Initial Contact

Okay guys, I know I said I would wait until next week, but I wanted to hear his voice (this is getting bad) so out of charactor for me...

I called him at work.

Here is the convo:

Me: Hey how are you?
Him: Good how are you?
Me: Okay
Him: You sound rather serious
Me: chuckled, you are silly, I am Okay
Him: What have you been up to?
Me: work, working out in the evening now, blah,blah, blah and You?
Him: Working, teaching (second job) working out. You had to change your workout schedule? I take an areobics class on Tuesday night. I am in two Basketball tournaments in the evening as well. So, I guess I work out twice a day most days.
Me: Yeah I changed my work out schedule to the evening Mon, Wed and fri.
Him: I am going out of town for work the week after next, conferences from 3/4-3/8. What are you doing this weekend?
Me: I am not quite sure yet. A couple of things going on, but I just don't which ones I will attend.... You?
Him: A couple parties...
Me: OK, well I was just checking on you. I will talk to you later.
Him: OK, sweetie, I will give you a call soon.

Ugghhh that sucked....

Another small detail her threw in the convo: I really haven't been doing anything else in the evening except going home and going straight to bed. Been really busy lately.

***Another small detail her threw in the convo***

he threw in the convo.

QS, He asked you about this weekend. From your conversation, it appears he left a few open doors if you want to go through them. Up to you.

Libra decoding .....

I have been keeping busy and to myself. I am not off with other girls. I am just keeping everything light and casual. I will give you a call when things change. I hope I get my head out of my ass soon. (That last bit is paraphrased.)

LOL!!! LS, love the humor, you always crack me up. I took it just as you did. That last part should be what he sees, but he clearly doesn't

Atom, yeah it could have been an open door, who knows. I took it as just convo... Blah, blah, blah... Not an invitation.

I am just going to keep busy as well.

Kennyg I don't think it was a final rejection, but more of what LS described, he is doing some "me" time. Which is great and good for healing... So, I will let him do that.
However, I am lonely. I will probably just hang out with the other guy or two that has some interests in me, however I really don't have much for either of them besides just hanging out buddies. No real attraction.

I can also always depend on my BOB!!! He is always there, faithfully and does what I say!!!

* That last part should be what he sees, but he clearly doesn't

It is hard to see when it is so dark up there. 🙂

It is so hard to find the right balance isn't it? Someone you are compatible with, someone you are attracted too, someone who is ready, willing, and able to be in a realtionship. Blah!

At least you have Bob.

* It is so hard to find the right balance isn't it? Someone you are compatible with, someone you are attracted too, someone who is ready, willing, and able to be in a realtionship. Blah!

But all my friends who didn't give up are in such great relationships with guys that really love them and are happy. It gives me great hope!

B.O.B. rocks

Bob does nothing for me unless he is with a Robert or some other guy. 😢

I can do a m?nage Bob tois but Bob on his own .... he is boring.

Not that you all needed to know that.

But I am a Libra ... I like to share.

🙂

Yes the combo is rough... I had more free time to observe in my youth, now my life is way too busy (motherhood, career). So, some lucky guy will have all in one and realize he is so luck to have me.

HP, BOB is the bomb - so obedient!!!
LS, however, it is always better with another guy!!!

LS, I am not a Libra, but don't mind sharing sometimes. But other times I am very, very selfish. I don't need help either.

🙂

I meant it more in a share too much info kind of way.

So, some lucky guy will have all in one and realize he is so luck to have me.

That's the spirit!

LS, I thought you meant share the BOB with the guy as in he operates it. LOL!!! Sorry can't take my mind outta da gutta.

BOB is fun with someone else, but generally, if am am going to go it alone, then I prefer to go it alone... BOB can be fun on occasion, but I prefer the menage a trois of me, myself, and I...

*giggles*

Wow QS confusing!!! He could be my Librans long lost brother!!!! The way they talk and leaving the "door open" but only just....hard to read between the lines.

I'd have taken the "what are you doing this weekend?" as a roundabout way of perhaps hooking up but then when you said you didn't know what you would choose to do, he chose to do the "a couple of parties" answer.....typical Libran!!! You just never know with them. I had exactly the same conversation on thursday night:

HIM "So what are your plans this weekend"
ME "Going out for drinks on Fridy night after work but will be home to watch the football game, but Saturday, no plans as yet, how about you?"
HIM "I have my daughter on Friday night and Saturday and going out for a few drinks with my mates in town Saturday night...shouldn't be a late one, and then chill out sunday"

I know he wanted me to invite him over after his "drinks with mates" but why should I make it that easy? he could invite me with him and we could make a night of it - pfffttt!!!

They are so hard to read QS...BOB rocks!!!!!

Chatz, him asking what I am doing this weekend, might have been an open door... What would he expect me to say? "I dunno what do you have in mind?" I didn't take it as an invitation and that would have definitely been pushy.

I dunno, I actually took it as conversation. He did sound concern and not like he was blowing me off. However, I was getting bored with the convo and cut it short. I lied and said I had a meeting and I had to go.

ahhh yes "what would he expect me to say?".....that leaves it wide open doesn't it? and then if you were to take the "open door" opportunity, they can crush you so quickly with "sorry, Im busy then"....hard to know that's for sure!!

Ahhhhhh yes dating, isn't it grand??

I think my libra friend just called me restricted (blocked his number) 5 times and it just woke me up. He went out and now he is drunk calling me... Ugghhh. He didn't answer the first 3 times and the last two I didn't answer. I sent him a text responding "What?" and called his phone. No answer, I know it was him though. I can feel it. It is 1:30 am here.

I know in my gutt it was him. No one else I know would have done that... WTF—?

I told you guys about me and my sleep, there is one exception.....

Are libras really like this? You got really bad luck QS and in a way I feel bad you had to meet this kind of libra.
I'd hate to think that I'm like this too.. reading these really give me perspective on myself.
If I know libras, which I might, he's really afraid to make any moves because he's probably one of those afraid of commitment types. He is probably afraid to show any sign of interest because he knows it will reciprocate and he's most likely not ready to go there yet... looks as though like you made some progress with this libra.
Keep your hopes up, its not over until the fat lady sings right? but thats up to you.

Crudemood, FYI, they find me... I definitely don't look for them. I know too well how good it can be to be with a decent Libra... I was married to one for 6 years - together for a total of 8. He is still crazy about me. We just grew apart and I don't love him and can't love him in the way I used too to much damaged done by the both of us through the marriage.

Anyway. This Libra was just my buddy initially I helped through his 5 break ups with the same Sag girl... We became FWB and I recently started getting emotional about us and I like him a lot... Miss him too, we used to spend so much time together, talk a couple times a day, now we hardly ever talk and barely see eachother.

He is afraid, because he isn't emotionally prepared to deal with a relationship. I am not asking for a commitment. Hell i am afraid too. Just hang out and see wherre things go.

He opened up once to tell me he was getting emotional about us once and I shut him down. Wasn't ready. I guess it is my turn to get shut down...