Engagement Postponed

This topic was created in the Libra forum by houstonpeach74 on Wednesday, July 23, 2008 and has 12 replies.
M and me have put off our engagement. I brought it up and after a long talk, we have decided that marriage isn't right for either one of us right now. All this talk about Libras not rushing into things and being wishy washy, but it's me (Taurus) that has backed out of getting married.
We're still dating and that is going strong and will be until we decide about marriage again. I'm sad and feel like I may have hurt his pride as well as mine, but we'll see how it pans out.
He left for a week long trip today. It was a planned trip, but I think he was looking forward to a break from me. It'll be good for me too to reflect on things. I don't want to lose him and hope that he realizes that the unsureness of getting married isn't a poor reflection of him but rather me knowing that I want to be absolutely sure we are getting married with forever in mind.
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Sorry to hear that, my grandparents was Libra (her) and Taurus (him). They stayed together until ...... well you know.
Keep in contact with your Libra while he's away. don't let a day go by.
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The trip was planned but originally I was going too. He asked for this trip to be just for him. So I respected his request.
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oh yes, he's called me everyday.
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HP
I am really sorry to hear this. You have my greatest sympathy and support. Having gone through a very similar situation, I know how heart breaking it can be for both of you.
Let us know if we can do anything. Sometimes a little time away can be the right remedy.
Please know you are in our hearts and we are always here to listen ....errr... read.
May love and joy find you soon.
many hugs
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It's best to have the make and break drama before marriage so that when you get married, the rift will not be as hard and you will know what to talk about and compromise after.
Your Libra guy sounds very earthy and knows the rituals of dating and responsibility. I wouldn't rush into it too, until it feels right and absolutely sure.
All the best. Libra (especially male?) always needs a holiday after a sort of rift. My apollo (libra) had a trip too after a rift of ours. Its always good to take a break.
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Hugs HP, I am sorry to hear that but not so much in retrospect. Being divorced, it is crucial that you are 150% sure you are ready and willing to get married and even when you are you never know what it will look like years from now. It is always a chance to take.
I am in San Antonio, tried to call as I know you are in Austin, or are you? I hope all is well. I will try to call tomorrow. (((Hugs)))
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You have tried calling? I don't have any voicemails or missed calls on my mobile phone. I was in Austin, but I'm back home in Houston now.
We are still dating. We have a good thing going, but I have had uneasy feelings since the engagement. I know that if I want this to be long-term that I need to be 100% sure we're jumping into this for the right reasons.
I think I would be happy dating for another year or so before we talk about marriage again. He's still healing from his last marriage and I am hopeful that he will see that I didn't back out of the wedding because of him, but because of wanting to know and feel it's right. Part of me still thinks he is holding onto a lot of his past (his ex-wife) and if we get married, I just want it to be the two of us in the marriage.
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oh, come on now.
you can't renig on the wedding...after all this time and energy i put into it!! i had the dress and everything picked out!
you WILL get married. as scheduled....
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We went away this weekend. Usually, I am the one who initiates our discussions, but this time it was him. He did say that the trip did him some good to think about the last few weeks and to realize that it's not that I don't want to be with him but that I need to know this is for forever. He said he also needs to know this as well. He's been married before, I was engaged to someone whom I loved who died suddenly, and we both have some things from the past we're holding onto. We spent about 2 hours talking about this topic and we are still good. Some of you can say it was a bad move, but he and I are still in love - I just realize now that I'm not so much in a hurry to be "Mrs" than maybe what I originally thought. He and I have a good thing and we're still moving in the right direction - just won't be married when December rolls around.
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good you talked, HP.
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