libra are full of excuses move on.

1st I know i am going to get alot of grief for this post.. I am by no way pefect but close to it.lol.. anyway I noticed alot of people saying libras like harmony and balance.. SO not true. its a cover up. how can u want balance and harmony if they always leaving when things get good. I noticed the libra that i was with for a very long time never really had "good friends"I was his only friend. he only had friends he hungout with. he always wanted to play innocent. I hated that about him. everybody thought he was soo perfect.. everytime I thought we were in harmony he would say something or do something stupid to throw it all off. and being the virgo Im I spoke on it everytime. He never could make up his mind. he never set long term goals. I was the blame for everything..... As far as being in conversation or an associate he was good for that but when it come to relationship it sucked. i am sure I contributed to some of our problems. but it was an emotionally roller coaster. I nalso noticed that if I would tell some1 about how he would treat me he never would wanna go around that person again.. Balance and harmoney is a lie. I know every libra is not the same but it was wild. why cant libra just let things flow? how come when u tell them somethingfor their good they dont listen even if they know they have issues...

Well libra is afterall the sign of the actor...

Wow interesting paradox. I think you have it close ....but no cigar. I have noticed in particular with my Libra friend the more of a fixer up type project he has with a woman the more he gravitates to him. He likes fixing things into balance.

Knowing this in the back of my little brain I tucked that away when I was seeing the Libra. I thought to myself ......don't get to attached he is going to go back to the ex ....because he kept harping how bad it was. Our connection was good and fun and tons of chemistry however I was not exactly a fixer up project he needed to balance. Make sense? So of course I was right guess where he is .....fixing and balancing his scales with ex.

PD

ya, that sounds about right...I just posted the same scenario in regard to Virgo and her ex Lib. husband and not filing for divorce...

Libras do like to fix...
the one I dated for (4) years, met him when I was low on dough, had been let go from a job...he swooped right in and wanted to "take care of me"

the problem with that is that I can get back on my feet all by myself and when I started to get my crap in order he really threw on the charm...

I appreciated his help and oft told him so, but then it seemed that the more he did the more he obligated me into the relationship which I hated

the more i told him to stop with the monetary assistance which he initiated (I did not ask for) the more angry he got

he married a Gem. w. a little girl (he swore he wanted no more kids to me) but I suppose this younger girl fit right into his scheme of things, besides the fact that she's a Gem.

I know I am right. its crazy. they hate the truth.. maybe his is not mature. but libras always talkin like they on some grown man stuff. its all a game. they bounce and bounce .. and they all ways need someone to blame. I know I can be a lil blount but the truth is what it is. I can see my ex being with someone younger. to control and play games with.

libra males , really seem to be oblivous to what they are doing.And that they are hurting you.

Background :my friend and her boyfriend have a on- again- off again relationship.I had a house party. He dropped by "uninvited"

out of nowhere ex-libra comments "does he( friend's boyfriend) know that his comming and going is messing her up. We just all looked at him.I was thinking WTF and I wanted to scream " you are doing the same thing!!!"

Why do , they alway see what other people are doing but never what they are doing. And feel the need to comment on it...

I rest my case........

My libra friend who was heart broken last weekend ....in which I rescued his drunk ass ......said he would go to an art walk with me and some friends and start to inter mingle and get out. Guess who bailed today—?? yeap Libra to go out with Capricorn who blantly said "As long as he is buying my way I will go out with him". Yeap, she basiclly said she is using him and where is he going tonight—? Out with Capricorn. It is frustrating because I care about Libra as friends and to see him used and abused is blantly wrong. So there you have it ladies .....If you want to keep your Libra man do the following:

1 - Use him and treat him like shit
2 - Be a fixer upper project

He will be in love. *Sigh out of frustration*

PD

(( 1 - Use him and treat him like butter ))

my ex libra, kept telling me how he has a soft spot for his ex that got pregnant while they were engaged and left him for another guy...

And there I was and all wanted did was love him and let him be the man. He keeps saying that no one has never treated him as good as I did.
Yet, I am not good enough for him until the next time he needed someone to comfort and made him feel better...

* people saying libras like harmony and balance

Libras don't like harmony and balance. Not in the way most people mean. Libras are BALANCING not balanced. By the very nature of Libra, they strive on conflict and bring balance to any situation. They are always in opposition.

* how can u want balance and harmony if they always leaving when things get good.

How do you know it was good for HIM? You don't.

* he only had friends he hungout with

huh? What else do you do with friends? lol!

* I hated that about him

yet profess to love him.

* everytime I thought we were in harmony he would say something or do something stupid to throw it all off.

you judge what he says as stupid. Nothing in life is constant but change.

* He never could make up his mind.

The very lesson of libra is that we cannot have this if we choose that. It is the lesson that every choice matters.

* he never set long term goals.

So?

* I nalso noticed that if I would tell some1 about how he would treat me he never would wanna go around that person again..

You betrayed the intamacy and sacredness of your relationship. Your telling someone about your mistreatment (in your eyes) was a passive aggressive attempt to control him, manipulate him with shame and embarrassment. Who wants that? I would be horrified and would never want to see that person either because I would be embarrassed not only for myself but for my partner.

* why cant libra just let things flow?

Why can't you just accept him for who he is? Don't say you did. I just have pointed out a variety of ways that you tried to control him and manipulate him. You won't see it that way because as an earth sign, you have a very different perspective on it.

* how come when u tell them somethingfor their good they dont listen even if they know they have issues...

Because the need of every human is to be accepted not criticised.

* they hate the truth..

wrong again. We adore the truth but generally we get the motivations of the person, the base of their being and manybe people like our virgo friend are self-deceptive.

The truth is not every attraction means you are going to live happily ever after. It is no one's fault. When you are attracted and continue a relationship or pursuing a relationship when the person has clearly said they aren't interested or ready ... you are bound and determined to get hurt at your OWN expense.

Go where it is easy.

If you don't get each other, you don't get each other. No amount of whining and complaining, critising, demanding, and wishing it weren't so is going to change it. Doesn't matter if the heavens align and you are the perfect couple IF ONLY blahh, blahh, blahh. The IF ONLY always cancels out everything that came before.

Why waste all that energy in trying to change what is into what can never be when you can be in a relationship that meets *YOUR* needs? You could take all that time and energy you are wasting and throw a puppet show with your beloved. 🙂 (or whatever).

We need to stop seeing every man who expresses interest in us as THE ONE.

You all complain that these Libra men are attracted to women that use them, aren't good for them, and treat them poorly but .... isn't that exactly what you are doing with these men?

something to think on.

we the friends i have i actually talk to them . we dont just hang out. If it was not good for him then he should have left with out playing games. He always pushed me to have goals but he never had any. I see that as a bit funny. I accepted him as he was but I will not tolerate games.

*You betrayed the intamacy and sacredness of your relationship.
he betrayed things when he played games and was direspectful.

I hated some things about him but I loved things about him to.

I never thought his thoughts were stupid. but he could never stick to one thing and flow with it.

I just wanted to tell him things that would help him my ex libra aint right and the thing is he admits its. but he says he is good. he does wanna change. he tells me to change my ways first. I could never tell if he loved me or if he was trying to torture me.

I pissed him off by telling him the truth. I didnt do it to gurt or pass judgement on him I did it because i took the blame for a lot of his short comings. i accepted my wrongs. (it took me a long time to get to that point.) But i told him my wrong in our relationship. but i told him I could no longer take responsebility for his. .. no he is sooooo mad.. He just tells me to leave him a lone. I really thought the truth would help us progress our relationship but now he hates me. what do I do? do i really just leave the libra alone do u think he will come back around? just as friends though nothing else..

" Use him and treat him like butter
2 - Be a fixer upper project "

that sounds like good tips LOL! never thought of that. hell with being aloof and all LOL

Posted by Fafa
Damn ! I'm sorry you dealt with a fcked up Libra. I'm far from what you described, def not perfect. Growing every day and I welcome the truth.

This is a 9 yr old post doll, the Libra has prob stalked and killed her by now and she's 6ft under his back garden.

I'm a Virgo and I feel similarly about a Libra. They just don't like to be alone and hate their flaws being pointed out to them. Plus, if they continuously don't follow through with plans, that means they're just using you to fill in whatever time space You filled for Them. Which means they don't respect you. I'm in the process of remaking our friendship too so I can't give you any solid advice. I know it drives us Virgos crazy when people don't do what they're supposed to.

yes, i am full of excuses. it's exhausting. ?

I realize this post is old but I'm diggin the advice! More more.. Do leeb dudes really love fixing people?

Posted by boxcarmirnta
I realize this post is old but I'm diggin the advice! More more.. Do leeb dudes really love fixing people?

Yes. They are the epitome of "Captain Save a Hoe." Their shitty egos get off on rescuing crazy chicks.

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Posted by boxcarmirnta
I realize this post is old but I'm diggin the advice! More more.. Do leeb dudes really love fixing people?

Yes. They are the epitome of "Captain Save a Hoe." Their shitty egos get off on rescuing crazy chicks.

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Good to know! HahaThx. 🙂

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by boxcarmirnta
I realize this post is old but I'm diggin the advice! More more.. Do leeb dudes really love fixing people?

Yes. They are the epitome of "Captain Save a Hoe." Their shitty egos get off on rescuing crazy chicks.

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WELL IT'S TOO BAD THE CUSPER COULDNT SAVE YOU, HUH ?

(an L for the Libra board)

Posted by Lilianni
I'm a Virgo and I feel similarly about a Libra. They just don't like to be alone and hate their flaws being pointed out to them. Plus, if they continuously don't follow through with plans, that means they're just using you to fill in whatever time space You filled for Them. Which means they don't respect you. I'm in the process of remaking our friendship too so I can't give you any solid advice. I know it drives us Virgos crazy when people don't do what they're supposed to.

Its quite interesting I found this to be the case with an ex Virgo. Absolute awful procrastinator to the point where it impeded our relationship. No plans were stuck to and he just wanted to lay about and have a sore head/stomach/too wet out/too windy etc etc. GOD it drove me nuts. I ended up feeling single so I just made it official.