Libra Females experience with Sag Men

This topic was created in the Libra forum by GiftfromVenus on Tuesday, February 12, 2013 and has 23 replies.
Ok, so I hear so many good things and so many bad things about this pairing. I'm a libra woman and I've been dating a Sag guy
for some time now and I really like him. You can say I'm in love with him, but I'm about to give up because I can't understand him. Its like a puzzle, you never know who your going to get, one day he's sweet and affectionate and the next he's distant and cold. Do any of you libra females feel my pain? or can you give me hope of light at the end of the tunnel?
I dated a Sag once. My wings felt clipped. Sad
Posted by crunchy
I dated a Sag once. My wings felt clipped. Sad


How so?
Posted by libraCUSPscorpio
I have a male Sag friend who tells me he feels bad for girls he dates. That he's off and on. The girls don't seem to understand how much he needs time away with his friends or to himself too.
Romantically, I've never really dealt with a Sag. They've always been super close friends, though. I do recall being out with a bunch of friends and the Sag males getting irritated at their girls calling/texting nonstop. Not saying you do that but maybe you shouldn't let it rack your brain. Just take a more laid back, day by day approach. Let him come to you. Which is weird being a Libra because we want our men allllll the time and expect them to tell us about their emotions or why they're being distant. Maybe I'm not making much sense and repeating myself but it does seem like they take more of a nonchalant approach to love. Like, meh, whatev.


That's the thing, I'm not clingy. I have way to much pride to constantly text him or get his attention. But on the flipside it kills me that he doesn't seek my attention. So many men are so easily manipulated by a libra woman. It mind boggles me that sag is not so much. It gets me frustrated! lol I know he likes me but I don't know if there will ever be a change in that and thats what Im afraid of. Do sag men get better with time?
Wait...hold up...@OP
Aren't you asking about this same man on the the Sag board? You're trying to manipulate him and you wonder why he hasn't expressed his true feelings? Manipulation is dishonesty. Sounds to me like you simply want his attention and take love as a game. Its not. No wonder he's withdrawn. We smell manipulation a mile away and will bounce quicker than a basket ball. Smh
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Wait...hold up...@OP
Aren't you asking about this same man on the the Sag board? You're trying to manipulate him and you wonder why he hasn't expressed his true feelings? Manipulation is dishonesty. Sounds to me like you simply want his attention and take love as a game. Its not. No wonder he's withdrawn. We smell manipulation a mile away and will bounce quicker than a basket ball. Smh


Haha yea I want two points of view. I'm not trying to manipulate him. I don't take love as a game,o he knows how I feel about him, he makes fun of it sometimes which pisses me off. He knows the power he has on me and he knows how to abuse it. I'm just confused about his intentions and what he really thinks because he doesn't open up to me
Posted by oldskoolflavor
this broad has issues


Lmao yea I want advice and what, smartass?! Go kick rocks somewhere and get off this post then lol
Posted by GiftfromVenus
Posted by crunchy
I dated a Sag once. My wings felt clipped. Sad


How so?
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He was very conservative and into traditional gender roles (ie, women should be demure, submissive little dolls).
But, that was his upbringing.
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Posted by beautifulsoul74
Wait...hold up...@OP
Aren't you asking about this same man on the the Sag board? You're trying to manipulate him and you wonder why he hasn't expressed his true feelings? Manipulation is dishonesty. Sounds to me like you simply want his attention and take love as a game. Its not. No wonder he's withdrawn. We smell manipulation a mile away and will bounce quicker than a basket ball. Smh


Haha yea I want two points of view. I'm not trying to manipulate him. I don't take love as a game,o he knows how I feel about him, he makes fun of it sometimes which pisses me off. He knows the power he has on me and he knows how to abuse it. I'm just confused about his intentions and what he really thinks because he doesn't open up to me
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Gift...you're being disingenuous. You said so many men at easily manipulated by Libran women but him not so much so. Sure you're not? Because its the reason why h teases you because he feels you really take him seriously because he feels you're manipulating him to get what you want. He actually doesn't know he has that power and this is why he's taking space, to decide whether he wants to go further with you or not. He's equally confused about your intentions and as I said in the other thread...he's mirroring you...consciously.
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Posted by GiftfromVenus
Posted by crunchy
I dated a Sag once. My wings felt clipped. Sad


How so?


He was very conservative and into traditional gender roles (ie, women should be demure, submissive little dolls).
But, that was his upbringing.
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Was it just his upbringing? Possibly, but ex of 19 yrs was exactly that!!
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Posted by GiftfromVenus
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Wait...hold up...@OP
Aren't you asking about this same man on the the Sag board? You're trying to manipulate him and you wonder why he hasn't expressed his true feelings? Manipulation is dishonesty. Sounds to me like you simply want his attention and take love as a game. Its not. No wonder he's withdrawn. We smell manipulation a mile away and will bounce quicker than a basket ball. Smh


Haha yea I want two points of view. I'm not trying to manipulate him. I don't take love as a game,o he knows how I feel about him, he makes fun of it sometimes which pisses me off. He knows the power he has on me and he knows how to abuse it. I'm just confused about his intentions and what he really thinks because he doesn't open up to me


Gift...you're being disingenuous. You said so many men at easily manipulated by Libran women but him not so much so. Sure you're not? Because its the reason why h teases you because he feels you really take him seriously because he feels you're manipulating him to get what you want. He actually doesn't know he has that power and this is why he's taking space, to decide whether he wants to go further with you or not. He's equally confused about your intentions and as I said in the other thread...he's mirroring you...consciously.
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I get what your saying but manipulating him for what? I want his Love I don't want to play games with him or use him. I want him to love me like I love him. I've told him that I genuinely care about him before and when he told me he has feelings about me but thats he's become like a robot with his feeling because he's been hurt in the past. I've told him I want to get into a relationship and all that. I just don't get why he doesn't love me back, what he's scared of
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Posted by crunchy
I dated a Sag once. My wings felt clipped. Sad


How so?


He was very conservative and into traditional gender roles (ie, women should be demure, submissive little dolls).
But, that was his upbringing.



Was it just his upbringing? Possibly, but ex of 19 yrs was exactly that!!
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Hi Sweethearts! Hitcha up later Winking
I've known a couple of Sags both male and female that were like that. Good thing I'm a little on the liberal side!
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Posted by crunchy
I dated a Sag once. My wings felt clipped. Sad


How so?


He was very conservative and into traditional gender roles (ie, women should be demure, submissive little dolls).
But, that was his upbringing.



Was it just his upbringing? Possibly, but ex of 19 yrs was exactly that!!
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He had both Venus and Mars in Scorpio, moon in Virgo and Mercury in Capricorn.
Hey BS, cool hope all is well smile
Ok if you just want to be barefoot and pregnant...not so if you want to be your own person!
But one things for sure, when they fall in love you are their woman and there's no doubt about that. There was never any wishy washiness, no hesitation whatsoever! But then again I never played games either...You start playing games and that is with any male no matter what sign and you're going to get game playing back.
Posted by sweethearts
Hey BS, cool hope all is well smile
Ok if you just want to be barefoot and pregnant...not so if you want to be your own person!
But one things for sure, when they fall in love you are their woman and there's no doubt about that. There was never any wishy washiness, no hesitation whatsoever! But then again I never played games either...You start playing games and that is with any male no matter what sign and you're going to get game playing back.


Sweethearts! Play fair lol! You know that not all of us are like that Winking
haha, well this might be true. I only know 2 sags you and him...so I'll have to take your words for it Tongue
so true-fully BS,
When you have children does your wife stay home and look after the kids or go back to work? She doesn't really have a career...
Posted by sweethearts
so true-fully BS,
When you have children does your wife stay home and look after the kids or go back to work? She doesn't really have a career...




To Sweethearts and LibraCuspScorpio, this goes to what I was saying in my "Love Her " thread.
To me its about partnership and not gender roles. I personally look for a relationship where both of us are dominant. If you notice, there are times where he leads and others where she leads. Its equal. When she's down, I do what I can to help her...thus leading and she does the same for me. The truth is when its dominant/ submissive, one person is not able to fully "realize" themselves. Women have traditionally been put in this position but as you've implied...and are not happy. They shouldn't be. Because women, whether we realize it or not, are our equals. I'd fully support my other half having a career. I'd take of time from work or put my interests on the back burner in order to help her. If that makes me whimpy(lol) so be it. Its just my understanding of love. I'd hope she'd do the same for me.
And if she isn't career orientated, you met her and she worked in a pub or takeaway joint or supermarket or clothing store. A means to an end with no future goals?
Posted by sweethearts
And if she isn't career orientated, you met her and she worked in a pub or takeaway joint or supermarket or clothing store. A means to an end with no future goals?


Wouldn't bother me at all. Seriously. To me, its about the true gift a person brings and that comes in many forms. Society tells you that stuff is important but yet that special someone often comes in a form that we don't expect and aren't used to.
Look at it this way, you and I both know that our lives are but choices that lead to successive(a path) moments in time and things change. I can't look at someone now and say that's who they'll always be. Its one of the biggest mistakes and lets be honest...its judging. We look at someone, compare their faults and attributes, how they live their lives, etc, and decide whether we want something with them or not based on evidence that is circumstantial and temporary. We say, if only they would be like this or that. Okay...show them. Be that example and maybe they'll be like I need to do that but don't look down on them if they don't or do things the way you think they should. Perhaps the way they do things is a lesson for us. Humility.
Its easier to find someone who already has "things" in place. Its harder to work with someone who doesn't. But quick and easy isn't always the right choice. When you work hard for something and you reach your goal, you appreciate it. Love is no different. Everybody wants the chemistry and connection because its easier. But those are just the surface of love and don't indicate longevity or depth. When two people come together and build their love, it becomes stronger than anything and if they focus on that, they become unbreakable and a beacon for others. Look at the old couples who are married for 50 plus years and are still very much in love with each other. They'll tell you it wasn't easy by they focused on the love between them to make it through. Why is that such a rarity and is actually balked at now? Because we treat relationships like fast food...instant gratification. But the meals that are more fulfilling are the ones you prepare yourself because you put the time and effort in. Our spirits long for that lasting love but we're becoming less willing to put in the work.
Well I??m a libra gal and I??ve delt with a few Sagg men, but I??ve only had one serious relationship with a sagg (or so I thought). I can tell you a great deal about these men, as my best cousin is married to one. She is an Aries. I also have lots of Sagg female cousins; they don??t seem to be too much different from the men when in love. Like one of my sagg female cousins is married to a Libra male.
One thing I will say about a Sagittarius man, is they are very cool and nonchalant about pretty much everything including love. To them life and love should be fun and adventurous. You shouldn??t be trying to figure it out, you should be enjoying it. Too much naggy, fussy behavior will drive them away. (This includes constantly prying them about their feelings and emotions). They are a ???fly by the seat of their pants?? type of guy and their partner has to be able to keep up or get left behind.
That hot and cold demeanor you are referring to is not something he??s doing on purpose. This is his personality in general. He can wake up one morning and want to go to an amusement park, go mountain climbing by noon, and race car driving in the evening. (this is extreme, but I??ve seen them do this. I dated one, I was dead tired after a day with him) They love excitement and fun. In their world the sun is always shinning. If in the even they are upset, you can believe they are trying everything in their power to get back to their chipper happy, fun loving self.
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If you want to keep him, you CANNOT nag him. About ANYTHING! He will not feed into it, unless it affects him. If he thinks it??s pointless and petty, he will shrug it off and keep it moving. Also you??ll want to be careful about asking him about his feelings all the time unless you??re sure you can handle what flies off that razor sharp tongue that he has. Sagittarius is very and I mean VERY blunt. Some people think it??s rude, but they see it as honesty. Unlike Aries men, whom keeps their mouth shut unless it has something to do with them, or unless asked; Sagittarius will blurt out their open and honest opinion without thinking twice about it comes out. So when you are asking him how he feels about you, you should watch your attitude and your approach, because he will slice you up with words without even breaking a sweat.
In matters of love, Lord help the woman that thinks she can outsmart a Sagittarius man. He cannot and will not be played. He??s extremely smart. His thought process is always 3 steps ahead. He does not take kindly to tricks being played on him, whether innocent or direct. If you want his attention, take it. Do not beg for it, because he will see you as weak and insecure. If you want to know his intentions with you, ask him. Be clear and firm on what you are asking, straight no chaser, no tears, or emotional blowouts, be firm, strong and confident. You said he knows the power he has over you, that my dear should scare you. I say that because a Sagittarius with fowl intentions could string you along (my ex) and throw you away like a used up rag doll when he??s done playing. A Sagittarius with sincere intentions will sit you down and tell you straight out what it is that he??s looking for, and your either on board or you??re not. Either way his ship sails on time with or without you. Either way, it??s important that you find out which one you are dealing with before you set your heart on the table.

He??s normally drawn to strong women and confident drop dead gorgeous women weather the beauty inside or out. He prefers both, but if she??s not beautiful on the outside he??ll have his phone and toss her to the side. After all he loves all women. She doesn??t have to be a super model, but she damn sure better have the confidence of one if she??s to keep up with him. He prefers a brain over a banging body any day. He??s mostly attracted to the woman that stands out in the room, the one that??s not fishin
sag men are the best for me when it comes to fun and conversations... commitment is dependent on what the guy wants.
I get attracted to them easily... theyre the best ones to ask for an emergency fuck. Never fails me.
If you want a commitment make sure thats what he wants too.