Hmmm, conversation with my Libran friend

Okay, I'm a girl and my best guy friend is a Libran. I'm Gemini, and would have a relationship with him, but he won't with me. We've moved into a fantastic friendship, though. I believe he really values my friendship, but has never said so. In contrast, I've told him how much I value his friendship (in an email and on my blog, never face to face).

So last night, I was telling him about a Gemini I've just started to see.

Me: I don't know whether it'll work out though. I mean, we haven't even kissed, so I'll with-hold my opinion till we've kissed.
Libran: So it's all about the physical for you?
Me: No, but they physical gives you a good understanding of where you stand.
Libran: Do you know where we stand with each other?
Me: Yes. (then pausing). Actually, I know what you mean to me but... (trailed off)
Libran: We've never kissed, but you know what our friendship means to each other.
Me: Yeah, but that's friendship. In a relationship, you need to kiss.

It occured to me on the way home that this might have been his way of saying I mean a lot to him. We do loads together. I contact him first about 80% of the time, to his 20% . He really is one of my closest friends, but he's never told me he feels the same way. Do Librans usually only hang out with people that mean a lot to them?

Yup, if they are around you there is something about you they like. It doesn't mean they want a relationshiip with you. Librans love on so many levels. However people sometimes it makes it hard for people to determine if they love them or are "in love" with them. If they are "in love" with someone then, they will make it clear.

He clearly cherishes what you two have and just doesn't want anything more at this time. Or maybe he think a relationship will ruin the wonderful friendship the two of you now share.

Thanks. Yeah, I pretty much thought that. Sometimes I wonder if he hangs out with me just because I'm available, and contact him. But then I think that he's not the type to be friends with people "just because". He's the type of guy that considers EVERYTHING and EVERYONE.

absolutey

i for one,
although a very independent introvert,
will see to it that i visit my friends when i can
and i only hang out with those that i want to

so if you mean anything to him valuable at all,
his presence is what is louder than anything

just like your initiation to seek out his company,
his receptivity to talk or listen to you is paramount

otherwise, we Libra's are gone in 60 seconds
or never there to begin with

good luck

Thanks. He's definately mysterious but can also sit there for an hour or more listening to me ramble on about my issues. He's always more than willing to offer advice and I just think he's the best person I've ever met!

In my several involvements with librans. They can act so jealous when another male is in your lifeeven if the two of you aren't in a relationship.

It sounds like there is a good possiblility that he likes you so much that he needs you to initiate the next level out of fear of rejection and compromising a friendship.

When we really like someone, we will act as if confused on where we stand. This will make someone who sort of likes us frustrated and look elsewhere, but someone who really likes us try to get us.

It makes us feel secure in the emotional heaviness. We are reluctant and fearful of being the one in the relationship more in love with the other than they are with us.

^That's true. Without the emotional connection it's hard for 2 air signs to be together. The mental connection doesn't cut it for depth at all. But the emotional turbulence throws them in some choppy waters.

My guy was also as you mentioned the first 2 statements. When I thought he wasn't interested, he came on stronger. And the most frustrating thing was that he was more comfortable talking to friends and associates than with me. With me he would clam up and be nervous.

It's a back and forth swing thing, and when it finally stabilizes, it's pretty wonderful.

Thanks. Nic - I asked him if he was interested in going out with me in May, and he said no. We had another chat in September and I said "I'll never mention how I feel for you again, but if you're ever interested, let me know". So I think he's aware that if wanted me, he could have me. As for the Gemini - he could very well be jealous, as despite dating, this is the first guy I've liked since I liked the Libran. So maybe Libran feels the fear that he could be replaced. As he said to me "you haven't spoken about another guy like this before".

My experience with Libra men (which is not extensive) is that they want to be chased and also to do the chasing. Why don't you try to change that 80/20 % call ratio to something more balanced? Don't call for a while. You may be pleasantly surprised....

Yeah can take a few weeks though for them to call/text/email.....they need so much time to realize they miss you LOL