help Libra guy broke my heart —,went back with e

I will cut a story short,just need Libran views on this please.
Met a Libra guy,randomly at a party,haven't thought much of it.
He messaged me after this saying he was interested in me and that we should meet up...we live apart,so i thought to give it some time and see how i feel about him.He is very handsome and could easily get any girl he wants,so I just didn't wanna get used&let go...so I played the waiting game.
He msgd again saying he would book us a otel and that I should come see him,I refused saying I don't know him well enough to travel and stay over night togheter @ a hotel.
And on my own terms I will see him @ next party togheter.
All in all the guy grew on me ,we kept in touch and spoke from time to time.
Next party I saw him he was very interested and been around me all night...he was a true gentleman and treated me like his lady ..held me hand ..wispered sweet things to me...and I ended going bk with him..the sex we had was amazing and I know he really liked me after this.
We swappped numbers and stayed in touch..all was going good and I knew he wanted to see me again.
However meanwhile a girl befriended me on facebook and been v nice to me but kept asking questions about him,as she saw pics of him n me togheter ,subtle things like..he is hot ,does he have a girlfriend ..etc
this carried on for a while and i really tought she just fancies him or something..the questions carried on to the point where i said to her..'i'm sorry but we can not be friends on here anymore we obviously like the same guy'..she asked if 'me and him were an item'..i said no...n she replied well i dont see the problem..so i confessed to her'that him and i been togheter @ last party...the most stupid thing i could have done..as mins later he was on the phone to me giving me abuse saying i e-mailed his girlfriend about us.
i tried explaining but he doesn't believe what has actually happened.from what i gather they weren't toghether when me n him hooked up but he's back with her now.i think he considers me a nasty person for telling her & he just doesnt beleive i honestly didnt know who she was...i know i should forghet about him n leave it ..as he deleted me off facebook n said sum bad things to me...but i know 100% he really liked me,he still fancies me and wanted more before this thing blew up.
I have feelings for him and want whatever we had bk!!!I have stoped msging or calling straight away-I just wonder if he'll ever come bk when he breaks up wt her? i kn

OH SHIT ANOTHER ONE@!

OH SHIT ANOTHER ONE@! Go back and re-read your post again and if the answer doesn't come back and smack you in the face... THEN YOU'RE TRUELY LOST!!!!

And I'm being polite!

Hahaha sweethearts. When I saw this post I wanted to bang my head off my desk. 😛

Thanks for the replies so far lovelies.I am a Capricorn.
gingerscorp can you please be more specific when you say 'When I saw this post I wanted to bang my head off my desk.' sweetsherrie no he wasn't with his exgalfd when we hooked up...they got bk togheter fairly recently...its true i might have been taken for being his 'bit on the side' i just want to know whether he'll try getting in contact with me whe n they will break up or whether he hates me for good and i never ever stand a chance with him!pls help lovelies and be harsh if needed ..lots of love ...x x

Oh man! Come on girl! This guy played you for a fool, said nasty things about you, and I suspect was talking to this girl all along (why else would he have called mins later unless she told him what you said?) and you STILL want to have something to do with him?!?!
Why care if he hates you? You should say bye bye to him and never look back.
He was after booty ALL along (the hotel? hello?).
If he's back together with his pathetic GF then let leave it alone. They deserve each other. Breathe a sign of relief that you aren't involoved with a player and move on.
Come on! Cappies are smarter then this!!!

How old are you KB?

i'm 23 girlies :-) thanks for your advice...what i want to point out is that i wasn't looking for a relationship with him...i was cool with just being friends,the reason why i'm saying this is becasue of the distance..we live 6 hrs drive away from each other and i knew i couldn't be his full time girl anyway..i just didnt want it to end like this it pisse me off that he thinks i spitefully went behin his back n told his galfd..i was happy to just stay friends whether we were or not seeing each other ...
i need to point out again he is a stunner...he has been modelling for 6 yrs...and i wouldn't mind being his second choice///

Well I cant work out whether you are for real or not! This sounds like a JOKE if you ask me cos I cant imagine someone would be so utterly dumb or have "NO SELFWORTH" at all.

If you are for real you need to go to councilling and learn to love yourself. Not much more to say there, at 23 you should be mature enough to have some insight!

Sorry dont think anyone here can help you...

wow that's a bit harsh

^ & You're a bit blind...or just dumb?

You had sex with someone you hardly knew & you even said "I knew he really liked me after that." Kind of sounded like a little girl saying that. :/ Creeepy

I'm also confused why you would be ok with being his "second choice?" Don't you think you're a little better than that? Where is your self-respect?


Are you even serious?

i have self respect and a degree so rest assure i aint dumb
I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP! I HAVE SAID IT BEFOREDUE TO THE DISTANCE IT WOULDN'T HAVE WORKED ANYWAY!

i apologise for liking a guy i suppose that is a crime in ur world...
nevermind

i know he will come back anyway 😄

so not bothered is a matter of time ..cz his galfd is a psych n she will show her true colours one day 🙂

you ppl are just weird ..its al;l about relationships relatinships n relationships///

hello ?!?

what happened to just liking someone...without being their girlfriend//

i couldn't anyway cz of the distance so never thought of him as a boyfd from the start!!!

one more question: if he wasn't that into me why did he bother in the first place...and why after hooking bk up with his ex carried on talking to me like nothing would have happened..my instinct says he was still interested ...

he only stopped cz he got found out y his galfd ...he wouldn't av stopped otherwise because he likes me ! fact!

well that's cool..i am happy to just hang out n be togheter on a 'sexual level' i don't want the guy as a boyfriend...
the type of guy he is ...will never ever be faitful to one woman...and i would rather be the girl he cheats with rather than the one he cheats on..
i might come across dumb to you ..however ...i know that most men are like that...they wouldn't say no//
not to a girl like me..no matter how in love they are with the other girl.

truth hurts but being the second woman only makes u realise how much of a loser the 1st woman is...

sad but true 😄

You will be judged because you've left yourself WIDE open to it, you are the type that would fuck a woman's husband just because you have no respect for yourself and would try to steal him away.

the grass is always greener with you lot!


Read & listen to the mature 17 year old ^^^^^^^^

And your comment about the other girl....I would put this down to DUMB & DUMBER!!!!! If you didnt get that you are the dumber one at least she has the man answering to her!

Oh and no doubt he will be back, and you'll promise to keep your mouth shut next time so that it doesn't upset his girlfriend. Why wouldn't you go back and bang the silly mole that gives sex with no strings!

YOU STATED "He is very handsome and could easily get any girl he wants,so I just didn't wanna get used" BUT YOU ALSO SAID "They wouldn't say no to a girl like me no matter how in love they are with the other girl"?

SO WHAT YOU ARE TELLING US IS THAT HE CAN GET ANY GIRL AND HE GOT YOU THE GIRL THAT MEN DON'T SAY NO TO. SOOOOOO UM....YEAH...YOU CLEARLY CAN'T SEE HOW YOU ARE SAYING YOU GO AFTER MEN WITH A WOMAN. YOU ARE JUST THINKING WITH YOUR P***Y. BAD MOVE. SO YOU DON'T CARE IF A GUY HAS A GIRL? AND HE CAN GET ANYONE HE WANTS? SO IN TOTAL TERMS YOU ARE SAYING YOU ARE JUST THE GIRL TO SCREW AS YOU HAVE NO SELF RESPECT YOU NEED ANOTHER WOMANS MAN? IF YOU DON'T MEAN THIS PLEASE RE READ WHAT YOU HAVE STATED. IT SEEMS LIKE YOU ARE ALL ABOUT YOUR SEXUALITY AS THE PRIMARY BASIS OF YOUR WHOLE IDENTITY. RIGHT? WRONG?

OH AND BY THE WAY....I CAN NOT STAND WOMEN WHO FEEL LIKE THE WOMAN THEY GUY IS WITH (RELATIONSHIP WISE) IS A LOSER. DO YOU SEE HOW WE AS WOMEN ARE BLINDLY LETTING OURSELVES GET CAUGHT UP IN THE "YOU CAN'T PLEASE YOUR MAN" FIGHT? SERIOUSLY...HE IS THE LOSER,LOL. HE'S NOT SEEING HOW HE COULD POSSIBLY DESTROY TWO PEOPLE AT THE SAME TIME, THUS MAKING THEM ANOTHER "ANGRY, UNTRUSTING" WOMAN. PUH-LEEZE, I VALUSE MYSELF WAY TOO MUCH AND LOVE ALLMY FEMALE SISTERS!

two things: 1st he was single when we hooked up so i did not take any woman's man
2nd if his ex wouldn' have done what she did i would have backed away and left them to it,but i think she's a manipulative piece of ... and i have no regrets in using her guy when i will get the chance to 🙂
NO I DON'T HOOK UP WITH ATTACHED GUYS...UNLESS I THINK THEIR GIRL IS A NASTY ONE ...
and i do love my sisters ...but if you screw me over i will get my own back on you 🙂

sweetherrie thank you for being human 😄
makes a change from all the other comments
i really appreciate your post and yes i know he will come back
because he did not get enough from me ... 😉
yes libra men are amazing lovers and i will stay patient and wait for him to come back but will do my own thing meanwhile maybe meet new ppl ,see what happens...
yes i can get another hot guy but at the mom i'm hung up on him...
so...
who knows 🙂
again many thanks for being nicer 🙂
x x x x

to aquariousgoddess...HE WAS SINGLE WHEN WE HOOKED UP...HELOOO?
I DON'T WANT ANOTHER GIRLS GUY...HOWEVER THIS GIRL NOT NICE ,,,SO ....
she doesn't deserve him anyway...she's serving him lies by the dozen
if i thought she was a nice pers at least ok...i wouldn't blink twice at him..BUT SHE AIN'T!!

SWEETSHERRIE can you please share with me a few of the experiences you had with your libra man...you said he still comes back to you ...or that he kept coming back..tell me how did it feel like for you,where yu in love with him huny?

🙂 x x x

oh gosh i know what you mean i'm a cappy with raising star in aries..and when i want something i want it then and there 🙂
why not keep busy with other things like hang out with your girlies n stuff 🙂
why are you waiting for him now...u mean for him to make up his mind about what he wants to do with you?

x x x

Lol. I like how sweetsherrie (dumb) is giving advice to this chick (dumber.)

Funnnnnyyyyy shit.

Anyways, "killahbabe" please learn to love yourself. Don't look to men to feel worthy or beautiful. It's so sad. 😢

well whatever nasty things certain ppl on here said to me...i'm letting you know..it goes thru one ear and comes out the other way
yes its me in my pics and yes im happy with the way i look regardless of what you "ladies" have to say.
and i definetely don't consider myself a ho and im am certain he doesn't either
so if this is all you "ladies" have to say than pls save it...i'm not interested 🙂
yes i had feelings for fim therefore the title of my thread...

again i just wanted to find out typical libre behaviours in this instance...

if you are writing here to JUDGE ME ...i can honestly say i skim read n ignore your shit...

so all u bitter "ladies" save it as i aint buying your poo 🙂

if u can begenuine and helpful pls write on here otherwise give up!

Briana thanks for advice..i do love myself i just happen to also like this fella
i know murder,ain't it 🙂

lots of love 🙂

x x x

You're such a gorgeous creature killahbabe, I'm sure no doubt a gorgeous mind. It's just so sad to see you get treated this way. It makes me sad. You deserve better.

Was this the same guy that was at hanging around at your diner/cafe/resturant where you work a couple of weeks ago?

Why don't you just show him the facebook comments

Oh and , Libra's can be verry harsh verbal but if we realise we were wrong , we make it up big time 🙂

I'm not one to get in the way of a good mud wrestling match, but this is too good to resist.

My two cents. First, I dont think the poster here should be criticized for having sex so soon. She's a single gal and there is nothing wrong with just wanting some ass. I realize being of the penis persuasion, my opinion will be immediately dismissed.

The problem is women are punished in this country for being sexual creatures. If you want to save your kitty for that right Green Giant, rock on. But dont criticize someone else for only wanting a "happy ending"

To the Poster it sounds like you have a case of "oneitis" You are giving too much thought and concern to this guy. Like women, good looking studmeisters are a dime a dozen. Chase after or look at other guys you find attractive who approach.

Also Poster you may want to take a moment to check yourself. While it is good to be confident about your looks, arrogance is foolish and a big turnoff. Attractive women are commonplace and unfortunately you're just a small fish in a very BIG pond. Work on cultivating other aspects of yourself such as personality and intelligence. Those qualities will put you shoulders ahead of the competition with men.

I'm not saying this to be mean, just a guy's perspective. Lastly, you are only 23 years old. This aint the time to even be thinking about relationships. Have fun, date and sleep with as many men as you want. I know a lot of the women on here will vehemently disagree with this. But think about this fact. Most women I know who have been in a long term relationship by the time of hitting 30 either cheat or dump their significant others. Due to not playing the field enough. Save someone potential heartache and have fun. You only get to be young and stupid once, after all.


Ok, you all can get back to the mud wrestling. But can you use some baby oil this time 😉 ?

Im not saying you're wrong Mach. But believe it or not there are more guys out there who dont judge a girl for sleeping on the first date than you think. In my experience and friendships with men, its other reasons if they FAR (F-ck And Run) her.

Like if a girl comes across as selfish, conceited, has a smug attitude of "entertain me" in the sense of a guy being a court jester, contributes little to conversation, she will be F.A.R.'d.

Or she is frigid sexually. Excuse me for the crudeness but basically a dead fish so to speak. Or just has a really negative attitude towards sex.


If an attractive woman finds a big turn-off in a guy she'll stop dating him. Cause she knows she has many options to choose from. But men are so desperate to get laid they will tolerate crappy behavior. I'm not saying it's wrong or right they do it.

In a perfect world, men would grow a pair and just tell a woman they are turning them off. And then walk away from her. Let's be honest, though men are driven by sex. A lot of them are scared of being honest cause they'll either a) never find another attractive girl who likes them or b) never get laid again.

It might be one of those reasons. Or he may actually be of the old school line of thinking you mentioned. However, something tells me the way the poster projects herself towards others is a major contributing factor to the problem.

the ability to attain a college degree means absolutely nothing in terms of common sense. all it means is that u possess what it takes to focus on something u want and have the drive to strive for it. it means u can work hard for what u want.

seriously though, you must be trolling. if u didn't mind being his second choice, u wouldn't have come here to figure out why. u would have accepted it and moved on.

it's fine if u wanna be the way u are. i'm not here to insult ur life style or judge u for it. just don't come on here complaining and acting confused when u know damn well what's going on. maybe that degree doesn't represent everything? yeah, that was condescending but i am a little irked.

* i would rather be the girl he cheats with rather than the one he cheats on..

This statement interests me on many, many levels. But I will get to that in a minute.

Dudeface probably lives with his supposed ex. They probably never broke up and he was probably with her the whole time. Unless she told you they were broken up, I wouldn't believe a word of it.

I draw this conclusion based on several facts:
1) the hotel room (most guys want the home bed advantage)
2) you live 6 hours apart (highly unlikely gf or wife will find out)
3) my suspicion is that Libra men sleep around a lot

My suspicion is that you like him for several reasons.
1) he is very good looking, a model thus raises your status through association
2) he is good in the sack (a truly rare and precious thing. I wish more men were good in bed. Alas great lovers are few and far between.)

* what i want to point out is that i wasn't looking for a relationship with him

I find it interesting how the word "relationship" has taken on negative meanings in modern dating world. Relationships aren't bad! Wanting a friendship is still wanting a relationship. The fact that you want to be his second choice is still implying you want a relationship with him. I find it interesting how woman (specifically) young women have this whole ass backwards way of trying to deny their desire for love in an effort to get it. Personally, I blame cosmo!

The truth is he probably loves his gf or ex or whatever she is. No matter what you do, say, think will change that. You may like the guy but she loves and they probably have a whole life together that is hard for both to walk away from. Being the third, you would always be an outsider and never a true priority. I suspect you know this and are trying to justify the whole mess. But the thing is the heart wants what the heart wants. It isn't reasonable.

If he comes back to you, it doesnt mean that he likes you, etc .... It means he is a weak person. You will never be a real person. You will also be a fantasy to escape too. That is why people never stay with the person they cheat with. When they try to make it work it becomes real and the dynamic of the relation is gone.

* She's a single gal and there is nothing wrong with just wanting some ass. I realize being of the penis persuasion, my opinion will be immediately dismissed.

* But believe it or not there are more guys out there who dont judge a girl for sleeping on the first date than you think. In my experience and friendships with men, its other reasons if they FAR (F-ck And Run) her.

Au contraire!

I will say where the F have you been?!?!?! I've been making these arguments for YEARS. The guys who are worth having don't judge a women by when they first have sex with them because they know women are human. If a guy has a problem with when your bits get together, he is probably really fucked up!


* this has nothing to do with judgement. it's a fact, men NEED to chase. in a relationship, the man feels a sense of satisfaction when he has "won" the heart of his signifigant other. it's a challenge, nothing more. when men feel like they've acquired something from a woman without challenge, they lose respect for that woman, and they just move on.

*cough* *cough* *bull-shit* *cough*

Most of my attempts at one night stands have landed me in multi-year relationships.

Why do we equate relationships with competition? Just look at the words used here.

* he has "won" the heart of his signifigant other. it's a challenge, nothing more. when men feel like they've acquired something from a woman without challenge,

Why do you believe that men cannot respect sexual women? Just because a woman has sex with a man doesn't mean he "won". Women are just as capable as men of having sex without emotional attachment. A woman can still present an emotional challenge after sex.

"look, this has nothing to do with judgement. it's a fact, men NEED to chase. in a relationship, the man feels a sense of satisfaction when he has "won" the heart of his signifigant other. it's a challenge, nothing more. when men feel like they've acquired something from a woman without challenge, they lose respect for that woman, and they just move on. that's how it works."

Generalizing much? I'm not saying that isnt true, but to say all men are like that is a tad, well... ridiculous. I am not into "the chase" In fact I hate that whole "like you but pretend not to like you" game. And HATE hard to get behavior. That will turn me off in a Kansas City minute. I bust my ass enough in my professional life. Why do I want my personal one to feel like a job? And I have other friends who feel the same way. The other thing you are forgetting is it depends on what is in the person's astrological chart as well.


"if this girl wanted to fuck him then fine, that's her business, but for her to expect a relationship out of him is stupid when she just presented herself as a fucktoy that can be played with at any time."

I definately agree on that. She wasnt being honest about her intentions. So she gets what she asks for.


"FlyingB-lets look at this from your point of view.But would you really wanted to be with girl that jumps straight to the bed,and how will you know if you arent her 156th guy,coz it surely wouldnt be her"premiere"night.Coz surely it means that if she done it with you then surely done the same trick with someone else.

I am very fortunate that my upbringing was in a liberal household. And that's why to me, this comes across as very sexist and backwards thinking. I strongly feel men need to have a lot of female friends so they can have a better comprehension of what they go through. I cant tell you how many times talking to a female friend she says she liked the guy so much and wanted to shag on the first date. But she didnt want him thinking she's a slut so it never happened.

You can't measure personal character in numbers. If we did that, then all women would be considered to be nothing but heartless sex craving nymphos. Because even though a lot of men can have a high number of sex partners, women still beat them by a majority. I know a lot of happy and married couples that screwed on the first date. Believe it or not, some people can feel an intense connection. TO be continued...

"And how your friends can recognize girl's character after 1night?"


What I meant was over the time frame of 2 or 3 dates. You may not know the person well. However, you can get a general IDEA of who they are. Now , if a girl has too much of a "princess" mentality, personally I dont have the patience to FAR her


"Im meeting guy and after 10min.im having sex with him?"

Myself, it's more after an hour 😉 Besides that description you are implying is reaching to say the least. Unless she's drunk of course.

"Ok you say that men are driven by sex but even then they should have in mind that girl who jumps straight to the bed is a bit too easy and dangerous in the matters of health.If she is so careless you can pay with your health for it.You should think about it too."

Let me give you a scenario. A single guy meets 2 girls in one week. After that, the 2 girls have gone on 2 dates with guy. On both third dates they have sex. Since the guy and girls are single, there is no exclusivity. Which means either girl could be dating 2 other guys in same context.

Showing the scenario you presented of waiting, how is that safer then "going for the jugular" Nobody is safe from STD's even people in relationships. Because people are susceptible to cheating. And they can give a STD to their significant other from the other man/woman. Which is why it is so crucial people practice safe sex.

I'm not against your idealogy. If that is what works for you. However, it shouldn't be presented as a standard everyone else should go by.

Thanks Sparrow. Love your way of thinking 🙂

"Hey FlyingB are you a Scorpio?Because you talk too much about sex.i didnt notice even 1word about love in your post.Only sex sex sex.No soul only body.It is soooooo boooooooooring!!!"


Yes maams, I am. Actually, most of my posts regarding sex have been responses to topics concerning it. From my understanding we were talking about sex in the context of casual dating. Not in the sense of relationships.


"And no i dont think that my views are backward - i think its just common sense"


I think you ignored what I said earlier. If those values work for you, wonderful. Whatever makes you happy, nothing wrong with that. But no one should think their own beliefs be the standard everybody else lives by. Would you happen to be a Republican BTW 😉?


"And numbers do count.If guy told me that he slept with 150 people i would say no thanks and it would be our last date."

Why not just ask him to get tested if stds is a concern? Or is just the fact he actually slept with that many people? Now I honestly dont care about how many guys a girl I date has slept with. Unless she is a virgin. I think women with zero sexual experience need to sow their wild oats before they get in a relationship with someone.

Anyway if she told me it was 200 I would ask she get tested. I may be a bastard, but not a inglorious one 😉

Just want to say - much love to the FlyingBurrito. ^5's.

We Water signs are SO misconstrued sometimes 😉