Emotionally in the closet
This topic was created in the Libra forum by Cataleya on Monday, December 30, 2013 and has 9 replies.
My BFF and I were having a talk about libra men. I'm been dealing with a libra male for a while and my BFF is a libra male. We were talking about how it's hard for my libra to express his feeling. My BFF told me that himself is emotionally in the closet when it comes to his "lady". Anyone can further explain what this means? And how does one deal with that type of male?
Well I think guys in general dont like talking about how they feel at all this goes for some girls too but its different for guys than it is for girls
As I grew up around men and guys and boys majority of my life I have spent seeing how things are with these specimens and I think this is one of those situations that even though it is a BFF the other may still like to keep to themselves and be like that and let you do the talking for you both.
Usually when you push the other to be more talkative the other one will most definately go away and distance themselves in order to establish their own space with which they feel most comfortable on and this is not saying that they arent comfortable in talking its just they dont see the point in verbalising every single thing thats going through their head all the time. If they were like that they would be doing that already, Yes?
Also maybe the other wants to listen to you talk and not talk at all for
As I grew up around men and guys and boys majority of my life I have spent seeing how things are with these specimens and I think this is one of those situations that even though it is a BFF the other may still like to keep to themselves and be like that and let you do the talking for you both.
Usually when you push the other to be more talkative the other one will most definately go away and distance themselves in order to establish their own space with which they feel most comfortable on and this is not saying that they arent comfortable in talking its just they dont see the point in verbalising every single thing thats going through their head all the time. If they were like that they would be doing that already, Yes?
Also maybe the other wants to listen to you talk and not talk at all for
Ok why do you want for this Lib to express his feeling?
Maybe he doesnt want to express himself
Why you be so pushy for this Lib to express himself to you?
It could be that whenever he expresses himself to you that you get defensive and hostile yourself at anything and evertything he says and then blame himself for 'expressing' himeself hence him not expressing himself in the first place
Why you be so pushy for this Lib to express himself to you?
It could be that whenever he expresses himself to you that you get defensive and hostile yourself at anything and evertything he says and then blame himself for 'expressing' himeself hence him not expressing himself in the first place
to you or anyone else for that matter who reminds him of you
Posted by mfwb55
Ok why do you want for this Lib to express his feeling?
I would like to kind what he feels for me
Posted by mfwb55
Maybe he doesnt want to express himself
Why you be so pushy for this Lib to express himself to you?
It could be that whenever he expresses himself to you that you get defensive and hostile yourself at anything and evertything he says and then blame himself for 'expressing' himeself hence him not expressing himself in the first place
Not pushy with him at all. I don't bring it up I was just wondering were all leeb the same as my BFF
Posted by mindofaquarius
my boyfriend (libra sun / aqua moon) also has a hard time expressing his feelings and he also told me so, BUT he wants to get better at it because he knows how much it means to me to discuss also emotional topics with him. beside that he told me "i know it's way too early to say that but I can't help it, I love you" he still had difficulties talking about how much and why etc he loves me, what he loves about me. sometimes it just comes upwhen we don't talk about it at all, for example watching tv, cuddling on the sofa and all of a sudden he says "aahhh I'm indeed a very very happy man because I have you, you we just fit perfectly - I can just be myself around you" that means the world to me... beside that he is very affectionated but still may aqua and cappy side longs for verbal exchange.
so stay patient and maybe try to talk with him about how much it means to you... so it's up to him to "try" to open up.. imo trying is enough.. that makes me happy if I see him try
Exactly that verbal exchange can be stimulating
Posted by tiziani
Yeah I could see how this would be coming for Air sign people in general. We do not naturally feel our emotions on the surface. As the more I've gone on though, it's not so much a question of whether I can show or emotion but just about timing - and whether or not it would even be appropriate to do so.
I think it gives us an advantage in some senses because we can put others before ourselves and not necessarily become self-absorbed in our own emotions at the expense of the bigger picture in relation to others.
As for how to deal with it? The only questions are whether you can accept it for what it is, and whether or not it gives both people the right amount of comfort and security. It's not for everyone, that's for sure.
As always thank you
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