I think hes pulling flower petals....

I love her, I love her not... Yeah he must be doing that on like a daily basis. Does anyone think this is normal/not normal for a Libra to constantly say things like.... Okay heres a good one... One time he goes "you know you love me" than I guess it freaked him out saying that to me, so he kind of looked at me to see my expression... I just said yeah yeah I know... Next time... he said something to the effect of "thats why i love you...(he takes a few steps forward puts something away then comes back) i was just kidding I dont love you" than I started laughing and was like "you said it first" but then instead of laughing about it he kind of looked worried about it. Now since he said all that now he says something about love to me everytime we are together, and yes I completely notice it. Like last night he was like "thats why you love me." But he just gets kind of weird about it all. Im just whatever about it. Now to make things even far more confusing he doesnt want to make anything official with me. Hes not very affectionate with me and kind of freaks out about us being affectionate with one another. I dont want to put any sort of title on us, but he is always bringing it up trying to make it seem like I am trying to make us official, but im not. I told him if we're just friends I am going to date other guys. I was not trying to make him jealous, just aware of what I plan on doing. Im right to be completely confused right? Uhh Help—

capri, you're right to be confused, no doubt. After almost a year with my guy, we still go back and forth on his feelings. What my boyfriend (Libra) does from time to time is he will indirectly express his love for me. For instance, instead of saying "I Love you", he will say "I love to make you laugh", or "I love the way you react to me", etc...

How long have you two been "unofficial"?

SOME, librans don't come right out and say "I love you" I am finding... One of my best friends in Highschool and college was a Libra guy. I don't think he ever told his girlfriends he loved them, but he would tell me he loved them. He would use the same hints, sentences with "love" in it.

In my experience however, all of my relationships with Librans, they never had a problem with saying it straight out... Most times before me. I guess it depends on the individual.

Cap - it sounds like he has these strong feelings for you, but is not sure about expressing them clearly, i.e. affectionate etc. Librans can be ver affectionate. Even when you aren't exclusively in a relationship.

4 months now .. He is never direct with me. if he wants me to hang out with him he'll say something like.."what are you doing, oh well im going to this bar." but then he just kind of looks at me like your going too right... The other night I was like are you inviting me out or what, and he still couldnt give me a direct answer he was like maybe. Im like damn. lol

Or another time he did that whole im not inviting you but I am crap and I was a little upset that I wasnt directly asked to go with him and so I made plans to go somewhere else and he was like you arent coming and i was like i wasnt invited and he was like god you stress me out... I didnt even do anything to "stress" him out.

LOL, I've done this with my boyfriend, too. If I'm not directly invited somewhere, I assume he isn't inviting me for a reason, so I don't make plans to go. He's told me that since we're dating, it's assumed that any invitation he receives (party, happy hour, game, etc.) is an invitation for both of us.

Wait until he starts claiming he's not a mindreader...lol

lol mine cant claim that... I texted him one time and was like guess what! and he responded with you dyed you hair, and I had. Check your PM peach!

Oh great not the mindreading thing. I hate the mindreading topic. Every girl wants a guy that "just gets them" as in read their minds and most men that fall in love with them can, however have usually learned prior to that relationship to just pretend you can't because it only leads to heavy expectation with no real reward for sucess.

yup, ok Nic.

LMAO

Ow, ow, ow.

(*Trying to mind read*).

That's interesting because my libra pretended from the very begining that I am a "open" mind, that he can look inside very easy and that I can read his mind too. And it was somehow true from the begining of our relationship. He said I should let myself feel it, and we sometimes did games as in "tell me what am i eating right now" and I instantly saw smth yellow and smth red, oh not: green. And he was eating smashed potatoes and cucumbers. And he sometimes picks up a random thought of mine and answer it out loud... That's hilarious, but I have to agree with Nic, I find it pressuring me to be put in the situation of guessing his mind, even though I guess he would prefer it LOL.

I reckon if he's pulling flower petals, he's asking "She loves me, she loves me not.."
"The implications, the implications not.."
"The right time, the right time not..." or "the right move, the right move not.."

because chances are he knows who he loves, and need not depend on a flower to tell him.

"lol mine cant claim that... I texted him one time and was like guess what! and he responded with you dyed you hair, and I had. Check your PM peach!"

stupid question: what's PM?

private msg? arg

So here is more to the story.... My friend talked to him and he told her that he was still in love with his ex-girlfriend and he didn't want to break my heart because if she came back in the picture he'd drop anyone to be with her again. So I don't know what the future holds... Guess it will be a dark one concerning our relationship. Just not sure why he implies he "loves" me...

He doesn't love you. If he made that comment, then basically nobody (at this time) holds a candle to this other girl. The fact he said he'd drop anyone to be with her again doesn't show much loyalty from this guy.

Be friends with him and drop back on the implications of love on both ends.

😢 it sucks.... I have to see this guy all the time. Its like completely unavoidable...

I wrote him 3 text messages saying that things were getting too serious I just want to be friends I think the best thing for the both of us is if we dont hang out as much anymore... because for the last two weeks I have spent all most everday with him... I know he got those text messages! He called me 3 times in a row the next day, which is persistent for him.. I didnt answer his calls.. So I called him later that day to talk about the text messages, and all he had to say was they got deleted. He kept asking me what did they say, and I was like nothing it was an accident I shouldn't have sent those, they didnt say anything important.. He was like you sent me three text messages and they didnt say anything important— So I think he did get those texts... I dont know why else he would have called me so much?

I can understand one text message not getting to him, but not 3.

Exactly... I guess he just wants his cake and to eat it too.

Take away his cake.

lol I am going to do my best to do so!!

Cap, if you aren't comfortable with FWB, then leave it alone. Nothing more will come of this as he isn't emotionally available at all sweetie.

I agree with HP- Take away the cake!!!

Okay Im baby stepping out of this though... I wont text him, and Ill do my best to not go to his apt for at least a week! This is 4mo's of habit I have to break.

i'm tellin you

they just like to fuck with your head...