How much is too much? Loving a Libra

New here and need a little advice. I'm a Gemini female and the guy who I am currently interested in is a Libra. We just met each other through a dating site earlier this month, texted for awhile, and hung out twice for a short time. We have both been really busy so we haven't really had time to really get together and spend a lot of time getting to know each other. But from what has happened so far he seems quite into me and I'm definitely into me. I'm trying not to fall head over heels for his charm but he really has me starry eyed and excited about where this could lead. Last time we texted he was going on and on about things he can't wait to do with me.??

Anyway, we both left town for the holidays and the last time I saw him, as I was leaving, he was quick to say that he will see me after the holidays. ??So fast forward about a week, I haven't contacted him since I didn't want to bother him while he was spending time with his family, plus I was busy too. But yesterday I thought about him because I saw he was online on the dating site we met on, so I sent him a text and am still waiting for him to reply. Which makes my Gemini need for communication a little antsy because he hasn't said anything back yet, and i know how Libra's can disappear, but I'm trying to be patent. Especially since he's been a little weird about texting before. The first time we hung out he didn't contact me at all for days afterwards, then the following weekend he finally ended up telling me how much fun he had, and begging me to come see him.

I guess my question here is, since I'm not use to dealing with Libras at all, is how much is too much? I'm very outspoken and when I really like someone I want them to know it and I get very affectionate, very fast. He seems like the lovey type but I'm worried about scarring him away. Plus I've always heard not to chase Libras, yet they usually don't make the first move, so I'm confused as to how this should be approached.??
I'm very independent, but when I really like someone I do go after them, out of fear something amazing might slip away from me. Should I start telling him how I feel when we start talking again? Not in a serious sit down talk kind of way, but light hearted and playful way. Or should I still lay low? If he doesn't reply back to me today, how long should I wait this out before trying to get in touch with him again?

That's what I thought, it seemed odd that he could be on that site but not text me back. Yet at the same time, I guess I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because other than this, his actions have been pretty in line with what he has said. The day he was telling me how much he had fun, he was texting me non stop all day and we ended up hanging out the next morning before he left town. During all of that he didn't seem lukewarm, but I donno, this not texting back thing is making me feel uneasy now.

General rule of thumb, Libras are flaky.

Two, if he's into you A LOT, he'll be in touch with you more consistently and frequently and not mind you much.

If he begins to come across hot/cold, he's not THAT into you and/or is just seeing the scenario as a friend zone.

Remember, they're all talk, and little action if they aren't that into you. Regardless, they talk big and the follow up is questionable. When they meet an interest, they talk a lot of plans/scenarios in the near future because they're just so excited about meeting a new potential "life mate" if you will. Libras love the idea of love, so when presented with a new prospect for this, they jump in, like a little kid getting that new toy for Christmas. Something new, exciting, and shiny! Hell yes!

However, whether this stays consistent is a 50/50 shot. If something about you doesn't burst their little ideal bubble, things should be fine. But if you're human and something you do or something about you bursts that bubble, cue them getting sick of that new toy from Christmas and tossing it into the toy bin to be forgotten.

They're notorious for this and it can be maddening to deal with when dating one.

All I can say is do your best to play it cool and READ HIM. Read his responses and base your reactions like that. They can become so finicky at the drop of a hat over the situation that you just gotta learn to pay attention.

From what you've said, it sounds like he's so so about you. Has SOME interest, but maybe not to pursue this enough as if it had full potential for a relationship.

Example- I have a current semi Libra interest at the moment. I've kept my cool and just let things go with the flow. I show interest, but I haven't gone all full blown on the guy because I'm leaving it up to him to figure out wtf he wants. So far, he's been a lot of talk, no action. Which is fine. I haven't invested myself in him all that much. Not til he backs up those words with actions. To be honest, it's been pretty nice not being at the mercy of these guys' whims. We keep in touch, have good convo, and talk of things we should do soon, but his follow up hasn't happened. So until he makes up his mind when he wants to do all of these things, I'm off doing my thing and open to the idea when he decides to follow through.

You should try to do something similar. It seems that when you don't fawn all over these guys, they want you more/try harder.

Thanks guys, your imput is really helpful. I'm just going to wait it out and see where things go, I'm almost certain he will show up again eventually, even if it isn't within the next day or so. It's funny because I actually have been taking the approach of showing some interest but still carrying on with life, because I can be quite flighty too and when I'm not getting enough attention I start to get bored. I think I just got a bit panicked when I saw that he was online yet not texting me back. Which led me to start thinking "oh crap, maybe I haven't shown enough interest, maybe I should have said something after we hung out rather than disappearing myself".
So I'll just play it cool and and let him figure things out, because I know what I want.

Still no word from him, he probably forgot that I even texted him. I'm giving him until the end of the weekend to reply, then should I try to contact him one more time or just forget about it?

I was going to wish him a happy new year, but that probably isn't the best idea.

Go ahead and wish him a Happy New Year...there is no harm in that. He will know you are thinking of him at least.

Actually not long after I posted this he texted me, haha. Apparently he's still out of town and was sorry for not being in touch. I guess from here on out I'll know to just be patient with him, if he suddenly disappears again.

Patience is what I am learning with my Libra. It is hard but I am learning worth it sometimes. Still feel some days that I am not getting what I deserve from him but again...hoping good things come to those who wait. :-)

Thanks Tiziani, that actually does make sense and I will definitely follow your advice. It's kind of like the more you give the more you receive, the more time he puts into actually seeing me and hanging out with me, the more he gets to know and enjoy me. Rather than just revealing and tossing everything out there over texts,
Since I first posted this, I've been leaving it up to him to contact me first, and he has been almost daily. The other day he wanted me to come visit him, but it was late and really cold out so I didn't want to walk all the way to his house and then back again, and he was so down about it. Then The following day, he was supposed to go to an event so I wasn't expecting to hear from him. But apparently he either didn't go at all, or only stayed for a short while, because he started texting me again that evening, trying to get me to come hang out with him (which I did and we had a nice time together). Since I've backed off some, he has definitely been doing the chasing it seems.