Friendships

Is it just mean or is anyone else knowing all their old friends/close friends are dropping away/moving away/ just ending for any number of reasons?

My "best" friend was kicked out by me in 2008. I outed her for being a Trojan Horse. She opened my naive eyes to her reality. She is an Aries. Still living. I hope I never have the misfortune to meet her (or anyone like her) again.

My childhood friend is a Pisces. She changed from a spiritual being to a materialist. She goes all cognitive and shuts off her emotion/ intuition. She doesn't believe people are the same as they were since childhood. She sees herself as a different person. I no longer recognise her. She's down a negative spiral. I tried to help her but she sucked me halfway down that drainpipe. Never again. I am keeping watch only from afar.


However, I have come to appreciate long time friends whom I never truly appreicated before. Time told me I had great friends; I just overlooked them. One would be my Leo childhood friend. I sort of 'ditched' her for the Aries, or rather, the Aries made herself my sole "bff" in a way. Shouldn't have gone down that path. But it taught me a great lesson on human nature. Raw human nature.

Also, my Cancer cousin is always there for me through thick and thin.
And, my Aquarian friend (teacher) on hindsight has been great beneficience.

So, as the saying goes, when one door closes, another opens. I've been seeing great sides to people lately.. after a bad episode, the universe surrounded me with great people.


My old/close friends dropped off last year or so back I think. I must've done it early..

I don't know. Some of it is just bizarre. Because I broke up with the Aries, I lost entire social circles of people I was really close too. Then it got worse. It got into some of my best friends. I lost my Leo friend and for the life of me, I can't fathom what I did. We use to go to a meeting every week together. I haven't been going but am going to start this weekend. Partly because I really miss those people. She could be a huge bully and very controlling so I am sure she will be pissed when I show up but OH WELL. She doesn't own that group of people. I still am uncertain what her problem was because when I inquired she wrote me something that was just plain vicious not to mention factually twisted. Now, my Capricorn friend is all weird because a guy she use to be friends with occasionally sends me cat videos? (Weird shit!) She keeps lying to me but I have caught her lying to me more than once. I've just been too polite to say anything so I'm letting that one go too. Plus, one of my oldest and dearest friends is leaving the city.

The doors keep closing but no one new is coming in. I keep hoping, because usually new people come in after old ones are shed but it hasn't happened and this really has been going on since January.

My "friendship cleanse" went on for a good couple years or even more. Give itsome time. It could be Saturn's restructure of one-to-one (close) relationships.

"Plus, one of my oldest and dearest friends is leaving the city."
Travel doesn't make you lose friends. Friendship lies in the spirit.


Maybe it's not *you* losing friends, but awaking to what's most important.
We cant be all things to all people.. definitely as the onion sheds, only what's real remains.

* Other than that, WAY more coming and going than some semi permanence from people. It's frustrating.

Word! Seems like we are in the same boat Amethyst. I'm just being impatient. I hate the feeling that if I want to do something, I have noone to do it with.

A lot of my female friends got married and had kids so I never hear or see them anymore. They just kind of fell of the planet.

Don't get me wrong. I still have friends and stuff but most of them are pretty busy with their own lives. It is getting a little lonely.

I have went through it several times in the past ten years. I'm starting to get tired of it. Rebuilding my life every few years is getting tiring.

Well, today I just decided to delete a bunch of people from my facebook. There are three people I need to release but am having a bit of a harder time doing it. I will, as it will be very life affirmning to do it, but I was very attached to two of the three so it makes it a little harder.

Libraluv, I don't really know. I know I tend to reinvent myself a lot as in my interests and hobbies and everything else will greatly change every few years. As a result, my friends tend to change as well. I don't really know if the changes in my friendships come first and changing everything is a response or if it is the opposite. I suspect on some level I am still searching for something.

I really want stability and peace. It just always seems to elude me.

I have a question. Do you tell them you are deleting them? I am a bit hung up on what to do about one of them. She was a very close friend until recently when I found out that she was lying to me and saying nasty stuff about me behind my back. She doesn't know that I know.

I really hoped I was wrong. Should I just delete or should I say I'm ending our friendship for now but I wish you all the best?

WHY AM I SO NICE— Why do I always hope for the best? damn.

*I guess I don't get attached that easily. I do have somewhat of a detached personality.

Oh me too! I only had a handful of close friends. I have lost two of them since August. That only leaves a couple. 😢 That is why getting rid of this one last person is so tricky for me. I really was close to her and I really did love her. But she is a liar and I have no stomach for intrigues. I really don't want this sort of drama in my life. But I am still attached.

Meh.

What was Amethyst saying about people sucking?

Thanks Libraluv for your positivity. 🙂

Posted by TasteOfChaos

Posted by little_sparrow
Well, today I just decided to delete a bunch of people from my facebook. There are three people I need to release but am having a bit of a harder time doing it. I will, as it will be very life affirmning to do it, but I was very attached to two of the three so it makes it a little harder.

Ive deleted at LEAST 6 people from Facebook who played a significant role in my life at one stage...

Its been hard, but life goes on... and I see it as THEIR loss, not mine...

Assholes...

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For sure ... yet I can't help thinking it is everyone's loss.

Posted by LibraLuv
It's your choice if you want to initate the convo in telling her. If you're trying to salvage the friendship, then by all means confront her about her actions. Give her an opportunity to say what ever it she wants to say or not say. Then you've cleared your head of the matter. If you are not trying to salvage the friendship, move on. This is about you and your life and what you want or don't want in it. I hope I'm not sounding too insensitive but that's just how I see it.

No! Not at all. It makes complete sense to me. What to do. What to do.

I think ultimetly I see this as a toxic friendship and do not believe it can be salvaged. At the same time, I keep hoping I'm wrong EVEN THOUGH I know I'm not. Maybe I just need more time. Maybe I shouldn't address it and just delete when I am ready.

I just know once I delete it, I can't undelete it.

Oh the lessons of Libra. LOL.

You're good people Libraluv.

🙂

Okay. She has been deleted. I am in total panic. I know I did the right thing. I know I did the right thing. I know I did the right thing.

Ha! It is true. Like you REALLLY have to dislike the person to delete them from facebook. LMAO!

It is the ultimate insult!

Have you tried to talk to the Gemini and explain what happened?

Friend drama. Yuck. 😢

Im not a Libra sun but I have moon & rising in libra and im going through this as well. Dont know why. The last 4 months my friendship with my (soon to be ex best friend) leo has greatly deteriorated and we live together. This morning she left me a note saying that she's thinking of moving back home end of February 2011. I was completely floored and text her just before telling her we need to talk about our friendship among other things such as living arrangements.

I lately have felt like I dont want to continue my friendships with some of my closest friends and i've been distancing myself and hibernating from all my friends for the past 2 weeks. I dont know whats going on im NEVER like this and if i am its usualy for a day 2 two. But TWO FREAKING WEEKS!?!?! I just cbfkd putting up with everyones bullshit anymore but im also fearfull of cutting ties because i've known these people for YEARS and its hard to let go of such long friendships and I hate to admit it, BUT I know i'll be LONELYYYYYY. And how are you supposed to make new friends? How do you people make new friends? Im NOT going to walk up to someone on the street and be like HEY!!!! lol.

😢

Posted by nats
Im not a Libra sun but I have moon & rising in libra and im going through this as well. Dont know why. The last 4 months my friendship with my (soon to be ex best friend) leo has greatly deteriorated and we live together. This morning she left me a note saying that she's thinking of moving back home end of February 2011. I was completely floored and text her just before telling her we need to talk about our friendship among other things such as living arrangements.

I lately have felt like I dont want to continue my friendships with some of my closest friends and i've been distancing myself and hibernating from all my friends for the past 2 weeks. I dont know whats going on im NEVER like this and if i am its usualy for a day 2 two. But TWO FREAKING WEEKS!?!?! I just cbfkd putting up with everyones bullshit anymore but im also fearfull of cutting ties because i've known these people for YEARS and its hard to let go of such long friendships and I hate to admit it, BUT I know i'll be LONELYYYYYY. And how are you supposed to make new friends? How do you people make new friends? Im NOT going to walk up to someone on the street and be like HEY!!!! lol.

😢

I hear you! Somehow people will come. Don't know how. Don't know when. But they will. I suspect for me they will come through a new hobby or group activity. But yeah. I will be lonely for awhile. My best friend moved away years ago, this year she had a baby, so we are on different pages.

All my close friendships seem to be dead or dying. Just have to wait it out.

Posted by TasteOfChaos
I do miss the Sag and Gemini sometimes though... I blame the Virgo for what happened, if only I didnt invite her!! ARGH!

Oh no! And you were the one who invited her. That is the worst part! lol!

My Leo friend, one of my very best friends, friends for 10 years, really close just flipped on me. I was running late, i called her to tell her I was running late, by the time I got there she just flipped. And I am NEVER, EVER late. She was vicious. Once you was vicious, I just couldn't anymore.

The Cap, who I deleted tonight, I have it on good authority that it isn't anything I have done. It sucks cause I looked up to her like a sister. *sigh*

Posted by little_sparrow

Posted by nats
Im not a Libra sun but I have moon & rising in libra and im going through this as well. Dont know why. The last 4 months my friendship with my (soon to be ex best friend) leo has greatly deteriorated and we live together. This morning she left me a note saying that she's thinking of moving back home end of February 2011. I was completely floored and text her just before telling her we need to talk about our friendship among other things such as living arrangements.

I lately have felt like I dont want to continue my friendships with some of my closest friends and i've been distancing myself and hibernating from all my friends for the past 2 weeks. I dont know whats going on im NEVER like this and if i am its usualy for a day 2 two. But TWO FREAKING WEEKS!?!?! I just cbfkd putting up with everyones bullshit anymore but im also fearfull of cutting ties because i've known these people for YEARS and its hard to let go of such long friendships and I hate to admit it, BUT I know i'll be LONELYYYYYY. And how are you supposed to make new friends? How do you people make new friends? Im NOT going to walk up to someone on the street and be like HEY!!!! lol.

😢

I hear you! Somehow people will come. Don't know how. Don't know when. But they will. I suspect for me they will come through a new hobby or group activity. But yeah. I will be lonely for awhile. My best friend moved away years ago, this year she had a baby, so we are on different pages.

All my close friendships seem to be dead or dying. Just have to wait it out.

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ughh I dont want to be lonely. I NEEEEEEEEEEDDDDD human interaction. Although im so surprised during my 2 weeks of hibernation, i've pretty much had my mobile switched off every single day, disabled my facebook account and soon as I finish work, I go gym then get home go straight into my room and dont come out until the next day. Im surprised i've dealt with no human interaction quite well but I think its because its ME thats distancing myself. If someone distanced THEMSELVES FROM ME then I think i'd freak out.. ahhh this is horrible! I've never had to go through this before.. I feel like my life is falling apart and friendship are super important to me. There like my FAMILY!! Only thing that has kept me surviving dur

surviving during my hibernation is the internet! lol

*slides nats a whiskey shot*

I hear you dude. I tend to be closer to my friends than my family. This is going to be rough for me. At least I still have my cat. *gives her the eye*

The good part about needing human interaction is it will drive you to find it. People will come. They always do. Take it from someone who has been through this before. It will take awhile but you will find friendships that are more fufilling. At least for awhile.

meh. That last part was depressing.

Posted by TasteOfChaos
I think it is Saturn in Libra... Libra is the sign of relationships and Saturn is just getting rid of the weeds...

Yeah. I expect my friends to treat me better than the Cap did in the end. I cried quite a bit about it. And I don't cry.

Apparently. You couldn't tell me this before? LOL

HA HA HA!

I only really knew one and I just thought he was f'd up cause he smoked a lot of pot. LMAO! I didn't know it was a zodiac thing. HA HA HA!

Thanks for the cheer up guys. I'm going to bed. I wonder how long it will be before she notices I am gone. It really is too bad. I really did love her. Oh well. What will be will be.

Here is to better times for all of us.

Posted by little_sparrow
*slides nats a whiskey shot*

I hear you dude. I tend to be closer to my friends than my family. This is going to be rough for me. At least I still have my cat. *gives her the eye*

The good part about needing human interaction is it will drive you to find it. People will come. They always do. Take it from someone who has been through this before. It will take awhile but you will find friendships that are more fufilling. At least for awhile.

meh. That last part was depressing.

lol well i've got my budgee to keep me company. lol thats hardly any company though!!!!

Thanks for the shot 😉 I think I need a few bottles and a few joints will go down well! lol

do what you must. do what you must.