How libra behaves when we get jelous?

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1_fine_gem
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ha! how do u get jealous? thelibran?

is that why my libra kinda friend got mad at me, a few week back I told my libra kinda friend (LKF) haha, that i will be going out with this guy who is also a libra, and he was just talking a lot, then he was cooking and suddenly fell silent, and a bit later on in a bad mood, wouldn't go straight with me but his mood suddenly changed and he was mad, but wouldn't admit it. He said he's just tired or something. Maybe he was jealous. I didn't see that.

I thought it's: when they are jealous, we don't see it.


i'd love to see more input here...

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I become a sarcastic spoilt brat..its horrible, but i just cant help myself. It takes a lot to make me jealous, and if i think someone is going out of their way to make me feel bad, then i turn into a she-devil!! Its only happened a handful of times in my life, and no-one can believe the way i just explode!! I keep it all inside and then BAM, i go crazy. Not very pretty, so be careful what you?re doing with a libra...there is an ugly side....
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+1 in the reactionary then come to my senses.

Thats pretty much how strong emotions work with me in general. I have long learned to let any strong emotion subside to see how I really feel.

A lot of times it is not jelousy though it seems like it. It is intolerance or annoyance. Like say the guy at the bar that can't keep his eye off my girl in a skirt playing pool, then when he approaches her I get up shake his hand then push him away. Go to the source you know. Not really jelous, just not really keen on keeping that kind of energy around me.
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When I get jealous, the first thing I hv noticed is tat my revolving around the situation and start imagining the possibilities. Then I get all frustrated once I see what's possible. Then I cannot eat, drink or sleep. Brain is completely taken over by this thought. I stay silent and try to bring it back to balance. As long as the girl in question responds in a positive way, its all fine. But if there is a slight hint of suspicion, I start my attempts to manipulating her thoughts in a slow pace. Slowly this can become way intense and my ugly side comes out. after all these I feel guilty and might even end up crying.
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Yup TL, that is the hard part about scorps, and then we get pissed because they actually think we don't posses the "special scorp ability" to see through people and read them. So what happens is they give part of the story, stick to it and we can see that they think they have us and we get offended because were thinking how dare they think we are that nieve. Then it is at risk of spiraling out of control.

Scorp only tells part of the truth, Libra tells their version of the truth....it can be a really tricky situation. Oh, and scorps mis read libras A LOT. They are right in feeling they are on to something, but they are usually way off in conclusion. All that intuition only works when it is correct 😛 And we will know EXACTLY what is going on but will keep our mouths closed about it and dig a subtle trap that pushes the scop into backpeddling with no hope of gaining foreward momentum again. The Libra has to deal with scorps temper, the scorp with Libras ability to turn off their emotions and use excellent timing in pushing and pulling them away to purposefully create confusion and a feeling of being lost. I haven't had to use the dark libra side in a long time....and I hope not anytime soon especially with a Scorp....there is nothing worse to a scorp then convincing them that you don't care. Power games between the two are extreme.
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"Me bieng a libra i guess we like attention"

We do, but I don't think that was the motivation. we like justice and fairness. We feel out of control when someone MAKES us feel something, and that is how we interpret jealousy in a sitiuation like you described. Then we struggle through a combination of beating ourselves up in our own heads because there is nothing reasonable or rational about jealousy but we still for some reason feel it and feeling out of control for doing so. Then in your case you go flirt with the hottest guy to ensure he feels the same way and balance is stricken.
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libra jealousy sucks, all the libra females i've met deny, deny, deny their jealous moments. they pretend it didnt happen and that it doesnt exist. my libra / scorp bf stated form the very begining 'I'm not a possesive guy, but i can be a bit jealous... if i see u with a guy and he gets close to u... i will get jealous'. Luckily he has that libran charm so that he doesnt look like the 'jealous psycho bf'. but otherwise the male libras seem straight forward about it to me.
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He had no idea what I was doing, but he did state that I was texting my other men. !

So we didn't cuddle at all that night and he was still moody this morning. He let it slip why he had an attitude so I politely showed him my phone so that he could see that I was on the internet and not texting. I even showed him the website (DXP) and my username.

Yes he is jealous..and he prob. want to be around you 24-7 as this is a common trait for Libras.
I have a problem with jealousy too, but its all in how you handle it. First if all if that is you in the picture..you are drop dead gorgeous so that has to be like 80% of the problem HAHA
SO of course he doesnt want you talking to anyone else but him...

But I know my husnband used to get mad when I got jealous and it made things really hard..we almost broke up numerous times over it. It is truly a problem with some Libras and I finally told him I had a problem with jeaously but I really didn't understand why I did so could he please just bear with it. His attitude has changed hes a lot more sensitive when I get upset and usually about something really stupid 😆
He reassures me and reminds me that I'm the only one and will always be.
Maybe your man has the same issue..maybe he needs for you to be there with him and being more sensitive about it. It may be a real problem with him.

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librabra
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anywho, i am attractive to guys, even his friends have approached me at some point or another.

Well thats why he is jealous then...AHHH YESS..the games..😆 *hits head of course..I'm married now but I do remember those nasty little things...

To me..its best to be real.. and tell each other how you really feel. I mean isnt that what a relationship is really about—
Once you get married..its all about the true you..and there is no escape then!!! HAHAHA
But anyway, good luck =)
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I'm not a jealous person, so sometimes I don't realize someone else is feeling jealous or out of sorts. It took a MAJOR out of sorts moment for me to realize that my Libra was getting very jealous about my weaseltastic ex trying to insinuate himself into mine and the kids' lives again, after all these years. In a spectacularly over the top idiotic way, mind you. (Driving two hours to settle an argument the 17 year old was having with the 14 year old over taking the trash out, because I wasn't there to do handle it right then!) I thought I gave Libra the reassurance he needed - the ex might be the father, but Libra is still the one being their Dad, and I have no feelings whatsoever for my idiot ex. I don't generally even speak to the ex except for when he's on his way to get the kids, bringing them back, etc.

But in the few days since then, there have been some bumps. My Libra seems a bit off, a bit quiet, a bit distant. And some SERIOUS amounts of crabby. For instance, at his Mom's last night, I was told it would have been his parents' 40th anniversary a couple days before (his Dad died four years ago.) Mom and I were laughing and smiling together about it, and I said, "Wow, Mom... 40 years with a Brocker. You're a strong woman!" All of a sudden, from the other room, my Libra says loudly and angrily, "Well, if you don't like being with a Brocker, you know you can just LEAVE!" Mom and I stare at each other for a second and shake our heads, grinning. We'll just let Mr. Crabby be crabby then. A bit later, I seek him out to give him a kiss, saying, "I know you get crabby sometimes, but I love you anyway." And he jerked away and ROARED (which in itself is strange!), "If I'm crabby, then just get away from me!" Fine, no problem. I spent the rest of the evening visiting with his Mom, and we had a great time while he sulked/napped and watched TV in the next room. We went home later, very quiet, not really speaking much aside from, "Working over tomorrow?" "Yes, why?" "Because I need to go grocery shopping when you get home." "Okay."

SO, Libras of the DXP boards... is this still his jealousy about the ex? If so, what kind of reassurance best reassures a Libra? I'm clueless. (And don't say really great sex, that doesn't seem to improve this moodiness for long, sad to say. I myself have been in a great mood, however! LOL)
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@Neffer, guess what?

Ignore him, don't cater to him, and stand your ground because you did not do a solitary thing wrong. I suggest this b/c if my boyfriend gave me such treatment if I was behaving the way your b/f is - i would get it together soon; snap right back to reality. Libras are very responsive to the right kind of stimuli. Left to our own devices we will realize just how silly we are behaving ESPECIALLY if it's without cause - If you keep catering to him then he will justify his jealousy.

At least that's how I work. Sometimes I need a swift kick in the booty (figuratively not literally) to get my act together.

Now, on the other hand, if you have been indulging the ex, in any kind of way; your libra man could be thinking of pay-back...I know I would.
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Well, good deal then. The closest (and ONLY) time I came to any sort of "catering" was seeking him out and getting roared at while we were at Mom's. Since then, I've left him to his own devices - he can sulk all he likes, I *know* I did nothing wrong. Besides, I've got him figured out after all this time; when he's pulling away, distant, borderline cold, clearly having an internal argument with himself.. that's when he cares and loves me the most. It's his defense mechanism. We've all got them, including me. Have at it, sweetheart. I'll still be here when you get it all sorted out. Quietly.

And though I was there, I was not *right there* - I pursued my own hobbies. I read a book, took a long bubble bath, chatted with a friend on the phone. We went to Mom's to mow her lawn and hang her new curtains - instead of grocery shopping, that's today LOL She and I get along like wildfire, always have. And so my "Brocker" finally says, "Is something wrong, honey? You seem kind of quiet." And I answer, "I've just got a lot on my mind these past couple days. It's giving me a headache." And later, at bedtime, he cuddles close to me and says, "You're still quiet. Are you mad at me, love?" And you know what? I melted. It only takes acknowledgement of my feelings to change them LOL So I turned to cuddle him back and bury my face in his chest, and he said, "I'm sorry I've been so crabby lately. You don't deserve that." (And so watch the Libra Scales re-balance in an instant when I simply smile and say nothing... and kiss him.)

I feel no need to rehash when he's been crabby - he already knows it, acknowledged it, and even apologized for it. It's happened before, and will happen again. My way has always been to allow him the time and space to work it out on his own. I admit when I'm wrong, or I've made a mistake and need to apologize... but if I've done nothing, it's all on him. I just wondered if that was the BEST way to handle it with a Libra... and apparently, it is. Mine's just as stubborn as a Taurus or Aries sometimes, actually those two have nothing on a Libra's stubbornness, and it can take him three days to sort it out for himself. And since any "help" from me will actually hinder the process, I'm glad I'm *supposed* to be leaving him alone. Besides, he always seems to love and cherish me MORE after one of these, never less 😄
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OH - I just realized that I misread something.

If I've been indulging the EX.. God, NO. I really can't stand the man, that ship sailed nearly a decade and a half ago! I don't talk to him more than absolutely necessary (which isn't much, thankfully!) He's supposed to be picking up the kids today or tomorrow for a couple days. I don't really know WHEN, because we have not even spoken since his idiotastic drive to settle a teenagers argument last week.

But yes, I'm a Pisces and sensitive to others' feelings... I KNOW my Libra is jealous. Not of anything I've done, but because the ex is trying to be SUPA DAD this past month or so, when he's been *so good* at being Ghost Dad for so many years. My Libra has been the Daily Dad, my ex has been Absent Father, and trying now to be Supa Dad, and has managed to just be Weekend Warrior.

Libra knows, *I* know.. the ex will tire of the responsibility, like he always has... and Libra and I will pick up the pieces of my kids' confusion later. But Libra will still be here, every single day, in every single way. Libra has no other children, and deep down I know he feels, wishes that mine were his and that he'd never have to share them at all - and he recently said as much. That's where the jealousy comes from, not from anything I've done or didn't do.
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Good, Nefer (with one F) LOL

I love, love reading about relationships, especially healthy ones, with all of my heart!

I like when you said this -

" Besides, I've got him figured out after all this time; when he's pulling away, distant, borderline cold, clearly having an internal argument with himself.. that's when he cares and loves me the most. It's his defense mechanism. We've all got them, including me. Have at it, sweetheart. I'll still be here when you get it all sorted out. Quietly."
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I've had my share of unhealthy relationships, believe me. The health of this one dazzles me. It's partly our age and experiences (we're both closer to 40 than 20 or even 30, and were tired of The Game!) and partly him, and partly me. We truly love and respect and admire each other.. and we WANT this to work out. No sophomore drama, no juvenile fits. Just love, steady and strong, even when your partner isn't perfect. Pisces and Libra probably won't ever ignite the town with blazing fits of anger and hot-headed shouting matches, not like a Leo or Aries or Sag. We both prefer things to be calm and steady, and stick it out when times get rough, never even considering "breaking up" to be an answer to our troubles. Plus, I have *infinite* wells of patience, even moreso than Pisces usually comes equipped with. And it's been a lifesaver with my fascinating and infuriating Libra love!

Also, S/O seems almost.. clinical to me. What's less mushy than that?! lol
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Posted by thelibran
When I get jealous, the first thing I hv noticed is tat my revolving around the situation and start imagining the possibilities. Then I get all frustrated once I see what's possible. Then I cannot eat, drink or sleep. Brain is completely taken over by this thought. I stay silent and try to bring it back to balance. As long as the girl in question responds in a positive way, its all fine. But if there is a slight hint of suspicion, I start my attempts to manipulating her thoughts in a slow pace. Slowly this can become way intense and my ugly side comes out. after all these I feel guilty and might even end up crying.



I've been a victim of Libra males jealousy. He would get sarcastic and subtly critical and make angry comments about events that happened months maybe years ago that had nothing to do with nothing.

I wonder if any of you Libras on the Libra forum today have similar jealous tendencies.
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toxe5
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Hmm interesting. I think libras think they sometimes have people fooled but
With water signs it's actually obvious. Sometimes I have conversations
With this "mastermind" only to know they r usually really delusional people.
They are just like everyone else with no special abilities.
The charm is there bc they know how to lie very well. They
Like to make themselves seem important though. Libras can be
Cool if they r honest but most will say anything to get out of a situation.
Sometimes I just want to say " get over yourself " but astrology has
Them gassed up. *no offense*.
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