Hopelessly In Love...

Hi everyone!
I have been talking to a libra man since last November. We met online. He approached me with the first message and "yes" libra's are quite the charmers! We both live in different countries i'm in Ontario, Can and he's in Detroit, Michigan which isn't but a 3 hr drive anyways. In the beginning I had no problem getting responses from him until I found out about his "so called ex girlfriend" who he was still remaining in very close contact with. He and her seem to have this connection with each other and still monitor what each other are doing like they are still involved (and I have to wonder if they still are and i'm being blind). He tells me she's an ex and that she keeps close tabs on him still and trys to interfere with his life but I think he likes this! When I confront him on the issue of her he ignores me and won't respond to my texts, emails etc. Then i'll get a text from him saying "Hey baby how are u or what are u doing? It's like any issue I bring up about he and I he avoids. I've told him if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore then i'd rather know sooner than later because my feelings are getting stronger everyday! He tells me he wants me and i'm his girl but we barely ever speak on the phone and he doesn't always text me back. I feel like i'm chasing him and I'm not a chaser i'm used to being chased. I think he and I would be so great together if given the opportunity. I'm just afraid that he's still holding onto something with his ex and I'm confused as to what to do because I'm afraid of getting hurt. I'm a gemini woman and his ex is an aries and I read somewhere that libra's and aries are well matched. I just want to get his mind off of her and on me and I want to know what I need to do to get his heart. PLEASE HELP ANYONE!!!

Goddess, this guy's behavior sounds EXACTLY like the Libra guy I dated briefly before my currently boyfriend (14 months now, yay!). Anyway, the first Libra was very shady and always had excuses for why he didn't call, respond, break dinner plans, etc. He didn't call much because it was easier for him to text -- easier to communicate with someone via text than phone when you're "occupied" with something or someone else.

Also, you guys are 3 hours apart. Have you met him yet? If he truly felt strongly or even curious to know you better, he would have already made the effort to come to Ontario to see you. If you're "his girl", 4 months sure is a long time to meet your girl.

We have met each other and it was wonderfull! The whole time we spent together was so sweet. He showered me with affection and WOW he got my heart pumping like u wouldn't believe! He has even told me that he wants to move here to be with me. I haven't been able to think about anyone else and I have others who want to date me but I'm stuck on him like he has a hold on me! I'm the kind of person who wants what she wants and tries to get it at any cost which is sometimes good and bad. I just don't want to be fighting a losing battle!

"I have others who want to date me but I'm stuck on him like he has a hold on me!"

Oh God does that sound familiar!!! If there is a child involved? you will probably never rid yourself of this "ex" as he will hang on for dear life as well.

I think you should date others because unless he is giving you CLEAR directions as to where you are both going? you might be stuck in this position for a long time and at the end you may lose out to the ex.

The biggest lesson I have learnt in the past 18 months is to not rely on a man who isnt ready to give you his heart when it is clear you are ready for a serious relationship...it normally ends in a lot of pain for the one who IS ready. And if there is an 'EX' who is clearly still in the picture— run!!!!

I agree with Chatz. Sounds shady!!!

I hear what you all are saying and it makes alot of sense I know. There is no child involved. He has actually told me he would like to have kids with me and he wants a family. The closeness they have I think is a first love situation and it raises red flags for me as well but if I give up on him I feel like I could lose out on someone who is perfect for me because when we are together it's bliss! I think I need to talk to him face to face and find out because he says alot of wonderful things in his texts but who knows if it's sincere because I can't read his face. I need to have a serious talk with him about everything that is on my mind and I hope he can handle it because this is my life and I don't want to be played! I've fallen in love with him and I don't think it's that easy at this point for me to back out without at least trying to see where it goes i'm not a quitter but I need to see him again to get all my answers and I don't know what Libra men are like but I hope they are at least compassionate enough to be real when it comes to matters of the heart. If there is no hope for a future I would hope that he would be honest and tell me because I read somewhere that Libra's will stay in meaningless situations because they don't want to hurt someone or have a confrontation.

*** feel like I could lose out on someone who is perfect for me because when we are together it's bliss✨**

First, librans have a way of making any woman feel this way in their presence. It is how you feel when he isn't around that counts.***

He clearly isn't perfect by what he is doing now, so what makes you think it will get better?

* i'm in Ontario, Can

where? where? where?

😄

He sounds more like a Scorp. Is he on the cusp?

I am involved in a couple of exs lives. I think it is kinda natural that I know what they are doing, they know what I am doing. I would be more afraid of someone who has nothing to do with their exs.

..... he says alot of wonderful things in his texts but who knows if it's sincere because I can't read his face ...... I've fallen in love with him

I think you have fallen in love with the IDEA of him. He has fed you a lot of words and images .... but where is the substance? You really don't know him other than what he has told you and that is dangerous.

I think your right little_sparrow I think I have fallen in love with more of the idea of him and being with him but honestly he is a really good guy just confusing. They seem to know just what to say at the right time to make your questions and worries go away without ever really talking about the issue don't they? I'm going to see him again next month and see if I can get my answers and if after we part again he still acts the same way I'm going to have to think with my head and not my heart. Right now my hearts driving me. It doesn't help that he's so dammm hot though lol! The problem is he knows it!

Anyways I'm in Kitchener, Ontario!

Anyways I have another question to any "LIBRA'S" who can answer me. Do libra men like to be chased or do the chasing? I'm not sure whether I should back off of him a little bit and see if he contacts me more or if I should keep being persistant? Currently it's me who always has to initiate contact lately. Am I putting him off being to the aggressor and asking questions about us? If I leave him alone for a few days will he think i'm not interested and drift away? I'm not sure how to deal with him. I know he says things to me that make me think he's interested in me. Like the other day I said to him "I'm scared i'm going to lose you over this distance situation" and he replied back saying "You won't baby, I want you 🙂" but then I don't get anymore texts after I reply back to him. And still no texts today either. He used to send me texts almost every morning to tell me good morning or at least reply to me when I did. Sometimes i'll text him and not get any replies all day or night until the next day. He works alot and long hours and his job is physical so I know when he goes home he's tired and he sleeps alot so Should I relax and let him come around?

is that question just for libra men or is it open to some of us dating libra men?

Well it's open for anyone but I really would like some LIBRA's to give some insight as well because this is their message board! I appreciate any advice though!

both. it has to be balanced, progressive and stable.

"their" message board...ok. I've been dating a Libra for 14 months. I'll keep my mouth shut. 🙂

We always stay in close contact with our ex and Aries ex is a sure threat. They both may address each other as ex but might be still having feelings for each other. What exactly happened btween them? His ex walked away? Depending on it, you stand a chance to use it against her. Libra will sure reconsider an ex walking back to us than investing in a new person even if he do likes the new one. You might have to wait for a while before things cool down. If you are not prepared to wait, it would be better if you have an open honest talk with him without fear holding you back from what all you must convey.

Thanks Libran you were the most helpful! She did in a sense leave him she moved far from him and they split up or so he says anyways. I've messaged him about "US" a few times lately and told him that his lack of communication is annoying and frustrating to me. I've told him that I will always be his friend no matter what and that if he wants out i'd rather know sooner than later. He never responds to any questions I have about "us" unless it's positive or about sex and my quess is either he doesn't want a confrontation or he doesn't want to make the wrong decision. Maybe he thinks if he lets me go then he's losing out on something that could be really good and he has told me that he loves everything about me. I just hope he's not keeping me around as back up so to speak. On the other hand he may also be harbouring feelings for his ex and feels like he doesn't want to let go of that either. So maybe he's keeping neutral right now so he doesn't have to make a hasty decision and live to regret it. If you ask me his ex is a lunatic! She messages people that he's friends with and tries to find out information about him and that person. She claims she's still with him but he swears up and down that he's not and that she's really messed up. He complains about her all the time and I ask him then why do u remain in close contact with her because your feeding into her craziness because your both not completely letting go. He just says that he's good friends with her and loves her to death. Anyways I guess the only thing I can do is spend time with him and see if I have an impact on him. I need to talk to him in person and find out where his head is at.