How to cheer up/surprise a Libra?

A recent post here got me thinking. How do you make a Libra smile or cheer them up when in their funk? Do you just have to let them be or is there a way to bring them out of it?

Mine has been down last few days (I know because he has gone incognito) and I was thinking of trying to do something to let him know I am thinking of him and to make him smile. Nothing direct, just a surprise note or gift at his house. Something that will make him think.

Any ideas or thoughts?

Thanks!!

Offer sex.

*sex coupon.

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i was going to say fireworks while they're sleeping

I am planning on making him a pan of lasagna and bringing it to his house with a smiley card or balloon, maybe with a note to make him smile or laugh.

I don't expect a response from him, just to let him know I'm thinking of him although he probably already knows that.

I feel like part of his silence is my fault. Earlier last week he had thanked me for being so patient with him and had apologized for being distant lately. I in turn did something stupid..threw some emotions on top of it. Weren't bad ones but probably bad timing. I am sure he was already dealing with something and me adding to it just made thing worse. Just want to make amends and make him smile or laugh about it and get past it.

Stupid Scorpio emotions!

actually sex coupon is a great answer ! or something related to one of his hobbies

Posted by tiziani
Haha i wouldn't play the sex card. It has as much change of turning them even colder as it does snapping them out of it. It's russian roulette.

Just give him a gift that you know he likes. He must have told you a few things he like more than even himself. Rent a favourite film or something? As long as it is given in a way where it's obvious that nothing is wanted back/no strings attached he'll be glad for the company.

Cooking my favourite meal always used to get me.

This is why I said sex coupon.

You're too serious.

Posted by libragemmale
actually sex coupon is a great answer ! or something related to one of his hobbies

I totally read this as "sex coupon is a good idea, it's related to one of his hobbies." :s

Hahaha Rocky , but not all Libra men are sex freaks. alot of that depends on his Mars,Venus and Moon too

Posted by leoliza
after rereading your original post..you got it all wrong "something that will make him think." he's already overthinking, he wants something that will make him feel, not think...take his mind off of it.

I don't want him to think about all he is going through or what I did. I just want him to relax and have some peace..maybe a laugh or two. I did take him some dinner...he was not home..which I did not expect him to be and I left him the food at his door. My thought is he can relax and not have to worry about cooking dinner tonight for himself.

I am not expecting anything from him. Just letting him know I was trying to cheer him up. If he doesn't contact me I am fine with that. I don't know why he is being quiet..whether me or something else and that bothers me. As I have learned (yes...you Leebs have taught me something!) I just need to let him be...which I intend to do.

Just hope my actions weren't overstepping any boundaries. 😢 Still confused a bit in that area with him.

Sex is not an option as we are not talking right now and I am not able to just show up naked...but have thought about it :-)

Now I'm feeling bad because I probably messed things up further. As they say..road to hell paved with good intentions.

I feel I'm learning so much from your posts Aramei 🙂 I'm having a "thing" with a scorp and like to read your posts to see how "the other half" thinks

I'm in a funk/being distant right now (great 3 days with my scorp-was confused about not wanting to scurry back home as I thought I would-actually enjoyed spending time with him and may be falling HARD eek -need quiet time to process)
He emailed me (didn't msg or anything- email) pics of our weekend together. Just that. No words. No expectations.
This reminded me that he's awesome. I won't call him, I'm not ready yet but I'm thinking about him as less of an emotional burden. And that is a VERY good thing to me. Your thoughtful gift was perfect(with no expectations-thats KEY)

Don't doubt yourself

BUT
Don't allow him to be a brat too much. I distance myself only when things are really hectic in my life OR when some kind of emotional line was crossed. (First time sleeping together, first time we exchange gifts etc)
Ive been in relationships with Leebs as well as being double sign myself. We will bully you if we can get away with it. Cardinal sign. Don't let us get away with it if you think its bullbutter.

Posted by libragemmale
Hahaha Rocky , but not all Libra men are sex freaks. alot of that depends on his Mars,Venus and Moon too

Haha, I know. I was just basing it on the fact that he's male, tbh.

"How do I cheer my boyfriend up?"

Sex!

Posted by tiziani
I'm just calling it how I see it. I don't expect I have all the best advice. I've had an ex that used to resort to pushing the sex button whenever things were a little distant.

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Oh good lord with all the serious shit. I wasn't entirely all that serious when I said sex. You and Leoliza need to chill out.

Thats ok rocky...I never take your posts seriously. :-)

My all out nurturing, wanting to show you I care nature sometimes comes across as needy and clingy and that is TOTALLY not how I am. I like my space too. I am just always thinking about the person I like in my free time. Just like the quote says. "If you want to know where your dreams lie, look at where your mind wanders" or something like that.

I just like to let people know that I care and am thinking of them. It can get overwhelming to others I know.

Thank you for the kind encouragement tiz and Del. I just hope I didn't force him to back off more.

He sent me a text this morning thanking me for the surprise.. Also said he doesn't know why i put up with him and his behavior.

Posted by Aramei
Thats ok rocky...I never take your posts seriously. :-)

This is a compliment and a burn at the same time!

Posted by LIBRA1234
Aramei, I think at the end of the day you need to think very carefully what you deserve and if this man has a potential to give you what you want. It is not about him anymore, it is about u and if this man is currently making you more unhappy then happy. U need to find your tolerance level, remove the pink shades and see the truth beneath all those feelings you have built up. I have seen many couples where the woman is always hoping that her man will treat her better one day and I saw women who were constantly finding excuses for their men not being good to them. The most common excuse is: he is stressed right now or he doesn't feel good, he needs space"etc, etc. In most cases i have seen it never gets better. If your gut is telling you that something is wrong with that guy, most likely something is wrong. In some cases though, I have seen improvement but after a lot of tears, struggle and patience. Since it is very hard for you to find out what is really going on in his head and why is he acting like this, the best thing is to re-evaluate your relationship and see if being committed to him is worth it. Best luck to you and btw this kind of behavior is not related to libra at all, I have seen it in all other astrological signs...

You are right. Just last night he was asking me why I still choose to hang around him. He knows and sees the kind hearted, loving woman I am and said he knows I deserve better. Also said he has been unreliable and self centered with me. Also said that he is "a mess, lost, not who he used to be. Wants to find that guy again" Kind of makes me sad because I did see a glimpse of that guy when we first started dating and now don't know where he went either. I miss him and think that is why I have been so patient with him. Maybe I'm just feeling down again because I am confused. He also said he has been trying to desperately get past a hurt, feels guilty about something. Wouldn't tell me because said hard to explain thru texting. I am feeling he is either not ready for a relationship with me..even though he was the one who reinitiated it or just letting me down in an easy way.

Still willing to wait around for him if that is what he wants...I have nothing better to do..LOL and truthfully not interested in looking for anyone else right now. Just living my life and taking care of me.

How do you make them laugh at themselves?

I get what you are saying. Not sure if this is what I should do but I did send him a text earlier today to try to wake him up and see what a downer he is about his questioning why I want to be around him.