is it hard for you to open up to people

is it hard for you to open up to people

Posted by 2Moon
REALLY hard usually, it takes me a lot of trust and time.

( and sometimes its the opposite.. fuck me! )

Like how long? My libra friend has gotten hurt and manipulated by an ex.. and I'm like yo if you let me in and open up to me I could help you heal yourself... he's been really depressed for like a year and I feel soooooo bad like I just want to hold him in my arms.... it's pretty bad, he's becoming hopeless. How can I save him? He's my friend and I really care about him, I can't just sit here and watch him lose control of his life :/ it's a train wreck..
I've known him for 2 years btw.

@2moon oops... I called him weak for taking her back even though she's a manipulating cunt.. my bad

So basically you think I should open up to him first and then he'll follow my lead?

Early twenties. You can't really "help" anyone but you can speak logically to them and inspire them to help themselves, that's basically what I meant. He's been pretty bad for an entire year, I'm gonna give it a shot and if he's still unable to see reality I'll guess I'll give up and move on, there's only so much I can do, right?

He said that besides his family he only trusts one person... I have a feeling that this isn't going to easy '

I put an emoji but it didn't come out 😐

Not at all. It's hard to trust, but I am very open.

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Posted by mysteriousTaurus
@2moon oops... I called him weak for taking her back even though she's a manipulating cunt.. my bad

So basically you think I should open up to him first and then he'll follow my lead?

Yes

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How do I open up to someone first when I'm not the subject of conversation?

I'm not open at all & it takes me a while, I need to trust someone & once I open up to them I don't want to be judged etc or for that information to be used against me. & i could be close to someone but not show too much of my true emotions cos I don't like feeling vulnerable or coming off weak (which I think is due to my Virgo placements)

Posted by mindofalibra
I'm not open at all & it takes me a while, I need to trust someone & once I open up to them I don't want to be judged etc or for that information to be used against me. & i could be close to someone but not show too much of my true emotions cos I don't like feeling vulnerable or coming off weak (which I think is due to my Virgo placements)

This is why I love libras and I always gravitate towards them,male or female.. because I totally get what you mean. I have opened up to two scorpios, who I thought were my close friends, one was a female and the other was a male, early twenties and mid twenties.. but the point is, that I opened up, vented, and confided in these two people, and when we get into an argument, they bring up the past, judge me, and use this information against me to hurt me. And I fucking hate them for that, that's emotional abuse to do that to someone.

Being a Taurus, when I argue or fight, I come on very strong, but I would never bring up the past and purposely use that against someone to "win". That's petty and pathetic, shows someone's true character. Those scorpios hurt me bad, I don't even talk to them anymore. I'll never trust them again.

Thanks for your response, I understand why my friend could be dismissive sometimes now, I think he's scared of opening up.

Posted by Librawoman77
Not at all. It's hard to trust, but I am very open.

You're a strong and mature woman.

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
I have opened up to two scorpios, who I thought were my close friends, one was a female and the other was a male, early twenties and mid twenties.. but the point is, that I opened up, vented, and confided in these two people, and when we get into an argument, they bring up the past, judge me, and use this information against me to hurt me. And I fucking hate them for that, that's emotional abuse to do that to someone.

ooh mt, that's a huge pet hate of mine! i think you should treasure it when someone opens up. to use it against them is unforgivable.

so to answer your question, it takes me a long time to open up to people.

most of the time it is because i don't want to be vulnerable to future attacks but also because i think i am rather dull and would prefer to hear about someone else than talk about myself. plus people like talking about themselves so i am happy to listen. i always learn something when i talk to others, i practically never learn anything when i talk about myself. it's also good for making connections and obtaining knowledge to help others if they ever need a hand with something.

i like being a matchmaker (romantic or otherwise). blame the cardinal in me.

Posted by jeane

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
I have opened up to two scorpios, who I thought were my close friends, one was a female and the other was a male, early twenties and mid twenties.. but the point is, that I opened up, vented, and confided in these two people, and when we get into an argument, they bring up the past, judge me, and use this information against me to hurt me. And I fucking hate them for that, that's emotional abuse to do that to someone.

ooh mt, that's a huge pet hate of mine! i think you should treasure it when someone opens up. to use it against them is unforgivable.

so to answer your question, it takes me a long time to open up to people.

most of the time it is because i don't want to be vulnerable to future attacks but also because i think i am rather dull and would prefer to hear about someone else than talk about myself. plus people like talking about themselves so i am happy to listen. i always learn something when i talk to others, i practically never learn anything when i talk about myself. it's also good for making connections and obtaining knowledge to help others if they ever need a hand with something.

i like being a matchmaker (romantic or otherwise). blame the cardinal in me.

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Totally get you. I'm gonna take 2moons advice and open up to him first and hopefully he'll follow my lead.

I am a shy bull and not usually open right away. Maybe give me a few days to feel you out for. I'm intense and when I can feel a comfortable sense in myself and then others then I'll open up. So I'm introverted with a lot of extroverted trials and tribulations. Lol

Posted by Sugarfoot

Posted by jeane

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
I have opened up to two scorpios, who I thought were my close friends, one was a female and the other was a male, early twenties and mid twenties.. but the point is, that I opened up, vented, and confided in these two people, and when we get into an argument, they bring up the past, judge me, and use this information against me to hurt me. And I fucking hate them for that, that's emotional abuse to do that to someone.

ooh mt, that's a huge pet hate of mine! i think you should treasure it when someone opens up. to use it against them is unforgivable.

so to answer your question, it takes me a long time to open up to people.

most of the time it is because i don't want to be vulnerable to future attacks but also because i think i am rather dull and would prefer to hear about someone else than talk about myself. plus people like talking about themselves so i am happy to listen. i always learn something when i talk to others, i practically never learn anything when i talk about myself. it's also good for making connections and obtaining knowledge to help others if they ever need a hand with something.

i like being a matchmaker (romantic or otherwise). blame the cardinal in me.

Wow. Everything you said is exactly how I feel. Even the matchmaking thing!

There is also a part of me that instinctively knows that my complete personality will offend some people. So I always hold back with them.

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i know right?! i love it when i can take out my little black book and solve other's problems by putting them in touch with other people i know.

i think it is our combination of leeb sun and sag moon - we just want to help and make things better for people!

Posted by Sugarfoot
@jeane

Yep. It's not always romantic either. I help people connect for jobs and business ventures too. Us Libras know that no man is an island.

absolutely but not everyone gets the help. i have just found out about a job that would be ideal for someone i know however since she was a rude bitch to me, i'm having second thoughts about recommending her....

i feel bad about it though. not bad enough to give her a hand though. haha.

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Sugarfoot
@jeane

Yep. It's not always romantic either. I help people connect for jobs and business ventures too. Us Libras know that no man is an island.

absolutely but not everyone get the help. i have just found out about a job that would be ideal for someone i know however since she was a rude bitch to me, i'm having second thoughts about recommending her....

i feel bad about it though. not bad enough to give her a hand though. haha.

Lol.psssshhhh...Don't feel bad man. She'd probably end up making you look bad for referring her in the end.

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yeah...fuck her. lol! let her find out about it herself.

People call me cagey. LOL!
It isn’t intentional. I just don’t like talking about myself very much. I don’t like being the centre of attention. I much prefer hearing other people’s stories than telling my own.

I also don’t believe in wound bonding. The way I see it, the past is the past. The only way the past has any power over me is if I engage with it in the present. So I don’t share a lot of this awful thing happened to me stuff because for the most part, I am over it and it seems irrelevant.

I tend to be really detached and nothing shuts me off quicker than big emotions.

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Posted by mysteriousTaurus
I have opened up to two scorpios, who I thought were my close friends, one was a female and the other was a male, early twenties and mid twenties.. but the point is, that I opened up, vented, and confided in these two people, and when we get into an argument, they bring up the past, judge me, and use this information against me to hurt me. And I fucking hate them for that, that's emotional abuse to do that to someone.

ooh mt, that's a huge pet hate of mine! i think you should treasure it when someone opens up. to use it against them is unforgivable.

so to answer your question, it takes me a long time to open up to people.

most of the time it is because i don't want to be vulnerable to future attacks but also because i think i am rather dull and would prefer to hear about someone else than talk about myself. plus people like talking about themselves so i am happy to listen. i always learn something when i talk to others, i practically never learn anything when i talk about myself. it's also good for making connections and obtaining knowledge to help others if they ever need a hand with something.

i like being a matchmaker (romantic or otherwise). blame the cardinal in me.

Wow. Everything you said is exactly how I feel. Even the matchmaking thing!

There is also a part of me that instinctively knows that my complete personality will offend some people. So I always hold back with them.

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I relate a lot to what Jeane said. I am also a huge matchmaker. I love connecting people. I am really, really good at it.

Yes rejection scares the shit out of me.

Posted by jeane

Posted by Sugarfoot
@jeane

Yep. It's not always romantic either. I help people connect for jobs and business ventures too. Us Libras know that no man is an island.

absolutely but not everyone gets the help. i have just found out about a job that would be ideal for someone i know however since she was a rude bitch to me, i'm having second thoughts about recommending her....

i feel bad about it though. not bad enough to give her a hand though. haha.

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Smh. What's her sign jeane?

Posted by mysteriousTaurus

Posted by jeane

Posted by Sugarfoot
@jeane

Yep. It's not always romantic either. I help people connect for jobs and business ventures too. Us Libras know that no man is an island.

absolutely but not everyone gets the help. i have just found out about a job that would be ideal for someone i know however since she was a rude bitch to me, i'm having second thoughts about recommending her....

i feel bad about it though. not bad enough to give her a hand though. haha.

Smh. What's her sign jeane?

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taurus.

although to be fair, i don't think it is her sign at play. i have another taurus friend (who i get on with like a house on fire) who cant stand her either. we both think she is an uppity bitch who is shit at her job.

i think more it her youth is to blame and underhanded strident ambition. i don't mind ambition but be careful with who you tread on to get to the top.