DO LIBRA MEN REGRET???

This topic was created in the Libra forum by MIZUNDERSTOOD on Thursday, January 30, 2014 and has 49 replies.
I've been with my libra ex for a yr and i recently broke up with him I love him but probably love the "old" him. How he was...attentive, loving, and giving. He had a lot of baggage and out last 6 months were HARD. It was always something, but i tried to stick it out until i couldnt anymore. The problem in the end is he stop appreciating me or doing anything really. He was a big DREAMER and that drove me crazy. Dreaming is nice but i cant do things with dreams. He talk marriage and all but I never could understand that I talk until i was blue in the face to express to him what i needed and he never did anything.
That took a toll and other problems were hapening as a snow ball effect...Trust, secrets, and lies.I felt he loved me but he was lazy. He is VERY selfish and never understood how as many times i would point it out to him. So now we're here and I'm not one of those people that will say...oh how can i get him back, but more like will he regret he dropped the ball cause i did EVERYTHING for this man and was very good to him. Im just sadden that all of that for nothing! I always heard they contact again...I dont want contact unless he grows up. but do they realize change or they just suck it up as its over and move on?
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You just described my ex with the part about being a dreamer, lies, etc. In my honest opinion, they like to talk but rarely do anything to solve what needs to be done to make the beautiful picture they are talking about a reality. It's tiring & any sane person would walk away from someone like that. I know I did.
What did yours lie about?
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What's your sign?
And in my experience they dont change, they just come up with a different approach, which is just the same thing wrapped in a prettier package. Exasperating.
But who knows, maybe your man values you & your relationship enough to be driven to change. Just wait & see. Time will tell. Plus there aren't enough details to your story to know what kind of man you're talking about here.
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coming into the relationship he pretty much lied about everything but by time i found out feelings were involved. He mostly lied about what he had or what he was able to do. i admit i got sucked into the hooneymoon stage. but despite it all he was sooo loving and affectionate and he treated me well. i do not hate him im just angry because because he kept saying he was going to change and he never did. he played on my love for him. I just felt like i gave him a pass because he was going through alot when i met him. I wanted to try to stick by him until he got on his feet, but instead of him realizing im by his side he stop appreciating me more and more. more and more i saw the selfishness in him. He always put him first. He would do aggrevating things like avoid my calls but will go out and gamble but lie and tell me he was home
That pisses me off because just tell me you're going out! why lie!!! but you havent taken me out in forever. i never understood his way of thinking. it was always white stupid lies which in the end had me feeling like well if he can lie about thins how so i know hes not cheating. i never caught him but he put doubt there. if there was a switch that i could switch off and stop having feelings for him i would do it asap, but when i love i love hard and it takes me awhile to get over that person Sad I dealt with three libras and by far all three has gotten to me emotionally and this one the worse. if i can shake the devil for good NO MORE LIBRAS I SWEAR!
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What's your sign because I can relate so much to some parts of your story & how you're feeling
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I'M a leo
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I read alot on libras and i think the one thing that really bothers me is how they expect YOU to treat them in a particular way because their fragile or they dont like this or that but they dont have that same respect for other people when they are being flaky and indecisive. It's ok not to return calls because you hurt their feelings or they are sorting things out. Always the victim i dont get it.
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Oh ok, well, IDK what advice to give you but I think you did the right thing by walking away from someone that doesn't appreciate you. Let him figure it out. You did your part so now it's up to him to prove just how much he values you. Sometimes it takes losing or almost losing a person for some people to rethink what they have been doing. Give it time.
Is it the 1st time breaking up with him?
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second, but lots and lots of arguments. i told him to let me go and live my life. he was about to cry and he dont do that but what he did say that we agreed on is that it isnt working and he told me i deserve someone to treat me better than he do. smh... thats why im angry what im asking for doesnt take money per say but he rather let me go than to change even though he said he was going to prove it to me
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Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
I read alot on libras and i think the one thing that really bothers me is how they expect YOU to treat them in a particular way because their fragile or they dont like this or that but they dont have that same respect for other people when they are being flaky and indecisive. It's ok not to return calls because you hurt their feelings or they are sorting things out. Always the victim i dont get it.


You hit the nail on the head with that one. I don't get it either. They are full of crap. You'll walk away several times before it finally dawns on you that they always make everything about them. It's always "why are you hurting ME?" with them & they fail to see the hurt they are doing to others. It's ME, ME, ME. You can't reason with someone like that, it'll drive you up the wall. Just bid them farewell & let them be a headache to somebody else willing to put them 1st.
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Selfish people don't regret because then it wouldn't be about them!
My ex never regretted splitting up with the woman that had his children and he was with her for 11 years because he was always complaining about what she did wrong and how badly she acted, he was a complete angel...so I know the exact same way he feels about us. Selfish people see "self" only!
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LOL You never lied!!! the sad part is they can be the sweetest person on earth and feed you all their dreams and i ate every one in the begining. And then its done you're left with the broken heart and they have already moved on to there next victim but come back on day like you're suppose to be so damn thrilled to hear from them, but dont understand why you're still upset. fucking crazy asses. Although this one i dealt with was the calmest out of them all, but he never took blame for anything and called his kids mothers and his own mother crazy and its them, LMAO!!!!!
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Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
second, but lots and lots of arguments. i told him to let me go and live my life. he was about to cry and he dont do that but what he did say that we agreed on is that it isnt working and he told me i deserve someone to treat me better than he do. smh... thats why im angry what im asking for doesnt take money per say but he rather let me go than to change even though he said he was going to prove it to me


Girl, I had similar scenarios with the one I was with. This one never cried but he'd beg & beg for that one final chance to make things right. I gave it to him & he did something to fuck it all up within weeks. Mine has girls from here to Manhorishtan, though. Says he loves me but also says he has a weakness for women. Wants me to be with him but also says he has a weakness for women. Wants me to....I think he is crazy.
I think you should do what you think is right for you. Choose the option with the less amount of hurt. Mine was walking away. The choice is now yours.
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im just hoping (crossing my fingers) he wont call. Right now its fight between logic and love. logic is winning but he also havent reached out to me either. I swear any other sign i throw up the dueces and im out but ever fucking libra its like a bad drug everytime and hes worse because he was really my first love really so its 10X worse for me, but im trying to tell myself he aint shit and will never be shit. but everyone ive known females included ALWAYS contact me after awhile. Im not meant to have them as anything in my life because it always ends badly and the females are too aggressive for me. i just want to move on but i want him to mail my heart back first Sad thats the sad part.
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I hear you. You're not alone. Hang in there.
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You say that this person doesnt change anything about their life, oh ok like they can change anything about their life to begin with coz if they ever get to changing anything about there life then this other guy would come down like a ton of bricks on them and crush them like so no they cant change anythig aobut their life until this guy stops what he doing but you know they wont so what do to do now when someone like this guy (call Tg) is like this, mentally manipulative and emotionally manpualtive and passive and aggressive? so you get a double whammy you are literally stuck coz theres nothing you can do to change the situation.
Unless you yourself get physical, sexual and spiritual, if they like this, usually stops them dead in their tracks and gives them that brain freeze thing happening. fun to watch actually.
Um good point. Oh yes walking away doesnt work coz they just find you and make you life miserable either indirectly or directly your choice and the funny thing is they will be getting off on it too so nah mate walking away aint going to help, maybe in your case it will but not in mine.
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Its funny coz I dont recall I have ever lost my heart to anyone? wwhat you trying to say here...
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Its only lucky that I get to go to Hell to prepare me for this person or thing coz i need all the help I can get to get the both of us to an understanding between the two of us. He tried tricking me into going Evil and due to my anger I changed that for Hell due to a change in just one word mind you, how that is absolutely amazing totally gobsmacked and so blessed that it happened, then continued to get others to kill me but apparently I am still here so its very unusual as what he is trying to do to me via using others to get at me. Its now i am realising what had happened and all that, also he set up the marriage I had with myex and everything else and although i dont know who this person is i know that going to Hell is a godsend for me coz it will prepare me for this guy to come to an understanding and it will be exhausting for me but I have got a free ride out of this for the moment and I think he doesnt understand this and is going on and on about me through various modems of communications and the various ways of story telling that I only know what he is saying and noone else i dont think. I am fortunate to have this experience because I need it, if I didnt have it then i would have died a long time ago when he got someone else to kill me.
Its allowed me to see what is going on and wow its exciting/fucked up coz that how it is but I wouldnt have it any other way, I have been blessed and going to Hell is my way out of his bullshit, and its not until now I am realising just how fortunate I am to have gone through what I have gone through and am going to go through. People have yet to understand this and not hear his lies and deceit that he talks of and about and take a step back to see the picture clearer.
I am starting to feel chuffed at the immensity of what actually is and the good thing about this is that i have taken the red pill and now will see the reality of (t)his situation, Good Bad and Ugly, so its now turned in my favour and in my power to be the person who calls the shots. I have never been in this situation before and it feels fucking awesome, Finally I get to do some Damage, YAY!! Though its not time to yet its still moving at slow speed and not the right time for anything really yet I feel its time for work and getting on with the Work I must do.
Yes he may not be up to speed on what actually is happening and still needs help to make him see this? I get to see him Naked YAY and I get a way out via going to Hell, HiFIVE!! so he
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Yes he may not be up to speed on what actually is happening and still needs help to make him see this? I get to see him Naked YAY and I get a way out via going to Hell, HiFIVE!! so he dont get to see me Naked until i am ready to be seen Naked. So he can go shove that, me goes and pulls skirt up and slinks off into the unknown.
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Posted by WaterCup
You just described my ex with the part about being a dreamer, lies, etc. In my honest opinion, they like to talk but rarely do anything to solve what needs to be done to make the beautiful picture they are talking about a reality. It's tiring & any sane person would walk away from someone like that. I know I did.
What did yours lie about?


I was thinking the exact same thing. You described my ex as well! They love to talk but do absolutely nothing to make their beautiful words into reality. Eventually the other person sees that it's all sweet talk and nothing more and walks away.
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You just described my ex with the part about being a dreamer, lies, etc. In my honest opinion, they like to talk but rarely do anything to solve what needs to be done to make the beautiful picture they are talking about a reality. It's tiring & any sane person would walk away from someone like that. I know I did.
What did yours lie about?


I was thinking the exact same thing. You described my ex as well! They love to talk but do absolutely nothing to make their beautiful words into reality. Eventually the other person sees that it's all sweet talk and nothing more and walks away.
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Pretty much lol.
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Holy cow...
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The only thing this fool will "regret" is not being the one who decided to end things.
There is a very good chance he will be back- purely for selfish reasons. It will solely be based in his own emotional needs with no regard to you. Why? Because Libras tend to go back when THEY don't think things are done. They want to try again for their own personal issues and if it doesn't work, then THEY end it and they are done, leaving you in even more of an emotional mess.
Libra men are far from fair in love and war. Most of their motivation is purely selfish reasons.
They want to jump in because they want to woo yet another potential life partner (#67834th). God forbid they be alone!!!
Then they backpedal because their stupid asses realize that they UNFAIRLY built up this person beyond what they really were. In turn, it's almost held against this person and they start to detach, become emotionally unavailable, and start treating the supposed object of their affection like shit.
They either drop everything, or cling on because some cannot bear to be alone and would rather wait until Plan B is around to replace you.
They're fine and nice when they decide that you're "the one," but unfortunately, their heart is a revolving door to anything with a vag, which is why you hear all these ridiculous horror stories in regard to dating them.
Do not give this dipshit the time of day if he comes back around. With guys like this, putting your foot down is the only way they'll learn from their bullshit. Women, far too often, coddle bad behavior and the guy will never learn. If you're done with him, continue with the firm stance of GTFO. Maybe, just MAYBE, the fool will start to get the hint.
They're like small children in a high chair. They drop things on the floor to see how you'll react. If you play into this, then they'll continue to drop shit until you start discouraging the bad behavior.
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Posted by Aesma
Wow! Don't ever come back. Stick to your resolve. Same shit I've dealt with my libra ex too and I was hoping he'd change but he didn't. He lied about everything as well and promised he won't do it again but 2 weeks later, it's the same old crap. Mine dragged on for 6 years. Don't be as stupid as me!
Just remember - polish a turd, still a turd!


Wow! Took you 6 yrs to learn! To each their own, but oh my Lord, I can't put up with a natural screw up of a libra man for more than 6 months. I'd go crazy!!!
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The only thing this fool will "regret" is not being the one who decided to end things.
There is a very good chance he will be back- purely for selfish reasons. It will solely be based in his own emotional needs with no regard to you. Why? Because Libras tend to go back when THEY don't think things are done. They want to try again for their own personal issues and if it doesn't work, then THEY end it and they are done, leaving you in even more of an emotional mess.
Libra men are far from fair in love and war. Most of their motivation is purely selfish reasons.
They want to jump in because they want to woo yet another potential life partner (#67834th). God forbid they be alone!!!
Then they backpedal because their stupid asses realize that they UNFAIRLY built up this person beyond what they really were. In turn, it's almost held against this person and they start to detach, become emotionally unavailable, and start treating the supposed object of their affection like shit.
They either drop everything, or cling on because some cannot bear to be alone and would rather wait until Plan B is around to replace you.
They're fine and nice when they decide that you're "the one," but unfortunately, their heart is a revolving door to anything with a vag, which is why you hear all these ridiculous horror stories in regard to dating them.
Do not give this dipshit the time of day if he comes back around. With guys like this, putting your foot down is the only way they'll learn from their bullshit. Women, far too often, coddle bad behavior and the guy will never learn. If you're done with him, continue with the firm stance of GTFO. Maybe, just MAYBE, the fool will start to get the hint.
They're like small children in a high chair. They drop things on the floor to see how you'll react. If you play into this, then they'll continue to drop shit until you start discouraging the bad behavior.


+1. "their heart is a revolving door to anything with a vag, which is why you hear all these ridiculous horror stories in regard to dating them." LMAO!!!
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+1. "their heart is a revolving door to anything with a vag, which is why you hear all these ridiculous horror stories in regard to dating them." LMAO!!!


Well it's true with some of these dudes. Always on the look out for something better. Fricken idiots are never happy with what they have.
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Coming back to you and actually regretting what he's done wrong are two different things. If he said he's letting you go because you deserve better, he's saying that he has no intentions of doing better himself. He's told you he's a waste of time, and that won't change if he comes back.
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Here's the thing and it applies to any sign: if a person wants to be with you and you are able to convey what you need in the relationship, they will make an effort. That effort may not be exactly as you envisioned but it may be quite an effort to them. Libra men are complicated. They don't naturally "get" it as far as your needs but they want you to understand theirs. This is where choice in a relationship comes in; you choose to stay or you choose to leave. If you stay then communicate without nagging your needs. Don't expect miracles overnight; but there should be effort. If there's no effort, don't torture yourself or your Libra (that'll never work), just move on. Everyone deserves to be happy with a mate. At the end of the day, who cares if he's charming or handsome or it was wonderful at first; if you're unhappy, go find happiness with someone else. Life is too short to waste while hoping someone will change for you.
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Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
I've been with my libra ex for a yr and i recently broke up with him I love him but probably love the "old" him. How he was...attentive, loving, and giving. He had a lot of baggage and out last 6 months were HARD. It was always something, but i tried to stick it out until i couldnt anymore. The problem in the end is he stop appreciating me or doing anything really. He was a big DREAMER and that drove me crazy. Dreaming is nice but i cant do things with dreams. He talk marriage and all but I never could understand that I talk until i was blue in the face to express to him what i needed and he never did anything.
That took a toll and other problems were hapening as a snow ball effect...Trust, secrets, and lies.I felt he loved me but he was lazy. He is VERY selfish and never understood how as many times i would point it out to him. So now we're here and I'm not one of those people that will say...oh how can i get him back, but more like will he regret he dropped the ball cause i did EVERYTHING for this man and was very good to him. Im just sadden that all of that for nothing! I always heard they contact again...I dont want contact unless he grows up. but do they realize change or they just suck it up as its over and move on?



WTH - This is my ex relationship too, exactly. Ummm, were we dating the same guy? lol. It's been 6 months for us too. Well exclusive for 6 months, but knew each other longer. I'm also mad as hell that all that devotion and caring and support - and what's the reward: 'I need time to think about the future'. That's probably the few times he has been straight forward, but he omitted 'if I want a future with you' lol.
But, we are both lucky we learned about this bad side before we got married, had kids, etc. right? This is a lucky escape, dodged a bullet, etc. Lmao
Don't take him back. People like this need something drastic, like a life or death experience. He won't change because he is SELFISH, his mind is not open to process what he's done, so he will just say what he thinks you want, but the change will be superficial, and it will be back to normal again. My advice, take him back only once other parts of his life are fixed, and maybe after some other girl has broken his heart and he has learned a tough lesson about appreciation.
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I am a typical Libra. My ex is also a Libra. He is very romantic, gentle, caring but one thing for sure: he is too amorous. Before Valentine, he texted me whether we could come back. I was touched. But there is some personal reasons that makes me see uncertainties in this relationship. I denied. And then he had a Vlt date with his ex-wife!
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Posted by MrBalance
You both want love in return. Though his is different..or should I say that Libra man's. He'd like for you to give him his space but for you to still feel strongly for him...even if he screwed up. That is why each time he has came back to you always trying to manage a little differently is to get things back to the way it was before and forget about his fuck up. We don't want to be reminded of our bad experience. He wants you to be happy with him the same way it was when things were looking up before. If not then he will hold on to you until he finds his next partner. We will try to make it work if not we will stay with you as bad as it is until we find the next best thing.


I understand, but the thing with Libra men for ME is that you'll try so much to not hurt someones feelings verbally that you'll don't put enough of that energy into your actions and what you give off to other ppl. I became a nagging gf to him and I'm upset about that and i will own that, but when you go through so much shit trying to understand the logic in someone and why they do the things they do it will drive you crazy. you can't say ppl don't want to be reminded of how they fuck up when you don't want to own it, fix it, and learn from it. He kept fucking up and it wasn't major shit but preventable things.He told me i had him on a short leash and i DID right or wrong, but that was me not wasting 1 yr of my life. I realize that was wrong now but He was so damn secretive and lied so much he made me feel like I was crazy and he had all the issues.
Where do you'll become humble? you're not going to find perfection (what you'll are searching for) but won't find, why stay in something if YOU are unhappy, now your wasting my time, why not be honest. The list goes on... I borderline hate his ass for breaking my heart and making me believe he was something that he not. and you'll move on like its nothing. CRAZY!
libra or not but MEN need to realize what exactly they want and understand things aren't rainbows and cotton candy, but get mad when she slashes your tires lol if ppl aren't serious and honest then you need to look for friends who you want ass from PERIOD!


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Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
libra or not but MEN need to realize what exactly they want and understand things aren't rainbows and cotton candy, but get mad when she slashes your tires lol if ppl aren't serious and honest then you need to look for friends who you want ass from PERIOD!





It scares me how many guys are like this now. Very childish, very temperamental in what they want, and generally going around wreaking havoc because they're immature and can't get their shit together.
But they never take blame for any of the problems or consequences of their actions. SHE'S to blame. SHE'S crazy for no reason, omg. Then when they get the light shined on them for being stupid, it's backpedaling and 12 year old logic as to why they behaved like they did.
...the sheer volume of men who act like this is so disturbing. Men aren't required to grow up anymore.
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libra or not but MEN need to realize what exactly they want and understand things aren't rainbows and cotton candy, but get mad when she slashes your tires lol if ppl aren't serious and honest then you need to look for friends who you want ass from PERIOD!





It scares me how many guys are like this now. Very childish, very temperamental in what they want, and generally going around wreaking havoc because they're immature and can't get their shit together.
But they never take blame for any of the problems or consequences of their actions. SHE'S to blame. SHE'S crazy for no reason, omg. Then when they get the light shined on them for being stupid, it's backpedaling and 12 year old logic as to why they behaved like they did.
...the sheer volume of men who act like this is so disturbing. Men aren't required to grow up anymore.
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I totally agree here, and I don't know what age group you might be referring to, but I can say for sure it doesn't/hasn't changed in their 40's.
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Posted by MrBalance
Also, we want it to WORK for us with that super hot woman. If not even with that, we move to another girl.


What does "we want it to work for us" mean? You want the relationship to work or work in YOUR favour (benefit you)? Sorry, but I'm having a hard time understanding your statement.
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I've always suspected that libras don't keep someone for nothing. There seems to always be some kind of benefit FOR THEM. Like my ex, he didn't mind that we were not having sex, which made me suspect that he was getting an emotional "fix" out of our interactions. I honestly couldn't help feeling like I was supplying him with something, what, IDK.
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Posted by tiziani
And self-discovery, if you're into that sort of thing.


There's a monster in my closet. Don't you find that there are some parts of you that you even don't want to be acquainted with, let alone delve deep into? I find that I have fears & one of them is myself. I's my own boogey-man smile
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And self-discovery, if you're into that sort of thing.


There's a monster in my closet. Don't you find that there are some parts of you that you even don't want to be acquainted with, let alone delve deep into? I find that I have fears & one of them is myself. I's my own boogey-man smile


I'm sometimes less afraid of myself then when I was younger, but yes. Also it often hurts to be put in touch with your true self by reality. But overall the inner calm in the long term is worth it over any short term illusions, for me.
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Ah nvm, Tiz, I have those harsh squares to my sun...so our journeys could be different. I agree with the last part, though.
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Posted by MrBalance
Also, we want it to WORK for us with that super hot woman. If not even with that, we move to another girl.


This statement makes me irritated. This is the most shallow shit ever. I want someone hot? Seriously
Smh. Listen everyone has their own preference and we all want someone attractive and loving but you'll seem so superficial and selfish to me. Everything is about you and what you want. I'm suppose to look hot, not complain, make everything about you, party all the time, let you do whatever you want, not have meaningful conversation, and be there for you. What about the other person?
My ex is on a dating site talking about he wants stability and substance lmao!!!! Hilarious. You'll talk a great game but never act on your words. This is why I can. Never be friends with this dude ever or any other libra ex I had. I'm cool with everyone I've been with except libras. You'll leave a fucked up impression and tell the next person it's was all your ex fault until the current one connect the dots and realize it was you'll all along. Smdh. I don't like flaky shallow no depth ppl. You'll are scary.
Do you'll really love? Or are you'll incredibly infatuated until you get more infatuated and try to move on.
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Posted by tiziani
Sometimes it's just better to admit Libras are not the one you're looking for.

I feel we're the sign that gets the most people who want us to be something we're not. Everything about Libra is actually advertised on the tin but yet people want to change the terms, for some odd reason. I guess you can't help attraction, but you can always take responsibility for your feelings.



I don't agree. Nothing is advertised. At least not correctly. All the libras that I dealt with tell you all these things that has nothing to do with how they truly are. You don't mention the bullshit with you'll like I said you give off the rainbows and cotton candy. You make a girl fall for you ad everything is great because you'll give the full court needy press. The female is Leary of this and you'll reassure that it's all real. Then you get used to it and then the change in you'll happens.
Same pattern. Every female on this post talks about. Instead of being truthful or understand relationships have real problems and you need to work them out as a couple you'll ready to jump ship. Then you'll wonder why some many females have ill feelings.
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Posted by tiziani
Sometimes it's just better to admit Libras are not the one you're looking for.

I feel we're the sign that gets the most people who want us to be something we're not. Everything about Libra is actually advertised on the tin but yet people want to change the terms, for some odd reason. I guess you can't help attraction, but you can always take responsibility for your feelings.



Now Tiz that's a suspect statement, lmao
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Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
Posted by tiziani
Sometimes it's just better to admit Libras are not the one you're looking for.

I feel we're the sign that gets the most people who want us to be something we're not. Everything about Libra is actually advertised on the tin but yet people want to change the terms, for some odd reason. I guess you can't help attraction, but you can always take responsibility for your feelings.



I don't agree. Nothing is advertised. At least not correctly. All the libras that I dealt with tell you all these things that has nothing to do with how they truly are. You don't mention the bullshit with you'll like I said you give off the rainbows and cotton candy. You make a girl fall for you ad everything is great because you'll give the full court needy press. The female is Leary of this and you'll reassure that it's all real. Then you get used to it and then the change in you'll happens.
Same pattern. Every female on this post talks about. Instead of being truthful or understand relationships have real problems and you need to work them out as a couple you'll ready to jump ship. Then you'll wonder why some many females have ill feelings.
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This.
He, like a lot of Libras that you hear about, don't like to admit when they screw up or are in the wrong, so they victimize themselves. "OMGZ WHY DO PEOPLE HATE US?? LOL"
In turn, you get a lot of talk, no action. They're prone to being a bait and switch scenario. A lot of lousy logic and self centered mindset in why they do what they do. In reality, it all boils down to them having their tendencies and not admitting to it or doing anything to change it. It's everyone else, not them. I think a lot would have less issues and less thinking that everyone "hates" them if they actually admitted to being human and fucking up just like everyone else.
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Also, we want it to WORK for us with that super hot woman. If not even with that, we move to another girl.

you sound like an evolved libra as you seem to understand yourself so well. that s a big plus to a libra


He is venusian. Nuff said smile
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So how long have you been drinking the kool aid?
Feby, your posts as of late make me sad and depressed. I thought you were better than this?
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Posted by aquavita
Posted by aquavita
i know a libra, an ex who is half blind right now. has many exes , 3 children and ... up to no good. he is 45 i think and has been supporting himself thanks to his numerous girfriends. i dont think he ver worked in his life. for those who wonder what they "provide" if it is not "sex". could be food, shelter or encouragement.

( vide for their libra partner that is)
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This made me think of Nick Canon. Real gigolos some of these men are. The one I dated never got one single red cent from me but he got money from one wealthy sugar mommy when his shop burnt down. He had a thing with her years ago, lost contact but got in touch when he needed help. Encouraged her by fucking her a few times to keep the cash flowing. He really grosses me out sometimes. I'm guessing he kept returning because he knew he could tell me anything, even shit that turns me off him. He has some good qualities but the bad ones are what make me vow to never be with him again. I loathe users.
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Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
Posted by tiziani
Sometimes it's just better to admit Libras are not the one you're looking for.

I feel we're the sign that gets the most people who want us to be something we're not. Everything about Libra is actually advertised on the tin but yet people want to change the terms, for some odd reason. I guess you can't help attraction, but you can always take responsibility for your feelings.



I don't agree. Nothing is advertised. At least not correctly. All the libras that I dealt with tell you all these things that has nothing to do with how they truly are. You don't mention the bullshit with you'll like I said you give off the rainbows and cotton candy. You make a girl fall for you ad everything is great because you'll give the full court needy press. The female is Leary of this and you'll reassure that it's all real. Then you get used to it and then the change in you'll happens.
Same pattern. Every female on this post talks about. Instead of being truthful or understand relationships have real problems and you need to work them out as a couple you'll ready to jump ship. Then you'll wonder why some many females have ill feelings.


Aside from the "full court needy press" and the reassurance thing (which I've never done in my life) the rest I agree with, and I've recognized in myself in different threads on here.
I don't think you realise in this post that you come off as asking for more understanding than you're willing to give.
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I understand I will never understand a libra man and most won't. I accept that but like a typical libra you feel I'm not understanding when in fact I was. But you can break a heart but so much before it can't break anymore. It's likewise wrecking a car but wanting it drive the same again and it won't.
It's hard to be understanding forever to a fuck up who's searching for perfection but nowhere close to having anything going for themselves. I need to trick mirrors you'll possess because a lot of you'll and just men in general who are completely fucked up have the nerve to want perfect lmao. Hilarious I love victims you'll are awesome!
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Posted by aquavita
Posted by aquavita
i know a libra, an ex who is half blind right now. has many exes , 3 children and ... up to no good. he is 45 i think and has been supporting himself thanks to his numerous girfriends. i dont think he ver worked in his life. for those who wonder what they "provide" if it is not "sex". could be food, shelter or encouragement.

( vide for their libra partner that is)


This made me think of Nick Canon. Real gigolos some of these men are. The one I dated never got one single red cent from me but he got money from one wealthy sugar mommy when his shop burnt down. He had a thing with her years ago, lost contact but got in touch when he needed help. Encouraged her by fucking her a few times to keep the cash flowing. He really grosses me out sometimes. I'm guessing he kept returning because he knew he could tell me anything, even shit that turns me off him. He has some good qualities but the bad ones are what make me vow to never be with him again. I loathe users.
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Got to love users who don't think their users. Smdh.
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Posted by tiziani
Maybe you're talking about your relationship but I was talking about in this thread. You have Mr Bakance who's been completely transparent and you dismissed his input as aggravating and shallow. What seems like bs to you is very real needs for Libras. That's all it is really, different priorities. I never used any kind of victim language here. You're the one that outright thinks Libras "make" people fall in love with them. That's victim language. No grown person gets "made" to fall in love with someone. It's a decision everyone has to own up to or they'll never find closure.


I think what she means, and I am in the same boat too, is that libra man start off being really amazing, and of course we women fall for that. But then over time the amazingness is gone, and we are treated disrespectfully, and strung along, etc. Because libra men are so good at the beginning we feel they are crazy about us, then they start pulling back with the indecisiveness and that leaves us feeling badly hurt because we have started investing in them based on the good start. Not saying libra men have to be perfect. But if the things we fell in love with about them end up appearing to be just a behaviour (like acting so sure about us) they did to win us over it is a huge disappointment when we realise they aren't as sure about us as we are about them. So that's what she means about being 'made' to fall in love.
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Posted by tiziani
Sometimes it's just better to admit Libras are not the one you're looking for.

I feel we're the sign that gets the most people who want us to be something we're not. Everything about Libra is actually advertised on the tin but yet people want to change the terms, for some odd reason. I guess you can't help attraction, but you can always take responsibility for your feelings.



Now Tiz that's a suspect statement, lmao


lol why's that?
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I feel like that's a double edge sword with that statement, lmao
Only because, libras try so hard to balance and afraid to make mistakes that the libra will do what the person expects you to do just so you keep the peace, then when the libra doesn't like how they have to change themselves just to keep the peace, the libra blames the other person for their failure with how they try'd to keep the peace when all the libra had to do was be their indecisive selfs.....JMHO
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Posted by tiziani
Maybe you're talking about your relationship but I was talking about in this thread. You have Mr Bakance who's been completely transparent and you dismissed his input as aggravating and shallow. What seems like bs to you is very real needs for Libras. That's all it is really, different priorities. I never used any kind of victim language here. You're the one that outright thinks Libras "make" people fall in love with them. That's victim language. No grown person gets "made" to fall in love with someone. It's a decision everyone has to own up to or they'll never find closure.


I think what she means, and I am in the same boat too, is that libra man start off being really amazing, and of course we women fall for that. But then over time the amazingness is gone, and we are treated disrespectfully, and strung along, etc. Because libra men are so good at the beginning we feel they are crazy about us, then they start pulling back with the indecisiveness and that leaves us feeling badly hurt because we have started investing in them based on the good start. Not saying libra men have to be perfect. But if the things we fell in love with about them end up appearing to be just a behaviour (like acting so sure about us) they did to win us over it is a huge disappointment when we realise they aren't as sure about us as we are about them. So that's what she means about being 'made' to fall in love.
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That's exactly what I am saying. Thing is if we were hesitant about your intentions then we are called bitter but we fall in love with the fraudulent/ shallow person in front of us then I am the victim because I fell for that person. Which is it?
Everyone goes into everything with the best intentions but you'll don't like conflict and run when things get rough or your bored. Who fault is that? Is it mine because I'm not this perfect person libra men want us to be ? But then you'll say we mean well, blah blah blah.
But you'll double back because you can't find that perfect one or hold on until you find better.
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@Tiz

Fair enough
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