Libra Females, how to blow you away?

Im curious to find out what i could do that would totally impress you Libra females, im chasing one at the moment, what would amaze you, what would impress you? what would make you say "i gotta have him" i know mostly what Libra females like, but what i would like you to know is what would really make you react if i was to do something for you, i know that Libras like checking that thier looking good and all that, i want to pull this Libras attention from herself for a little while, dressing well, i already do that, smelling nice i already do that too, giving good conversation, i do that too, leaving her to fly about talking to other people, yep i do that too, so what else?

Hi Moloko,

Well, for this Libra lady there are many things that catch my attention. Lets see, we love anything romantic, when men look us right in the eyes when they speak, sensuality, affection, when men are protective in a subtle way (subtle being key), being complimented (not flattered), being made to feel like we are being worshipped, smiles (good teeth), positive attitudes. Turn offs would be: bragging, non subtle macho crap, bad mouthing other people, negitive attitudes, moodiness, being felt caged in, crudeness (although we like the bad boy thing every now and again), selfishness, unfairness, and arguing. That is pretty much us in a nutshell, hope it helps. OH, the most important thing is all of this is contingent on if we are romantically interested in the man. If we are not interested some of this would make us uncomfortable.

Sunshine...








Sunshine...

Hi Sunshine

Jesus Christ, talk about complicated, i must be off my nut trying to target a specific type of woman, only joking, well what you have mentioned sounds like a fair enough expectation from a man, as a Libra, f these things would be quite easy to do and around half of them should come natually, but i think the difficulty will be trying to know when its right to do these things and when not to, like you mention that turn offs would be macho crap and bad mouthing, but would it be fine in the Libras eyes for her to do it? Libras like to feel like they are being worshipped, do they ever return that favour? man who look them right in the eyes when they speak, well 2 of my girlfriends told me i got come to bed type of sexy eyes, and i kinda get kicks from keeping eye contact with a girl to st staring but good eye contact, no crudeness but like the bad boy thing every now and again, in other words when it suits the Libra only? possibly the balance that a Libra constantly tries to keep seems relatively easy compared to the constant balance a partner of a Libra may have to attempt, whats in it for us if we get all this correct most of the time, genuinely, what will i get in return from a Libra partner, i dont mind worshipping her, but hey, i exist too. My intuition should help me with most of this, i just aint going to live on my knees though.

THe stuff above, thats your requests as a Libra right, so maybe not all are so complicated.

Hi Candlegirl

One thing that the recent Libra woman told me was that she didnt like being the centre of attention, but at the same time i read that they want to be adored, at first i think to myself that this sounds contradictive, but then i thought to myself, well i suppose you can be adored and worshipped without being the centre of attention.

It sounds to me like they appreciate something out of the ordinary, a bit of class but as you mention, nothing too over the top, do Libra's fantasize? i read that thier kisses are not up to much and that they can come across as quite shallow, it does help what you have mentioned, im learning more about Libra all the time, the only thing im feeling is that the whole keeping a balance thing of Libra's spills over and that a potential partner may have to spend much of thier time trying to keep a balancing act too, not to mention the indecisiveness, in one way im attracted to those great and wonderful things of Libra women and in another im thinking to myself this is not so easy to deal with them.

Cheers

Hi Moloko,

lol...yes, i see where it can get a bit confusing. Well for one, the worship thing. Yes, when us Libra women are romantically linked to a man they are worshipped like no other. I always give what I want to receive, its my way of showing the man what I want. The bad boy thing, now that is just a persona we find sexy at times. The difference between being worshipped and being the center of attention. We like to feel worshipped from the man we are with. Being the center of attention means other people are involved. Its true Moloko, we Libra women at times say one thing and want another it is complicated. But if your Libra lady is intersted she will make you feel like the king of the castle. Libra women like people to feel special and will go out of their way to do so. So I wish you luck and remember this Libra lady might have other influences in her chart you might want to do a natal chart on her if you know her birthdate. Good luck, hope i didnt confuse you anymore...*S*

Sunshine...

Hi Sunshine

No, you didnt confuse me any more,lol, its making more sense to me,its helpful, i appreciate you explaining things, how do i do a natal chart on her?

Hi moloko,

This is one of my favorites, right on target most of the time: http://astrology3d.com/tv/forms/index.html When you get to the site, click on birth chart and plug in the info. They have a free version and one you can pay for. The free one is fine. When you read get her natal chart, you can do one for the both of you, it puts all of your information together, kinda cool. It will help with understanding better, everyone is a bit different in their chart. Just cause were Libra's isnt enough. Good luck, and if you need more web sites let me know. Im curious to how it turns out. Im not sure if you said what your sign is? Chat with you soon

Sunshine...

My sign is Cancer

Thanks Sunshine i will take a look at that site, ive also dug out an old star signs book this morning while cleaning.

Hi Moloko,

The natal chart with put the star sign book to shame. Its amazing what modern tech has done for astrology. Use to take someone quite a bit of time to do a chart. Now, click its done and you have all of your answers. Cancer, I remember now. I had told you I think that my first B/F of all time was a Cancer. Only Cancer I have been with, not sure why. All and all we got along very good, lived together for about 3 years. Only problem was possesiveness and jealousy. More on the possesiveness, could not breath. But he was a very attentive lover and made me feel like all the stars in the sky were just for me. He was also very gentle patient, kind, protective, nurturing and he did'nt have to work at it. Well, that is my opinions at 6am on a Saturday morning..lol Hope to hear from you soon..

Sunshine...

Hi Sunshine

I will probably do the natal chart tonight when i got my work out of the way, im interested in seeing what it brings up, yeah i remember you recently telling me about your first boyfriend, yeah that damn possesiveness that a cancerian can have can definately cause problems, i try and constantly remind myself about this so as to not become to clingy or stifle, the rest of what you said sounds pretty much correct too, yes, not bad going seen as its so early for you there, lol, at 6am on a saturday morning im usually turning over for another 3 hours, lol

moloko

Hi Sunshine

Ive just done the Birth Chart Interpretation on that site for myself first, unfortunately i dont know the time of my birth as my mum cant remember having me, charming huh?, lol, she told me she was in labour for 48 hours with me, was quite a decent sized baby, lol, i was wondering if im supposed to work something out from the info that it brings up or are the results all relevant to me?

Hi Moloko,

LOL...I was in that kinda labor with both of my children. Let me tell you, that is something your mother will never forget. As far as the time thing, I usually put 12pm if not sure its usually pretty close. Also, if you have your birth certificate, the time is always on that. Let me know how your chart turned out, im curious. You can always use the 12pm thing for your libra lady as well. With a time you'll get your rising sign. Good luck.

Sunshine...

Hi Sunshine

I put in 12pm for the time because of not knowing the actual time of my birth, i looked on my birth certificate but unfortunately the time was not stated on there.

So when it brings up this whole page from the info that i typed in, am i supposed to only read part of it, am i supposed to work something out from the results or is the whole page relevant to me? sorry for my lack of knowledge on the subject.

I dont know the time of birth of the Libra lady either, but will do as you suggest and put in 12pm for her too.

Hi Moloko,

Well when the chart pops up with all the info, there is usually a long description of each aspect listed. Read it all and see what pertains to you. They should have a place to click on for the decription of each aspect and how it pertains to your chart. Let me know how is goes, and dont apologise, this is how we all learn about this stuff. *S* good luck!

Sunshine...

Hey Moloko,

Well things either went extremely well or not so good. Im dying to know what you found out with the charts. Hope all is well.

Sunshine...

Hello Sunshine

Ive done my own but still havn't managed to do one for the Libra lady yet as im trying to get her birth date, but as soon as i can i will do one for the 2 of us, i can definately see things from the results which i can relate too, im enjoying this astrology stuff 🙂

moloko

Libras like to feel like they are being worshipped, do they ever return that favour?

Yes.

possibly the balance that a Libra constantly tries to keep

Common misconception. Libra is about balancing. They are not balanced. They swing from extreme to extreme. If you say up, I think down. If you say yes, I say no. It is automatic.

What to do?

It really depends on the age of the girl. Libra is a late blooming sign and most do not feel the effects of their sign until they are approaching 30. Once they hit 30 it is like an explosion.

I assume you know this person socially. When you run into her at a party or something, stand beside her and light hold you hand on the small of her back for a second too long. You want her to THINK about you. The way to a Librans heart is always through her brain.

The way to do that is to tease her and seduce her slowly. She needs to WONDER what you are doing and what you are thinking. Always be subtle, smooth, and tempting. NEVER be crude or crass. Wield words artfully.

With Libra it is all about the game of seduction, usually because we are masters of it and love to play it back.

The Libra woman that i like is approaching 28, so not too far off 30, she's still at home, i thought she would have moved out years ago, i know her socially, yes, when i next see her i will try what you suggested, i realise what your saying here, like not too heavy but at the same time make it meaningful, so i should tease a little? give her little tasters here and there but keeping it subtle and get her thinking, i think i can do that quite well as being a cancer we tend to hold back a little till were sure so im unlikely to throw myself at her or becoming annoyingly touchy feely. i think your suggestion is a good approach little sparrow

Good Luck Molo

Let me know how it goes! Fingers crossed.

Thanks little sparrow 🙂

As a Libra, I want to throw my two cents in. Little Sparrow is right, it's about balancing, and we are rarely in balance.
For me, I am attracted to a guy who comes across as being in balance, knows his own mind, and is decisive. This may sound a bit harsh, but maybe the Libra in your life isn't warming up to you, because you are tripping over yourself to please her all the time? Please yourself instead and do what you want, she will appreciate that (I think). And if that means you feel like just grabbing her and dragging her off by the hair, go for it, you might be surprised! Speaking for myself, that would rock my world.

Well i like to think of myself as pretty well balanced, im very decisive, if anything, when i met this Libra again, its actually her who is indecisive, she wants to change career, i asked her what she would like to do, shes said she's not really sure, it seems Libra's wouldn't mind someone who can help them make up thier mind a little.
Im not sure if anyone mentioned the Libra warming or not warming up to me, um no im not tripping over myself to please her all the time, i only recently seen her again after over a decade passing.
Im a cancer, tripping over myself to please someone really is not my style , i take pride in myself and what i do, im more likely to back away if i dont feel the same feeling from someone, even if only temporarily.
I already do what i want, im a very independant person, now i would like to do what i can for someone that i like very much, grabbing her away and dragging her off may not be a good idea, she is with someone at the moment, i cant just approach her and do what i like, if you were already in a relationship at the moment and some guy came and tried to take you from your current partner, would you not be offended by that persons arrogance? or would you be impressed at thier forceful way of doing things, being a cancerian im highly unlikely to show myself up and ruin a good reputation, im too proud for that, lol

"Im curious to find out what i could do that would totally impress you Libra females, im chasing one at the moment, what would amaze you, what would impress you? what would make you say "i gotta have him" i know mostly what Libra females like, but what i would like you to know is what would really make you react if i was to do something for you"
I'm sorry, but I interpret that a bit differently from how you may have meant it, it sounded to me like you would like to know what turns a Libra's crank, and the I was just trying to say that wondering what turns my crank, as a Libra, shuts me right down.
If she is with someone, aren't you barking up the wrong tree? She will definitely enjoy the attention, after all we do like to flirt, but nothing will pull us away from a committed relationship unless the significant other screws up. Sorry to be the harbinger of bad news.

You seems pretty confident that your the harbinger of bad news, and i will be sure to let you know if your right, aren't i barking up the wrong tree? probably, but who cares, im full of ambition, i see something i like and never see it as impossible, for me to say im chasing one at the moment, probably is worded incorrectly and as a cancer isn't quite how you may see it, i dont mean i would cut my wrists and drain my blood to get her attention, just that im willing to put in 100% effort, im maybe being too analytical of myself, while im willing to accommodate a Libra, im not willing to re-create myself as a cancer, im a cancerian, always have been always will be, as i state, im not out to squeeze between 2 people, theres nothing wrong with a Libra doing a bit of flirting, so theres nothing wrong with doing a bit of flirting back right?
Theres no danger as you state that nothing will pull you Libra's away from a committed relationship, so im doing no harm, im just dipping my toes in the water a little, not diving in.

I'm sorry, if I misunderstood. I never mentioned "slashing wrists" or desperate measures at all, it's just that I find the original question a bit odd. If all you want is some flirting and some positive feedback from her, then it sounds like you have already succeeded. If it's more, then you could be in for disappointment, that's all I'm trying to say.
But back to the question:
There is no one grand gesture that would get the result you seek. Appeal to her mind and maybe she will give you cues as to what she is all about, and what would impress her. A rousing debate on a topic close to her heart could be quite exhilarating, but be careful not to be combative. We Librans debate to seek answers and learn about alternative opinions, not to "win".

I dont thint that my question was odd, but fair enough, and thank you, i appreciate your advice and views.

A rousing debate might bore her, i definately dont want to do that. Plus the place wont be the ideal time or place to have a debate.

A debate is never boring to a Libra, ever. As far as the place, I don't know about that.

I agree. Debate is never boring.

I don't think there is a grand gesture that you could do. Overtly romantic gestures turn me off and make me uncomfortable. It really starts with the mind. Engage my mind and everything else will follow.

Be interesting.

Air signs are talkers and thinkers. We deal with communication and ideas. A fascinating idea interests me more than a dozen red roses ... not that roses are bad but a fascinating idea can lather me up like nothing else!

Yeah, i noticed that this Libra lady loves to have a good discussion and listens very very carefully to what you say, and will talk about a great many things, also she's good at keeping the conversation flowing, there's no awkward gaps in between, she seems happy and comfortable having a good talk, when ive spoken to her she looks like she's listening to everything and at the same time registering everthing in her mind and thinking to herself about what your saying.

She admitted to being a worrier, worrying about allsorts of things.

Oh no, not a worrier too! I hate that aspect of my character, and try to keep it in check.

And yes, Little Sparrow, you nailed it right there! Overtly "romantic" gestures make me suspicious, even give me the creeps, unless I'm well into a relationship that is on rock solid ground. And I'm sorry, Moloko, I guess that's why your question got my back up right away. I still really don't get it. If she wants you to "blow her away" she will give you the cues you need, so just be perceptive when you are around her.
Also beware: we do like a good conversation and we get into them with anyone who will bring it on, that doesn't necessarily imply that we are into that person romantically though. I've gotten into some pickles on that score, when my interest in someone's point of view was mistaken for being interested in them on some other level.

Well its the first time ive managed to get someones back up by asking friendly questions but i suppose anything can happen, regarding myself misreading someone's conversation for attraction, well i cannot like a life without mistakes and im going to trip up more than a few times through the rest of my life, so all i can do is my best and if i misread or make a total mess of it it will make for funny stories for potential future grand children 😉 while i take relationships serious enough and respect people a lot i intend to have some fun too, if im wrong then im wrong but if im right, well...

Hi Moloko,

I think you will do just fine, there is more to a person than just their sun sign. I don't know any two Libras alike, we just share some traits. This might confuse you more but I have to be in the mood for a good debate. Sometimes I just get tired of talking. I wasnt like that when I was younger, but it seems with age debating is just not that important to me. As far as romantic gestures, love them. So you see, all Libras are not alike, are moon signs and rising signs play a part as well. Tell me, have you gotten her birthdate yet? Good luck to you sweetie, like i said she is a lucky girl to have someone put so much thought into her.

Sunshine...

are=our *blush*

Hi Sunshine

Thanks, your right about there being more to a person than just their sun sign, i understand what you mean about someone not being in the mood for a good debate and how other things would decide if someone wants a discussion or not, i realise that simple everyday things like tiredness or something else may decide if a Libra or anyone else is going to want to debate things, Your right that no 2 people are alike, regardless of thier sign, yourself and yattayattahey differ in your views even though you are both Libra, and thats good as it shows how one may not be impressed by something where another may love a particular gesture or way of doing things, ive still not got her birthdate yet, i will set myself the task of getting it in the next few days, i feel the Libra Lady is worth the thought and effort as she seems to put a lot of effort into things herself and is extremely fair with people, thats something that i dont see everyday from most people.
I appreciate your advice and views and its teaching me a lot, not only about Libras but in people in general, it opens my eyes a little more. 🙂

Moloko,

You are very welcome. Are you sure you dont have a bit of Libra influence in your chart? Your posts show your diplomacy, compassion, empathy and fairness. Very much Libra traits. *S*

Sunshine...

🙂 I will take a look at my chart again, its nice if there is a bit of the Libra way possibly showing through me, i think its just from life experience so far, i try and be as decent and fair as i can, without actually trying to be a Libra i hope i can appeal to Libras at least.

Oh oh, I hope I haven't upset you Moloko. I was just trying to explain my take on things. I can be pretty opinionated, and sometimes I stick my foot in my mouth (or in this case, wear shoes on my typing fingers?)

No, i love peoples opinions on various subjects, im happy to listen to everyone yattayattahey.

Hi Candlegirl the LEEBRA 🙂

Nice to hear from you again, always nice to hear from a libra 😉
How you mentioned that when you were younger you would listen a lot when other people spoke, well thats what i always noticed about the Libra lady too, even as a child she always listened very carefully and still does. She seems so comfortable having a good talk with people, and your right, that you could learn to figure out the boasters from the smarter ones, as with you concentrating properly on what thier saying its easier for you to spot who is telling pork pies.

I get to see her not this coming weekend but the next weekend, quite excited too, not just as its another chance to see and talk with her but also for the party and everything included.

Moloko

Oh phew, I didn't want to get off on the wrong foot, being new to this board and all that stuff. Cheers Moloko!

Well the wedding that i kept talking about is now over, it was a fabulous weekend, had a great time, was dragged up to dance with various fine women, im no closer to the Libra lovely but dont mind, i cant make the impossible happen and its probably better not to feel too focused on one person who im not with, i usually end up feeling disappointed when it dosn't go how i would like but i feel fine, i met her partner for the first time, he's a brilliant guy, i got on really well with him, and felt no jealousy about him or rivalry, i must be definately changing and maturing, im learning to enjoy the company of many people even more. i can now move on knowing that while nothing come of it, it was still an enjoyable time for everyone. 🙂

Hi Moloko,

I'm really glad you had a good time, and sorry things didnt work out as planned. Sometimes life gives us these little challenges, just to make ready for the real thing. You never know, another beautiful Libra might be right in front of you. Now you have great experience in dealing with them. Hope you stay around the board, we'd miss you if you disappeared. Hopefully, you got a few more phone numbers at the wedding. You sound like a real catch, hang in there.

Sunshine...

Hi Sunshine...

I agree with you that life presents these various experiences for us and we can definately learn from it all, your right, another beautiful Libra might be right in front of me, im definately staying around the board, its nice to feel welcome, i ended up with her phone number but not through asking for it and not romantically but instead that her sister asked me to give my email address, so that her sister can email and stay in touch, and so i was instructed by her sister to text the email address to the Libras phone and it would be passed on.

Moloko

Dont tell her she's gorgeous all the time, she probably gets it a lot. Dont go after her for her looks, but comment on how intelligent she is. We love that and maybe, i dont know, mention how attractive she is only every now and then 🙂

I have to admit that although shes good looking theres so much more to her thats very apealing too, yeah i think that she would appreciate compliments on matters other than her appearance, you Libras are damn good lookers thats for sure. 🙂

Hey ajoyfulgirl - I noticed on the Aqua board you said you were with an aquarian..Ive been seeing one for a year now and just curious, is it working well for you's, like are you happy?

Even though they're not real emotional romantic guys - not that Id want that - does he give you enough love, you know what I mean?