Help libra males! I'm lost!

Posted by tiziani
4 months is a short time.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by TaurusVenus22

Posted by tiziani
4 months is a short time.

Thank you. How do I read this mixed behavior? Or am I creating problems that aren't there by over thinking?

Mixed behaviour tends to happen in the first year of getting to know someone since you're not accustomed to one another, you develop expectations and comfort and they continually break this pattern, and so on and so on. That's not a Libra thing, it's just human nature.
Only way to establish trust is for two people to actually be willing to communicate and talk through what they want, how they feel, what their boundaries are etc. I would go with your instincts. If it's a problem, it's a problem and it's best to speak up.

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Posted by Impulsv
Is it because u don't know we're u stand? Since even though he acts like ur the only one when present ur unsure if there are others. If that's the case then maybe have a discussion as to dating exclusive if that's whatsin ur mind.

Posted by TaurusVenus22
Need help from the libra males to understand this behavior. Been seeing a libra male for 4 months, he didnt want to rush into anything so we're taking it slow:
He's Distant, suddenly pass codes phone & leaves it face down sometimes, we still go on dates but it's always sex at the end. Really close when I'm near & affectionate, still messages when I'm away but sometimes takes hours to respond and it's small talk, nothing deep anymore no questions gettin to know one another, he use to reply in an instant. I have met his family, was at his family house on the weekend. Use to call me everyday, I asked why he didnt anymore & then he called me the next afternoon, then yesterday liked this other girls pic on Facebook & befriended her, then I didn't hear from him for hours til I initiated contact. He still texts me good morning everyday and did today. He normally initiates but use to always ask what I'm doing if I hadn't text for a while. I havent met any of his friends? I just dunno am I reading too much into it? What do I do to know?
He's Libra sun, sag moon/mars, venus scorpio, sag rising

Posted by chrissydance
When a libra guy says he wants to "take it slow" lol... its because he wants to keep his options open hello! That goes for most any "normal" man.

Posted by aquarius09

Posted by chrissydance
When a libra guy says he wants to "take it slow" lol... its because he wants to keep his options open hello! That goes for most any "normal" man.

Is that so? I've never known a libra man to take it fast. They all say "let's take it slow" due to their indecisiveness even though they are taking it fast in terms of actions. They jump right into hardcore romance to make the girl feel she is the only one for them. Lol

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Posted by aquarius09
Not quite. Taking it slow doesn't always mean I wanna keep my options open.
I think in a lib's case, that's definitely not true because of their confusion. That's confusing even to me because even though they wanna thread carefully, they still go fast.
So I questioned your logic with regard to the generalization you made about taking it slow. However, in this particular case, you are right. He wants to keep his options open.

Posted by TaurusNikki
Your already doom, this is a new relationship, ur getting to know each other, nothing wrong with that, it's just dating
Go out with the girls, have u some fun, meet people, the when the libra comes back, it's up to u to go with the flow or make him wait, just do your own thing.
I drove my libra bf crazy because I was never around that much, I was busy making plans with my friends, I refuse to be caught up in the libra cycle
That made him make a decision, now being with a libra is a 24/7 job
Are you sure u want this. Cause it don't get no easier once u got them, lmao, I'm just saying

Posted by aquarius09
Not quite. Taking it slow doesn't always mean I wanna keep my options open.
I think in a lib's case, that's definitely not true because of their confusion. That's confusing even to me because even though they wanna thread carefully, they still go fast.
So I questioned your logic with regard to the generalization you made about taking it slow. However, in this particular case, you are right. He wants to keep his options open.

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Posted by TaurusVenus22
Need help from the libra males to understand this behavior. Been seeing a libra male for 4 months, he didnt want to rush into anything so we're taking it slow:
He's Distant, suddenly pass codes phone & leaves it face down sometimes, we still go on dates but it's always sex at the end. Really close when I'm near & affectionate, still messages when I'm away but sometimes takes hours to respond and it's small talk, nothing deep anymore no questions gettin to know one another, he use to reply in an instant. I have met his family, was at his family house on the weekend. Use to call me everyday, I asked why he didnt anymore & then he called me the next afternoon, then yesterday liked this other girls pic on Facebook & befriended her, then I didn't hear from him for hours til I initiated contact. He still texts me good morning everyday and did today. He normally initiates but use to always ask what I'm doing if I hadn't text for a while. I havent met any of his friends? I just dunno am I reading too much into it? What do I do to know?
He's Libra sun, sag moon/mars, venus scorpio, sag rising

You're not the only one on his agenda.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Pfft, flip the script and leave all the heavy stuff to you, in typical indecisiveness Libra fashion. *eyeroll*
Sign aside, if a guy changes the story 3-4 months in, it's no real shocker because that time frame is usually the turning point and you see his true colors emerge. I kinda saw it coming with this guy but still, wrapping your head around when it happens can be a pain because there's a lot of wtfery going on. Usually because they have zero idea of what they want and shouldn't be dating to begin with until they get their shit together.
Unfortunately, the dating pool has two types- those who know what they want and are serious about it all, and the rest who have no idea and think they're primed for dating, but they're far from it and should just be single until they get it together.