I am a taurus woman

This topic was created in the Taurus and Libra Compatibility forum by Lulu771 on Monday, September 7, 2015 and has 13 replies.
Hi, i met this libra guy. I like him a lot... Natually i had a bit of a problem with both of his indecisiveness coz i am naturally impatient... Long story short, he always said i am
Amazing and he likes me a lot and so on... a few months back he said he wants to be only sex friends... Well
We tried for a while then he admitted that i stressed him so he gt scared... So we were back together again... Then due to my personal problems i was too stressed and overwhelmed with all what was going on ( and i am a person who can take A LOT), i guess i stressed him
Again, so he backed off... I am a more stable and loyal and dedicated and committed person so it pisses me
Off every time he sayf he only wants to be sex friends( movie watching and sometimes eating and talking)... So now i told him i dont want that any more...

Please tell me two things
1. What exactly it means when a libra man says he wants only sex friendship (movie+eating/chatting)? All the classic relationship literature says "when a man says he only wants sex, it means he only wants sex". Is that the case here?
2. Shall i approach him again after disappearing for some time?
Posted by Lulu771
Hi, i met this libra guy. I like him a lot... Natually i had a bit of a problem with both of his indecisiveness coz i am naturally impatient... Long story short, he always said i am
Amazing and he likes me a lot and so on... a few months back he said he wants to be only sex friends... Well
We tried for a while then he admitted that i stressed him so he gt scared... So we were back together again... Then due to my personal problems i was too stressed and overwhelmed with all what was going on ( and i am a person who can take A LOT), i guess i stressed him
Again, so he backed off... I am a more stable and loyal and dedicated and committed person so it pisses me
Off every time he sayf he only wants to be sex friends( movie watching and sometimes eating and talking)... So now i told him i dont want that any more...

Please tell me two things
1. What exactly it means when a libra man says he wants only sex friendship (movie+eating/chatting)? All the classic relationship literature says "when a man says he only wants sex, it means he only wants sex". Is that the case here?
2. Shall i approach him again after disappearing for some time?

Well, for starters, if you want to be with a Libra, being indecisive is apart of their make-up..lol, and being impatient sure won't help...hint: indecisiveness. It kinda goes together, but if he says he only wants a friends with benefits relationship, THEN THAT'S WHAT HE REALLY MEANS for now anyway. Can it develop into more..probably not. Can you have a special relationship for life...probably can, but almost never anything more than that. Taurus and Libra see love and commitment the same way, so it's either all in from the very beginning or not. Well, at least for Libra females. We're not much on casual relationships because there's always so much emotion involved. Can Air signs have casual relationships, of course, but they prefer solid foundations as to not waste anyone's time. I think it will be okay to approach him again, but he's probably made up his mind about his stance.
How old are you guys?
Thanks for the answers.
We are both 32. We have met last year june and have been exlucsive, whether as sex friends or during dating.... What i dont understand is if he made up his mind that he doesnt wanna be with me ( though as i wrote he said that a fee months back then came and admitted that i stressed him so he got scared... And wanted to try again...) then why wasting time on being sex friends with me? Why not moving on? And we didnt fight or anything so there has never been any drama or anything negative hanging between us...
Also i read a lot in this forum from libras saying that its never just meaningless sex, and that its abt connection and so on...
He does always says he likes me a lot and that i am gream and amazing and thr most caring person he knows... And of course our sexual connection is just heavenly... So i wish i read all abt libras a bit earlier... To know how to handle him better... I naturally never back off from any compromise and hard relationship work so i am ready to do what it takes... I also believe that if i change a little bit of my attitude, like be less available ( even though i do have a very full and busy and interesting life) and give him a bit more space coz i sometimes can be intense with all the affection and care and attention i give, and take the focus of hard relationship stuff ( he admitted that he feels i am a bit ahead of him emotionlly and i am confused coz i did read a lot that libras are so romantic and relationship orianted and dont normally do casual stuff), then the stress will disappear and thats i guess what prevents him from coming closer again..
he only wants you for sex.

It's weird that we have waves of sign specific pairings here.

Leo, then Gem, then Cancer, then Aries, now Taurus...
OP, why are you being so fucking stupid about this?

You clearly have the answer from all your "classic relationship literature." Why do you think the answer would be any different because astrology is involved?

He wants to use you to fuck and that's it. Life isn't a romantic comedy and there is no secret feelings on his part. He's not "scared" he just doesn't see you as relationship material because you stress him out (whatever his excuse is). But he doesn't mind keeping you around to fuck regularly.

I appreciate u all taking ur time to reply, but i dont think there is any need to get insulting...
Hi Lulu,

If you want something more than sex with this man, I would recommend you to try to distance yourself from him asap, otherwise chances are (high) that you will get hurt if you still haven't. If you can be fine with passing some time until you or he finds the right person, it should be fine. I am a Taurus too and for me, that kind of an arrangement would be impossible no matter how much I am into someone just because it is almost 100% that I would have unrealistic expectations that would hurt me. You probably deserve more.
Thanks a lot.
Yes i ended it clz i told him that i dont want only sex ( +movies, cuddling, talking, eating).
I hope he does think and come back. He is a great guy and sweet and nice and caring... We never had any bad fights or never insulted each other , there was always respect between us.
Posted by Lulu771
Hi, i met this libra guy. I like him a lot... Natually i had a bit of a problem with both of his indecisiveness coz i am naturally impatient... Long story short, he always said i am
Amazing and he likes me a lot and so on... a few months back he said he wants to be only sex friends... Well
We tried for a while then he admitted that i stressed him so he gt scared... So we were back together again... Then due to my personal problems i was too stressed and overwhelmed with all what was going on ( and i am a person who can take A LOT), i guess i stressed him
Again, so he backed off... I am a more stable and loyal and dedicated and committed person so it pisses me
Off every time he sayf he only wants to be sex friends( movie watching and sometimes eating and talking)... So now i told him i dont want that any more...

Please tell me two things
1. What exactly it means when a libra man says he wants only sex friendship (movie+eating/chatting)? All the classic relationship literature says "when a man says he only wants sex, it means he only wants sex". Is that the case here?
2. Shall i approach him again after disappearing for some time?

Lulu771,

I'm amazed you decided to tread lightly in the gray areas with this Libra man. It's usually all or nothing with Bulls. On one hand you admit that you're stable, loyal and dedicated, but yet you settled for a less than conventional setup, a FWB.

This Libra man has been quite straightforward with you.

You wanted one setup, but agreed to an arrangement that was quite the contrary.

No indecisiveness on his part. He's been consistent if you ask me.
However, you appear VERY inconsistent.

He will not change his mind about you.

Don't approach this topic again.
thank u all for ur input. the issue has been resolved smile
What was the resolution?

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