I guess I am dumped by my Libra friend

So I broke up with my libra about a year ago due to distance and lack of communication.. We have been communicating but I started dating a Virgo in the same city several months ago. I like the Virgo a lot but is is casual. Anyway, I made plans to see Libra on a recent visit. I told him I only had time for him on the weekend (I had plans with Virgo during the week.) Anyway, I ended up running into my Libra while I was out with Virgo. He was so upset he cancelled our Saturday plans and said he is over me. The problem is...we were not a couple. I tried to talk about it but he issue but he won't answer or take my calls. Will he come around?

*chimes in because I can* I know a Virgo who's dating a Libra.

He may come around if he cared about you at all. The Libra in my life would have been blowing up my phone (cell, work, home) and emails (work, home), including texting! We don't talk everyday yet if it seems as if someone else is occupying my time he wants attention. I don't give it to him and that drives him crazy! We are not a couple yet he wants to act like it when it suits him--NOT. I too hang out with a Virgo every now and then as friends. Libra knows about him and hates the fact I spend time with him.

My Libra would NEVER say he's done with me and mean it. Yes he's vain/loves attention but bottom line; if Libra cared anything about you he will come back around.

Posted by res
No way will libra cum around now that u av been seen with virgo. The libra male is so vain that u av probably just blown his mind that he isn't the center of ur world & u av moved on so quickly. Even worse if the virgo is the beter looking of the two that will have crushed his ego. Virgo & libra's aint best of friends as it is.

Is something wrong with your keyboard?

You say you broke up but that you weren't a couple. How can you break up if you weren't a couple in the first place? Which is it? Are you on the same page here?

If you split it off but continued contact, you strung him along. It sounds like he may not have been ready to break it off and still has feelings. You continuing contact after a break up is selfish on your part because it makes it hard for his feelings to move on in the proper way.

i think she meant they were not a couple when he said he was over her, as they had already broken up. Either way though, the guy sounds hurt that you chose to spend time with another guy over him and didn't tell him. If he really cares about you he will get over it, but if you're interested in another guy there's no reason to persist with the libra friendship when he still has feelings for you. Give him time- a long time- and he'll come back around.

Posted by ANRivas

i think she meant they were not a couple when he said he was over her, as they had already broken up. Either way though, the guy sounds hurt that you chose to spend time with another guy over him and didn't tell him. If he really cares about you he will get over it, but if you're interested in another guy there's no reason to persist with the libra friendship when he still has feelings for you. Give him time- a long time- and he'll come back around.

We were not ever a real couple. At least we never said it. We continued communication because we were friends first. The pulling back and lack of communication when we were dating was annoying. He did not know what he wanted. We stopped seeing each other physically for almost a year. I was not stringing him on. I cared about him but he did not show that he wanted the same thing. That is why I ended it.

Posted by res
No way will libra cum around now that u av been seen with virgo. The libra male is so vain that u av probably just blown his mind that he isn't the center of ur world & u av moved on so quickly. Even worse if the virgo is the beter looking of the two that will have crushed his ego. Virgo & libra's aint best of friends as it is.

Ouch..the Virgo is much better looking. Smh! I hate that this happened.

Posted by GemStar05
He may come around if he cared about you at all. The Libra in my life would have been blowing up my phone (cell, work, home) and emails (work, home), including texting! We don't talk everyday yet if it seems as if someone else is occupying my time he wants attention. I don't give it to him and that drives him crazy! We are not a couple yet he wants to act like it when it suits him--NOT. I too hang out with a Virgo every now and then as friends. Libra knows about him and hates the fact I spend time with him.

My Libra would NEVER say he's done with me and mean it. Yes he's vain/loves attention but bottom line; if Libra cared anything about you he will come back around.

He texted me all night. He asked if he was "still on my schedule for Saturday". I did not answer until the next morning responding to all of his messages. Then I said "I would still like to see you" he replied "Nah...Nevermind". I told him that was a bit extreme as it is not like we are an item. He said, "Youcrossed the line being in my neighborhood with another dude and I am over it" smh..How was I supposed to know my Virgo would take me there? I had no idea....

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Posted by tiziani
If he's anything like most Libras I know you should hope he never comes back. If he does it's unlikely it'll be with your best interests in mind. He sounds like he's doing the decent thing by you in staying away and closing this chapter

Yea if he comes back there's gonna be trust issues on both sides.

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😢 I hate to hear that. I did want is friendship. We were friends first.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You say you broke up but that you weren't a couple. How can you break up if you weren't a couple in the first place? Which is it? Are you on the same page here?

If you split it off but continued contact, you strung him along. It sounds like he may not have been ready to break it off and still has feelings. You continuing contact after a break up is selfish on your part because it makes it hard for his feelings to move on in the proper way.

We stopped seeing each other about a year earlier. Tried to remain friends. We were friends for several years first. I always contacted him when I was coning to town and told him I was coming to visit friends. I really did not need to explain because we were not an item so I kept it generic.
In hind sight you may be right about him being strung along but not by my doing. Clearly he did not want the same thing I wanted because he never said otherwise. Before I stopped seeing him..I laid it all on the table and no response. What in the heck did he think I was doing for almost a year— Waiting for him?

Posted by tiziani
If he's anything like most Libras I know you should hope he never comes back. If he does it's unlikely it'll be with your best interests in mind. He sounds like he's doing the decent thing by you in staying away and closing this chapter

What do you mean not with my best interest?

Just for info he is Libra sun, cap moon, venus scorp, mars virgo, scorp rising

Posted by Onephatkittykatt
In hind sight you may be right about him being strung along but not by my doing. Clearly he did not want the same thing I wanted because he never said otherwise. Before I stopped seeing him..I laid it all on the table and no response. What in the heck did he think I was doing for almost a year— Waiting for him?

Eh, I can relate. I went through something similar with my Libra ex. Sometimes I think some of these guys just can't get their shit together and are just emotionally retarded. Causes scary things to happen when the emotions kick in, ohnoes!

He's the one who broke it off though. Supposedly wanted to be fwb, but didn't even approach the idea until TWO years later. Then he was butthurt that I turned him down. It's like wtf did you expect??

Though I have heard people mention that what may seem like an eternity to most seems like nothing to Libras. So a year to you may have been nothing to him...?

Regardless, I wouldn't stress over it. Dude has to get his shit together apparently. Ain't nobody got time for that.

If it wasn't for the distance, I may have just allowed things to continue. He has never been married and never had kids. I have been married and have a daughter whom is almost an adult. I am really not looking to start over at this point in my life. Although I did consider the idea a year ago.

However with the distance and lack of communication, maybe I put more on it than what was needed. Could have been immaturity on my part..I was really battling with what I wanted. Ending it with him allowed me to see that.

Oh well...I really did not want to hurt him. I really hate that I ran into him like that. I know there are still feelings there and I would have been some what hurt if I ran into him with some other chick. I wouldn't have ended our friendship. I still think that is extreme...

I am sure he would take my call now if I called him, but why bother. Everything for a reason.

One week has passed. No call...oh well

Posted by Ashes
I am libra guy also hurt by a girl...not in your way...but I am right now waiting for her to let go of her ego n apologize to me...if u want him back maybe u shud take the initiative n reach out first..

I thought about doing that but I am not sure that I was wrong. That is really how I feel. What would i be apologizing for? Yes I ran into him and I was with another guy but he is not my man. We still communicated but I was not seeing him in the least. I guess I could apologize for the situation or hurting him —

I didn't mean apologizing in ur case....I jus meant yu shud make n effort to reach out n get him out of sulking...tht wud be expected out of a friend..

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Posted by Ashes
I am libra guy also hurt by a girl...not in your way...but I am right now waiting for her to let go of her ego n apologize to me...if u want him back maybe u shud take the initiative n reach out first..

I thought about doing that but I am not sure that I was wrong. That is really how I feel. What would i be apologizing for? Yes I ran into him and I was with another guy but he is not my man. We still communicated but I was not seeing him in the least. I guess I could apologize for the situation or hurting him —

Wrong or right doesn't matter at the end of the day. The thing that matters is whether you care about one another's feelings. Like I said he's doing the right thing by staying away. There's obviously a lot of pride in the way (probably on both ends) and neither of you two should make time for word or logic games. Life's too short.

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Thanks everyone for your advice. I really need to think about this one. Not because I am too prideful but because I ended our relationship for a reason. Now that I have moved on I still have to be the one to apologize. ..smh! I need to consult with my Gemini Twins, my aqua moon and my Virgo rising. :-)

Posted by Ashes
I am libra guy also hurt by a girl...not in your way...but I am right now waiting for her to let go of her ego n apologize to me...if u want him back maybe u shud take the initiative n reach out first..

I finally called my libra friend today. He didn't answer so I left him a message. He texted me right away and said he was at dinner so I told him to call me when he has a minute. When he called an hour later I was asleep but called him back when I woke up. I apologized for hurting him although not intentionally he said it was no big deal. I explained that I did not lie and had never lied. He said I never told him I was seeing someone but he never asked and the guy I am dating is not serious. Anyway, he seemed to have the biggest issue with me staying in or hanging out in his neighborhood when I am in town. Funny thing about it is my friend lives near that area. I don't think I am going to change that. I could tell the way he kept getting silent or small talk that he didn't want to get off the phone but he didnt want to open up either after a few minutes of meaningless conversation I had to end the call. Hopefully we can be friends some day. I don't think now is a good time.

So my Libra friend seems to be coming around. No phone calls, just texting. I am not sure on his angle yet. Any thoughts libras?

Posted by tiziani
If he's anything like most Libras I know you should hope he never comes back. If he does it's unlikely it'll be with your best interests in mind. He sounds like he's doing the decent thing by you in staying away and closing this chapter

I second tiz. It sounds like the two of you held different expectations and he's disappointed.

Posted by Onephatkittykatt
So my Libra friend seems to be coming around. No phone calls, just texting. I am not sure on his angle yet. Any thoughts libras?

Posted by tiziani
If he's anything like most Libras I know you should hope he never comes back. If he does it's unlikely it'll be with your best interests in mind. He sounds like he's doing the decent thing by you in staying away and closing this chapter.

Posted by tiziani
If he's anything like most Libras I know you should hope he never comes back. If he does it's unlikely it'll be with your best interests in mind. He sounds like he's doing the decent thing by you in staying away and closing this chapter.

Posted by tiziani
If he's anything like most Libras I know you should hope he never comes back. If he does it's unlikely it'll be with your best interests in mind. He sounds like he's doing the decent thing by you in staying away and closing this chapter.

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He is reaching out to me and I am responding accordingly. I am not even going to speculate where the differences were at this point. We don't see eye to eye but it is not lack of communication on my part. I have completely moved on at this point. I value the friendship if it can only be that. I do hate that I hurt him but again...it was not intentional. I believe we are responsible for leaving people better than they were when we met. Hopefully I will have a chance to repair the friendship.