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May 09, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 1530 · Topics: 124
Okay. Im a wonderful flirt, I like flirting and never fail...but
I have an issue when guys start to make moves first. Or if they do it stupily I beome really awkward. I neve get nervous i never hv n never will so tht snt the problem..
like an hour ago i wa in cvs getting tylenol, and in line i waited when three guys came to stand next to me.
The one closest looked like a pkthead type of guy. They were all cute but ive never gotten myself a pothead nd i wonder deeply what that life is like so i was interested.
Well...I would glanc at him andnotice him and his friends kept lookin at me too, then i notice he looke everywher i did, if i turned around so did he. Anyways that was my clue he was noticing me....so i looked at him and smiled. And so he said "Hows your night going" and wnna kno what i did? I looke forward away from him and said "good" and turned away like A BITCH. I dont knw why i do this guys.
I get really incomfortable n have no idea how to respond to gettin hit on if i dont hit on someone first.
If i woul hve said "nice shirt" and THEN he said that, there woul be no problm.....what do i do when someon hirs on me first?
Thank you oh mighty flirting Gods.
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Aug 21, 2014Comments: 616 · Posts: 1771 · Topics: 13
Don't bother with them.
If you don't know how to respond to someone's weird overtures, it is nature's w ay of telling you "NEXT!"
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Aug 21, 2014Comments: 616 · Posts: 1771 · Topics: 13
I am still going to go with nature telling you that this isn't right for you. Of course, I am a slow mover when it comes to trusting someone enough to let them in.
Trust yourself.
Flirting is a game, and means nothing, except sexual interest... which is fine, if you are the type of person who can deal with frivolous things, but I have a feeling you are not that kind of person.
A lot of people communicate in this way, now. I find that this era is totally messed up for dating. We have things like Tinder, which I have never used and never will, but it is just another device which allows people to feel like window shopping for sex and treating each other like objects is normal. I mean really, swipe? I had to look that up to find out what it means, and it is totally irreverent. This is seeping into the real world so much now, too, it's quite disconcerting.
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Aug 21, 2014Comments: 616 · Posts: 1771 · Topics: 13
Yeah, when you can do things on your own terms, things are a lot more comfortable.
Maybe take these as a challenge? Shit, you are built for it!
Pisces are so wise, and yet shroud themselves in denial, your aries must be dying to burst.
One of my best friends is a Pisces sun and Aries moon, so maybe I am stepping out of line, too confident saying this. I hope I do not offend.
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Aug 21, 2014Comments: 616 · Posts: 1771 · Topics: 13
Oh, look. It's the fun police.
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Mar 30, 2012Comments: 1243 · Posts: 16617 · Topics: 170
Oh shut it, moron. This has been addressed in other threads and it's not just us bringing it up. Stfu until you know the whole story, sweetcheeks.
OP, in regard to your flirting issue, it sounds like maybe a control thing. You're more comfortable when you have control of the reigns in the situation. If it's out of your control, you're not sure how to respond or deal with it.
...which is understandable. If you don't see a situation as something to pursue, and someone turns it into that situation, it throws you off guard. It went from friendly to some sort of interest and you're not expecting that.
Do you have to flirt in return? No. You just need some time to warm up to the situation is all.
Overall, it's nothing to stress over. So you can be a bit shy about it. Nothing wrong with that.
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Aug 22, 2013Comments: 35 · Posts: 2533 · Topics: 19
You're obviously a chaser, not an attractor. Being actively pursued doesn't seem to be your natural ground. Don't try to go against your nature, just make sure to strike first in these situations, you seem to be comfortable with that.
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Sep 17, 2014Comments: 22 · Posts: 8048 · Topics: 36
i don't know...is this really a problem?
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May 09, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 1530 · Topics: 124
yes but i like get bored of them.