First Post....Thanks to those Aries

Hello fellow Libras/Unicorns. I have an arrogant Aries male on my island who seemily doesn’t know how to act and I need your insight on how to shuck him back into shape.

Him: Sun in Aries, Moon in Pisces, and Venus in Aries. He’s very attractive to everyone including himself and also an intellect. Made it clear on our first date that he was okay with me not wanting to be in a relationship—he’s not rushing to pin someone down. As he said “I have a lot of women chasing me, so no worries”. Oh and he’s a widow and single dad of 2 years.

Okay. Well I’m at a place where I’m open about dating and enjoying my life. Divorced and an empty nester. Enjoying the demands of my career and exploring new hobbies.

From the onset of exchanging numbers (he approached me) a couple months ago, I never initiate communication; he does all the calling, texting, and requesting of dates.

We go out and have a good time, every time. No complaints. However....

What’s nagging me is what seems to be passive aggressive behavior to my as he puts it “aloofness”. He will say “I never met a woman like you! You don’t call, ask to see how my day is going, and I’m always chasing you”. Yet in another sentence he will bring up a situation about a prior girl who chases him to which made him bored and while out with “one of them” he’s wondering what the hell I’m doing.

So of course, we make plans for this week. He asked about my schedule last week, so he’s a planner. But after another litany of complaints about me not calling him (I do respond to his text timely and answer his calls), I’m unsure about addressing directly or just letting it go (again).

If he’s got other women chasing him non-stop, why the hell is he worried about the rate I call or lack thereof? Like wtf?!

do you like him?

he's intrigued because you are not chasing him - and of course he wonders what you are up too because you are not bugging him all the time like the others

You sound so pissed.

Chill.

Why don't you just talk to him and be honest? Tell him that you two are not in a relationship so you don't feel obligated to reach out to him much. Also, him bragging about the women chasing him is bugging you for a reason. Amirite

Lol you misunderstand the Aries. He is complimenting you for being aloof, not being passive aggressive. Once the chase is over they lose interest. He is definitely interested.

Just keep doing you.

Posted by jeane
do you like him?

Yes/no and I’m trying to pinpoint why I’m so “meh” towards him.

I think it’s his situation—being a single dad. Like he can’t jump up like I can and go het street tacos at 11pm or pack a bag and go for a random road trip. Everything has to planned and revolve around the availability of a sitter—which for me is a barrier to being able to connect.

I like his looks and intelligence, just not the arrogance.

Posted by Dolluxxe
You sound so pissed.

Chill.

Why don't you just talk to him and be honest? Tell him that you two are not in a relationship so you don't feel obligated to reach out to him much. Also, him bragging about the women chasing him is bugging you for a reason. Amirite

Yeah I am/was. It’s bugging me because despite him being a widow and single dad, he gives off hoe’ish vibes which makes me question his motives. I hope that makes sense 😄. I hate whorish men...

Posted by balanced_007

Posted by Dolluxxe
You sound so pissed.

Chill.

Why don't you just talk to him and be honest? Tell him that you two are not in a relationship so you don't feel obligated to reach out to him much. Also, him bragging about the women chasing him is bugging you for a reason. Amirite

Yeah I am/was. It’s bugging me because despite him being a widow and single dad, he gives off hoe’ish vibes which makes me question his motives. I hope that makes sense 😄. I hate whorish men...

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If it was me I'd trust my intuition and move on. Better stop now than waste any more of each other's time.

Well I think this convo helped me talk through it. I’m not interested in him enough to continue allowing myself to be irritated.

I canceled our plans for this week—huge brick off my shoulder. He’s upset but I honestly don’t care 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thanks y’all!

This guy is a nut bag. I cancel yesterday morning. He says “okay”. I go about my day as usual. No other communication from either of us.

Today he sends a message: Hey luv. I know you’re busy with work, school and prepping for your certification exam so I’m thinking I should pull back so I’m not a distraction. You’re so focused I don’t want to be an interruption but if you need anything I’m here.

I respond with a “thank you and I really appreciate it”.

He then asks if he can call me later. I say yes. He called but I had ran to my garage and missed his call. So I call back—no answer. Which is cool, so I leave a “tag you’re it” voicemail.

This joker just text me “Smh...What the hell did I do to you”.

Huh—? So is he acting out because he’s not getting HIS way?? 😄😄

Y’all cant tell me this dude isnt a passive aggressive piece of work. Like are all aries like this because he’s giving me Cancer men vibes?!! Which is like shocking...