Libra flew over the cookoo's nest?
This topic was created in the Libra forum by slowdance on Monday, April 6, 2009 and has 5 replies.
Libras, please shed some light for me.
So I've known this libra guy for about 2 1/2-3 years. About 2 years ago we became extremely close friends. I can recall that one of the first times we ever talked we sat in my living room for 6 hours talking about literally EVERYTHING. Such was the extent of our friendship. After a while, our friendship began to evolve into something else. we spent every waking moment together. we would talk on the phone for hours and hang out with each other whenever we could. Unbeknownst to me at the time, feelings started to develop on both sides. I'm pretty sure I was in love with him the first time we talked, but I was way too scared to ever admit it to myself or him. Keep in mind that we have NEVER hooked up, much to the disbelief of myself and our mutual friends. He never made a move, but our actions made it appear like we were in a relationship. Both of us have had really shtty relationships in the past, so being really cautious and scared could've played into nothing ever happening.
Anyway, after a while our friendship turned ugly. He began to push me away and accuse me of things that I didn't do. I even found out he had blocked me on AIM at one point and when I asked him why he would reply with something strange and cryptic. Even though we were "just friends" there were times where I felt that he would get jealous or disapprove of things I would do and get lash out at me for it. Hence, I decided to cut him out of my life. Since then, he has come back many times, the most recent time confessing his undying love for me to a good friend of mine. Keep in mind that this is the VERY FIRST TIME he has ever confessed any type of feelings for me other than friendship. He told her that I was the love of his life and that I was the only girl he could picture having kids with. So I decided to contact him and told him that I felt the same way, but couldn't put myself through the hell he had put me through again. I told him not to contact me because it would be too hard. Months passed and he continued to contact a mutual friend telling her that he wanted to reconcile and that he was still in love with me, but the timing was bad. He said he wanted to talk to me in person to talk about what happened between us and how it got so bad. When our mutual friend told me this I took it upon myself to give it a try, because at least I'd know I did everything I could to make this friendship (or whatever it was) work. (cont'd...)
So I've known this libra guy for about 2 1/2-3 years. About 2 years ago we became extremely close friends. I can recall that one of the first times we ever talked we sat in my living room for 6 hours talking about literally EVERYTHING. Such was the extent of our friendship. After a while, our friendship began to evolve into something else. we spent every waking moment together. we would talk on the phone for hours and hang out with each other whenever we could. Unbeknownst to me at the time, feelings started to develop on both sides. I'm pretty sure I was in love with him the first time we talked, but I was way too scared to ever admit it to myself or him. Keep in mind that we have NEVER hooked up, much to the disbelief of myself and our mutual friends. He never made a move, but our actions made it appear like we were in a relationship. Both of us have had really shtty relationships in the past, so being really cautious and scared could've played into nothing ever happening.
Anyway, after a while our friendship turned ugly. He began to push me away and accuse me of things that I didn't do. I even found out he had blocked me on AIM at one point and when I asked him why he would reply with something strange and cryptic. Even though we were "just friends" there were times where I felt that he would get jealous or disapprove of things I would do and get lash out at me for it. Hence, I decided to cut him out of my life. Since then, he has come back many times, the most recent time confessing his undying love for me to a good friend of mine. Keep in mind that this is the VERY FIRST TIME he has ever confessed any type of feelings for me other than friendship. He told her that I was the love of his life and that I was the only girl he could picture having kids with. So I decided to contact him and told him that I felt the same way, but couldn't put myself through the hell he had put me through again. I told him not to contact me because it would be too hard. Months passed and he continued to contact a mutual friend telling her that he wanted to reconcile and that he was still in love with me, but the timing was bad. He said he wanted to talk to me in person to talk about what happened between us and how it got so bad. When our mutual friend told me this I took it upon myself to give it a try, because at least I'd know I did everything I could to make this friendship (or whatever it was) work. (cont'd...)
HOWEVER... When I contacted him he basically tried to make light of all the serious assertions he had shared with my friend about me being the love of his life and other things of the sort. He made it seem like we were just friends all along and nothing more which is complete bs after all the things he had confessed only a week or two before. Now, keep in mind, I'm not the type of girl that goes looking for things that clearly aren't there. I'm not needy like that. But, seriously, wth??? He's supposedly completely enamored, but then the moment he knows that I know, he takes it back? Libras... what gives? Tell me I'm not the one who's crazy, because at this point I feel like I am. Why would he do this?
Sounds to me like he's weighing things out. Libra's are typical half steppers... they give you just enough to stick around and wonder what's next.. but never fully commit until they are ready.
That's so typical. Mine is doing the same. I keep wondering if I should make the move or wait. They analyze too much.
Thanks for the replies 
As of now I've decided to cut him off. I'm way too impatient for that sht and this has been going on for more than 2 yrs. If he hasn't "decided" yet I suppose he never will, right? And even if he does decide, who's to say that he won't change his mind again?
As of now I've decided to cut him off. I'm way too impatient for that sht and this has been going on for more than 2 yrs. If he hasn't "decided" yet I suppose he never will, right? And even if he does decide, who's to say that he won't change his mind again?
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