Humiliation.

Yup..its what im feeling right now. Yesterday I said if he was feeling better he could call me because i was gong out and we could have met up at some point but he told me he was staying at home because he wasnt fully recovered from his "man-flu". Fair enough of course, i?d been in touch during the week with a couple of messages just asking how he was keeping etc. Anyway today i told him i was just havoing a night at home and he could come round if he wanted. He said no again because he?s preparing for going away to work in the morning (he works in a city a few hours from here Monday to Friday).

Anyways, he was the one who got back in touch with me, and now he?s gone cold. I dont get it. Im confused and humiliated. I dont contact him because im bored..i have a full-time job and a good social life. He knows i struggle here though at times so why is adding more crap to it?? Its such a shame because i really like him (i mean he is easy company and thats rare to find). God,i give up totally. It?s just like last time so i dont even know why im surprised?? 😢

Sola is angry!

I understand how you feel..Same crap is happening to me..He contacts me, then when I contact him to hang out he's too busy to do so..Tells me how we should get together and all this other stuff, then never follows up..He just popped online too, I was hopin he would IM me even just to say hello, but nope..Was on for ten minutes, then got off..And I refuse to say anything more to him from this point on..All I feel is embarrassment when I make a move and he rejects me..I'm crazy about him..He's on my mind all the time too 😢 I thought by leaving my old job where I met him would help me get over him, but it only made it worse...The distance is killing me..Obviously he doesn't really care..

OMG..its the exact same thing here. I dont need this kind of stress, really i dont. I was happy to spend some time together, im not asking for a 24/7 man in my life, but for christ sake make up your mind man!! Im not even going to ask him anything else again..twice is too often to be rejected, epecially when he made such an effort to see me again after 6 months. Well whatever, its over for me. I dont have enough energy for these games, they make me mentally ill, and thats never a good thing.

Whats it all about? Ungrateful prick.

Let?s bear this in mind (courtesy of Penny Thornton)


Your imagination is in danger of running away with you so before you act on the spur of an emotional moment, gain some distance and perspective. Part of the problem may be that you have not heard from someone for a while, therefore you are assuming that the relationship has cooled but it is more likely that circumstances in another person's life are responsible for any lack of contact, and the situation will be remedied shortly. Whatever is simply not adding up at the moment should be left alone: this is not an astrological climate in which truth can be established quickly and easily. By contrast, if you are ready to tell someone how much you love him or her, don't hold back.

Misty moments.

Yeah, he and I been FWB's since late last year after he broke up with an ex..He's not ready for a new relationship, but jesus man- cut me a break and stop messing with my head. He knows how I feel for him..It just hurts to know that I sit here thinking of him and wishing we were together, and I know he isn't really thinking of me, cuz he would have called me and wanted to spend some kind of time with me. So that hurts..I wish I wasn't so stupid and I could just push him to the side..But my feelings are too strong for him to do that at this moment..All I can do is wait, or hope that someone else comes along..I too have so much stress from work right now in my life and hate the fact that I have added stress from him..It would just really put a smile onmy face if he would make some kind of effort to acknowledge my existance..I like what you put about Penny, I read her site alot..But I can't express exactly how I feel to him, I will scare him off. Truth is, I want nothing more then to be with him and would give anything for a chance with him..But all heknows is that "I like him"..But using the term "like" can mean I like a few people the same..But in reality, I don't..If I told him how I really felt, I'm afraid that would be it for us..Plus I can't exactly do that over the phone or in writing. It would have to be said in person. How can I do that if he doesn't freakin call? It just SUCKS it realy does..

CA, he isn't ready for anything more. You telling him that you want more will only hurt you more.

CA listen to QS..she is right...I have been and must admit I am still kind of there with my Libra....I haven't seen him for 4 months (we broke up badly)...we communicate if I make the effort but have decided not to do so anymore.....dont put yourself through this - it won't change unless HE wants it to and if/when he does? HE will come looking for YOU.

The more you sit around pining for him, the less likely it is he will return...he knows what you're going through (they are intuitive) and that is why he is keeping his distance...its for the best because he is not mature enough to have a full on r/ship. Treat it as just that, a FWB situation that turned into one falling for the other.....SOMEBODY ALWAYS gets hurt and to be honest? I dont think many women are cut out to have meaningless sex with somebody for longer than a few months...when it goes to a year? its a r/ship damnit. Yes Librans know how to make you feel special and you probably are special to him but not in that way. THAT is what makes it so hard for us who fall for them...it feels like they love us back when in fact they could be loving several women back at the same time.

Cut your losses and keep busy...tis hard I know...trust me, I know!!

Humiliation............that word was what made me read this thread, I feel humiliated whenever I'm around him, because I take what he says to be fact..... When he says he has feelings for me, but he's trying to keep them hidden, when I tell him
that I understand that we'll never be more than friends & he says ......you never know whats gonna happen in the future, I do have feelings for you & I think your the perfect person for me but I'm not ready, In my Taurus mind I think .......he scared but he has no reason to be scared of me, as with any Taurus, I'm loyal! I would love him with every fiber of my being! but he won't let me. I feel humiliated when he tells me these things & I put myself out there & reveal my feelings for him over & over again & it's ever so delicately NOT reciprocated! I don't think at least for me, it's ever easy to be completely open, raw & vulnerable. I am with him but he lets me down gently evert time & I'm sure its because he doesn't want to hurt me but one thing I'd like him to know is this.........I can handle honesty, even though it may not be what I had hoped for I can handle that & move on. What I have a hard time handling is a maybe, is someone who leaves me hanging by a thread, someone who, after I acknowledge what he , I assume, already knows leaves me hoping for more. NO I can't handle that! I understand Libras love on many levels BUT if that Libra knows that someone loves him on a very deep level, wouldn't it be FAIR to make certain that the "in love" person knew there was no chance?

Im libra and obsessed with fairness, thats why i find understanding this one so difficult. Its against all of my ideas, or maybe im just super sensitive?? It really bothers me when somebody gets back on my case after 6 months of my life have passed, thinking they can just come and go as they please. Well no actually...i dont care how much i feel for you, i wont be disrespected by anybody. We have to be strong laydeez..no more contact, yay!!! Lets make them do the chasing from now on..stick together on this one! He?s gone until Friday so i will make plans as though he was never around in the first place..he can find his amusement somewhere else.

wooohoooo you go girl!!!

CT...I can only say it again....let him go (mine said all that stuff too...the "lets see how we go" rather than goodbye, good luck...I still dont see where we're going LOL, the "you never know whats going to happen in the future", the "it'll be interesting to see where we both are in a year", yada yada yada)...let it go...if he wants you, he'll come and get you, you may though, be quite busy with a new guy by then...his bad luck!!

🙂

It doesn't matter if he likes you a little, he likes you a lot, or he loves you and tells you he loves you. This kind of behavior makes absolutely no sense and is cruel and rude. And I've been going thru the same crap from a Libra that insists he loves me but yet doesn't want to spend time with me or communicate.

I tried giving him back the same behavior and the only thing that accomplished was more alienation between us. Yet when I try to end it with him he pleads with me that isn't what he wants (obviously he doesn't know what he wants)

Every time I make a suggestion of things we can do to be together he can't do it due to his BUSY schedule.But when he wants to see me on HIS time schedule (weeks have passed) I'm supposed to be available. I stopped being so available and no big deal I guess.

Now after distancing MYSELF from him he claims we would be seeing each other more regularly in the new year and in fact he'd make plans for the next few days we would do things together. I've not heard from him since Thursday. (#@*^% ##)

I refuse to make any further contact with him. I'm with you Lola, it's humiliating, degrading, insulting, and cruel. I've been patient and tolerant through all the BS excuses he can come up with in the past but what makes absolutely no sense at all is he is the one who came looking for me and keeps saying he wants the relationship.

I took him at his word until he proved to me time and again his words are meaningless. Which means probably everything else he says is just BS as well. I don't get it at all.

Why show intense interest and then vanish? Why is it soooo hard to make the effort on their part? I lead a busy life too that would choke most people but I can always find time for someone I love. But here I am continuing to vent about it and saying I'm over it but clearly ...I'm still pissed off. There is nothing worse then being a low priority except.........NO priority! OUCH!!

I don't know whats wrong with these guys...Maybe they need their egos boosted once in awhile so they contact us again...I'm going through the same thing too...you want to tell them to get lost but once you start talking to them your heart melts again...I guess we have to look at it from a different point of view, if they loved us or liked us alot they would want to spend time with us, without the games...So I for one am moving on because I deserve better than this..And if we continue to let them treat us this way they will think that there is something wrong with us, because really why would we want anybody that treats us in this manner...

Ladies!!!! We have to keep it all in prospective. Librans are logical rather than emotional (and yes scorps bring out major emotions in them) however, when they say they aren't ready or any of the other future possibility crap. It means they are not ready or do not want a relationship with you right now. Not a commited one anyway. WHEN A LIBRA WANTS YOU IN HIS LIFE ON THAT LEVEL. HE WILL VERBALIZE IT AND BACK IT UP WITH ACTIONS. Trust me. I have been in three relationships with them, including a marriage. A couple other involvements with librans as well. So there is a precise difference.

So ladies, if you can't game with them. Leave 'em. If you can game with them and only if you don't want more than it can be fun, until feelings get involved and beleive me, it can be his feelings not yours as well. I have been on that side too.

Your choice. It is hard because they are wonderful in general, but it is what it is.

Of course girls, its so hard. I was thinking of tactics: next time he gets in touch, its going to take all of my strength to say no, and see if that makes it better, i know i?m like that!! "TREAT THEM MEAN, KEEP THEM KEEN" i?m putting it to the test. I agree with ToJ bout the vanishing act..whatever.

Damnit!

Thelibran or Nic need to get in on this convo.

These are all things we who have dealt with libra's have experienced. As I read all of your feelings and stories, I say to myself.. "yup, yup... yup" I can identify with all the feelings in this thread so that tells me this is typical libra traits. Like QS said, it's mental sparing for these guys, and if your up for the challenge you may win, if your not you will argue and lose.

Always be; interesting, fun, happy yet firm and short on time.. they love the chase.

"Always be; interesting, fun, happy yet firm and short on time.. they love the chase".

Nah, im bored already..why waste time—

I dunno.. I'm an aqua and we LURVE mental sparing with libra's. It's a "challonge".. and we never back down from a challenge, I guess that's why we are such good matches. Typically, libra will get tired and give in. Aquas are patient, determined lil buggers.. lemme tell ya.

If you can let go easily, then maybe you should. Most people can't for one reason or another.

From personal experience, if they want you or think you are the right person for them, they won't let you get away. Once they realize you don't think they take you serious. They prove it. Because they are so laid back about things, you might not believe them initially, but WHEN THEY WANT YOU. They make it clear. No need for any games.

Sorry girls...

Queensscorp- hey u said earlier that they come back? or was that someone else? well point is, i kinda ended it with my libra through email. he gave me yet, another run around as to why he couldn't see me this weekend, that's a month already. so i sent an email (since ya know- has no "time" to see me) and i told him how i felt. i told him how he confuses me, and how i cant go on like this. i told him that maybe someday if he wants to get to know me as a person and a friend to call me. i left it on him to either write me back or just stay quiet cuz i did drop a bomb on him. i had to say this stuff cuz he's just makin up excuses now as to why he can't see me. he'd rather be off with his friends having a good time i guess. everytime i confront him about issues, he has this way of weaseling out of the situation and making himself look all cute and stuff. then i forget it. but i can't this time. i just wish i knew why he kept telling me to give him time and we should definitly get together soon and all this other crap if all he does is see me on his own time. but make me feel so special when i do see him. this is the first time im actually puting my foot down and cutting him off. i know i did the "right" thing, but im just gonan miss him too damn much. it really hurts. so after i say all that to him, do you think he will eventually contact me again and wish to see me at some point? i know the decison on actually seeing him is mine. but do u think he will initially contact me first after all this?

Well, well, well..what do you know!!! He sent a message last night..full of lovely words..but that?s the problem. sweet NOTHINGS!!! Ha, he told me he was in his hotel room feeling a bit bored..ok, so thats what you?re keeping me around for—Whatever, he can keep trying. I?m working with the Guardia Civil right now, classes full of hotties so he better be quick!!

LatinIndia, nah, im not a hottie, just normal, hehehe!

We are cold when we know its gonna be big. Am cold with all the libra girls i hv met. I am scared infact. Bcoz if i put some effort and it start rolling and if she end up rejecting me after few weeks, Its gonna be more painful. So i force myself to remain cold.

Yes CasperAries, he WILL pop back up again. BUT.......only when you don't think he will. Libras know when their pushing the envelope and come back around just when you're making mental notes to dismiss them for good. Then they heap piles of Libra charm on you (dang, they're good with that too) and the next thing you know.......YOU are back where you started. Wondering where he disappeared to again and when's he coming back??

Ok that's good to know..I just don't want this to be the end ya know? I want to be able to talk to him again about this. But I can't force him to talk to me right now. But the moment he tries to again, I'm going to bring it up. Hey do you guys believe in those tarot card readers? Weird story but I went to see one the last week of December 07, and I heard good things about her. She literally had a line of people waiting to get thier cards read. So anyway I called her cuz someone passed me her number and we met up where she does the readings. Anyway she seemed to be right about alot of stuff. She said to me that within the next two weeks I'd be starting a new career. Funny cuz I actually did within two weeks. Only thing she said about it that was false was that I would be making alot of money soon, but with the job I got it's goign to take atleast a year to make good money in it. So that wasn't all true unless she meant by the end of the year. She didn't clarify. Anyway she kept reading and she said to me "you seem to be focusing all ur energy ona man". wasn't that the truth! lol she also said that I was royally f**ed with him. Just like that she said it. I said WHAT?! I told her he was a libra and that I am an aries. she said according to the cards, unfortunatly this man is going to be playing the same game with u for thenext year and your too sexually attracted to him that you cannot let go. therefor i will get nothing but heartache from him the entire year to come. that really scared me. i mean i dont want to feel this way for another year. its torture! but with you guys telling me that libras will always come back, i'm starting to believe that what she said is 100% true. she said also from personal experience, she is an aries and was involved with a libra the way i am for 8 years! except there were times when things were going great, then times where she felt liek crap liek i do right now. she said it will go on and on until i let it go, or unless eventually he will be willing to comitt. or ofcourse if he meets a new girl that he falls in love with. im actually going back to her on saturday night, i called to ask for a private reading because after i sent the guy the email saying i can't do this anymore with u, i have a feeling i may have changed my situation with him. i didnt tell her that, i just said can i have a new reading cuz i did somethin that i feel may change a situation with a man i want to be with.

your only supposed to get readings every 6 months, not every month lol. but she said she would do it again if i feel i have changed something. keep in mind she has so many customers, she wont remember me. and i dont think she is BSing me. she was right about my career change. even to the point of WHEN it would happen. so do any of you guys believe this stuff? ever have any experiences where you went and it came out to be true? i also went to another one back in march 07 and this one told me that i would get an opportunity with this man in september 07. my mind was blown when i found out he broke up withhis girl in -September. and did i get my opportunity? hell yes i did. i jumped on that ASAP lol.
ok lemme shut up now lol. any stories from anyone?

Some of the tarot readers are genuine. I dabble in tarot myself but find, however, that the more personally I know somebody, obviously, the better the reading goes. There are also some....tendencies in the cards. Qualities that can be applied to everybody, for example your relationship and the qualities around it. Think about it, she could easily say that to 15 customers and everybody would feel she was speaking their own personal truth.

The career tracking, however, sounds credible.

I've been to see a tarot reader and it was a totally waste of money. She said I was with my soul mate and would have a baby by the end of the year, we didn't even make it to October, lol. I just stick to reading my own, I'm pretty accurate on myself.

once, I gave a reading to my friend and the cards over and over kept saying that her and her boyfriend at the time would come into the public, generate some type of fame. we were baffled, it was so strange. We couldn't imagine anyway that this would happen. But sure enough, a few months later they had a very PUBLIC breakup. Everybody far and wide heard the ripples of their drama. It was intense, and odd how right the cards were. It was just a interpretation of "fame."

"but do u think he will initially contact me first after all this?"

It depends on how much he liked you. If he really liked you (even if he didn't want a relationship at the time) yes, I do believe he will contact you at some point, probably when you least expect it. Don't hold your breathe though. It could take awhile.

thelibran..."We are cold when we know its gonna be big. Am cold with all the libra girls i hv met. I am scared infact. Bcoz if i put some effort and it start rolling and if she end up rejecting me after few weeks, Its gonna be more painful. So i force myself to remain cold"

🙂 Its always good to have the libra male perspective. You are so much like my libra its scary sometimes..

::sings::


Same 'ole storyyyyyyy

But it's newwwww to meeeeeee....

that's billie holiday, sols. i forget how young you are. older than me, but young nonetheless.