Leo1982
@Leo1982
12 YearsLeo
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Libra, chooses someone else, contatcs weeks later
(...) to leave the Libra girl at least thinking about me a little longer (because she clearly wants me thinking about her)?
a) Say nothing
b) Say Thanks
c) Say I will take her advice
d) Other option
Thank you for all your opinions in advance.
a) Say nothing
b) Say Thanks
c) Say I will take her advice
d) Other option
Thank you for all your opinions in advance.
Just in case you are wondering I want to be honest and say I am asking this because not only my feelings but also my ego were hurt (and I don't know if the fact that the other guy is considerably more unattractive physically makes it better or worse...) ; I can't do anything about my feelings besides giving them time to heal but it would help them to heal faster and move on faster knowing that I had made her at least ask herself if she had made the right decision; hope you understand.
Say nothing or reduce your expectations and remain friends.
Yeah, I'm afraid that you were just the go between while she was waiting for him to come back..the excuses and never really having a date says that she wasn't there with you and how you were feeling.
Still all's not completely lost, we Leebs have a way of revisiting thoughts and feelings IF things aren't what we were expecting in our minds.
Best advice is to distance yourself and continue on with your life. Enjoy yourself and forget about her, I don't think you owe her anything but a casual hi or thanks if she keeps texting. Keep her at arms length for your own sanity.
Still all's not completely lost, we Leebs have a way of revisiting thoughts and feelings IF things aren't what we were expecting in our minds.
Best advice is to distance yourself and continue on with your life. Enjoy yourself and forget about her, I don't think you owe her anything but a casual hi or thanks if she keeps texting. Keep her at arms length for your own sanity.
Yes, you are all right, I know that. I just wanted to be sure it would not be considered impolite not to say anything to that last message.
Narbil, I already responded the first time saying I hoped everything's OK with her but I guess you are saying from now on.
Narbil, I already responded the first time saying I hoped everything's OK with her but I guess you are saying from now on.
Omigosh, I hate this. I just did this to someone and I seriously didn't mean to. Me and this guy were hanging out, he did most of the texting and i barely wanted to kiss him not cuz he was ugly I just wasn't feeling him romantically. Huge flag, if a Libra girl doesn't want to kiss you or seems to pull away when you are affectionate; chances are she's not into you. However, he was so nice and sweet. And I only mentioned my birthday party to him because he said his friend makes cakes for a living. The party was really for close friends and family, and I didn't want him there yet because I was unsure if he was going to be a permanent piece of my life yet, I take introducing guys to my family really seriously. Plus I never bring anyone around so I was sure my family would assume he was my boyfriend which he was not, we only hung out from time to time. I ended up inviting him because he kept hinting at not receiving an invite and I didn't want to be rude and not include him.
When he came I introduced him as my friend, (if it were more I would??ve took him around and introduced him personally to each one of them). Anyway, the party went smooth, and later that night he took it upon himself to shove his tongue down my throat when I was only offering a friendly peck goodbye. ~__~ (Note: When kissing a libra make sure you KNOW what you??re doing, because homeboy didn't which made me even more irritated)
Then the next day he offered to go for a movie, it was supposed to be a bunch of us and I offered to pay my way, since I knew deep down I didn't want anything romantic with him, and he insisted. So it ended up being a date. I was polite but I didn't kiss him, or even lay up under him during the movie. He's really a cool person, I just didn't like him like that. So about 2 weeks go by I didn't contact him he didn't contact me then he called and asked me if he was wasting his time he was laughing the whole time, so I laughed back and asked —what he thought??, he told me he didn't know, and the conversation seemed more like a joke, so I blew it off. I had been talking to a cancer I liked, whom made it known up front he wanted a relationship, and no games. This other guy told me in the beginning he didn't really want a relationship, so for him to ask if he was wasting his time threw me.
When he came I introduced him as my friend, (if it were more I would??ve took him around and introduced him personally to each one of them). Anyway, the party went smooth, and later that night he took it upon himself to shove his tongue down my throat when I was only offering a friendly peck goodbye. ~__~ (Note: When kissing a libra make sure you KNOW what you??re doing, because homeboy didn't which made me even more irritated)
Then the next day he offered to go for a movie, it was supposed to be a bunch of us and I offered to pay my way, since I knew deep down I didn't want anything romantic with him, and he insisted. So it ended up being a date. I was polite but I didn't kiss him, or even lay up under him during the movie. He's really a cool person, I just didn't like him like that. So about 2 weeks go by I didn't contact him he didn't contact me then he called and asked me if he was wasting his time he was laughing the whole time, so I laughed back and asked —what he thought??, he told me he didn't know, and the conversation seemed more like a joke, so I blew it off. I had been talking to a cancer I liked, whom made it known up front he wanted a relationship, and no games. This other guy told me in the beginning he didn't really want a relationship, so for him to ask if he was wasting his time threw me.
Continued??_
The moral is, with a Libra you have to be upfront and direct, then watch their actions, try to block out all the sweet, charming nothings they like to whisper because 50% is sincere, and the other 50% is up in the air, you can only tell if we mean it through our actions. I'm sorry if you feel strung along, because the moment I made it known with my Cancer I felt bad for the other guy slightly. However she's braver than me. She texted you to test the waters to see where your head is at; if your mad at her or not. If you would??ve snapped at her, she??d be gone for good unless you contacted her. (Feeling as though you are a bridge she needs to accept she burned.) But because you were nice, she may feel as though its okay to check in with you and chat and catch up from time to time even if nothing serious. If you were as nice as you sound, she will always want to be your friend if nothing else, but I can promise you that text was sent out of guilt. Deep down she most likely knew how you felt about her.
The moral is, with a Libra you have to be upfront and direct, then watch their actions, try to block out all the sweet, charming nothings they like to whisper because 50% is sincere, and the other 50% is up in the air, you can only tell if we mean it through our actions. I'm sorry if you feel strung along, because the moment I made it known with my Cancer I felt bad for the other guy slightly. However she's braver than me. She texted you to test the waters to see where your head is at; if your mad at her or not. If you would??ve snapped at her, she??d be gone for good unless you contacted her. (Feeling as though you are a bridge she needs to accept she burned.) But because you were nice, she may feel as though its okay to check in with you and chat and catch up from time to time even if nothing serious. If you were as nice as you sound, she will always want to be your friend if nothing else, but I can promise you that text was sent out of guilt. Deep down she most likely knew how you felt about her.
Just curious Leo1982 are you a July Leo or do you have Venus in Cancer? You must have Merc in Virgo with that multiple choice option list thing you put up there. I'm just kidding. No I'm not.
Why would you not just move on? By your own admission you are attractive. There was never anything there to begin with.
When is your birthday..dollars to donuts you got some Cancer somewhere in that chart. Leos with Cancer placements concern me. They seem so unsure of themselves.
Why would you not just move on? By your own admission you are attractive. There was never anything there to begin with.
When is your birthday..dollars to donuts you got some Cancer somewhere in that chart. Leos with Cancer placements concern me. They seem so unsure of themselves.
Posted by tiziani
Libras have to learn how to say no. It just develops into ridiculousness otherwise. Such a simple word to save so much grief.
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OK, checking your comments, which I appreciate, I just feel like I should add that she knew for sure my intentions because I have told her well before and she even said at one point that she did not saw me as a friend but as a potential boyfriend and that made her be more cautious... I mean, it does not get much clearer that that I guess.
When her birthday came I haven't spoken to her in a couple of weeks already after having invited her out one last time and she gave another excuse and I was already suspicious something else was going on with some other guy; she had no reason to invite me to the birthday party unless her head wasn't 100% sure about what she was going to do or what was going to happen and the night of her birthday it was clear she wasn't dating anyone yet.
I don't know any of those things you ask Nala, I am a July Leo born on the 29th and i believe someone once told me my ascendant is Libra.
Maybe it was not obvious on my previous posts but I am here asking for your help because I am hurt and bruised and don't want to come off like that with someone I did not even dated but I do believe I have reasons to feel the way I do and in case you are wondering I would never considered a relationship with her after what happened because I would always feel like a second choice.
When her birthday came I haven't spoken to her in a couple of weeks already after having invited her out one last time and she gave another excuse and I was already suspicious something else was going on with some other guy; she had no reason to invite me to the birthday party unless her head wasn't 100% sure about what she was going to do or what was going to happen and the night of her birthday it was clear she wasn't dating anyone yet.
I don't know any of those things you ask Nala, I am a July Leo born on the 29th and i believe someone once told me my ascendant is Libra.
Maybe it was not obvious on my previous posts but I am here asking for your help because I am hurt and bruised and don't want to come off like that with someone I did not even dated but I do believe I have reasons to feel the way I do and in case you are wondering I would never considered a relationship with her after what happened because I would always feel like a second choice.
Posted by aquarius09Posted by tiziani
Libras have to learn how to say no. It just develops into ridiculousness otherwise. Such a simple word to save so much grief.
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That weak willed bs is what gives them such a bad rap.
OP, step away and go do you. It sucks, but giving this dumb hoe a second chance would be stupid on your part.
If you want to be friends, fine. But you should probably distance yourself to get over all these feelings you're struggling with first.
She sounds like a dumb cock tease and I don't know why you'd want to be pussy whipped by someone like this emotionally. You're suffering from "want what I can't have" from the sound of it.
You were led on by a silly bitch who just put you on the back burner since her primary option came around. Eff that noise. People like that do not deserve the time or the attention, tbh.
If you want to be friends, fine. But you should probably distance yourself to get over all these feelings you're struggling with first.
She sounds like a dumb cock tease and I don't know why you'd want to be pussy whipped by someone like this emotionally. You're suffering from "want what I can't have" from the sound of it.
You were led on by a silly bitch who just put you on the back burner since her primary option came around. Eff that noise. People like that do not deserve the time or the attention, tbh.
Yes, I admit you are absolutely right about what bothers me the most rockyroadicecream.
There is no logic in being friends now because we never really related as actual friends before and she has lots a friends already and so do I; besides I do need distance from her to get over my feelings like you said; i just don't want to be impolite to her if she ever contacts again, that's all.
Regarding the "second chance"; I am not dumb enough to believe that her contact meant anything besides checking out how I would respond out of curiosity. I don't really believe in second chances in these cases; like narbil said, I had my chance and it didn't went well, game over. It hurts a lot though... especially because reality hit me like a thunder... The months before she would sometimes mention this friend who was abroad but she is now dating and make sure almost every single time to say "we are just very good friends, that's all, almost like brothers" without being asked and for all that time I seemed to be the only guy "not her friend" closer to her and that was what threw me off for so long. You want to know something curious? The weeks before her birthday her facebook started getting filled with statuses hinting, more than once, at the need of making a decision between 2 options, comments for close girl friends making it almost obvious it was love related, and her asking if she choose one road if she could ever go back and take the other one...
I would also like to thank you, Pinklibra, for sharing your story here. In a way it does show me how a Libra mind can think so differently from not only mine but many others as well. I am not talking about the events that lead to your birthday in which you had every reason to act on the bases that your friend didn't want a relationship because he told you so and pratically trapped you into inviting him, I am talking about what happened next. I mean, if I actually kiss a girl and she didn't want that to happen or disliked the fact I would never expect her to accept an invitation to go out with me (alone or with friends, it doesn't even matter) the next day! It wouldn't make any sense in my head a girl going out with me the day after I kissed her if she did not liked it. You did, never talked about it with him apparently and not even when he called you told him straight what your feelings were and just let him make all the conclusions on his own. I am not judging you of course, there are probably many things you lef
There is no logic in being friends now because we never really related as actual friends before and she has lots a friends already and so do I; besides I do need distance from her to get over my feelings like you said; i just don't want to be impolite to her if she ever contacts again, that's all.
Regarding the "second chance"; I am not dumb enough to believe that her contact meant anything besides checking out how I would respond out of curiosity. I don't really believe in second chances in these cases; like narbil said, I had my chance and it didn't went well, game over. It hurts a lot though... especially because reality hit me like a thunder... The months before she would sometimes mention this friend who was abroad but she is now dating and make sure almost every single time to say "we are just very good friends, that's all, almost like brothers" without being asked and for all that time I seemed to be the only guy "not her friend" closer to her and that was what threw me off for so long. You want to know something curious? The weeks before her birthday her facebook started getting filled with statuses hinting, more than once, at the need of making a decision between 2 options, comments for close girl friends making it almost obvious it was love related, and her asking if she choose one road if she could ever go back and take the other one...
I would also like to thank you, Pinklibra, for sharing your story here. In a way it does show me how a Libra mind can think so differently from not only mine but many others as well. I am not talking about the events that lead to your birthday in which you had every reason to act on the bases that your friend didn't want a relationship because he told you so and pratically trapped you into inviting him, I am talking about what happened next. I mean, if I actually kiss a girl and she didn't want that to happen or disliked the fact I would never expect her to accept an invitation to go out with me (alone or with friends, it doesn't even matter) the next day! It wouldn't make any sense in my head a girl going out with me the day after I kissed her if she did not liked it. You did, never talked about it with him apparently and not even when he called you told him straight what your feelings were and just let him make all the conclusions on his own. I am not judging you of course, there are probably many things you lef
(...) left out and everyone has their ways of dealing with what they do but it's apparent, watching from the outside, that you only acted that way because you liked having that guy around and because the situation with that other cancer guy you were talking to wasn't clear yet but somehow you don't see it that way at all so it just shows that we all think differently.
Honestly Speaking. I have lots of Libra friends... there are good that are not flirt and there are
some flirts... so I guess She is just flirting.
and Libra are known as Cannot make up their mind. lol.
I don't like one of my office mate in my previous Job who was libra girl.
She is flirting my guy. yay. I hate her... I even dropped his ass and despise her being cheap. Lol.
I cannot stand being them around so I quit my job and move on.
Libras as friends and libras as lovers are very different two things. Lol. As friends, they are freakin awesome!! Reliable, caring, loyal and all other fantastic traits. However, as lovers, they are opposite of those fantastic traits. At least until they make up their mind about you being the one.
aquarius09,
I know it's different 2 things. My office mate who is a Libra girl is my friend at the same time and
I was the one who gave her a work in the company. lol.
What fantastic traits you mentioned? lol. I had an ex bf Libra and I left his ass because they are
this type who cannot make up their mind even in their golden age.
TAKE NOTE: Libra's weakness is being indecisive. Even when they have an affair they just can't let
go of their exes. They thought they've done unfair. lol.
I said as friends they are pretty good, but as lovers, they are not so good. They have all those issues about being the good person, avoiding conflict, and indecisive.
well indecision really isn't the problem here...it sounds like she made her choice and OP is not willing to accept it and is reading too much into the texts-and party invite too, possibly. OP, it was shitty of her to use you as a stand-in but other than that, she just liked someone else more. it happens, unfortunately. 😢
ANRivas,
You don't Read the 1st Statement how did she reacted towards Leo1982. She made a lot of excuses. lol.
She was keeping you around as Plan B
The fact that the guy she really wanted was away & had distance b/w them meant that in her mind, there's always a possibility that things may not work out.
So yes she reaches out to you & flirts with you, BUT what does any of that matter if 99% of her other actions point to her not being truly interested?! All the sweetest words/flirting in the world don't mean a thing if the BIG PICTURE is that they don't want to commit to you or give you their undivided attention.
She's literally treating you like an option, while you're giving her "priority" status.
Pay attention to what she's NOT saying. She's not saying that she wants to be with you. She's not saying that she wants to be exclusive with you. She's not saying that who she truly wants is this other guy. What she's NOT saying speaks more volumes than what she is actually is saying
A good rule of thumb for situations like this is to always assume that if someone really values you & wants you in an intimate way, they'll tell you. Not only will they tell you, their actions will back up everything they have to say. If they don't tell you, it's b/c they either don't feel that way about you like you do them OR it's b/c they have intimacy/communication problems. And in either case, those are both recipes for disaster if you choose to emotionally invest in someone at that time
If you are the kind of person who sees no need in friendship with a person you strongly like as long as you can't have them in a deeper way, then own that & be honest about that! There is nothing wrong with that! And if that's how you feel, then don't respond at all b/c 9 times out of 10, you guys keeping in contact will eventually cause you & your feelings more harm than it will her!
The fact that the guy she really wanted was away & had distance b/w them meant that in her mind, there's always a possibility that things may not work out.
So yes she reaches out to you & flirts with you, BUT what does any of that matter if 99% of her other actions point to her not being truly interested?! All the sweetest words/flirting in the world don't mean a thing if the BIG PICTURE is that they don't want to commit to you or give you their undivided attention.
She's literally treating you like an option, while you're giving her "priority" status.
Pay attention to what she's NOT saying. She's not saying that she wants to be with you. She's not saying that she wants to be exclusive with you. She's not saying that who she truly wants is this other guy. What she's NOT saying speaks more volumes than what she is actually is saying
A good rule of thumb for situations like this is to always assume that if someone really values you & wants you in an intimate way, they'll tell you. Not only will they tell you, their actions will back up everything they have to say. If they don't tell you, it's b/c they either don't feel that way about you like you do them OR it's b/c they have intimacy/communication problems. And in either case, those are both recipes for disaster if you choose to emotionally invest in someone at that time
If you are the kind of person who sees no need in friendship with a person you strongly like as long as you can't have them in a deeper way, then own that & be honest about that! There is nothing wrong with that! And if that's how you feel, then don't respond at all b/c 9 times out of 10, you guys keeping in contact will eventually cause you & your feelings more harm than it will her!
Posted by M143
ANRivas,
You don't Read the 1st Statement how did she reacted towards Leo1982. She made a lot of excuses. lol.
i read it, but i get the feeling she always knew who she really wanted and even he felt it...i think that, like i said, she was just keeping him as a stand-in and source of attention (which is terrible especially considering the way the guy feels about her) and it was an asshole move but she likely knew all along she wasn't going to get serious with this guy and really, the OP did too.
Thanks krysrenee; I believe you are right in everything. I reread my first post and I admit I may have appeared as being still stuck and not wanting to let go but I believe my previous post cleared that. Now, I don't believe that the Libra girl wants me as friend, only maybe, just maybe, as a backup for the future. I know that, you know that and everyone here knows that so let's just be honest and say that I would have to be pretty dumb to accept it and pretend a friendship so I cannot be referred as "the kind of person who sees no need in friendship with a person you strongly like"; besides I can't say I strongly like her as a friend because we never really related as such.
Now, not wanting to be friends with someone does not mean you have to be rude and don't answer if someone makes you a question; I mean, what kind of world would this be if we only responded to family and people we are close with?... That's probably the main reason I am here; because I don't want to be rude and I don't even have to "right" to be because even though it's pretty clear what happened here all was done in a way that, if this was a court case, the trial would always be dismissed by lack of evidence based on the single fact that we never even went out on a official date (we did hang out alone but not like that).
To ANrivas, you are right, she is not indecisive now; as for me not letting go and reading to much into the text and party invite... well I don't think I am reading to much or too litle, 1 month before her birthday I stopped all contact because at that point I was already letting go because of her (lack of) actions, 2 weeks before her birthday she invites 29 people, 15 relatives, 13 close friends she had known for years (and respective boyfriends/girlfriends) and an outsider, me, the guy she had met only a couple of months ago she knew was interested in her and were flirting with but went silent a couple of weeks ago... Then, when I realized what was going on with the other guy I disappeared again and this time I let her go for good and she was he one who contacted me weeks after and I only responded politely to what she asked. Now, if you tell me I was stupid in accepting the invitation because she believed I would refuse, that's a whole different story and you are probably right and she only invited me for the same reason she texted me the last time, to do what she believed would make me not have any excuse to hate her; and I don't, I just don't want anything
Now, not wanting to be friends with someone does not mean you have to be rude and don't answer if someone makes you a question; I mean, what kind of world would this be if we only responded to family and people we are close with?... That's probably the main reason I am here; because I don't want to be rude and I don't even have to "right" to be because even though it's pretty clear what happened here all was done in a way that, if this was a court case, the trial would always be dismissed by lack of evidence based on the single fact that we never even went out on a official date (we did hang out alone but not like that).
To ANrivas, you are right, she is not indecisive now; as for me not letting go and reading to much into the text and party invite... well I don't think I am reading to much or too litle, 1 month before her birthday I stopped all contact because at that point I was already letting go because of her (lack of) actions, 2 weeks before her birthday she invites 29 people, 15 relatives, 13 close friends she had known for years (and respective boyfriends/girlfriends) and an outsider, me, the guy she had met only a couple of months ago she knew was interested in her and were flirting with but went silent a couple of weeks ago... Then, when I realized what was going on with the other guy I disappeared again and this time I let her go for good and she was he one who contacted me weeks after and I only responded politely to what she asked. Now, if you tell me I was stupid in accepting the invitation because she believed I would refuse, that's a whole different story and you are probably right and she only invited me for the same reason she texted me the last time, to do what she believed would make me not have any excuse to hate her; and I don't, I just don't want anything
(...) to do with her anymore but I don't want to be the guy that, on top of what happened, comes of as the bad and rude one to the point of not answering when people ask you something nicely because I actually believe that's exactly what she wants. Maybe I am wrong, I just don't think so.
Well, I guess she is indecisive. Because if she is truly NOT interested to Leo1982 then She won't
bother herself texting him. lol
Libra's are balance scale. That's made them indecisive. So they just kept flirting. lol
@ Leo1982,
You as a Leo is very egotistical person. How did she bruised your ego? She humiliated you?
or was it not choosing you. Really. You already said... it was clear she wasn't dating but she
refused unless she isn't sure 100% what to do. Libra's cannot make up their mind. lol
I learned that based on my experience. I dropped his ass and move on...
He left me for 4 months not saying anything then 1 day he called me 3 times. I didn't let him.
Because I understand that Libra's are flirt and cannot make up their mind and that is GENERAL.
Regardless if she or he, LIBRA.
no, that's just the stereotype you want to attach to every libra situation, m143 lol. I've texted guys i'm not interested in just to check on them so that's not true, and flirting has nothing to do with indecision... again, i get where the stereotype comes from, but to try to use that word with everything a libra does makes it more difficult to understand the real issues. That happens often though so i get it.
Leo, as far as your coming off rude, if the last thing she said was "have fun!" really that can be considered ending a conversation anyway. You wouldn't be rude for not answering that. If you think she's trying to make you look like the bad guy, and she texts you again, keep it polite and short and end it quickly. Be nice but uninterested.
And can i just add that this whole have-one-main-person-and-a-few-on-the-back-burner way of dating is ridiculous to me? There are victims and perpetrators of this on here all the time and it never ends well!
Leo, as far as your coming off rude, if the last thing she said was "have fun!" really that can be considered ending a conversation anyway. You wouldn't be rude for not answering that. If you think she's trying to make you look like the bad guy, and she texts you again, keep it polite and short and end it quickly. Be nice but uninterested.
And can i just add that this whole have-one-main-person-and-a-few-on-the-back-burner way of dating is ridiculous to me? There are victims and perpetrators of this on here all the time and it never ends well!
So you responding to her determines whether or not you're a nice or rude person?! She's what you're using to measure that??!
Do YOU believe that you are rude or a bad person? If the answer is no, then not responding to a person that has somewhat disappointed you won't make you any less of a nice person!
Even if you don't want to be her friend, fine. But I'm trying to figure out why you feel that you are somehow obligated or that she is somehow entitled to a response from you—!
I get it. You don't have to be mean. But not responding to someone that you're not even close with is completely different than responding & being rude. 2 different things.
If you wanna respond, do so. If you don't, then don't. But if you don't feel like it, don't put her on this pedestal like this girl is entitled to your time, energy & conversation when she's done very little to earn that.
Is she the worst person in the world? Well no, but if you'd rather cut off contact b/c you don't see the need for that person in your life anymore, then so be it. Almost 99% of the time, the other person still wants to "talk." DUH!
But when you're done, you're done. Being done doesn't make you rude. Hell, if anything, responding & pretending to feel/be something you're not is phony & is doing no favors to her or yourself.
If you wanna respond now & THEN be done with it after this last conversation with her then so be it. But others shouldn't determine when you're done communicating. YOU decide that. And yes, unfortunately, sometimes the other person isn't ready to part ways. Doesn't matter b/c your loyalty is to yourself & sometimes people have ways of trying to prove themselves in areas where they've already proven themselves!
If this girl calls you rude or mean or bad or whatever & bases that all on the fact that you quit responding to her, then she's a spoiled & entitled b**tch! How dare SHE be offended when her plans were to jerk you around the whole time?! You can't try using someone as Plan B, then expect them to come running to you when it's all said & done!
You owe her nothing!
Do YOU believe that you are rude or a bad person? If the answer is no, then not responding to a person that has somewhat disappointed you won't make you any less of a nice person!
Even if you don't want to be her friend, fine. But I'm trying to figure out why you feel that you are somehow obligated or that she is somehow entitled to a response from you—!
I get it. You don't have to be mean. But not responding to someone that you're not even close with is completely different than responding & being rude. 2 different things.
If you wanna respond, do so. If you don't, then don't. But if you don't feel like it, don't put her on this pedestal like this girl is entitled to your time, energy & conversation when she's done very little to earn that.
Is she the worst person in the world? Well no, but if you'd rather cut off contact b/c you don't see the need for that person in your life anymore, then so be it. Almost 99% of the time, the other person still wants to "talk." DUH!
But when you're done, you're done. Being done doesn't make you rude. Hell, if anything, responding & pretending to feel/be something you're not is phony & is doing no favors to her or yourself.
If you wanna respond now & THEN be done with it after this last conversation with her then so be it. But others shouldn't determine when you're done communicating. YOU decide that. And yes, unfortunately, sometimes the other person isn't ready to part ways. Doesn't matter b/c your loyalty is to yourself & sometimes people have ways of trying to prove themselves in areas where they've already proven themselves!
If this girl calls you rude or mean or bad or whatever & bases that all on the fact that you quit responding to her, then she's a spoiled & entitled b**tch! How dare SHE be offended when her plans were to jerk you around the whole time?! You can't try using someone as Plan B, then expect them to come running to you when it's all said & done!
You owe her nothing!
I understand your point 100% clearly now krysrenee7 and I can only agree with everything you wrote.
I answered to her first text because, more than a question of being rude or a bad person, for me, when someone who knows you asks you if you are OK you should respond at least "fine, hope your OK as well"; acting otherwise means you don't have manners/consideration or you are angry/bitter. I may be a little angry but not to the point of losing composure or good manners and I sure as hell ain't gonna do that for her; we were not boyfriends and weren't even dating so I believe I just have to take it the best way possible, be polite and walk away. I am not phony for having good manners; I would be phony if I had replied to the 2nd text ("have fun") and continue a conversation that was basically over or if I ever contacted her again. Like ANRivas said above, I believe the best is to keep it polite, short, nice and uninterested if she ever contacts again; it's the natural thing for me to do as a person in this present situation and failure to do so would only help her... I know I'm done, if she doesn't see it that's not really my problem now.
I answered to her first text because, more than a question of being rude or a bad person, for me, when someone who knows you asks you if you are OK you should respond at least "fine, hope your OK as well"; acting otherwise means you don't have manners/consideration or you are angry/bitter. I may be a little angry but not to the point of losing composure or good manners and I sure as hell ain't gonna do that for her; we were not boyfriends and weren't even dating so I believe I just have to take it the best way possible, be polite and walk away. I am not phony for having good manners; I would be phony if I had replied to the 2nd text ("have fun") and continue a conversation that was basically over or if I ever contacted her again. Like ANRivas said above, I believe the best is to keep it polite, short, nice and uninterested if she ever contacts again; it's the natural thing for me to do as a person in this present situation and failure to do so would only help her... I know I'm done, if she doesn't see it that's not really my problem now.
ANRivas,
Flirting & Indecision are qualities of Libra. You mean, you as Libra you are giving ''false hope''
to other people specially if there is some thing going on...? lol.
or Maybe I am little bit different of explaining what's going on with LIBRA because I am Scorpio.
Libra look up things as GREY... I look up things as BLACK and WHITE.
narbil,
say something if you are LIBRA. just don't copy and paste. lol
Posted by Leo1982
I understand your point 100% clearly now krysrenee7 and I can only agree with everything you wrote.
I answered to her first text because, more than a question of being rude or a bad person, for me, when someone who knows you asks you if you are OK you should respond at least "fine, hope your OK as well"; acting otherwise means you don't have manners/consideration or you are angry/bitter. I may be a little angry but not to the point of losing composure or good manners and I sure as hell ain't gonna do that for her; we were not boyfriends and weren't even dating so I believe I just have to take it the best way possible, be polite and walk away. I am not phony for having good manners; I would be phony if I had replied to the 2nd text ("have fun") and continue a conversation that was basically over or if I ever contacted her again. Like ANRivas said above, I believe the best is to keep it polite, short, nice and uninterested if she ever contacts again; it's the natural thing for me to do as a person in this present situation and failure to do so would only help her... I know I'm done, if she doesn't see it that's not really my problem now.
I get what you're saying too.
In the beginning of the post, I'd gotten the impression that you felt pressed to respond but inwardly didn't really want to. So yeah, I'm like well then don't respond then! lol That's why I said you'd be a phony to have a convo that you really don't wanna have. But I get what you are saying now.
I agree that you should give her what she's giving you. If she's showing signs that she's not interested in a polite mannerable way, there's nothing wrong with doing the same in return.
Just be cautious & not naive to the fact that there's always a chance that someone will take you being willing to contact them/respond to them as them having another chance or you still being interest. Silly, I know. And if she turns out to be that way, you'll be using those "manners" quite a lot which will get old eventually. There's nothing more annoying than someone who keeps "trying" b/c they're mistaking your politeness for interest lol
Posted by narbilPosted by M143
ANRivas,
Flirting & Indecision are qualities of Libra. You mean, you as Libra you are giving ''false hope''
to other people specially if there is some thing going on...? lol.
or Maybe I am little bit different of explaining what's going on with LIBRA because I am Scorpio.
Libra look up things as GREY... I look up things as BLACK and WHITE.
Way off the mark. You know nothing of the Libran mind.click to expand
i mean, not even close! lol. You aren't explaining it differently, you're just using two generic words often associated with us to explain everything we do. And no, to me texting a guy to say hi isn't "giving him false hope," it's saying hi and being a friend. I think you are misinterpreting everything i am saying because of your issue with a libra.
And we don't look at everything as black and white, nor do all scorpios, because everything is not black and white. I see gray areas because i live in reality. lol
lol. If I am not even close to that remarks... how old are you? if you are young. then I have to brush
off my shoulder based on your statement. I know some LIBRA's they are insecure,social butterfly, flirty
type,lazy,and indecisive. Not to offend you but hey I had 2 room mates before.. lol.
Try to date a Scorpio and see what we mean of Black and white. Lmao.
In reality... yes there should be gray areas but don't need to elaborate this. You know already.
Libra contact you even after months or years later.......... not only weeks.... Sometimes they get sad when the answer is " sorry, I got married" , this is the worse for them and only at this point they see what they lost . They think everyone is waiting for them as long as they want to play... Some of you are waiting them, some of you not and just live your life. Anyway, they are extremely sensitive persons. Hard to communicate with them, even they are open to speak everything, but they pick up words from what you say and they think about them later after you leave them alone . If you said something "wrong" to them, they simple disappear , need time to think more, they can't balance their mind , etc..
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