Jealousy
This topic was created in the Libra forum by LilMermaid on Monday, March 19, 2007 and has 50 replies.
Are male libras jealous if they see their "ex-woman" sitting with another man who is physically beautiful after he may have an inkling that she wants him back?
Who isn't.
Makes you wonder why he's the "ex" to begin with.
Is the man physically beautiful or the ex? I got confused...
my friend is trying really hard to get her libra man back... i guess she wants him to notice that she wants him but not look desperate at the same time
the man is physically beautiful that the ex saw her with @ church
1st rule is to not play games with a Libra.
no games 
well thats no fun....c'mon play for a little while, but don't expect us to end it thats your call
well thats no fun....c'mon play for a little while, but don't expect us to end it thats your calljust putting in my 2 cents.
We desperately need to learn when to be serious sometimes...at least I do it's hard to tell when i'm mad/sad i smile and laugh through it all...
she went to the guys house and rang the doorbell but he didnt answer but then on sunday came and sat two rows behind her on purpose, i guess she wants to know if that a sign that he's feeling her again, but then a friend of hers (who is physically beautiful) sat down beside her
maybe he never stopped felling her just need a reminder
on purpose? and she knows it was on purpose how?
I think there is definitely some kind of chemistry connection between the Sag girl and Libra guy, most of the Libra guys I know were in a long and serious relationship with a Sag, including my ex, my libra friend (we all know he and his ex can't seem to make a complete break for long) also another Libra guy friend of mine. So who knows.
BTW, is this Sag girl in Chicago? LOL!!!
BTW, is this Sag girl in Chicago? LOL!!!
ha ha!
That would be a killer huh?
That would be a killer huh?
That would be hilarious!!! I might be able to give some serious insite for this sagi girl then Heeeheeee!!!
yeah. that wouldn't be a recipe for disaster. Meow! lol!
i dont know she said it was on purpose because he usually sits on the other side of the church and after her little surprise trip to his house that he didnt answer, he suddenly wanted to sit two rows behind her in church. coincidence or on purpose?
Is the Sagi from chicago? I could be of more assitance if I knew 
Seriously, you never know what goes through the Libras mind.
Seriously, you never know what goes through the Libras mind.
Arrrrggghhhh! Stuff like this drives me crazy!!! We have no idea what is going on in this guys head. WE aren't HIM.
Could it be ... that he wasn't home or had a date when she came over? Could it be he sat there for a whole other reason? Could it be she is WAY overthinking this?
BTW, where I am from, showing up uninvited at a guy's place is a BIG no no. Tell her not to do this.
She says that he normally sits on the other side of the church and that he knows where she and her son sit during mass. He came and sat two rows behind her and waited to walk out at about the same time. They stopped seeing each other because of outside influences but they both know that they still love each other. His problem is he doesnt feel like he is good enough for her. And her problem is that she can't get over him. She stopped by his house uninvited but knew that he was alone and awake. But he didnt answer the door but the bathroom light was on so he might have been showering, she didnt want to knock too loudly. Do you think that she should continue to try to reach out to him?
I really don't think there is anything she can do. When a man convinces himself he isn't enough for you, the only thing you can do is give him the time to do what he needs to do to convince himself he is worthy.
Well, my friend sent him some flowers, hoping that will stir him to life. its a romantic gesture i think... hope he likes it.
Fwiw. We can usually tell immediately if a girl has a guy by her side to get a response from us or not, so no, it has no effect, and makes the girl look despirate unquestionably, and despiration is unnatractive.
To answer your question, I don't get jelous, and I imagine other Libra guys are the same way...but then again....im rather physically beautiful myself
Think of it this way, we don't compare ourselves to other guys so if she is trying to get him to feel for her again, she is doing it the wrong way. We don't think "he is better looking than I" or "makes more money" than I. We bring something more than any of those things, or the sum of any of those things into a relationship, at least in our minds. So using any of those things isn't really going to have any profound affect.
To answer your question, I don't get jelous, and I imagine other Libra guys are the same way...but then again....im rather physically beautiful myself
Think of it this way, we don't compare ourselves to other guys so if she is trying to get him to feel for her again, she is doing it the wrong way. We don't think "he is better looking than I" or "makes more money" than I. We bring something more than any of those things, or the sum of any of those things into a relationship, at least in our minds. So using any of those things isn't really going to have any profound affect.
Putting signs aside, a man should chase you; not the other way around!
Sorry had to say that. She's making herself too available and if he's interested, he will chase. She already showed up at his house uninvited and now sent flowers? He is going to get a restraining order soon enough.
Sorry had to say that. She's making herself too available and if he's interested, he will chase. She already showed up at his house uninvited and now sent flowers? He is going to get a restraining order soon enough.
"He is going to get a restraining order soon enough."
Or horny and use her despiration to his advantage.
Or horny and use her despiration to his advantage.
"im rather physically beautiful myself "
LOL!!! Damn, I love cockiness.... Haha!
Okay, question...
What if the guy is smarter than you?!?
LOL!!! Damn, I love cockiness.... Haha!
Okay, question...
What if the guy is smarter than you?!?
"we don't compare ourselves to other guys "
but you libra men sure do like to compare us women to other women...
but you libra men sure do like to compare us women to other women...
just observable fact.
"What if the guy is smarter than you?!?"
Your Fing joking right? I mean, come on now.
To answer honestly, I don't know, it hasn't happened yet.
Your Fing joking right? I mean, come on now.
To answer honestly, I don't know, it hasn't happened yet.
"but you libra men sure do like to compare us women to other women.."
I would say yes, but we do it to figure out the deeper emotional stuff, because we are air signs we have to use analysis to understand the deeper emotional stuff. We are not doing it to make a statement of right or wrong or better or worse as far as you are concerned, but for a better understanding of the whole picture.
I would say yes, but we do it to figure out the deeper emotional stuff, because we are air signs we have to use analysis to understand the deeper emotional stuff. We are not doing it to make a statement of right or wrong or better or worse as far as you are concerned, but for a better understanding of the whole picture.
fair enough...
"To answer honestly, I don't know, it hasn't happened yet."
And there you have it...
And there you have it...
^^^ - Oh, and for everyone else, that is "ding! ding! ding! we have a winner!"...
LOL
* Think of it this way, we don't compare ourselves to other guys so if she is trying to get him to feel for her again, she is doing it the wrong way. We don't think "he is better looking than I" or "makes more money" than I. We bring something more than any of those things, or the sum of any of those things into a relationship, at least in our minds. So using any of those things isn't really going to have any profound affect.
Very troooo! I don't get jealous because I don't compete with other women. Which also, by the way, is probably why I have so many female friends. Women don't like women who compete for male attention.
I figure love isn't personal. It is about compatibility. There is no one who can compete with me because I am me. Someone wil either be compatible with me or will not. It is all about levels and you can't fake that.
Very troooo! I don't get jealous because I don't compete with other women. Which also, by the way, is probably why I have so many female friends. Women don't like women who compete for male attention.
I figure love isn't personal. It is about compatibility. There is no one who can compete with me because I am me. Someone wil either be compatible with me or will not. It is all about levels and you can't fake that.
I compare men to men. It is the way I process my emotions. I tend to second guess my feelings alot. I don't generally think how do I feel but how SHOULD I feel, especially when someone has "done me wrong".
I wonder what the appropriate response should be. Which I think is different than feeling my response. I tend to reason through it instead of being in it. Which makes the scales sway.
Does anyone else experience that?
Does anyone else experience that?
"Does anyone else experience that?"
Yes. Sometimes I feel deeply but it is more of a "signal" that it is time to employ a prior calculated response than it is a clear emotional feeling. It is a "somethin aint right" so to speak, then I look at the situation, the cause and the forseen affect and act/react accordingly.
This is why we do a lot of "comparing", if this than that so to speak and eventually we get it down to a point where we have objective clarity in the way things should be, then operate off that. This is where our responses come from. I have been in a situation where I was cheated on, I didn't really feel anything in particular, I had strong deep feelings but not of any specific emotion, it was the signal that change needed to be made, and then my response was that of which I "knew" was the right response for the situation to right the scales again.
Same thing in what should have been a traumatic experience. The more extreme the situation the less "feeling" comes through and what would be to other people emotional trauma is simply information to act on. That information gets processed and then a response is created and then used.
I tend to feel more about the little day to day inconveniances than life changing experiences. However, I do love deeply, I know I do that, I do feel and if I sit here and think about the things that make me feel, they are all positive. Almost like good things are felt, bad things are processed. I didn't really notice that until you asked that. Hmmmmmm. I become very cold and calculating when faced with negative emotion, but am very warm, lively and passionate when it comes to positive emotion.
Yes. Sometimes I feel deeply but it is more of a "signal" that it is time to employ a prior calculated response than it is a clear emotional feeling. It is a "somethin aint right" so to speak, then I look at the situation, the cause and the forseen affect and act/react accordingly.
This is why we do a lot of "comparing", if this than that so to speak and eventually we get it down to a point where we have objective clarity in the way things should be, then operate off that. This is where our responses come from. I have been in a situation where I was cheated on, I didn't really feel anything in particular, I had strong deep feelings but not of any specific emotion, it was the signal that change needed to be made, and then my response was that of which I "knew" was the right response for the situation to right the scales again.
Same thing in what should have been a traumatic experience. The more extreme the situation the less "feeling" comes through and what would be to other people emotional trauma is simply information to act on. That information gets processed and then a response is created and then used.
I tend to feel more about the little day to day inconveniances than life changing experiences. However, I do love deeply, I know I do that, I do feel and if I sit here and think about the things that make me feel, they are all positive. Almost like good things are felt, bad things are processed. I didn't really notice that until you asked that. Hmmmmmm. I become very cold and calculating when faced with negative emotion, but am very warm, lively and passionate when it comes to positive emotion.
I use to live with a scorpio mate for 1 1/2 years. I was very attracted to her and vice-versa. We couldn't get along to save our lives, yet the sex was overwhelmingly powerful between us. It was like we were meant to do only that. I broke free of the scorpio because of one too many dramatic rages. She wouldn't let me breathe. I felt trapped and all I wanted was for her to be happy. It seems she only wanted me in chains. The jealousy, distrust, drama, violence, and secrecy was too much to bear. However, she was always in tears, easily hurt. A confusing one, the scorpio.
LibraPersonafied, wow, things were the opposite with me and my Libra ex husband, married for 6 years together for 8. We did get into some fall outs and we knew how to push eachother buttons, but for the first 6 years of our 8 year relationship we were inseperable. Sex definitely never an issue, never needed to cheat on eachother, because that was an area we saticefied to the fullest.
I am kind of possessive and I must look up my chart again, coz, I know I have a lot of Sag in my chart, but I have never been really jealous or overly possessive.
I am kind of possessive and I must look up my chart again, coz, I know I have a lot of Sag in my chart, but I have never been really jealous or overly possessive.
Oh and I filed for divorce and sex definitely wasn't where he problem existed. He is finally after 2 years starting to let go of me. I think.
"I use to live with a scorpio mate for 1 1/2 years. I was very attracted to her and vice-versa. We couldn't get along to save our lives, yet the sex was overwhelmingly powerful between us. It was like we were meant to do only that. I broke free of the scorpio because of one too many dramatic rages. She wouldn't let me breathe. I felt trapped and all I wanted was for her to be happy. It seems she only wanted me in chains. The jealousy, distrust, drama, violence, and secrecy was too much to bear. However, she was always in tears, easily hurt. A confusing one, the scorpio."
Hrmmm... Great sex is always a good thing, but too bad there wasn't anything else to add substance... Don't discount all Scorps because of her, though. I know a few Scorpios that are so bad in those areas. While I may like passion, I severely dislike drama (and unfortunately I have far too much of it in my life right now, makes me want to crawl under a damn rock).
Hrmmm... Great sex is always a good thing, but too bad there wasn't anything else to add substance... Don't discount all Scorps because of her, though. I know a few Scorpios that are so bad in those areas. While I may like passion, I severely dislike drama (and unfortunately I have far too much of it in my life right now, makes me want to crawl under a damn rock).
"I am kind of possessive and I must look up my chart again, coz, I know I have a lot of Sag in my chart, but I have never been really jealous or overly possessive. "
Hmmm... Me too. I wonder if it is my Sag. Intriguing...
Hmmm... Me too. I wonder if it is my Sag. Intriguing...
Yes, Alcheme, tested (a few times) and found true Libra men/Scorp women AMAZING SEX, DEEP EMOTIONAL CONECTIONS!!!
Alcheme, scary so many similarities. I am starting to think we are sisters from another mother... LOL!! What's your daddy's name???
LP,
I was in a similar situation dating a scorp girl for about 4.5 years. I was pretty adamant about not dating any more scorps until I came here, I realized she was a bad example. Young and didn't know what she wanted out of me, life, herself but was in her mind completely sure about how things should work.
Break free is a good way to put it. A scorp who hasn't come into her own is a dangerous creature. Luckily though, those are just the exceptions, since then I have found that scorps can actually be open, intelligent, free spirited and trusting.
Crazy world.
I was in a similar situation dating a scorp girl for about 4.5 years. I was pretty adamant about not dating any more scorps until I came here, I realized she was a bad example. Young and didn't know what she wanted out of me, life, herself but was in her mind completely sure about how things should work.
Break free is a good way to put it. A scorp who hasn't come into her own is a dangerous creature. Luckily though, those are just the exceptions, since then I have found that scorps can actually be open, intelligent, free spirited and trusting.
Crazy world.
...indeed
Gosh! I didnt know Scorps can be that awful! I m sorry for what you have been through. It might sound unbelievable but I dont like possession and jealousy, whenever , it occurs to my mind , I ll tell myself that it s insecurity and if I keep hold of those feeling , I ll be the one who suffers .Life is too short to live bitterly I find whenever I cheer up people around me and spread love , I ll feel contented and happy .Harmony and balance is what I stride hard to achieve ! (Sound familiar ?!)
I find whenever I cheer up people around me and spread love , I ll feel contented and happy .Harmony and balance is what I stride hard to achieve ! (Sound familiar ?!)exam I agree. I like space and don't like too much jealousy and possessiveness, so I try to give what I want to receive...
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