Libra asked my BF to take me out on a date

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Sagittarius2315 on Monday, January 27, 2014 and has 22 replies.
First and foremost he's a Virgo/Libra cusp. Here's the story. Recently I've had this feeling that my friend whose also my BF's might be a little fond of me.
Okay so this is the problem. Yes, Libra is a friend, I treat him as such. I'm naturally a nice person, that's just me. So this is why I'm trying not to read in to it so much. Cause I'm sort of like him, just naturally nice. Don't know if that's my Virgo moon, or my Venus in Aqua; or my Libra ascendent or just my Sun sign.
This is the dilemma; current happenings. Libra asked my BF(we have been together for years now. Had a small break up, but we are back together.) if he can take me out on a date on Feb 14, it's a winery and Libra knows I like wines and never been to a winery. He's also taking me to dinner to an Italian restaurant that specializes in wines. He told me the wine menu has over 150 selections.
We were doing boxing drills and he jokingly said(I honestly thought he was kidding) "Oh, the Italian restaurant I went to last night has the biggest wine menu. I think your like it, as a matter a fact we're going on a date." And he chuckled his kid like chuckle cause he's always laughing. And I just smiled and said "okay."
But I wasn't taking him seriously. Anywho; he asked my BF, and BF said yeah he has no problem with it.
Libra also asked me to go shopping with him; wanted my opinion on some jeans he was going to buy. I told him I couldn't go and he said "I understand, there will be a next time."

My BF and I aren't jealous; he's gone out with female friends of mine, who are engaged, and it was all innocent. We are just like that; and have that much trust in one another. My BF is a Cap with Cap moon, Venus in Aqua and Mars in Aqua.
Libra's moon is in Cancer and his Venus is in Scorp.
So could I still be jumping in to conclusions? When we talk he's always nervous running his fingers through his hair, and looks up at me, well down cause he's pretty tall. He's always smiling, looking at me intensely, to honest he very joyful. I've noticed he does run his hands through his hair a lot when he talks to me.....lol. I asked him what he puts in his hair and he was more then happy to tell me.
Anywho; at this date I might have to be straight forward and ask him if he has a minor crush on me. Or I might chicken out and say nothing cause I just hate awkward moments with people. I'd rather wait and have the person tell me and then act on it accordingly.
What do you guys th
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I meant "what do you guys think?"
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Posted by tiziani
If you don't like it them tell him no. Seems like he's shooting straight and narrow to me.


I will Tiz.....thanks. Like I said; it seriously caught me of guard. But if he over steps I'll put him in his place.
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Posted by Sagittarius2315
I meant "what do you guys think?"


I say nip this at the bud. But I know how you feel. I'm the exact same way! It's really hard for me to turn someone down... not that I can't do it, I just hate that dreadful awkward moment, especially if they didn't like you and you read wrong! How embarrassing -__-...
This is how I say it... "So you know we're JUST (keyword)friends right." and if they never really liked you... Hey you had to make sure and you couldn't help but feel he's going down a road you don't want to head down. It's only reasonable and understandable that you ask. It's always better to be safe than sorry I say Tongue.
Good Luck!
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Posted by Sagittarius2315
I meant "what do you guys think?"


I say nip this at the bud. But I know how you feel. I'm the exact same way! It's really hard for me to turn someone down... not that I can't do it, I just hate that dreadful awkward moment, especially if they didn't like you and you read wrong! How embarrassing -__-...
This is how I say it... "So you know we're JUST (keyword)friends right." and if they never really liked you... Hey you had to make sure and you couldn't help but feel he's going down a road you don't want to head down. It's only reasonable and understandable that you ask. It's always better to be safe than sorry I say Tongue.
Good Luck!
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Thank you; yes just like you say I don't want to make the wrong assumption and make an ass of myself....lol.
If he over steps; I will pump the breaks and put him in his place.
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Posted by xtina
Posted by Sagittarius2315
I meant "what do you guys think?"


I say nip this at the bud. But I know how you feel. I'm the exact same way! It's really hard for me to turn someone down... not that I can't do it, I just hate that dreadful awkward moment, especially if they didn't like you and you read wrong! How embarrassing -__-...
This is how I say it... "So you know we're JUST (keyword)friends right." and if they never really liked you... Hey you had to make sure and you couldn't help but feel he's going down a road you don't want to head down. It's only reasonable and understandable that you ask. It's always better to be safe than sorry I say Tongue.
Good Luck!


Thank you; yes just like you say I don't want to make the wrong assumption and make an ass of myself....lol.
If he over steps; I will pump the breaks and put him in his place.
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Yes, but make sure you know where to pump the breaks. Because I'd normally would say that myself and never have a definitive line drawn... and my blockheaded self will not see the signs before it's too late and the next thing you know he's singing you songs and serenading you on a guitar Tongue
But that's just me, because I'm an Aries and so unawares sometimes >__
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Posted by Sagittarius2315
Posted by xtina
Posted by Sagittarius2315
I meant "what do you guys think?"


I say nip this at the bud. But I know how you feel. I'm the exact same way! It's really hard for me to turn someone down... not that I can't do it, I just hate that dreadful awkward moment, especially if they didn't like you and you read wrong! How embarrassing -__-...
This is how I say it... "So you know we're JUST (keyword)friends right." and if they never really liked you... Hey you had to make sure and you couldn't help but feel he's going down a road you don't want to head down. It's only reasonable and understandable that you ask. It's always better to be safe than sorry I say Tongue.
Good Luck!


Thank you; yes just like you say I don't want to make the wrong assumption and make an ass of myself....lol.
If he over steps; I will pump the breaks and put him in his place.


Yes, but make sure you know where to pump the breaks. Because I'd normally would say that myself and never have a definitive line drawn... and my blockheaded self will not see the signs before it's too late and the next thing you know he's singing you songs and serenading you on a guitar Tongue
But that's just me, because I'm an Aries and so unawares sometimes >__
OMG! Now that you talk about singing; he's song in front of me twice already. The first was "Say something." cause it was playing, and yesterday he was harmonizing. He's always telling fun facts about cats, cause I have a kitty.
But yes; I will bump the breaks before he becomes to late.
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Posted by xtina
Posted by Sagittarius2315
I meant "what do you guys think?"


I say nip this at the bud. But I know how you feel. I'm the exact same way! It's really hard for me to turn someone down... not that I can't do it, I just hate that dreadful awkward moment, especially if they didn't like you and you read wrong! How embarrassing -__-...
This is how I say it... "So you know we're JUST (keyword)friends right." and if they never really liked you... Hey you had to make sure and you couldn't help but feel he's going down a road you don't want to head down. It's only reasonable and understandable that you ask. It's always better to be safe than sorry I say Tongue.
Good Luck!


Thank you; yes just like you say I don't want to make the wrong assumption and make an ass of myself....lol.
If he over steps; I will pump the breaks and put him in his place.


Yes, but make sure you know where to pump the breaks. Because I'd normally would say that myself and never have a definitive line drawn... and my blockheaded self will not see the signs before it's too late and the next thing you know he's singing you songs and serenading you on a guitar Tongue
But that's just me, because I'm an Aries and so unawares sometimes >__
OMG! Now that you talk about singing; he's song in front of me twice already. The first was "Say something." cause it was playing, and yesterday he was harmonizing. He's always telling fun facts about cats, cause I have a kitty.
But yes; I will bump the breaks before he becomes to late.
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OMG! Now that you talk about singing; he's song in front of me twice already. The first was "Say something." cause it was playing, and yesterday he was harmonizing. He's always telling fun facts about cats, cause I have a kitty.
But yes; I will bump the breaks before he becomes to late.
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Posted by Sagittarius2315
OMG! Now that you talk about singing; he's song in front of me twice already. The first was "Say something." cause it was playing, and yesterday he was harmonizing. He's always telling fun facts about cats, cause I have a kitty.
But yes; I will bump the breaks before he becomes to late.


Oh girl this Libra is smitten for you Tongue
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Yeah, I would say that accepting a "date" ON valentine's day to a nice dinner means that you are sending him a message that you are interested in a romantic relationship with him. I don't care if he asked your boyfriend's permission or what. If you aren't into him, don't go.
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I kind of wonder why the boyfriend even agreed to this on that particular day. @_@
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Posted by 2N3R
I kind of wonder why the boyfriend even agreed to this on that particular day. @_@


Because we aren't like many people. To some Valentines day is like, "oh so special." To us every day is special. So we don't fallow traditional views on holidays and blah. The thing is me and my BF aren't jealous people.
Like I said; there been times where my BF has wanted to go to the movies and we ask one of our mutual female friends, to go out with him. It's all innocent stuff.
So that's why he doesn't mind if our Libra friend takes me out. However; he's very intuitive and was actually teasing me because he already knows libra likes me. Me and my BF have been together for a very long time( almost ten years now). So there is a level of trust that many won't understand.
I told Libra; that our date is a friendship date. He smiled and said "I know."
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Well my BF has a feeling Libra likes me. Another thing; my BF works that day on valentines day. So I'm basically staying home that day. So I guess my Libra friend say that as an opportunity. Either; it doesn't bother me, for the simple fact that I know how to deescalate the situation.
To me it's innocent; until there is indication or my libra friend says something; then I'll stop him in his tracks.
Still I don't want to make and ass of myself, and jump the gun. Then come to find out I was wrong. He's a good friend; and he's a mutual friend of me and my BF.
As long as he stays in his place. I'm fine.
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As long as Libra knows, then it's fine. I'm not questioning your relationship or your boyfriend, rather the way Libra is seeing things. You have to see it from Libra's perspective, and I would wonder why this dude wants to go out on that date instead of any other random time, especially knowing how much meaning they supposedly give that day.
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Posted by 2N3R
As long as Libra knows, then it's fine. I'm not questioning your relationship or your boyfriend, rather the way Libra is seeing things. You have to see it from Libra's perspective, and I would wonder why this dude wants to go out on that date instead of any other random time, especially knowing how much meaning they supposedly give that day.


I have to admit; I question the same.
But Libra knows that we are only friends; I view him as such and nothing more. I don't give him mixed signals, or flirt. When we talk we talk about business, the gym, intellectual things. It never veers from that. It's all innocent and never goes beyond.
But like you I do wonder the same.
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I wonder, does your bf get a special thrill out of Libra liking you? It really doesn't matter if the two of you have different values (re: jealousy). I suspect this man believes he can win you over. Seems mean to tease him in this way.
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Posted by beckamitchell
I wonder, does your bf get a special thrill out of Libra liking you? It really doesn't matter if the two of you have different values (re: jealousy). I suspect this man believes he can win you over. Seems mean to tease him in this way.


No; I don't believe he gets a thrill out of it. To be honest I believe my BF, he's a Cap, of he really thought it was a serious matter; he would've said no.
But he views it as innocent. I also believe he trust both of us enough to know, that neither would over step.
I believe some people can have secret crushes and it doesn't go beyond that, and the person will keep it to themselves out of respect. Like I said, my libra male friend knows we are friends and I don't give him reason to think he has a chance.
Another reason why I don't assume, or more so call him out on it. Because , he's not flirtatious, when he visits he always makes sure my BF is home, and never speaks out of context with me. He's very respectful. To not only me ; but to my BF.
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OMG... how far can go Libra's imagination and shame ??.... 14th February is love day, he want invite you out exactly that day, then your BF will remaining looking on the walls ??? That's crazy !
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Awkward.
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Posted by Jessy801
OMG... how far can go Libra's imagination and shame ??.... 14th February is love day, he want invite you out exactly that day, then your BF will remaining looking on the walls ??? That's crazy !


In actuality no; my Bf isn't going to be home looking at the walls....lol. He works nights, this is why he said yes. Cause he'll be working; if not he would have said no. Either way; I won't let get too out of hand.
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Venus in Scorpio Libra... Same here... We don't play.. He is totally trying to get you where he wants you... Valentines day.. Come on, connect the dots!
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