hate most about others, what we dislike in ourself
This topic was created in the Libra forum by libra sun on Sunday, August 8, 2010 and has 14 replies.
I often go to see my friend at work for a cup of tea in her lunch break and there is this woman who works with her who I simply can not stand. she is so lazy never washes her plates, always expects my friend to clean up after her, always go's back on her decisions, always adding her 2 cents worth into our private conversations and so loud! I have always disliked the woman and could never understand why as she is a Libra and I usually find my self drawn to Libras as friends (usually men but i find the women great to hang out with to)
I only realised the other day that i dislike this woman so much because she reminds me of me! In her I can see all the things that I hate about myself magnified! I do wonder if she feels the same way about me, or maybe shes so self obsessed to notice lol but its really made me think twice about the way I am because I dont want people to perceive me the same way I see her.
I only realised the other day that i dislike this woman so much because she reminds me of me! In her I can see all the things that I hate about myself magnified! I do wonder if she feels the same way about me, or maybe shes so self obsessed to notice lol but its really made me think twice about the way I am because I dont want people to perceive me the same way I see her.
Im with you on the laziness, it would be far too much effort to put make up on every morning, much rather have the extra half an hour in bed!
Another bad trait I have found with Libras, myself included is that they always think they are right! It really bugs me when I know I am right about something and I have a Libra insisting im not because their cousins, mothers, brothers, girlfriend told them something different! but I myself am also guilty of this
Another bad trait I have found with Libras, myself included is that they always think they are right! It really bugs me when I know I am right about something and I have a Libra insisting im not because their cousins, mothers, brothers, girlfriend told them something different! but I myself am also guilty of this
Thats a good point valeria! i always have a million reasons to back up what im saying, even if it happens to be incorrect. My ex used to say that sometimes he knew i was definately wrong but i put such a good case forward the he was even doubting himself!
i'm aware of this tendency, so it doesn't come up very often.
usually i hate it when others are rude (if i am rude and someone says something, i'll feel awful and apologize and try harder in the future). or when people are really selfish and don't care about other people around them. like people using their cellphone while they're in line at starbucks or the grocery store or something. there's a time for your phone call, and it isn't now. or driving slow and flying into oncoming traffic without looking, also usually while on their cell phones. emily post was a libra, you know.
and i do hate it when people are extremely lazy/incompetant at work. because they're at work. if they want to do that at home, ok. but they're being paid, and if they aren't doing what they are being paid for, the exchange is not fair. if they accept the terms and expectations of the job, they need to fulfill them. it's a social contract.
or when people are abusive of animals. or passively abusive, where they overfeed their pet and don't play with it enough, that kind of thing. if you accept responsibility for the life of another living being, you need to fulfill that responsibility. and i hate when people treat children as if they're stupid.
i hate when people are inhospitable, and at the same time dislike when people inconvenience their hosts.
lol. in my dream world, people use etiquette akin to that of an enlightenment-era french court, change clothes 10 times a day, write in perfect cursive, smile politely, defer back and forth between one another, and have dinner settings that you'd need a guidebook to figure out. nothing would ever happen, but everything would be so charming and agreeable.
if anything, though, i find that people tend to see in me whatever they see in themselves, which is interesting. i can be like a mirror, because i'm mostly just so passive and generic. a jerk will think i'm quiet because i'm a jerk. a polite person will think i'm quiet because i'm polite. etc. most people think they know me far better than they really do, because i don't contradict their opinions much. someone talkative will get my talkative side, and think i'm talkative too. nice, friendly people will get me being nice and friendly. negative people will see my negative side (why would i show them my positive side? they'll just bring me down anyways).
usually i hate it when others are rude (if i am rude and someone says something, i'll feel awful and apologize and try harder in the future). or when people are really selfish and don't care about other people around them. like people using their cellphone while they're in line at starbucks or the grocery store or something. there's a time for your phone call, and it isn't now. or driving slow and flying into oncoming traffic without looking, also usually while on their cell phones. emily post was a libra, you know.
and i do hate it when people are extremely lazy/incompetant at work. because they're at work. if they want to do that at home, ok. but they're being paid, and if they aren't doing what they are being paid for, the exchange is not fair. if they accept the terms and expectations of the job, they need to fulfill them. it's a social contract.
or when people are abusive of animals. or passively abusive, where they overfeed their pet and don't play with it enough, that kind of thing. if you accept responsibility for the life of another living being, you need to fulfill that responsibility. and i hate when people treat children as if they're stupid.
i hate when people are inhospitable, and at the same time dislike when people inconvenience their hosts.
lol. in my dream world, people use etiquette akin to that of an enlightenment-era french court, change clothes 10 times a day, write in perfect cursive, smile politely, defer back and forth between one another, and have dinner settings that you'd need a guidebook to figure out. nothing would ever happen, but everything would be so charming and agreeable.
if anything, though, i find that people tend to see in me whatever they see in themselves, which is interesting. i can be like a mirror, because i'm mostly just so passive and generic. a jerk will think i'm quiet because i'm a jerk. a polite person will think i'm quiet because i'm polite. etc. most people think they know me far better than they really do, because i don't contradict their opinions much. someone talkative will get my talkative side, and think i'm talkative too. nice, friendly people will get me being nice and friendly. negative people will see my negative side (why would i show them my positive side? they'll just bring me down anyways).
Posted by sdgafPosted by TasteOfChaos
Is there any better placement than Libra in Mercury???
mercury in scorpio is (slightly) superior..click to expand
my mercury is in scorpio too
I don't dislike anything about me. If I had to pick a "least desirable" trait it would be the indecisiveness... maybe...
I have Mercury in Libra as well and can convince people of things that I don't even believe. It can be very entertaining. In a friendly debate I will some times choose the side in opposition to my own beliefs just to see how well I can argue it.
The comments about vanity/appearances are interesting because I have never really thought about it before. I am somewhere in the middle here. I don't really put effort into my appearance but I do like to look nice. I too laugh at people who stop at every mirror to adjust one stray hair but I can appreciate the effort that a woman spent on the initial "getting ready" time.
@LadyLibra: This, "To me, it's a lack of respect toward oneself and toward others: toward oneself because you are making yourself look ugly and to others because they have to look at that trainwreck." made me laugh. I get what you are saying but maybe my mother desensitized me to this... she had the firm motto, "If you don't like what you see, you can look somewhere else". It used to bother me that she would wear nightgowns to the store and such but it doesn't phase me anymore.
I have heard other people complain about how analytical and logical Libras can be, but it doesn't bother me, I love how my mind works.
I have Mercury in Libra as well and can convince people of things that I don't even believe. It can be very entertaining. In a friendly debate I will some times choose the side in opposition to my own beliefs just to see how well I can argue it.
The comments about vanity/appearances are interesting because I have never really thought about it before. I am somewhere in the middle here. I don't really put effort into my appearance but I do like to look nice. I too laugh at people who stop at every mirror to adjust one stray hair but I can appreciate the effort that a woman spent on the initial "getting ready" time.
@LadyLibra: This, "To me, it's a lack of respect toward oneself and toward others: toward oneself because you are making yourself look ugly and to others because they have to look at that trainwreck." made me laugh. I get what you are saying but maybe my mother desensitized me to this... she had the firm motto, "If you don't like what you see, you can look somewhere else". It used to bother me that she would wear nightgowns to the store and such but it doesn't phase me anymore.
I have heard other people complain about how analytical and logical Libras can be, but it doesn't bother me, I love how my mind works.
I personally dont think its lack of self respect to not wear make-up, i look great without it so why ruin my skin? I also look great in my joggers and a baggy T-shirt. I happen to look amazing when I really make an effort, but I dont feel the need to make an effort to take the bin out or walk the dog. and I have plenty of self respect
Posted by TasteOfChaosPosted by libra sun
I personally dont think its lack of self respect to not wear make-up, i look great without it so why ruin my skin? I also look great in my joggers and a baggy T-shirt. I happen to look amazing when I really make an effort, but I dont feel the need to make an effort to take the bin out or walk the dog. and I have plenty of self respect
Ok... Who are you and why do you say what I'm thinking?
Are you tapping into my brain somehow?
Exactly! I look good without makeup and my oldest trackies... I don't need a shiny dress and red lipstick to look goodclick to expand
Great minds think alike
@PandorasBox yes it makes you wonder doesnt it. I am really making a concious effort to try and change these things about myself, I dont like people to think badly of me, but if I am acting a certain way then I suppose I deserve them to think that way of me!
Posted by TasteOfChaos
and say Im sorry... which then also balances out my guilt and makes me feel better about myself...
So THAT is why Libras say "I'm sorry" all the time. Balancing out the guilt. Interesting. :-)
* So THAT is why Libras say "I'm sorry" all the time. Balancing out the guilt. Interesting. :-)
I say sorry all the time but I'm Canadian.
I say sorry all the time but I'm Canadian.
Posted by little_sparrow
* So THAT is why Libras say "I'm sorry" all the time. Balancing out the guilt. Interesting. :-)
I say sorry all the time but I'm Canadian.
You don't have to apologize for being Canadian, we won't judge you for that...
Posted by size zero superhero
...if I have reservations about violent people, does it mean i'm a repressed killer? there must be some option of looking down on human qualities you don't possess, which are generally unpleasant nonetheless.
Naturally I can think of other Libras I would consciously avoid, while most are enjoyable to get to know IMO. What keeps me away from the few I dislike aren't common factors they share with me, but common factors leading to unpopularity with others too.
For instance, one Libra girl is known to arrive at parties feeling automatically entitled to all the food, drink, cigarettes(etc.)she pleases in any given household she sets foot, while never once offering her own resources. She's got sufficient cash to contribute (even minimally!) yet re-appears empty-handed when social events arise despite mass complaints. Looking down on this stingy behavior isn't really a parallel of my own shortcomings, in that I am generous as possible with friends.
the original post was not saying you only hate what you hate about yourself, it was saying that its weird when you realise the reason you dont like someone is because they have the traits you dont like about yourself in them. About trying to make yourself less like those people so that people dont look at you in the same way.
There are plenty of people i dislike for the reason that they are nothing like me! They have none of my positive traits or my negative traits, just a bunch of their own negative traits lol
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That's always my de-facto standard reason when I find myself not liking someone and not understanding why. Other times it's jealousy. It takes a very self aware person to be able to realize things like that..so kudos for that.
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