How long does it take you...

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To know if a relationship is right for you? If that person is THE person for you?

Just curious. Has nothing to do with the fact that i'm dating a libra lol
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Three months.
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First date.
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I knew my partner was the right guy for me after our first date.

I felt like someone had wrapped me up in a blanket and served me tea all night long. I just felt taken care of.

He is an Aqua and he also knew right away.
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Being highly intuitive which is a thing which can actually get in the way it can be anywhere from weeks to months. Ive often had to ask my friends advice to keep me grounded and realistic about responses and situations with men. I know what I will and will not accept though so if i see something against what I deem acceptable they can be out of the question in an instant.
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Posted by jeane
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really Jeane? I have been dating a libra male for almost a year now and we wanted to take it slow being older and having horrible past relationships but come on, it's like drip drip drip and I'm a Taurus and like things slow but sometimes it kills me how slow this is all going - I want to be able to look at him every morning and bring him his juice and sweet to get him going - I love pampering him and he loves it too. I'm not clingy and I am very independent which he loves too but when will this come together for him lololol
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Posted by tcta
Posted by jeane
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really Jeane? I have been dating a libra male for almost a year now and we wanted to take it slow being older and having horrible past relationships but come on, it's like drip drip drip and I'm a Taurus and like things slow but sometimes it kills me how slow this is all going - I want to be able to look at him every morning and bring him his juice and sweet to get him going - I love pampering him and he loves it too. I'm not clingy and I am very independent which he loves too but when will this come together for him lololol
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yes, years. i took me over a year to get to that point with my bull, actually now i think about it. i didn't fully commit to him until nearly two years in. i was....wait for it....fence sitting. no surprise there then.

believe me, i can go through the motions. playing house is easy but really, truly, sincerely, to the core of my being, knowing this is the person for me takes me a long time. i weigh everything up, forever teetering between outcomes.

it doesn't mean the feelings weren't there or i was lying, but if i am honest, i always kept a window open for a quick getaway if i needed one. it's a bastard thing to do. i know that but i also know it takes me a long time to commit and before i do that i have to be absolutely certain that is where i want to be and he is the person i want to be with - through thick or thin, good times and bad. it's because once i am there, i am there for life.

for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. kudos to her for being so intuned.
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Posted by blackphase
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Posted by jeane
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really Jeane? I have been dating a libra male for almost a year now and we wanted to take it slow being older and having horrible past relationships but come on, it's like drip drip drip and I'm a Taurus and like things slow but sometimes it kills me how slow this is all going - I want to be able to look at him every morning and bring him his juice and sweet to get him going - I love pampering him and he loves it too. I'm not clingy and I am very independent which he loves too but when will this come together for him lololol

Honestly, I think it's a good sign if the Libra is taking it slow with you. A lot of them tend to dive in without fully knowing how they feel and end up hurting a lot of people along the way.
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100% agreed.
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I'd say 6 months to a year to know in my heart. But I definitely learned my lesson that people aren't going to wait on you all day. I mean, on the one hand I'd like to think that hey, if you truly were feeling me like you say then you'd still be there, in my life in some capacity. But on the other hand, I'm not vain enough to think somebody will be waiting for me (or am I? lol)

I know my last relationship I was kinda rushed into it, and I really wish I took my time. "They" say the number of years you've been together divided by two is the number you've been breaking up. We were together 4 years and breaking up for 2 ahah. The first year I didn't really know him and we were dating when we were supposed to be courting. By the end of 2nd year I wanted out. But like Libra fashion, I hung on smh.

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Posted by jeane
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Thats long, so what do you do until you know that person is the one? Date other people? stay in open relationships? or be single?
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Posted by Sassygurl
Posted by jeane
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Thats long, so what do you do until you know that person is the one? Date other people? stay in open relationships? or be single?
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my current partner and i were are in a relationship which started about 12 months after we met but i know in my heart i hadn't committed to him until nearly a year into that relationship. i only really knew i wanted to do that about 2 years into knowing him until then i was fence sitting. i wasn't sure if this was a relationship i wanted to be in or if he was the right person for me. i was in it but i was also poised to leave it.
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Posted by jeane
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Posted by jeane
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really Jeane? I have been dating a libra male for almost a year now and we wanted to take it slow being older and having horrible past relationships but come on, it's like drip drip drip and I'm a Taurus and like things slow but sometimes it kills me how slow this is all going - I want to be able to look at him every morning and bring him his juice and sweet to get him going - I love pampering him and he loves it too. I'm not clingy and I am very independent which he loves too but when will this come together for him lololol

yes, years. i took me over a year to get to that point with my bull, actually now i think about it. i didn't fully commit to him until nearly two years in. i was....wait for it....fence sitting. no surprise there then.

believe me, i can go through the motions. playing house is easy but really, truly, sincerely, to the core of my being, knowing this is the person for me takes me a long time. i weigh everything up, forever teetering between outcomes.

it doesn't mean the feelings weren't there or i was lying, but if i am honest, i always kept a window open for a quick getaway if i needed one. it's a bastard thing to do. i know that but i also know it takes me a long time to commit and before i do that i have to be absolutely certain that is where i want to be and he is the person i want to be with - through thick or thin, good times and bad. it's because once i am there, i am there for life.

for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. kudos to her for being so intuned.

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If the person is a good man but not the one for me, I will fence sit. I fence-sit with earth signs, they have all the stability qualities I look for, but that 'zing' is not there. I have currently dated a Capricorn for 8 years, and I knew after the first date I would never be in love, but I would date him as long as he wanted to hang around. I am not in love with him, and with my Venus is in Libra, Moon in Aquarius, Rising Gemini, Mercury Aquarius I doubt I ever will fall in love with earth or water. I would prefer a Capricorn/Aquarius, or Taurus/Gemini, and Sagittarius. But yes I am very intuitive and I know after the first date, I know how listen to my body, and I know what I want. Sorry it takes you years.
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Posted by littlesparrow
I knew my partner was the right guy for me after our first date.

I felt like someone had wrapped me up in a blanket and served me tea all night long. I just felt taken care of.

He is an Aqua and he also knew right away.

Right I have 5 planets in Libra too, I know after the first date too.
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Posted by blackphase
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Posted by jeane
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really Jeane? I have been dating a libra male for almost a year now and we wanted to take it slow being older and having horrible past relationships but come on, it's like drip drip drip and I'm a Taurus and like things slow but sometimes it kills me how slow this is all going - I want to be able to look at him every morning and bring him his juice and sweet to get him going - I love pampering him and he loves it too. I'm not clingy and I am very independent which he loves too but when will this come together for him lololol

Honestly, I think it's a good sign if the Libra is taking it slow with you. A lot of them tend to dive in without fully knowing how they feel and end up hurting a lot of people along the way.
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Did a Gemini really have the nerves to post this? Gemini wrote the script for diving in without fully knowing how they feel and ending up hurting a lot of people along the way.
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Posted by Librawoman77
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Posted by jeane
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really Jeane? I have been dating a libra male for almost a year now and we wanted to take it slow being older and having horrible past relationships but come on, it's like drip drip drip and I'm a Taurus and like things slow but sometimes it kills me how slow this is all going - I want to be able to look at him every morning and bring him his juice and sweet to get him going - I love pampering him and he loves it too. I'm not clingy and I am very independent which he loves too but when will this come together for him lololol

yes, years. i took me over a year to get to that point with my bull, actually now i think about it. i didn't fully commit to him until nearly two years in. i was....wait for it....fence sitting. no surprise there then.

believe me, i can go through the motions. playing house is easy but really, truly, sincerely, to the core of my being, knowing this is the person for me takes me a long time. i weigh everything up, forever teetering between outcomes.

it doesn't mean the feelings weren't there or i was lying, but if i am honest, i always kept a window open for a quick getaway if i needed one. it's a bastard thing to do. i know that but i also know it takes me a long time to commit and before i do that i have to be absolutely certain that is where i want to be and he is the person i want to be with - through thick or thin, good times and bad. it's because once i am there, i am there for life.

for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. kudos to her for being so intuned.


If the person is a good man but not the one for me, I will fence sit. I fence-sit with earth signs, they have all the stability qualities I look for, but that 'zing' is not there. I have currently dated a Capricorn for 8 years, and I knew after the first date I would never be in love, but I would date him as long as he wanted to hang around. I am not in love with him, and with my Venus is in Libra, Moon in Aquarius, Rising Gemini, Mercury Aquarius I doubt I ever will fall in love with earth or water. I would prefer a Capricorn/Aquarius, or Taurus/Gemini, and Sagittarius. But yes I am very intuitive and I know after the first date, I know how listen to my body, and I know what I want. Sorry it takes you years.
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i'm not. it works for me.
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really Jeane? I have been dating a libra male for almost a year now and we wanted to take it slow being older and having horrible past relationships but come on, it's like drip drip drip and I'm a Taurus and like things slow but sometimes it kills me how slow this is all going - I want to be able to look at him every morning and bring him his juice and sweet to get him going - I love pampering him and he loves it too. I'm not clingy and I am very independent which he loves too but when will this come together for him lololol

yes, years. i took me over a year to get to that point with my bull, actually now i think about it. i didn't fully commit to him until nearly two years in. i was....wait for it....fence sitting. no surprise there then.

believe me, i can go through the motions. playing house is easy but really, truly, sincerely, to the core of my being, knowing this is the person for me takes me a long time. i weigh everything up, forever teetering between outcomes.

it's because once i am there, i am there for life.

for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. kudos to her for being so intuned.


If the person is a good man but not the one for me, I will fence sit. I fence-sit with earth signs, they have all the stability qualities I look for, but that 'zing' is not there. I have currently dated a Capricorn for 8 years, and I knew after the first date I would never be in love, but I would date him as long as he wanted to hang around. I am not in love with him, and with my Venus is in Libra, Moon in Aquarius, Rising Gemini, Mercury Aquarius I doubt I ever will fall in love with earth or water. I would prefer a Capricorn/Aquarius, or Taurus/Gemini, and Sagittarius. But yes I am very intuitive and I know after the first date, I know how listen to my body, and I know what I want. Sorry it takes you years.

i'm not. it works for me.
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Quite frankly, I really don't care what works for you or what doesn't; you are the one quoting me in posts....for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. So, if your way works for you, great, once again, not sure what I have to do with YOU. But hey whatever blows your hair back.
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Quite frankly, I really don't care what works for you or what doesn't; you are the one quoting me in posts....for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. So, if your way works for you, great, once again, not sure what I have to do with YOU. But hey whatever blows your hair back.

well, you showed some care when you said "Sorry it takes you years". Or was that a half hearted, passive aggressive attempt at making a point?
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Quite frankly, I really don't care what works for you or what doesn't; you are the one quoting me in posts....for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. So, if your way works for you, great, once again, not sure what I have to do with YOU. But hey whatever blows your hair back.

well, you showed some care when you said "Sorry it takes you years". Or was that a half hearted, passive aggressive attempt at making a point?
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Yes it was sarcastic just like your comment for "Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. " But let's just block each other an be done with this nonsense.
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Quite frankly, I really don't care what works for you or what doesn't; you are the one quoting me in posts....for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. So, if your way works for you, great, once again, not sure what I have to do with YOU. But hey whatever blows your hair back.

well, you showed some care when you said "Sorry it takes you years". Or was that a half hearted, passive aggressive attempt at making a point?

Yes it was sarcastic just like your comment for "Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. " But let's just block each other an be done with this nonsense.
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my comment wasn't sarcastic. it was sincere. you don't have to be so defensive. i put that in uppercase letters because that was to refer to the op.

i won't block you. i'm sure you have interesting things to say. you can block me if you want. i don't care.
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With my husband, it took me nearly a year before I knew, nay, decided, that I wanted him. But we hadn't started dating yet at the time. We were getting to know each other as platonic friends. He had expressed interest and wanted to date but I was hesitant because I had just ended a long term relationship when we met and although I was attracted to and liked him very much, I didn't want to jump into anything just yet. Actually the fact that I really liked him and wanted more was what held me back. I didn't want it to be a rebound. I wanted the full serious long term commitment with him. And going straight there at a time when I was still getting my shit together wasn't a good idea. Thankfully he understood, and very surprisingly, waited.
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Quite frankly, I really don't care what works for you or what doesn't; you are the one quoting me in posts....for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. So, if your way works for you, great, once again, not sure what I have to do with YOU. But hey whatever blows your hair back.

well, you showed some care when you said "Sorry it takes you years". Or was that a half hearted, passive aggressive attempt at making a point?

Yes it was sarcastic just like your comment for "Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. " But let's just block each other an be done with this nonsense.

my comment wasn't sarcastic. it was sincere. you don't have to be so defensive. i put that in uppercase letters because that was to refer to the op.

i won't block you. i'm sure you have interesting things to say. you can block me if you want. i don't care.
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You piss on people's legs then tell them it's raining. But then again by your own admission you are not very intuitive despite your old age, so perhaps you are sincere with your lack of awareness of your passive aggressive behavior. Perhaps you can ask the other women in the early 20's who also posted they were able to discern within the first date if the person is the one, to help you guide you. You obviously do care since you follow my posts from thread to thread to quote my words and give unsolicited information about yourself. I am not familiar enough with your posts to know if your words are interesting or not, but I do find your preoccupation with me a little creepy, so yes you will be blocked. Done!

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really Jeane? I have been dating a libra male for almost a year now and we wanted to take it slow being older and having horrible past relationships but come on, it's like drip drip drip and I'm a Taurus and like things slow but sometimes it kills me how slow this is all going - I want to be able to look at him every morning and bring him his juice and sweet to get him going - I love pampering him and he loves it too. I'm not clingy and I am very independent which he loves too but when will this come together for him lololol

Honestly, I think it's a good sign if the Libra is taking it slow with you. A lot of them tend to dive in without fully knowing how they feel and end up hurting a lot of people along the way.
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I, for one, agree with Blackphase. Libras get this rep for being in love with love, not wanting to be alone, thus jumping from one relationship to the next as quickly as we change socks.

When we take our time, it may be that we are sitting on the fence, weighing, ruminating, etc, but we do that in order to be 100% sure. And in some cases, being absolutely sure may take a lot longer than the first date.

I'm glad I took my time, not just to get to know the other person, but also to get to know myself well enough to know if the two of us would work.
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Quite frankly, I really don't care what works for you or what doesn't; you are the one quoting me in posts....for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. So, if your way works for you, great, once again, not sure what I have to do with YOU. But hey whatever blows your hair back.

well, you showed some care when you said "Sorry it takes you years". Or was that a half hearted, passive aggressive attempt at making a point?

Yes it was sarcastic just like your comment for "Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. " But let's just block each other an be done with this nonsense.

my comment wasn't sarcastic. it was sincere. you don't have to be so defensive. i put that in uppercase letters because that was to refer to the op.

i won't block you. i'm sure you have interesting things to say. you can block me if you want. i don't care.



You piss on people's legs then tell them it's raining. But then again by your own admission you are not very intuitive despite your old age, so perhaps you are sincere with your lack of awareness of your passive aggressive behavior. Perhaps you can ask the other women in the early 20's who also posted they were able to discern within the first date if the person is the one, to help you guide you. You obviously do care since you follow my posts from thread to thread to quote my words and give unsolicited information about yourself. I am not familiar enough with your posts to know if your words are interesting or not, but I do find your preoccupation with me a little creepy, so yes you will be blocked. Done!



And this is what an immature Libra looks like...
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she is very entertaining though.
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Posted by Librawoman77
You piss on people's legs then tell them it's raining. But then again by your own admission you are not very intuitive despite your old age, so perhaps you are sincere with your lack of awareness of your passive aggressive behavior. Perhaps you can ask the other women in the early 20's who also posted they were able to discern within the first date if the person is the one, to help you guide you. You obviously do care since you follow my posts from thread to thread to quote my words and give unsolicited information about yourself. I am not familiar enough with your posts to know if your words are interesting or not, but I do find your preoccupation with me a little creepy, so yes you will be blocked. Done!



i would respond but i honestly don't know where to begin and i don't have the enthusiasm to figure it out. you are funny though. i'll give you that.
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LOL I was wondering what happened here...
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Posted by letterbox10
LOL I was wondering what happened here...

i have no idea lol
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I knew my partner was the right guy for me after our first date.

I felt like someone had wrapped me up in a blanket and served me tea all night long. I just felt taken care of.

He is an Aqua and he also knew right away.

Right I have 5 planets in Libra too, I know after the first date too.
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Posted by busyeyes88
@Jeane. It takes me years too!! With taurus v taurus it'd almost like "watching paint dry" but I'm partly responsible lol

i knew you would get it busy!

maybe the differences in opinion come from our individual understanding of what is meant by THE person.

for me, THE person is the person i would sacrifice everything for. he's the guy i would follow into the fire, the one i want to spend my life with, the guy who i would literally die for. that's what i mean by THE person. it goes beyond love. i loved him within months of being together but would i truly sacrifice myself for him? no way. i was still very much about me and what i ultimately wanted. was what i wanted him? i didn't know him well enough to answer that because for me, that role is loaded with heavy duty meaning. i don't walk away from my relationships once i am truly committed to THE person. the only way i see getting out of this is if he breaks up with me or one us dies.

it's also different to how long does it take to know you could be in a relationship with this person or would like to be in a relationship with this person. for me that happens over months but i will not give myself up until i know he is the right person and like i said, that can take years by which time most people have fallen by the wayside.
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That's sort of a tricky question, because I am still single so any time I have had the feeling that they are THE person, I have obviously been wrong. But usually by 2 months in I have a pretty good idea of whether we have potential for anything sustainable or not.
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I'd say 6 months to a year to know in my heart. But I definitely learned my lesson that people aren't going to wait on you all day. I mean, on the one hand I'd like to think that hey, if you truly were feeling me like you say then you'd still be there, in my life in some capacity. But on the other hand, I'm not vain enough to think somebody will be waiting for me (or am I? lol)



This is the conundrum...exactly the trade off, and the attempt to apply some logic to the "feeling" in a realtionship. I completely understand what you are trying to convey, and a totally agree with the thought.
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Right hehe. Then it almost starts crossing over into me questioning my spirituality, like if I truly believe that "What will be will be." Do you create your own fate, can you change it or is it set in stone. And I can question that until my eyes go criss-cross gahhh!
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I'm a September Libra with a Scorpio Venus... It takes me a while to commit. I have to truly know you are the one. If not... I'll move on.
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I'm with you Jeane, that was almost amusing and I would walk away - being the sensible Taurus I am - I have no idea what / why that person found you to be so off - you quoted my posts and responded and I love your wisdom and advice and outlook - maybe some fire in that chart too lol




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no Sassygurl, you don't date other people - you date that person for years as a single person living and loving life as it should be

we need to come to each other as full individuals
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Three months.

I agree with this.

I've been going out every weekend for a month with this woman I knew from school.

I'll probably start going to her house soon.
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I'm with you Jeane, that was almost amusing and I would walk away - being the sensible Taurus I am - I have no idea what / why that person found you to be so off - you quoted my posts and responded and I love your wisdom and advice and outlook - maybe some fire in that chart too lol






thanks for the kind words. i dunno! takes all sorts i suppose. thanks tho' smile
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So to the Libra's - if it takes years, is that because he is working this out in his head because I don't pay much attention to him when he does that. I figure if he's going to be done with me at any point he will tell me and then I'll deal with it - I will kill him lololol (just kidding) ... no really, I would rather just let it play out as such rather than talk about what may or may not happen ... it is what it is and that's my Capricorn Moon - which keeps me stable on top of all my Taurus Sun and Taurus Rising ... it's only my Venus in Aries that let's me have fun
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So to the Libra's - if it takes years, is that because he is working this out in his head because I don't pay much attention to him when he does that. I figure if he's going to be done with me at any point he will tell me and then I'll deal with it - I will kill him lololol (just kidding) ... no really, I would rather just let it play out as such rather than talk about what may or may not happen ... it is what it is and that's my Capricorn Moon - which keeps me stable on top of all my Taurus Sun and Taurus Rising ... it's only my Venus in Aries that let's me have fun

i blame my caution on my scorp venus. mixed with the indecision of my libra sun it is a recipe for slow motion travelling with matters of the heart.

for me, it's a matter of yes weighing up everything; who he is, the type of person i am, my feelings, the depth of those feelings, the various outcomes, all the baggage that we each bring to the table. the scorp in me wants to have a complete melding with my partner so i need to be sure before i commit.

my taurus is like you. he'd rather see how things play out rather than thinking of all the permutations. that's ok with me, i'll think about it for both of us. it's what i would have done regardless if he joined me in the pursuit or not. since making my mind up though, i've stopped weighing everything up. it doesn't matter where the chips fall, i'm with him.
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I'm with you Jeane, that was almost amusing and I would walk away - being the sensible Taurus I am - I have no idea what / why that person found you to be so off - you quoted my posts and responded and I love your wisdom and advice and outlook - maybe some fire in that chart too lol






Exactly
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Quite frankly, I really don't care what works for you or what doesn't; you are the one quoting me in posts....for Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. So, if your way works for you, great, once again, not sure what I have to do with YOU. But hey whatever blows your hair back.

well, you showed some care when you said "Sorry it takes you years". Or was that a half hearted, passive aggressive attempt at making a point?

Yes it was sarcastic just like your comment for "Librawoman77 to say she honestly knows that this is THE PERSON after the first date seems unfathomable to me. " But let's just block each other an be done with this nonsense.

Are you still with the 8 year term relationship Cap that you are not in love with?
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Right....like u with someone for 8 yrs that u dont love but know they the one on first date im confused but ok lmao
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The funny thing is ppl want to come for someone who waits years atleast they know 100 they want to be with that person. Instead of leading someone on 4 8 yrs that u dont love or care about wow. Id be so hurt someone with me for 8 yrs not in love i rather they be on fence not commit to me until they r 100 for sure. I dont care how long it takes dont commit to me until ur 100 for sure u want all of me.
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So to the Libra's - if it takes years, is that because he is working this out in his head because I don't pay much attention to him when he does that. I figure if he's going to be done with me at any point he will tell me and then I'll deal with it - I will kill him lololol (just kidding) ... no really, I would rather just let it play out as such rather than talk about what may or may not happen ... it is what it is and that's my Capricorn Moon - which keeps me stable on top of all my Taurus Sun and Taurus Rising ... it's only my Venus in Aries that let's me have fun

i blame my caution on my scorp venus. mixed with the indecision of my libra sun it is a recipe for slow motion travelling with matters of the heart.

for me, it's a matter of yes weighing up everything; who he is, the type of person i am, my feelings, the depth of those feelings, the various outcomes, all the baggage that we each bring to the table. the scorp in me wants to have a complete melding with my partner so i need to be sure before i commit.

my taurus is like you. he'd rather see how things play out rather than thinking of all the permutations. that's ok with me, i'll think about it for both of us. it's what i would have done regardless if he joined me in the pursuit or not. since making my mind up though, i've stopped weighing everything up. it doesn't matter where the chips fall, i'm with him.
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your venus is in scorpio ? wow, my man is scorpio rising so you both have that libra/scorpio combo thing going on ... so interesting ... I love how you describe your Taurus - it sounds like you and he are like me and mine - I do also know that my Taurus sun and Taurus rising and Capricorn moon all bear down on me and my need for security - mainly being secure in knowing that this relationship is going to last and that he will be there for me and that all will be well so to speak - as long as we make the commitment to work things out with our problem solving skills which we are good at *** - I like when I know things are stable and secure and in place and he has been able to allude to those things "saying he usually sticks with the mate that he's with" and I said I do too and that I'm not interested in anything else ... even though he's very cautious about putting it all out there ... me too and I can't blame him. We've both had some bad picks in the past ... it steels you he says and I agree ... makes you bitter - but then he says that seem pleasantly normal and brings up the fact that we haven't argued in the almost year we've been dating which is very nice for me too since I'm not used to that - where did this guy come from ??? ha - loving it !!!

*** - my xhusband and I were not compatible with working things ou
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your venus is in scorpio ? wow, my man is scorpio rising so you both have that libra/scorpio combo thing going on ... so interesting ... I love how you describe your Taurus - it sounds like you and he are like me and mine - I do also know that my Taurus sun and Taurus rising and Capricorn moon all bear down on me and my need for security - mainly being secure in knowing that this relationship is going to last and that he will be there for me and that all will be well so to speak - as long as we make the commitment to work things out with our problem solving skills which we are good at *** - I like when I know things are stable and secure and in place and he has been able to allude to those things "saying he usually sticks with the mate that he's with" and I said I do too and that I'm not interested in anything else ... even though he's very cautious about putting it all out there ... me too and I can't blame him. We've both had some bad picks in the past ... it steels you he says and I agree ... makes you bitter - but then he says that seem pleasantly normal and brings up the fact that we haven't argued in the almost year we've been dating which is very nice for me too since I'm not used to that - where did this guy come from ??? ha - loving it !!!

*** - my xhusband and I were not compatible with working things ou

i think that is really important. if you can work things out in a healthy, non-damaging way then most obstacles will be overcome. my bull and i fought pretty much constantly when we began. it's nice you guys don't. i think the two signs can get along like you've illustrated when we work together to tackle the problem rather than taking it out on each other.

happy to see another taurus/libra couple! together we'll stick it to the haters!
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yes for sure - sorry about the early fights but its good that you got it worked out ... it's hard for a Taurus to have arguing though especially early on - not that they bolt - they are very patient and try hard to please and allow everything around them to just gel into their world ... glad you both stuck it out ! yes, bahahahaha to the haters for sure !!!

- mine is the one that normally is most out with making the adjustments - I tend to just get confused at first and would work it out in my head later and want to come back to it and talk about it and work it out ... he tends to mirror me and has actually mentioned that he knows that about himself - he said once "when you go left I go left; when you go right I go right ... until we are both come together as one" ... awww how beautiful I thought ... and the poor thing - I had a bloody nose the other day and he was rattling off maybe it was because he did this or that and I had to say no dear don't go there - was nothing you did - I get them about once a year when it's just too dry outside ... who gets a man that always thinks things that happen are his fault and start wondering about adjustments he needs to make - omg - this man fell from the heavens right into my lap and I'm dam sure going to keep him - happy me lol

I was due an angel - just one in my lifetime and he comes now - right on time - I have been there done that my entire life and as I enter my last years of working and move on to retirement - I can't wait ... we talk about just sitting on the front porch and watching the trees sway in the wind ...

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With my Virgo, the moment I saw him.

With my sag/cap, the moment he saw me.
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My Libra co-worker definitely took his time before he finally married his wife. I think it was 6 years.
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omg 6 years, I could die by then ... lol
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and Libra said he knew straight away but I didn't - I am a Taurus and I move to my own speed ...

I don't think he tells me everything that goes on in his head - I probably don't want to go there - he weighs things out loud and I just listen ...

I'm heard what you said Jeane - that you play it out in your head even though he seems to want to just let it be what it is and let it ride out ... not sure I can believe that 100 % - Taurus like to know where they are putting their next step and that that next step is on solid ground - maybe his other planets interfering of course - how different we all are - so interesting ...
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and Libra said he knew straight away but I didn't - I am a Taurus and I move to my own speed ...

I don't think he tells me everything that goes on in his head - I probably don't want to go there - he weighs things out loud and I just listen ...

I'm heard what you said Jeane - that you play it out in your head even though he seems to want to just let it be what it is and let it ride out ... not sure I can believe that 100 % - Taurus like to know where they are putting their next step and that that next step is on solid ground - maybe his other planets interfering of course - how different we all are - so interesting ...

really glad you found a good person for you.

i didn't know straight away. it was certainly a slow burn for me but my taurus said he knew straight away.

his casual nature was some of the reason for the arguments early on. he wanted to go with the flow and i wanted to know his intentions from the outset. i think for a long time he was playing it cool, certainly not looking for a serious relationship. my vis wouldn't settle for anything less. perhaps the difference is i was logically and unemotionally going through the permutations and he was using his intuition to find his way.
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