Libra Boy and Aries Girl...Please help! I'm new :)

Okay, so this might be a little bit of a long story (and I'm probably leaving out a lot of other details??_), but thank you all for your help! I just need some opinions on this situation??_And I'm an Aries! (Although not sure if I fit the exact mold of an Aries??_)

So I have known this LibraBoy for over 10 years??_he had a huge crush on me when we were little, and I am pretty positive that it's never gone away. So fast forward to present day, he is 20 (he??ll be 21 in September??_) and I just turned 24 in March. He is sooo the typical Libra from what I have been reading??_ladies man, very social, doesn't like confrontation, sociable, approachable, lack of directiveness, avoiding being the one to blame, charming, lazy, hates to be thought of as the bad guy, etc. He is a star athlete at his college and has over 900 friends on facebook??_crazy, I know!

In February of this year, I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years??_so me and LibraBoy had been chatting on facebook a lot more than normal since then. I have not seen LibraBoy in about 3 or 4 years, and in March I was going to be in his town so I told him that we should hang out and what not??_when my friend and I were out that night, I had been texting him asking what he was doing and stuff??_He doesn't have a car and had been drinking, so couldn't drive to our hotel. I told him to take a taxi or something, but he didn't. I said that maybe I should taxi over to his place, and he was totally okay with that, but my friend convinced me not to go (i.e. if he really wanted to see me he would make the effort!). He said that it was lame that I wasn't coming over, that he really wanted to see me and that he wanted to kiss me! So he texted me the next morning and things were fine??_but we didn't end up seeing eachother when I was in his town.

A few weeks later he started chatting with me on facebook??_he was drunk??_he said that he was —so stoked?? to see me (he was going to be in my town in April??_), that he was going to give me the biggest kiss, he wants to kiss me —madly?? because he —thinks I'm gorgeous and a very nice girl.?? Then he goes on about how he can't wait to hold me and that cuddling is his favorite thing and how he just really wants to hold me. I ask, —wow, how long have you been waiting for me to break up with my boyfriend— and he says —to be honest, a while. Hahah??

and I asked him why he didn't see me when I was in his town and he said that he wanted to but was too drunk and couldn't drive. Anyway, the conversation ended and I basically thought that he really wanted to hang out with me and was into me and such! We also had a conversation a week or 2 earlier and he talked about how he —remembered loving me?? when he was younger??_more stuff like that.

So the day he gets to town (it's his hometown btw??_so he knows a lot of people here), HE texts me saying whats up, what am I doing, etc. Tells me that his game is at 7pm (he is in town with his team??_), which I already knew and he knew I was planning on attending, but I guess he just wanted to make sure I was going?! After I got home from his game, I texted him saying that it was awesome watching him play and such, and if he couldn't hang out that night then no worries??_he texted me back almost right away saying that he couldn't that night (Friday) but probably on Sunday. I say that I can't on Sunday because I'm babysitting and he says —okay, maybe tomorrow!?? Tomorrow (Saturday) comes around, he texts me again saying whats up. I ask if he knows his plans for that night and he says that he's doing —not a damn thing!?? so I ask if we??re going to hang out, and he says, —what are we going to do— I write back —I dunno, snuggle— or something like that and he texts back —I'm down!?? and then something like —how about some beers too?? or something like that, I say sure sure??_so yeah, I'm super excited to hang out at this point!

A couple hours later my dumb a** asks if he wants to rent a hotel room (I tell him that I don't want to give him the wrong impression??_we aren't having sex!) because he is underage and I thought it would give us some privacy to drink and stuff??_he is staying at a hotel with his teammates and sharing a room so I didn't want to bother his roommate either. After the game he texts me at like 1030pm saying —I'm going to dinner with my parents, I??ll text you after.?? So right there I thought that was sort of weird??_and his game started at 6pm??_but I just say —okay, have a good dinner!?? so he texts me a little after midnight saying —whats up— and what do you want to do, blah blah??_

I say well, I??ll just come pick you up (he doesn't have a car because he is here with his team) and we can drink at my house now that it's so late, and you can taxi back??_then he goes, WELL, I THINK I??M JUST GOING TO GO TO BED??_okay, I was pissed, lol. I give it a few minutes then try calling him and he doesn't answer. He texts me right away saying that his roommate is asleep so he can't answer. Then he says that he has to wake up at 6am??_I pretty much think all of it is a bunch of BS and I probably just scared him off with my hotel room comment, but I let it go and say have a good night or whatever??_

2 hours later he texts me —I can't sleep.?? I was still awake, so I text him back right away saying —I can't either.?? He says he wants to see me, I say that I wanted to see him too. He says then come see me! I say but you flaked on me??_are you serious? He says, —not flaked, come see me!?? I say, —what are we going to do if you have to be awake in 3 ?_ hours— He said —cuddle and share a 40.?? I say, —okay, I??ll be there in 20 min??_?? (mistake by me!!! Ugghhh!)

so then I get a call from him a few minutes later, only it's not him, it's one of his friends. His friend is giving me the location to where he is. I am confused because I thought I was just going to his hotel and I hear other people in the background, etc. so I just say —yep yep, got it.?? And I text him after I hang up with his friend and say —are you in your hotel room? I am confused?? and he texts back —NAW. WE NEED YOU TO PICK US UP??_I GOT CONVINCED TO GO OUT.?? So I think to myself, hell no I'm not about to be used for a ride right now. I just don't respond. He calls me twice after about 10 min. and I don't respond. I text him —I'm not coming??_sorry. Please be safe.?? And he says —why not? (why aren't I coming?) and I respond —it's fine. Just please be safe and tell your friends that I'm sorry?? and then he gets pissed. He texts back —wow?? and then asks again why I'm not coming and I say —cuz you??re a liar— and he texts —don't call me a liar.?? He tries calling me a couple more times and I don't answer??_I was so pissed and annoyed and didn't think he would do this to me! Anyway, then I text him —put yourself in my shoes?? or something, and he basically said —that's dumb. Goodnight.?? I don't respond??_and I don't hear from him the next day (Sunday). But I do hear from him on Mo

Monday, when he is still in town??_He texts me —Whats up— I just don't respond.

So I don't talk to him for about 2 weeks??_then I IMed him on facebook the other night and just basically said hey, if you didn't want to hang out you should have just told me. I'm a big girl and I can handle it! Then all he wrote back was that he called me like 3 times and I thought he was using me. The conversation pretty much just ended at that. I said sorry for calling him a liar, and I did have fun watching him play, etc??_he didn't respond so I logged off.

A few days ago I IMed him on facebook, trying to keep things light and flirty, —I need some snuggle in my life! Haha?? or something like that. He didn't respond and just logged off a couple minutes later.

So, now on to my questions! Lol. Thanks to all who read my story. Sorry it was so long! I just wanted to be thorough and explain the situation as best I could.

1. I consider myself to be pretty mature??_is he just too immature at this point in his life (he's got quite the life ahead of him??_) to even think of pursuing anything with me?

2. like the saying goes??_Is he just not that into me? Or perhaps not worth pursuing since we live about 7 hours away from eachother?

3. For me, the physical attraction is totally there??_but I haven't hung out with him enough to know if we could ever have a relationship. He is totally my type in regards to his appearance though. Did I scare him off after that little —fight?? we had? Or my hotel room comment?

4. What should I do now?? What's my next step? Don't contact him until he contacts me first? Send him a message explaining that I hope our friendship isn't ruined after that incident or whatever? Also, I deleted his phone # because I have a real problem drunk texting him and realized that I don't want to do that anymore!

Any other opinions on this situation would be greatly appreciated! Thanks soo much!! : )

Also, my first boyfriend was a Libra, and my recent ex boyfriend was a Leo??_and I'm also sort of talking to another Leo at the moment.

Ugh... he's just being an immature guy. He lied to you and tried to use you. I'm willing to bet he's going to try to get back in your good graces within the next week or two. Libra guys do that.

Trust me for your own good let this one go!! Before you guys even started hanging out he was trying to play you and lie to you. Seriously walk away before you get emotionally invested.
Yes delete his number. Drunk dialing is embarrassing. Trust me 🙂
And be forewarned that he is going to pour on the charm if you ignore him. They don't like people mad at them. I'd never speak to him again. Libras are horrible at making decisions. He's only going to confuse you more.

Been there done that with a Libra. He's lucky I didn't kill him 😛

These ladies are dead right about us Librans....should I be offended— Hell no, I'm old and mature!! lol

i think he has some growing up to do yeah but sometimes it takes an interest to make us grow up first. Being that he had a crush on you for sooo long i dont think he is going to let you go so easily so hang in there if you think he will mature and you are willing to go down that track with him. Most men are immature in alot of things they do in relationships even when they are OLD like my Libran step-dad and he's 55!!!!

But dont you go extending anymore olive branches...wait for him, us ladies need to practice a little patience when it comes to men and love. Our tomorrow is their next week!

libras and scorpios yuk fo real dont do it

Posted by v s o p
libras and scorpios yuk fo real dont do it

Why not? lol

Posted by Gingerscorp
Ugh... he's just being an immature guy. He lied to you and tried to use you. I'm willing to bet he's going to try to get back in your good graces within the next week or two. Libra guys do that.

Trust me for your own good let this one go!! Before you guys even started hanging out he was trying to play you and lie to you. Seriously walk away before you get emotionally invested.
Yes delete his number. Drunk dialing is embarrassing. Trust me 🙂
And be forewarned that he is going to pour on the charm if you ignore him. They don't like people mad at them. I'd never speak to him again. Libras are horrible at making decisions. He's only going to confuse you more.

Been there done that with a Libra. He's lucky I didn't kill him 😛

you really think he'll try and talk to me within the next week or 2? because i'm not so sure....i read in another forum that you shouldn't play games with Libras because they will play right back...pretty sure he might ignore me for awhile? i mean, i already apologized (even though i totally think he lied me...) and tried to make nice, but i can just tell that things aren't the same now. i didn't overreact or anything did i?? because i totally tried to play it somewhat cool....i'm pretty laid-back and easy-going, but not when i feel like i'm being used...

okay yeah, drunk dialing is sooo embarrassing. i wish i would have deleted his # sooner, jeez! haha. i used to only drunk text him but about a month ago i drunk called him and left a message and COULD NOT remember what i said...that is just the worst 😢 how pathetic...even though he said it was hilarious, but still...

i think i just might have been too available/easy to get ahold of, too willing to please, etc...i'm not ready to let him go just yet, but i won't be dwelling on the situation either!! 🙂

LEOS are so much easier!!! 🙂

Posted by starsapphire91
hi!

well, to me he seems just too immature, he's only 20 and you're 24, thats a big gap in development. personally, i wouldn't bother with him, but if you still want to pursue him, then leave the ball in his court. wait for him to contact you, and when he does, keep it platonic, and don't let on that you want a relationship. let him make the first move. libran men like to do the chasing, and most librans are VERY indecisive, and waiting on a immature libra like that, you might be waiting for a long time. if he wants a relationship with you, he'll make it known. if he doesn't, he'll stop flirting with you, and he might cut down his contact with you. time will tell. just chill and wait for him, but if he takes too long, and keeps with the flip-floping, i say, why bother? just move on...

thanks for your help star 🙂 yeah, i definitely think he's too immature, obviously...i didn't think he was, but it's definitely become more clear to me after this entire situation the past month.

i definitely plan on playing more hard to get in the future and letting him come to me...next time i'm in his town though, do you think i should send him a quick message on facebook or something, like "hey, just wanted to let you know i'll be in town for the day...call me if you want to hang out." or should i just not? what do you think?

and honestly, i just got out of a 5 year relationship so i'm not looking to jump into another relationship at this moment in time...but he's just so freakin' adorable, damnit!! haha. i just want to hang out and see what happens, you know? see what kind of connection we have or don't have, etc...and i think things might be easier when he's 21 and can meet up at a bar or something...maybe he's nervous? i don't knooow! uggghh! darn you Libras!! haha. 🙂

Oh yeah... trust me. The other girls who have dealt with a Libra will back me up. He WILL try to get ahold of you. What you did pales in comparison to what I did to my ex Libra. I said every mean thing to him I could think of and being a Scorp....... whoo! I can cut with words. But he came skipping back acting like nothing happened. If shocked me.
Maybe it's a challenge to them knowing someone is pissed or has hard feelings toward them and they want to see if they can get you back with their super charm. Idk what it is but to me it was annoying 🙂
Don't sweat over the situation too much. If you don't want to let him go ok but you really should keep a close eye on him. He'll be sweet as honey and it seems so genuine but they are notorious for changing their minds. It's astounding.

I wouldn't worry too much about drunk dialing a Libra 🙂 He probably really did get a kick out of it. Anything to stroke his ego 😛 But honestly Libras love to laugh and keep things light so no biggie.
I just wouldn't make a habit out of it 😉

Posted by starsapphire91
if he wants you, he will contact you, flirting and being nice, just like gingerscorp said, he won't want you to be mad at him. but, that being said, he probably won't bring up the argument, librans don't like confrontation, and don't like being blamed for anything, so don't expect him to face the music and apologize. this is not out of arrogance, but cowardice. keep in mind, he is a libran, an immature one at that, and he will weigh the pros and cons of everything, this going back to the indecisiveness, and he will take his time doing everything, and you, being an aries, might not be able to deal with that, as arians are known for being impatient.

personally, i couldn't put up with any of this, i'm too impatient myself, and i'm a libran woman. immature libran men are the worst. he's just too young, i think you should let this whole thing go.

hi again star 🙂 i think you're completely right...he'll contact me if he wants me. i think things have also been difficult because we live so far away from eachother...he's probably thinking "what's the point?" i wish he wasn't such an a** when he was in town though...that was just so bizarre. i really wasn't expecting that from him....

maybe when he's out of college and more mature things could be different with us...and i'm totally willing to let the whole thing go, but i just don't want to cut him out of my life is all! i guess time will tell!

Posted by sweethearts
These ladies are dead right about us Librans....should I be offended— Hell no, I'm old and mature!! lol

i think he has some growing up to do yeah but sometimes it takes an interest to make us grow up first. Being that he had a crush on you for sooo long i dont think he is going to let you go so easily so hang in there if you think he will mature and you are willing to go down that track with him. Most men are immature in alot of things they do in relationships even when they are OLD like my Libran step-dad and he's 55!!!!

But dont you go extending anymore olive branches...wait for him, us ladies need to practice a little patience when it comes to men and love. Our tomorrow is their next week!

thanks for the help sweethearts! 🙂 i soo appreciate it!

yeah, i really don't think that that one "fight" or whatever it was that we had would make him totally change his mind about me, but who knows...i can't read his mind! hah. wish i could though! lol. i just got out of a 5 year relationship so i'm really not looking for anything serious in the near or semi-near future. i'm solely focused on myself and doing things that i want to do and having fuuun! i'm 24 and have only kissed 3 guys, so i've got some experiences ahead of me! hah.

i consider myself to be a pretty patient person, but i think i'll definitely have to learn to be even more patient with this Libra! and sorry about your Libran step-dad! lol. tell him to stop being so immature! :-P hahah.

Posted by Gingerscorp
Oh yeah... trust me. The other girls who have dealt with a Libra will back me up. He WILL try to get ahold of you. What you did pales in comparison to what I did to my ex Libra. I said every mean thing to him I could think of and being a Scorp....... whoo! I can cut with words. But he came skipping back acting like nothing happened. If shocked me.
Maybe it's a challenge to them knowing someone is pissed or has hard feelings toward them and they want to see if they can get you back with their super charm. Idk what it is but to me it was annoying 🙂
Don't sweat over the situation too much. If you don't want to let him go ok but you really should keep a close eye on him. He'll be sweet as honey and it seems so genuine but they are notorious for changing their minds. It's astounding.

I wouldn't worry too much about drunk dialing a Libra 🙂 He probably really did get a kick out of it. Anything to stroke his ego 😛 But honestly Libras love to laugh and keep things light so no biggie.
I just wouldn't make a habit out of it 😉

thank you for your help ginger! 🙂

is there anything i can do to make him get ahold of me FASTER?? hahah. maybe i'm being a little impatient here...lol. or just keep on waiting it out?

glad your Libra Ex came back to you after all of that! lol. but the thing is...we were never dating! so i feel as if now maybe he has completely ruled it out after this situation?? like he thinks i made too big of a deal or something? or does he know that he is in the wrong but can't admit it to himself? so confusing!

and IIIII already apologized for calling him a liar and tried to be "nice and flirty" another time...so now he probably thinks i'm not mad at him anymore...think he'll still try and contact me?! haha.

oh, and if he does get ahold of me...i'll definitely keep my eye on him!! i'm going to have to play the game a bit harder next time around...

yeah, i think he really did enjoy the drunk texting/calling...but it's still embarrassing! probably totally strokes his ego too...just like you said 🙂 but NO MORE OF THAT! i deleted his dang number!!! haha.

Posted by starsapphire91
i think you have the right idea. he is too immature, but if you want to keep him as a friend thats okay too. just be sure to keep it light. if the argument arises again in conversation, don't apologize. my mom (libra) doesn't nessesarily avoid conforntation, but if anything goes wrong, and i mean anything, she will blame anyone but herself. i find to eliminate any issues, i will pin her down and tell her that it's her fault, and why. so if you do want a friendship with him, and something like this happens again, remember not to play into his libra games, so you won't end up emotionally tired in the end. you know, you seem like a libra yourself, do you have any planets in libra?

i think you're right too...if anything like this happens again in the future, i just have to tell him that HE is in the wrong and why...but seriously, how can he not blame himself after that whole situation?! i mean really...he totally lied to me! haha. and if he didn't, why not explain himself?! sooo lame. i will try REALLY HARD to not play into his Libra games again next time!!!

yeah, i don't really know if i am a typical aries...i was reading about aries, and didn't think i fit into that sign very well...some of the physical characteristics seemed to be right though. do you know a good website to find out more information? not sure if i have a planet in libra or how exactly that works...

i also read about Libras and Leos, and must say that they were pretty much DEAD ON about the ones that i know...so am i really supposed to be an Aries?! hehe.

Impatience is an Aries trait. You're moon and rising sign has alot to do with your astrological makeup too. You can find your whole natal chart for free online. Try that one.

www.alabe.com/freechart/ Check it out. It will give you a run down on what your chart means.

Posted by Gingerscorp
Impatience is an Aries trait. You're moon and rising sign has alot to do with your astrological makeup too. You can find your whole natal chart for free online. Try that one.

www.alabe.com/freechart/ Check it out. It will give you a run down on what your chart means.

thanks ginger! i put in my info...no planets in Libra! haha. here's what came up!

Rising Sign is in 26 Degrees Aquarius

Sun is in 02 Degrees Aries.

Moon is in 24 Degrees Aries.

Mercury is in 18 Degrees Aries.

Venus is in 20 Degrees Aries.

Mars is in 06 Degrees Taurus.

Jupiter is in 09 Degrees Aquarius.

Saturn is in 27 Degrees Scorpio.

Uranus is in 17 Degrees Sagittarius.

Neptune is in 03 Degrees Capricorn.

Pluto is in 04 Degrees Scorpio.

N. Node is in 18 Degrees Taurus.


I didn't put the descriptions because I figure you guys are pretty much experts with all astrology! haha. but i probably agreed with like 50% of the chart...i do like new ideas/concepts, equality for all, can't understand really emotional people, i'm calm, cool, detached, and objective, high-spirited, independent, sometimes i act before i think, do things spur of the moment, don't hold grudges, sometimes i act too fast on hastily formed opinions, affectionate, willing to be aggressor in initiating a new relationship, careful, slow and thorough in most things i do...also, more comfortable with a close knit group of friends then having a bunch of casual acquaintances...


anything pop out at you that i should be aware of?! 🙂

thanks so much!

Posted by starsapphire91
"and IIIII already apologized for calling him a liar and tried to be "nice and flirty" another time...so now he probably thinks i'm not mad at him anymore...think he'll still try and contact me?! haha."

if you did smooth things over with him, and he does like you, i'm positive that he'll try to contact you. librans love it when they know that no one is mad at them, and that they are not being held accountable for what they did. see, librans always struggle with guilt, whether you can see it or not. librans are very insecure, so if they did something wrong, and they feel guity about it, they won't bring it up, or might even avoid the person altogether, cuz they don't want to start a fight. they are already mad at themselves, so they really don't want the other person mad at them too. so if you go and and apologize and let them off the hook, they can pretend that the whole thing never happened, stop feeling guilty, and go along with keeping things fun and light. by saying sorry, you've made it easier for him to contact you, without feeling guilty. so all you have to do is chill, and wait!

so Librans DO struggle with guilt?! wow...because i thought that maybe he just had a whole warped perception on the whole situation...but maybe he does know that he is in the wrong, and will just never admit it! like you said...pretend that it never even happened 🙂

k, now i will just chill and wait!! i feel a lot better about doing that now that i've gotten some opinions from all of you. thank you again!! 🙂

Posted by starsapphire91
"yeah, i don't really know if i am a typical aries...i was reading about aries, and didn't think i fit into that sign very well...some of the physical characteristics seemed to be right though. do you know a good website to find out more information? not sure if i have a planet in libra or how exactly that works...

i also read about Libras and Leos, and must say that they were pretty much DEAD ON about the ones that i know...so am i really supposed to be an Aries?! hehe."


well, i'm not the average libra either, i'm actually a libra/scorpio cusp, with an aries moon no less! so i would not have the patience to put up with this. and i'm pretty well known for playing hard to get, too! lol! 🙂 it's not that i'm impatient, i just have certain things i will and will not put up with. see, librans can be so shallow and flighty, always wanting to keep things fun and light, and they don't realize that life is not always fun and light. i have a strong dislike for people that don't take things seriously, i've ended friendships because of it. and i have a strong dislike for immaturity as well, so an immature libran, i can't see how you do it!

looks like i've got an aries moon too! hehe. yeah, you are right...life is not all fun and light, so i can see why you've ended friendships with others who didn't take things seriously. that sucks though! hopefully you don't miss those friendships too much 😢

honestly, i don't think i know him well enough yet to not put up with his immaturity! hah. i mean, we aren't even dating...and i guess you could say we were "talking" but not even really that...such a weird situation! i don't even know what i really want from him...i just wanted to hang out and see how things went, but then he had to go and get all dumb and be an a**!

maybe in a few years something could happen with us, but it's not like i'll be waiting around all that time for him...maybe things will be easier when he turns 21...we'll see!

Whooooo lots of Aries girl! Dang! The detachment is an Aqua trait I think. You can hit up their board and ask for more info. I don't know any Aquas so I'm far from knowing much. 🙂

However I do know a little bit about Aries as I'm engaged to an Aries guy 😉

Aries people tend to have a happy go lucky attitude. They are spur of the moment and really unpredictable. Aries aren't grudge holder but they have hella tempers! But once they blow up and let the steam out they are usually moving on. Aries tend to be very blunt and to the point. They unintetionally hurt people with their words and actions sometimes but I've never really seen an Aries do anything just to be mean.
Great chart. I love Aries people! 🙂

Posted by Gingerscorp
Whooooo lots of Aries girl! Dang! The detachment is an Aqua trait I think. You can hit up their board and ask for more info. I don't know any Aquas so I'm far from knowing much. 🙂

However I do know a little bit about Aries as I'm engaged to an Aries guy 😉

Aries people tend to have a happy go lucky attitude. They are spur of the moment and really unpredictable. Aries aren't grudge holder but they have hella tempers! But once they blow up and let the steam out they are usually moving on. Aries tend to be very blunt and to the point. They unintetionally hurt people with their words and actions sometimes but I've never really seen an Aries do anything just to be mean.
Great chart. I love Aries people! 🙂

thanks ginger...perhaps i will head over to the Aqua board and see if they can tell me more because i would think that your rising sign says a lot about you?! but i don't know..we'll see!

yay for you being engaged to an Aries guy! hehe. that is wonderful 🙂 and glad you like my chart! hah. i think your vision of Aries people is pretty spot on with how i live my life...i don't know if i'm that unpredictable though! but everything else sounds a lot like me 🙂

i wish this LibraBoy was a Leo darnit! They are a lot easier to read it seems like....ugh!

Posted by starsapphire91
you have a lot of aries in your chart, wow! i don't know that much about astrology, i can't even make heads of tails out of my own chart! lol! but it seems to me that if you have an aries sun, aries moon, and an aries venus (i'm sorry if i missed any other arian planets), you would be the typical aries, but nothing in astrology is what it seems, *sigh*.


yeah, librans are the innovators when it comes to guilt. all aboard the pity party train! 🙂 when librans are feeling guilty and sorry for themselves, they love nothing more than to have someone there to tell them it's alright, going back to what i said earlier about guilt. like i said, they are VERY insecure, so to have someone to coax their egos and give them reasurance, maybe even give them a compliment too, thats heaven to them. but beware, librans are also good at making others feel guilty too. librans are oh-so-charming, it's natural for them. so when they want you to do something for them, manipulation will feel sugary sweet. they will use all that charm, and crying is standard. they are the best of all actors. it seems to me that in some way, he has done this to you already, you apologized, even when you agreed that he was a liar, and that it wasn't your fault (which it wasn't). so just beware of the games he will play, and don't fall for them. i hope this helps! 😉

yeah, the chart is pretty hard to read! i need an expert or something! haha.

i think you're pretty spot on with how my LibraBoy is...i honestly don't think he's very insecure though, but maybe he puts on a good front! i just can't believe he tried to use me like that and then tried to make it my fault...what the heck?! why must they act like this?! lol.

and nope, he's actually never done anything like this to me before! that was our first "fight." before it's always been just flirty, casual talk...nothing to ever get upset about. the only thing i've apologized for in the past is drunk calling and texting him, but that's about it! i think though, in the past and with this latest situation, i've done a lot of the chasing...so i'm DONE with that...

freakin' Libras! they drive me crazy! lol. no offense to any Libras here 🙂 just this one in particular! haha.

LEAVE HIM ALONE AND HE WILL COME TO YOU. Believe me. I've had 2 Libras back to back. Don't ever call him unless to return his call b/c u missed his. never call back right away. make him wait.

Posted by spendaholic
LEAVE HIM ALONE AND HE WILL COME TO YOU. Believe me. I've had 2 Libras back to back. Don't ever call him unless to return his call b/c u missed his. never call back right away. make him wait.

thank you spend! i completely agree with you 🙂 i was way too available for him before, and now that's going to change! well, has already changed... 🙂 time to make HIM wait 🙂

Posted by unsure_aries

Posted by spendaholic
LEAVE HIM ALONE AND HE WILL COME TO YOU. Believe me. I've had 2 Libras back to back. Don't ever call him unless to return his call b/c u missed his. never call back right away. make him wait.

thank you spend! i completely agree with you 🙂 i was way too available for him before, and now that's going to change! well, has already changed... 🙂 time to make HIM wait 🙂

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also spend...what happened with your 2 Libras?? just curious 🙂

Posted by starsapphire91
librans are vain, don't get me wrong. because librans are so charming, and everyone loves them, and because they are considered the most beautiful sign of the zodiac (well, i'm not beautiful, but most librans are), all of this goes to their heads, and fast. libran babies are the most beautiful, and they always get attention. so i would say most librans become vain around the age of 4. they are so used to people telling them that they are beautiful, thet eventually get full of themselves. but inside, librans are very insecure. if you date this guy, you'll see what in talking about. they can go from being the most narcissistic, dramatic divas you've ever known, to being so insecure that they can't leave the house because of a tiny zit. to me, librans tend to be insecure over the dumbest stuff, but thats just my opinion. i'm more self-depricating, than insecure, and any insecurities i have i keep to myself, i'm so introverted! lol!

yeah, he played you, in a way that to me, isn't forgivable. i hate liars that take advantage of others for no reason. but part of me wouldn't be so pissed at him, he's is just a kid, and he doesn't know any better. which would be all the more reason to just leave him alone, i think the relationship would be too emotionally tiring.

gosh, that is sooo true about this particular LibraBoy...he has been told he's the best his whole life, so i know he must be pretty full of himself...AND he's an only child, lol. i know deep down he is a good guy, his parents raised him right...but like you said, "he is just a kid..." it's true...he's only 20, and an immature 20 at that. i'm don't plan on discussing with him what he did anymore that pissed me the eff off...i am like soooo over it now, lol...i've come to realize that it would just probably never work between us, haha...i wouldn't mind just a friendship or perhaps making out once and a while (lol), but i doubt we could ever have anything serious.

and i thank all of you for helping me come to that realization!!!! so thank you!!! i used to think about him a lot, but now i am soooo over it thanks to you guys! yay! i really appreciate all of your opinions/advice 🙂

Posted by starsapphire91
you should never chase, always be chased, because it's less work. if the guy already likes you and wants you, so all you have to do is decide if you like him, and if he's a good match for you! this is how i always saw relationships to work. the guy should always love you a little more than you love him. it just works out better for you that way, it eliminates a lot of issues women have in relationships. you know that he won't be running the streets at night, doing god knows what, and he'll always take care of you. this is why i would never say "i love you" in a relationship first. let him say it, wait until you know he's just head-over-heels in love with you, then let him know how you feel. if you have to wait, then wait. if he's taking too long, and you know he isn't ready to commit, then leave. there is no way you can make a man commit to you if he doesn't want to. if he loves you then he should want you to know that, and he should want to be with you, period. try to keep all of this in mind when going into a relationship, whether it be with your libraboy or not. i hope my advice has helped! 🙂

i've learned that now (about always BEING chased, not chasing...), so thank you!! i know now how to handle this LibraBoy better in the future 🙂 hehe. i completely agree with everything you said above...i was just dealing with this LibraBoy how i dealt with Leos, and it's soooo not the same, lol...so i've learned my lesson 🙂

i'll keep you posted if LibraBoy and I make contact/hang out in the near future!! hah.

Ok sweetie UNSURE ARIES. First of all don't ask a guy if he wants to rent a hotel room...and then excpect him not to think you want to sleep with him (men are stupid like that sadly). He said he wants to hug and kiss you AND all this other stuff...drunk. He was drunk and you took it seriously? He flaked on you,didn't call you but then calls you when HE can't sleep? And then says YOU should "come to see him"? BAD MOVE, he is testing you to see what he can get YOU to do. Its human nature. He HAS lied to you and then flips the script to make YOU FEEL BAD? Please undersatnd this IF A MAN WANTS TO SEE YOU, HE WILL COME TO SEE YOU. You are not mature. The way you go on about how he has 900 friends on facebook...as if that matters. You were in a 5 year relationship and now you just want to hop to him? Are you serious? I am not being nasty (if I come off that way I am sorry). But you lack the emtional depth to understand he is using you. He is immature and CLEARLY can't deal with or confront his feeling for you LIKE A REAL MAN WOULD. Every time he wanted to see you it was at HIS convience. He is isn't thinking about you or your feelings. I am not being mean I just want you to understand you are young and were in a relationship for 5 years. Take some time out and figure out who YOU ARE. Develop your own personality not the personality of some pathetic, desperate, sad, man needing woman. There are far too many out there,lol. I AGREE COMPLETELY WITH STARSAPHIRE.

Posted by tHe DarK GArDeN
Ok sweetie UNSURE ARIES. First of all don't ask a guy if he wants to rent a hotel room...and then excpect him not to think you want to sleep with him (men are stupid like that sadly). He said he wants to hug and kiss you AND all this other stuff...drunk. He was drunk and you took it seriously? He flaked on you,didn't call you but then calls you when HE can't sleep? And then says YOU should "come to see him"? BAD MOVE, he is testing you to see what he can get YOU to do. Its human nature. He HAS lied to you and then flips the script to make YOU FEEL BAD? Please undersatnd this IF A MAN WANTS TO SEE YOU, HE WILL COME TO SEE YOU. You are not mature. The way you go on about how he has 900 friends on facebook...as if that matters. You were in a 5 year relationship and now you just want to hop to him? Are you serious? I am not being nasty (if I come off that way I am sorry). But you lack the emtional depth to understand he is using you. He is immature and CLEARLY can't deal with or confront his feeling for you LIKE A REAL MAN WOULD. Every time he wanted to see you it was at HIS convience. He is isn't thinking about you or your feelings. I am not being mean I just want you to understand you are young and were in a relationship for 5 years. Take some time out and figure out who YOU ARE. Develop your own personality not the personality of some pathetic, desperate, sad, man needing woman. There are far too many out there,lol. I AGREE COMPLETELY WITH STARSAPHIRE.

well first off, thank you for your opinion dark garden! i appreciate your response 🙂

yeah...i can't believe i mentioned getting a hotel room. i honestly thought he was more mature than he really was...but i was SO wrong, lol...looking back now, i know i made a bunch of mistakes with him...i think because i didn't know how to "handle" someone like him...i think i have a better idea now for the future though 🙂

i am honestly so turned off by the way he treated me (especially after hearing opinions from people in this thread...) that i am so over this guy now! i know that i don't deserve to be treated like this, and i'm just embarrassed that i played into his stupid little games...i mean, it could have been a lot worse. i'm not that embarrassed, but yeah...there is a lot more to the story and i think he does like me in some way...but i think he's too busy being mr. popular/mr. cool guy and enjo

enjoying his life to even worry about my feelings or whatever...which i don't blame him! he's only 20...i can't expect much from an immature 20 year old! and a LIBRA at that! haha.

he didn't have a car when he was up here, so that's why i was going to go meet him...but i am SOOOO DONE WITH THAT! oh, and i just mentioned that he had so many friends on facebook because that is a "typical" trait of Libras or whatever...to be social, have a lot of friends, lots of women attracted to them, etc...i mean, i could really care less how many friends he has. he probably only really knows 100 or them or something...anyway, doesn't matter! 🙂

oh, and i am ALL ABOUT figuring out who i am after my 5 year relationship!! hehe. i was just very attracted to this LibraBoy and just wanted to hang out and see how things went...wasn't even looking for anything serious. i don't want to be in a relationship right now and wouldn't expect him to be in one with me! maybe just kiss or something, but nothing beyond that. pretty sure we'll just be friends after this though. i can't handle these Libra ways!!

and yeah, what an EFFING liar he is!! jeezus! so ridiculous...i could just imagine him being like "ohhh, this girl is so into me...she'll come pick us up and drive us home!" and then when i said i wasn't coming...HAH. what a freakin' jerk!!

THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP DARK GARDEN! and don't worry...i didn't think you were being nasty...just honest! i'm pretty thick skinned, so i don't take too much too personally! 😄

How interesting. I had a relationship with an Aries when I was 19 and she was 24...
First reaction was hers, and she simply asked me if I am able to have sex with her. we were drunk.
And I said: ofc. After that we started to live togather... Every night was so perfect - wine, soft music, candles;]
We just were happy. She was so nice to me...
She was just perfect (but for only 2 monhts)
then... I don't know why but her behavior changed to 180^. NO IDEA WHY! I was the same like always...
And I stand to her a long time, gave her many chances but no result... she hurt me...
I left her.
After she called me too many times, asking me if I am angry to her.
I said that I am not.
She said that she is really sorry that life is cruel and smth like that... she wanted to be with me again
Didn't say anything...
I realized that she's definitely not for me. couldn't live with such an angry nature...
She keeps inviting me for dinner after 2 years
And I say : maybe
but never gone
And never will

^^^^ THAT is so typically Libra. o.O
Read it closely.

Right into serious relationship, fast.
Everything's so perfect, Mr. Libra is Mr. Amazing, for two months.
Something happens, maybe Libra just gets to know her better,
he realizes he can't see himself with this woman in the future.
He disengages, trying to weigh his options, make a decision, maybe tries to overcome the problems.
Libra love Love.
But she does not fit what he wants.
He disengages further as her reactions to his pulling away escalate.
Finally, he is gone.
She's heartbroken, bereft.
Everything was so perfect before - WHY?!?!
Is Libra mad at her?
Of course he isn't; this isn't about being mad.
This is about her not being the right woman for him.
She calls too much, wanting him back.
He won't take her back - but he won't be cruel or rude to her.
Libras want to remain friends with ALL their ex's.
No matter how many times she begs, or for how many years...
He won't take her back, won't change his mind.
He already made up his mind years ago.

And this is how Mr. Libra gets a bad reputation as a liar, a user, a playboy, a heartbreaker.
Because he's SO PERFECT in the beginning that women fall fast and hard.
And when Libra suddenly realizes she is NOT The One - *POOF* - he's gone.
Yet, he's still so sweet and nice, and she keeps hoping for another chance that will never come.

I love Libras.
I especially love MY Libra... but they are infuriating, fascinating men.
And you need a helmet to ride this ride!

^^ its her personality he can't live with. Once we understand, we're gone.

that reminds me of an Aries female I met on the plane.
We were "best friends" for a month then it's a goodbye for good.

i hate aries women!

Posted by Gingerscorp
Oh yeah... trust me. The other girls who have dealt with a Libra will back me up. He WILL try to get ahold of you. What you did pales in comparison to what I did to my ex Libra. I said every mean thing to him I could think of and being a Scorp....... whoo! I can cut with words. But he came skipping back acting like nothing happened. If shocked me.
Maybe it's a challenge to them knowing someone is pissed or has hard feelings toward them and they want to see if they can get you back with their super charm. Idk what it is but to me it was annoying 🙂
Don't sweat over the situation too much. If you don't want to let him go ok but you really should keep a close eye on him. He'll be sweet as honey and it seems so genuine but they are notorious for changing their minds. It's astounding.

I wouldn't worry too much about drunk dialing a Libra 🙂 He probably really did get a kick out of it. Anything to stroke his ego 😛 But honestly Libras love to laugh and keep things light so no biggie.
I just wouldn't make a habit out of it 😉

i agree to an extent but my cancer ex takes the cake. my cancer ex wouldn't let me go for years after i broke up with him. in fact, he was still trying to get back with me just last spring! i broke up with him in 2001! it didn't matter that i moved away, shared only one mutual friend, and that i broke off all contact from him. he found a way.

If you weren't looking for a relationship why are you bitching about it then.

i am a libra guy, i have always admired the courage and will power of Aries ladies. although they could be stubborn and inconsiderate sometimes,i feel they still rock my boat.

Posted by ifeness
i am a libra guy, i have always admired the courage and will power of Aries ladies. although they could be stubborn and inconsiderate sometimes,i feel they still rock my boat.

Agree 100%