How to win a Libras heart BACK
This topic was created in the Libra forum by Capwiththean on Thursday, October 8, 2015 and has 11 replies.
I'm dating a libra woman, and things have been pretty rough for us, particularly this past month, we've agreed that we do want to continue this relationship, but she's still a bit aloof, I'm guessing because of all the bad that's been said and done between the 2 of us these past few months. But my question is, what do I do to make things better? Do I remain persistent in calling/texting/seeing her/expressing my love for her, or do I step back a bit and maybe go at her pace, allow her to initiate more of the communication between the 2 of us? As a Capricorn I'm not very in touch with emotions so I'm always confused as to whether I should show more, or show less, I'd hate to annoy and make her retreat. Help me please libra women...
don't pull back. just keep doing what you are doing but give her time to come round again. she might be feeling a little apprehensive from the last episode.
Ok thank you.
My advice would be to sit your Libra down in a calm setting and ask her straight out what you can do to help get the relationship bond back on track. Tell her you care about her deeply and you want to make sure she feels comfortable in the relationship telling you anything, good or bad.
My biggest fear in love relationships is when a guy does something to hurt me, or show signs that he possibly can’t be trusted with my heart, but unfortunately my feelings are already vested and I’d be fooling myself trying to ignore him completely, I normally began to hide myself behind a nonchalant cool and yes “aloof†demeanor, seeming as though I don’t notice or see anything, my objective is to come off hard so I don’t get hurt. I secretly want to let my feelings for him run their course so I can walk away knowing I’ve gotten him completely out of my system.
I don’t like to be viewed as soft or too “open†especially not more than my partner. So if I pour out my heart, and he doesn’t or he doesn’t seem as emotionally vested into the relationship, my objective becomes I must get on even emotional ground. I don’t want to like him more than he likes me and I will fight it at all cost. Even if it means disappearing for a few days to get used to the idea of him not being around. I find I’m more at peace with a partner I consider to also be a friend a “real†friend. If we haven’t established that friendship bond then chances are he wont see all sides of me until we do, because I’m most comfortable in friendships, more so than I am in a relationship. Bad but true.
My friends get to see all sides of me, emotional sides, bossy sides, moody side, spoiled side, nice side, sentimental side, silly side, sweet side, and down-right bitch mode (Rare-but does happen). They get to see it because I don’t feel pressure with my friends. They will be my friends regardless because they don’t have to deal with me every day, my love interest does which is why my guard goes up the minute I catch feelings. My ideal guy is a guy that can see all sides and not judge but love me the same. His objective should be to get me to that comfortable space, the way guys in the past have done it is they never left my side no matter how spoiled, moody, or emotional I was. I could cry in their lap and they’d still view me as a strong independent woman with class, that just had an emotional moment. They have proven they wont take my weakness and use it against me. Try this with your libra.
My biggest fear in love relationships is when a guy does something to hurt me, or show signs that he possibly can’t be trusted with my heart, but unfortunately my feelings are already vested and I’d be fooling myself trying to ignore him completely, I normally began to hide myself behind a nonchalant cool and yes “aloof†demeanor, seeming as though I don’t notice or see anything, my objective is to come off hard so I don’t get hurt. I secretly want to let my feelings for him run their course so I can walk away knowing I’ve gotten him completely out of my system.
I don’t like to be viewed as soft or too “open†especially not more than my partner. So if I pour out my heart, and he doesn’t or he doesn’t seem as emotionally vested into the relationship, my objective becomes I must get on even emotional ground. I don’t want to like him more than he likes me and I will fight it at all cost. Even if it means disappearing for a few days to get used to the idea of him not being around. I find I’m more at peace with a partner I consider to also be a friend a “real†friend. If we haven’t established that friendship bond then chances are he wont see all sides of me until we do, because I’m most comfortable in friendships, more so than I am in a relationship. Bad but true.
My friends get to see all sides of me, emotional sides, bossy sides, moody side, spoiled side, nice side, sentimental side, silly side, sweet side, and down-right bitch mode (Rare-but does happen). They get to see it because I don’t feel pressure with my friends. They will be my friends regardless because they don’t have to deal with me every day, my love interest does which is why my guard goes up the minute I catch feelings. My ideal guy is a guy that can see all sides and not judge but love me the same. His objective should be to get me to that comfortable space, the way guys in the past have done it is they never left my side no matter how spoiled, moody, or emotional I was. I could cry in their lap and they’d still view me as a strong independent woman with class, that just had an emotional moment. They have proven they wont take my weakness and use it against me. Try this with your libra.
When they are nonchalant and aloof is mainly for the following reasons
1. They afraid of being hurt
2. They don’t feel the relationship is equally balanced (they feel more vested than you)
3. They no like you and don’t know how to tell you (they’re sort of hoping you’ll take a hint)
4. They are weighing the pros and cons of staying with you (this is normally when the disappearing-reappearing acts happen)
1. They afraid of being hurt
2. They don’t feel the relationship is equally balanced (they feel more vested than you)
3. They no like you and don’t know how to tell you (they’re sort of hoping you’ll take a hint)
4. They are weighing the pros and cons of staying with you (this is normally when the disappearing-reappearing acts happen)
Lyse - you are actually spot on with both of your comment posts... that's exactly how I am.
Posted by bellelibra
Lyse - you are actually spot on with both of your comment posts... that's exactly how I am.
Me too lol
Posted by LysePosted by bellelibra
Lyse - you are actually spot on with both of your comment posts... that's exactly how I am.
Me too lolclick to expand
haha! Sometimes being a libra is a right pain in the ass!! We're so complex!! God love us!
Listen to Lyse and Sugarfoot, they know what they are talking about!
I started a thread in the Pisces forum yesterday, but now that I've read this thread -- this is just so me! and I can relate so much to what Lyse said at this moment. There is love, but can't help to weigh the pros and cons. Somehow, the head rules us even to great agony and emotional pain. From my experience, I would stick to the summary of my rational pros vs cons evaluation... at the same time agonizing over the lost/going to lose love
These Libra ladies are on point! I agree completely. DO NOT PULL BACK. It's sooooooo hard dealing with a cap man, I've been there. She's scared to open up to you. It's like she can't relax...we can't really read caps. Give her time, she'll come around. Personally, I fought long and hard with my cap man. But honestly, our best communication/connection was in person. He could melt me and just make me love him in person, he was attentive and showed me his softer side. The problem was when we weren't face to face, he was cold, aloof, insensitive and sometimes just plain mean. Oh wait, I'm not supposed to be bashing caps...you guys are good people though. Don't give up on her, when Libras love you, it's complete. You are our #1 priority and we cherish you. Give her time, but don't pull back. She'll think you gave up.
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