Libra disrespecting themselves in relationship

I don't think it is disrespecting of yourself to try to save your marriage. I think it is rather noble.

There is a huge difference between loyalty and fidelity. Loyalty is much more rare and much more precious.

Libras tend to be more accepting of a partners fault and infidelities because we see the other side.

Fidelity and love are not the same.

Its near to impossible for us to just end a relationnship..we'll fight so long and hard, im sure anyone of any sign would do the same. Its easier for us if the other person breaks it off.

"Its near to impossible for us to just end a relationnship"...I've read and heard this many times. I think my Libra friend is still in love with his ex who he has been away from for almost 3 years (they were together for 6 years and have a daughter together)....he sees her every 2 or 3 days so he can see the daughter regularly and they spend B/day celebrations together for the daughter and her other grown up children whom he still calls his "step-children" but only for the meal, cake and then he's off. Its kinda strange in a way but it shows his deep devotion towards his daughter and his ex in some sense.

I don't think he is completely over her and that is probably why he sits on the internet day in day out chatting to strangers he'll never meet. Perhaps he is waiting for a miracle to happen between him and her and thats probably why he isn't able or doesnt want to commit to anybody but after 3 years? you'd think he'd wake up LOL

(( I think my Libra friend is still in love with his ex who he has been away from for almost 3 years ))

Thanks an aqua ex chatz. not easy. no way close to easy. first we assumed that part long long time ago. Now we know for sure.

yep she still holds him on a string

the same way libra holds a gem. 😛

I'd definately say the way libra's hold on when they love or cherish something, is very long. I know an ex of mine is currently in counceling, because of a girl he dated for 3 months and had to deal with her for another 8 after. So he definately has a lot of relationship issues. On another note, i know a female friend of mine who loves her mother dearly, and yet shes verbally abused and physically been beaten repeatedly (not all the time, but enough to notice). Shes 21 now, and just deals with it, because she knows if she walks out she won't ever see her mother again. so i'd have to say theres a lot of strength that goes into any relationship when love is involved. i given him credit for trying, but yea i highly recommend just being there and listening to him when he needs. down bashing who he loved won't help, and telling him he should've done something b4 hand will only make him feel less of a man. honestly just be there and hopefully with your added strength, he'll get over it.

"Just wondering how someone could disrespect themselves and continue to live in a situation like this."

Well first off your assuming that this person would rather be, or be better off living the single life than continuing to try and save his marriage even though it looked futile from the outside. I agree with LS about the fidelity versus loyalty. I think that we are more tollerant than a lot of other people when it comes to fidelity and other faults in general. We are ALWAYSE the person that everyone "has never been able to talk to like this" and in the process of a relationship we uncover and truely understand the underlying reasons behind our partners personality traits and behavior. We rarely go to the point of excusing someones behavior in a situation like this but we do genuinely strive to understand and then help. When you know weather or not something is salvageable is when the other person is willing to recoginize the truth behind their behavior and furthermore if it is something they are willing to resolve within themselves.

Sex is important, it can be amazing, it can and usually does become one of the primary bonds between our partner and us bit it is NOT the most important thing in the world. The most important thing in the world is love, if the love is still there than most "wrongs" can be "righted".

Your implying that his behavior was weak and that he was weak for continuing to subject himself to such a person. Others may view his behavior as incredibly strong and yet more might want to discourage him to validate their own insecurities in that area.

Wow, yes it is incredible how long and tight libra men can hold on regardless. It took my ex husband 3 years to get the message that our marriage was completely over. He is finally in another relationship, sadly, he recently even hintingly discussed us (he and I) getting back together and that he missed us. So who knows, maybe he is over it and maybe he isn't, but they hold on for a long time. Very long time, once they really love someone.