuck buddy thing and I have hand written letters and cards from him that I will tell her I can send to her if she would like. I'm not going to be mean, not in any way shape or form but at the end of the day he has cheated before more time than you can count on two hands and she only found out about 1 and she still stayed with him. he needs to learn that he cant just go around and do this and every girl will just do nothing because they don't want to look like the are jealous.


Ok so you're an angry sidechick. (no offense) Umm yea you decided to be the other woman so play the other woman role. Meaning you do not get to decide to become all self-richeous and a moral compass for that man and his behaviors. If she found out about 1 chick and stayed with him, then another chick sending an email will hardly deter her. You can't break them up...just accept that and move on. What you're about to do is going to go so terribly wrong. And you're lying to yourself if you're telling yourself you're going to send that email for any other reason than to break them up so that you can have him for yourself.
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Posted by fembot
Posted by gem88girl
I 100% think she will stay with him because she will be scared of being alone but this wasn't just a fuck buddy thing and I have hand written letters and cards from him that I will tell her I can send to her if she would like. I'm not going to be mean, not in any way shape or form but at the end of the day he has cheated before more time than you can count on two hands and she only found out about 1 and she still stayed with him. he needs to learn that he cant just go around and do this and every girl will just do nothing because they don't want to look like the are jealous.


Ok so you're an angry sidechick. (no offense) Umm yea you decided to be the other woman so play the other woman role. Meaning you do not get to decide to become all self-richeous and a moral compass for that man and his behaviors. If she found out about 1 chick and stayed with him, then another chick sending an email will hardly deter her. You can't break them up...just accept that and move on. What you're about to do is going to go so terribly wrong. And you're lying to yourself if you're telling yourself you're going to send that email for any other reason than to break them up so that you can have him for yourself.

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And he's such a winner too, why wouldn't she want him?
Get that homewrecker away from your man.
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You should definitely send the email, I'm sure she'd love to hear all about it.


LOL
aahhh man.. i give up. x3
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Big Grin
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If your gonna do that, then I don??t suggest you worry about how he??s going to react. If your doing it on some woman to woman type shyt, you darn well better be ready to stand behind it, because he??s definitely gonna come at you horns blazing from his head if you are about to blow his cover.
Although I don??t believe you should snitch him out like that. Snitching is never cool, and you don??t know if she already knows about you and you might make yourself look like an ass. Truth be told your loyalty should be to yourself, in which case you need to remove yourself from the situation now that you know the truth.
I don??t know??_this looks like it??s going to get messy. I don??t like it.
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I hope your not doing this cause you want him
You should be doing it because you think the Leo has a right to know
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Posted by LibraSid
Posted by fembot
Posted by gem88girl
I 100% think she will stay with him because she will be scared of being alone but this wasn't just a fuck buddy thing and I have hand written letters and cards from him that I will tell her I can send to her if she would like. I'm not going to be mean, not in any way shape or form but at the end of the day he has cheated before more time than you can count on two hands and she only found out about 1 and she still stayed with him. he needs to learn that he cant just go around and do this and every girl will just do nothing because they don't want to look like the are jealous.


Ok so you're an angry sidechick. (no offense) Umm yea you decided to be the other woman so play the other woman role. Meaning you do not get to decide to become all self-richeous and a moral compass for that man and his behaviors. If she found out about 1 chick and stayed with him, then another chick sending an email will hardly deter her. You can't break them up...just accept that and move on. What you're about to do is going to go so terribly wrong. And you're lying to yourself if you're telling yourself you're going to send that email for any other reason than to break them up so that you can have him for yourself.



And he's such a winner too, why wouldn't she want him?
Get that homewrecker away from your man.
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LMAO! +1
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hold up, i just read you said he's been cheating on her. ha! She most likely already knows. I dont know a woman on this planet that has been with a man for that many years, and dont know he's cheating. Unless he's super creative, and even then a woman that KNOWS her man can always tell and she doens't need another woman to tell her. She knows. She can feel it. Men dont realize it but we can tell by the way he says goodnight, to the way he kisses us goodbye the next morning when he leaves for work. The signs are so small, but you always notice. She's probably just waiting on the hardcore proof, and even then she'll probably still stay.
It will probably take her to walk in on him with his penis stuck right in the pot before she believes it.
I had a girl inbox me, i took it to my boyfriend and sure enough he denied it. Said she's crazy and psyco. He was my first love so i took his side. BIG mistake. But everyone has to learn. I say you shouldn't have told her. But it's already done so oh well.
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Posted by fembot
Posted by gem88girl
I 100% think she will stay with him because she will be scared of being alone but this wasn't just a fuck buddy thing and I have hand written letters and cards from him that I will tell her I can send to her if she would like. I'm not going to be mean, not in any way shape or form but at the end of the day he has cheated before more time than you can count on two hands and she only found out about 1 and she still stayed with him. he needs to learn that he cant just go around and do this and every girl will just do nothing because they don't want to look like the are jealous.


Ok so you're an angry sidechick. (no offense) Umm yea you decided to be the other woman so play the other woman role. Meaning you do not get to decide to become all self-richeous and a moral compass for that man and his behaviors. If she found out about 1 chick and stayed with him, then another chick sending an email will hardly deter her. You can't break them up...just accept that and move on. What you're about to do is going to go so terribly wrong. And you're lying to yourself if you're telling yourself you're going to send that email for any other reason than to break them up so that you can have him for yourself.

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Omg. FEMBOT FEMBOT FEMBOT! YES! LOL. 100% +1
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Posted by gem88girl
My main reason I want to email her is because ive watched him cheat on her for the last few years but no one has ever sais anything to her because they don't want to cause any hassle. im just so sick of him getting away with this he needs to learn that's not the way to live



If you watched him cheat on her,then why would you place your self in that situation? You must not be too sick of it, because it seems that you want a piece of that action...You are asking to get burned...KARMA!!!!
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I DO NOT want him. I don't even want my friendship back with him. he lied to me, I've never met anyone that is THAT good at lying. I've stayed round their flat and there was no trace of a women living there. I want to send this email because I think she has a right to know. I'm so sick of girls getting shit on by men, esp him and then not doing anything about it because they don't want to seem jealous or just want to move on and don't want to seem like they care. I do care, he did hurt me but I would never take it out on his girlfriend its not her fault, I've deleted his number and already blocked it as he wouldn't stop ringing me and telling me how much he loves me and how he is going to win me back. Believe me this is Not about me trying to get his attention or win him back this is about women actually having each others backs.
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Just send the damn email already
I wanna know what happens next

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He's lied to you. Why even waste your time? Just peace out
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CHILE PAHLEEZE! Are you hearing yourself. You need to cut your loses and walk away. Leave this man and his cheating accepting girlfriend to their disheveled relationship. It is not your place to put him in his, because he is NOT your problem any longer, and even bigger reason he??s not yo man. So drop it. She??s not going to leave him so why wait your time? Think about it? I told you I was her, or so I though and there happen to be plenty outside of me. I found out I was not the main later on, and when I found out who wifey truly was he had her stashed away at an apartment far out, lol and just like you said no trace of a woman AT ALL. However when I found out who wifey was, I thought about messaging her but I quickly came to my senses and figured she already knows, and I was right. She had been with him for 5 yrs on and off because of cheating ways, which meant telling her would have been a waste of time and energy because to this very day they are married. Fuc him. Drop it.
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Posted by gem88girl
My main reason I want to email her is because ive watched him cheat on her for the last few years but no one has ever sais anything to her because they don't want to cause any hassle. im just so sick of him getting away with this he needs to learn that's not the way to live


Wait, so you KNEW he was a cheater, yet you dated him anyway?
You're no better than he is.
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Posted by fembot
Posted by gem88girl
I 100% think she will stay with him because she will be scared of being alone but this wasn't just a fuck buddy thing and I have hand written letters and cards from him that I will tell her I can send to her if she would like. I'm not going to be mean, not in any way shape or form but at the end of the day he has cheated before more time than you can count on two hands and she only found out about 1 and she still stayed with him. he needs to learn that he cant just go around and do this and every girl will just do nothing because they don't want to look like the are jealous.


Ok so you're an angry sidechick. (no offense) Umm yea you decided to be the other woman so play the other woman role. Meaning you do not get to decide to become all self-richeous and a moral compass for that man and his behaviors. If she found out about 1 chick and stayed with him, then another chick sending an email will hardly deter her. You can't break them up...just accept that and move on. What you're about to do is going to go so terribly wrong. And you're lying to yourself if you're telling yourself you're going to send that email for any other reason than to break them up so that you can have him for yourself.



And he's such a winner too, why wouldn't she want him?
Get that homewrecker away from your man.
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Freaking el oh el.
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Posted by gem88girl
I DO NOT want him. I don't even want my friendship back with him. he lied to me, I've never met anyone that is THAT good at lying. I've stayed round their flat and there was no trace of a women living there. I want to send this email because I think she has a right to know. I'm so sick of girls getting shit on by men, esp him and then not doing anything about it because they don't want to seem jealous or just want to move on and don't want to seem like they care. I do care, he did hurt me but I would never take it out on his girlfriend its not her fault, I've deleted his number and already blocked it as he wouldn't stop ringing me and telling me how much he loves me and how he is going to win me back. Believe me this is Not about me trying to get his attention or win him back this is about women actually having each others backs.




Sweetheart, If it was really about having each others backs, you would have nipped it in the bud, BEFORE things got out of hand.I think that you are feeling salty, because you want him, but he has her too....JMO!!!
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Posted by pinklibra

I had a girl inbox me, i took it to my boyfriend and sure enough he denied it. Said she's crazy and psyco. He was my first love so i took his side. BIG mistake. But everyone has to learn. I say you shouldn't have told her. But it's already done so oh well.


Women need to pay the fuck attention. My mom's ex husband was a piece of work. After they got married, his ex wife kind of mentioned a few fair warnings about him. My mom admitted that she just shrugged it off and assumed she was a bitter ex wife. The ex wife was absolutely correct in her warnings.
I had a friend I tried to warn about my former fwb. I tried my best to be subtle, but it's like omg don't bother, he's a piece of work that's making his way around the workplace to add notches to his bedpost. The typical happened- he started flinging accusations, calling me crazy and all that shit. He did to her exactly what he'd done to me and several other chicks in the workplace. When everything came to light, she was just baffled and thanked me for trying to look out for her.
Believe it or not, there are women out there trying to help other women out from shady assholes. It's so sad when women are so fucking retarded that they ignore the warnings and believe the liar.
Not to say that there aren't nutters out there trying to wreck shit. But if someone says something, the least you can do is keep an eye out for obvious telltale signs.
But some women are so pathetically desperate for dick in their life that they ignore all the warnings just for some freaking cuddling at the end of the day. :/
And OP, why the hell are you so shocked he lied to you? REALLY??
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You are right. But in my opinion like I said, women already know. They love the man so they want to be 100% sure he is guilty before she leaves, especially if she??s invested so much time and energy into him.
I didn??t think the girl whom warned me was psyco. He said, that not me. I believed him when he said he??s not with her, and he??s with me. Dumb yes, but then I wasn??t trying to hear it. Especially since she had no proof. I loved him, so yes I was stupid. Which brings me to my point to the OP is it wont matter what she says to him, if she wanted to leave him over cheating she would??ve done it the first time. She doesn??t wanna leave, so I don??t believe the OP should waste her breath.
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In my honest opinion, you are the one who needs help....You see the dysfunction of this man's actions, and yet, you still slept with him....Not only that, you manage to develope some feelings for him, who obviously has committment issues, and treat women like options, instead of priorities...I smell low self esteem!!!
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Is this the same LEO friend who emailed him, herself, and told him to stay the f*ck away from you?
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Posted by Easha23000us
In my honest opinion, you are the one who needs help....You see the dysfunction of this man's actions, and yet, you still slept with him....Not only that, you manage to develope some feelings for him, who obviously has committment issues, and treat women like options, instead of priorities...I smell low self esteem!!!



+ 67386739834
"Oh I knew he'd been cheating, so I got in on that action myself. *GASP* he lied to me??? onoes, I want to be captain save a ho now just to spite him and his ways!"
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However, might I add, one cannot fault you for trying to correct a situation and bring light to it for her sake.
I just think the intentions behind it are not what you say they are. :/
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Posted by Sugarfoot
Posted by TaurusNikki
Just send the damn email already
I wanna know what happens next




Lmao
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My fault, it's the Aries moon talking, I just gotta know what happens, Muahahahaha :p
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Just because you would do it for all the wrong reasons
Also, how you dare to act like a moral police when you fucked the guy knowing he has a g/f. You obv didn't give a shit about her
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Soooooo.....what is the point in telling his MAIN girl? Trust me....she knows about you and every other chic he's been with. If you are done with him, then be done! Let karma catch up with his azz?.....plus, how do you know she doesn't have anyone else? She may not be as clueless as you or he thinks. Also, he keeps her around for some reason or another, so obviously he cares more about her even though he's an azz hole! All I can say is if she likes it, then you have to love it....I dunno. I say keep it moving man.
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OmG! This thread is hilarious!
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just walk away and leave and let karma deal with him..
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Posted by kupkeyk
just walk away and leave and let karma deal with him..


...this thread is almost a year old.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by kupkeyk
just walk away and leave and let karma deal with him..


...this thread is almost a year old.
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I didn't realize that until I saw my first post. Haha, this read was worth necro'ing the thread. Good times

Any chance we can get an update?
You all have made up and everything is good right?
The email worked?
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Bwahaha.
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