Libra faded ... Is it possible for sparks?

I met a guy online over a year ago he is a libra born on oct 18. We met in March and spent up until September of last year just texting each other "what's up, how are you, how's your days" every couple of days. We started to converse more late September. Anyway he has 2 kids and his last child is 5 years old. He moved out of his children's mothers home around the time I met him and told me then that he is done with her.

I believe him and we start to flirt during text by mid October early November. His birthday passes, I say happy birthday nothing more. My birthday is in November, I'm a scorpio, he says happy birthday, nothing more.

By late November early December we've had a few phone calls that were quite awkward just because I'm more of a shy speaking person.. But we still text a lot.

He texts me all the time during December, calling me baby, telling me he wants to marry me, saying I'm cute ( I sent pictures) etc.

we don't spend Christmas or New Years together but wish each other happy holidays.

To me our relationships seems to be heading to becoming official so I kind of try to hint and ask about it and he says he doesn't want a relationship right now .. I still don't understand why after the months of flirting, pictures sending, phone calls..
So I ask about his, what he calls ex girlfriend/baby mom and he gets a bit irritated but says there is nothing going on between the both of them.


Months go by and in April of 2014 we finally met. He took me to a lake and we spent about 2 hours there's sitting getting cold and he kind of maybe unintentionally forced me to drink alcohol he says, " I bought it for you so you better drink it"- I'm really not 100% sure what his motive was but I drink a whole bottle of alcohol and I was drunk.

He drives me home and I can't even get out of the car and so we decided to go to his place instead.

He lives with his mom, cousins baby mom, brother and niece. His kids visit on the weekend. Which I've never seen him on a weekend ever.
I go to his room and we ended up hooking up.
We talk afterwards but it just seems like he's not himself anymore but he is still persistent in speaking with me. Were still flirting, no phone calls but he still texts me all the time.. We text EVERY SINGLE DAY since last September/October..

I'm sorry it's a lot but I'm trying to get a good understanding of what to do by giving as much details as possible.. Please bare.

Mother's Day comes around and he doesn't say a word to me at all, all day I text him and he doesn't reply. Then late at night he texts me asking me what's up .. I didn't respond for a few days but then I messaged him and we got Into an argument. He says I'm ignoring him for days. And I'm upset that he spent the whole day out with his ex and he didn't message me at all and I ask him again if he's getting back with her and he tells me no he's not and we argue about that.

Our arguing stops and we get back to normal but something just doesn't feel right. And then it's almost like very weekend or every other weekend he's texting me less and less and we start to argue...

He tells me in late June that he's done speaking with me and doesn't want to speak with me again..and we argue and argue about that and I'm basically begging him to speak with me again.

Keep in mind that were not actually dating or seeing each other were just at this point just texting that's it..

So we start talking again and things are fine for a few days then again the arguing starts and he tells me again he wants to stop talking and again I beg him to talk and were fine again.

Mid July I just stop texting him one day. He doesn't text me at all for 2 weeks and for those 2 weeks.
I ended up breaking and text him "Hey what's up, I miss texting you" and he says well why did you stop and I told him I needed a break from all the arguing and things seems fine, were texting everyday, flirting, lol-ing for about 2 weeks. And then he tells me he's going a baseball game with his kids and I text him that day and he doesn't text me at all for the whole day again.. So of course I'm going to be upset and he says he went with just his friend .. I get over it and our texting continues again ..

September comes around and we've hooked up 3 times prior , twice in April and once in late May. I go over to his place and by accident I end up meeting his mom.

I should of mentioned this earlier but I went through his phone the times I was at his place and saw messages to his baby mom with him asking if he moved away if she would come too and about him giving her his car and talking about meeting up for a beer and by what the texts say it actually does happen. Or with him at the park with his kids and her going to meet with him or her giving him gifts from their mutual friend and that caused a lot of my arguments but he doesn't know about that ..

Anyway so I met his mom, me and him we had sex and then I wake up and idk I actually really was trying to not go through his phone but I did .. He was still sleeping so I go through his texts and nothing is there it's completely wiped so I go through his pics and I see pictures of him at that baseball game he went to but he's sitting right beside his ex and she's looking into the camera. Any picture I sent him was deleted or never saved idk which but after I saw the pic of him and his ex together, there were other pictures of other friends also but that picture really shook me, literally.

I was shaking so much I though I would wake him up because I was kind of shocked I guess. So I get off his bed and he tells me I need to drop you home by 9.. The last few times I was at his place I woke up he was I my face and just all over but this time it was just like so causal idk it just seemed off like he forced himself because I bough him diner (had it sent to his place)

So I leave with that on my mind I just felt like whatever get over.. Days go by were fine and then he says his kids are going to a party at his place Sunday and one at their moms on Saturday so Saturday I ask him how's the party and he says, " that's not what I told you" and we got into a huge argument and he tells me he doesn't trust me and he doesn't feel comfortable speaking with me or saying things to me because it always ends up in a fight and it feels too much like a relationship and he doesn't want a relationship at all and that he's done talking to me because I'm drama and problems and that's all he sees in our future ..

So I message him telling him sorry and basically lying saying I don't want a relationship either nd I just want to have him to speak to and he doesn't reply for a whole day and then i message him in the morning again and he finally respond so we've been talking since then ( that was September) and a few days ago I stopped talking to him because well it was his kids birthday oct 8th and 9th and I just didn't want to stress him or end up arguing on either day.

Before that I was asking to buy them a gift and he said no so I didn't..

Anyway I went to the mall to get something to eat before work and I saw him with his kids and his kids mom going to the movies, he sees me he doesn't say hi but just looks straight and continues walking .. We haven't spoken in a day or 2 so I start to freak out and end up crying on the curb outside the mall..

He messages me saying he was going to msg me earlier but he thought I was ignoring him tells me his son wanted him to come along to the movies .. I believe it but then I ask if he's dating his kids mom and kissing, having sex with her ..

He gets all sarcastic and says they hold hands and kiss and have sex twice a day.. I know he's lying about that part but I'm not sure to what extent. He then says they're not dating but he wants to get married , which also seems like sarcasm as well.. I kind if just drop the topic all together and we've been talking since then but it just feels like we talk only if I message him and if I don't he won't message me at all.. A year ago I woke up to good morning messages and now I'm the one sending them and sometimes even though I know he's awake for work he doesn't reply until later although he can message me.

His birthday is in 5 days and although he told me not to get him anything because he doesn't want me spending money on him I want to. I've already secretly paid his phone bill but ended up doing it too late so I'm thinking of getting him a gift like cologne or a shirt, vodka because he likes to drink a lot or some silk boxers ( I was browsing online and it said a libra guy would like that.)

Ireally like this guy and I know he doesn't want to be in a relationship despite the fact that the way he was texting me was like we were in a relationship. But I just want the old him back and I'm wondering if it's too late for me and him to work out in the future. I don't plan on trying to find someone else and I don't know if he's stringing me along but I'm kind of just over arguing about his kids mom and if they're together. I just want all the flirting and laughs back. It's like he doesn't even want to text me anymore and like I'm trying so hard to not get upset at things but still nothing from him..he replies inconsistently and only really starts to message me more when I get upset about something ...

I'm wondering does he need time to come around or is he gone forever?
Is there a way I could get him to feel something for me??

As a libra, or an outside how do you think you would feel or react to all of this? Would you still talk to me or just stop all together??

I want him to fall for me as much as I have for him but is it too late? And will buying him a gift change anything?

He sounds like a cock. I think you need to scoop up all your integrity you dropped along the way and make your way to the nearest exit.

Uh, YOU'RE the problem here. You keep saying that you aren't "official" and this isn't a relationship, that he doesn't want one, but you treat it like one. You sound like a paranoid, jealous girlfriend that starts arguments because your vagina can't handle the idea of someone else in his life that isn't you.

I think you need a serious reality check. You've proven that you are a little girl who likes to play and flirt, but along with it comes some serious baggage and dramas.

"Tee hee, we're just flirting and texting and FUCKING, but he owes me answers and girlfriend treatment."

Your dumb ass is doing the "fwb maybe into a relationship" tactic. You're trying to manipulate him into a relationship when he said he didn't want one.

Grow up please.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Uh, YOU'RE the problem here. You keep saying that you aren't "official" and this isn't a relationship, that he doesn't want one, but you treat it like one. You sound like a paranoid, jealous girlfriend that starts arguments because your vagina can't handle the idea of someone else in his life that isn't you.

I think you need a serious reality check. You've proven that you are a little girl who likes to play and flirt, but along with it comes some serious baggage and dramas.

"Tee hee, we're just flirting and texting and FUCKING, but he owes me answers and girlfriend treatment."

Your dumb ass is doing the "fwb maybe into a relationship" tactic. You're trying to manipulate him into a relationship when he said he didn't want one.

Grow up please.

You're hilarious Rocky. I enjoy reading your posts. 🙂

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Posted by jeane
He sounds like a cock. I think you need to scoop up all your integrity you dropped along the way and make your way to the nearest exit.

+1

You're being used. He's not into for anything more than a fwb and he's still very much into his ex. You saw that for yourself when you went through his phone. Dude sounds too broke to date anyway.

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They're both fucking retarded.

Posted by jeane

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Uh, YOU'RE the problem here. You keep saying that you aren't "official" and this isn't a relationship, that he doesn't want one, but you treat it like one. You sound like a paranoid, jealous girlfriend that starts arguments because your vagina can't handle the idea of someone else in his life that isn't you.

I think you need a serious reality check. You've proven that you are a little girl who likes to play and flirt, but along with it comes some serious baggage and dramas.

"Tee hee, we're just flirting and texting and FUCKING, but he owes me answers and girlfriend treatment."

Your dumb ass is doing the "fwb maybe into a relationship" tactic. You're trying to manipulate him into a relationship when he said he didn't want one.

Grow up please.

You're hilarious Rocky. I enjoy reading your posts. 🙂

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This is the second Scorp post I've read this week where my brain wanted to explode because their behavior was so stupidly psychotic and clearly the basis of all the problems stated in the post. Fricken fixed signs, man...