Libra Girlfriend & HORRIBLE sex.

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Moetbearer27 on Sunday, February 5, 2017 and has 33 replies.
I forgot to mention we watched my grandma die, havent worked in 7 months and while she runs her own buisness and works 2 jobs
How long have you been together? I don't generally get off on oral with a guy until there is a connection so I don't let him waste his time so to speak. MY bf was like Hallelujah! When I finally let him go for it and came lol! This was after about a month or so of dating. I did give and make sure he was seen to though and our sex life is pretty amazing for the most part now.
You say she knew sex was a biggie for you from Jump St. As a woman, independent from my zodiac, I find that a man pointing that out early on is a turnoff: it makes me feel very self-conscious (despite the fact that I only ever had positive comments and even awe from my numerous lays and I am really confident I have the goods). It would make me feel insecure. I find this is one among several reasons not to discuss sex before you've had it together.

I don't think this is a Libra thing. I think this is a thing where the girl really wants to be with you but is afraid she will underperform sexually to your liking and thus overpromises and – duh! – underdelivers. She is definitely not comfortable with you in bed.

I think it is best if you start telling her explicitly things you like, but start with the simple vanilla stuff, not the party hard stuff. Also, quit guessing things by the way she behaves and start asking her direct questions: her behavior clearly is no indication of the truth. Case in point: girls can be turned off getting head because their lady parts are very sensitive, because their partner is too forceful (you seem quite the forceful type), because they feel pressured to have an orgasm on command, etc.

I feel like you guys may have skipped an important step in the first stages of your relationship: establishing intimacy. That might be what is missing. She might have trouble opening up, being herself and communicating because of this.

Also, if this girl smokes pot regularly or has recently taken antidepressants for more than a couple of months, that might have killed her libido and/or her ability to have orgasms. She might then feel ashamed of it and hide it, and that is really understandable. In that case, you will have to work harder to please her and be a really good listener.

In short, you guys need to talk. Directly. Not through having sex and not while having sex. Make sure you don't intimidate her, and focus on establishing intimacy.


I think she likes to experiment everything....................................inside her HEAD. And why can't you take a step forward of suggesting her some kinky stuffs before she do? And having a threesome is out of league if you are looking for a relationship with her, that's a no no. Talk to her openly about your thoughts, get her opinion and if you both can't agree with each other then you both shouldn't be wasting time. By the way you both got matching signs though.
Posted by youngali
LMFAO!!!!!! She gassed herself up and got your expectation of her sex game so high and she failed to live up to it.

That freaking sucks! it's the worst!

i'd leave her ass for false advertising and inconsistency.

game over.
That's not advice – that is merely an insensitive comment, likely coming from a narcissist.
Pillow talk

That's the best time, in my opinion, to reflect on your intimacy and give your thoughts and accept her thoughts.

I don't know how serious your relationship is or how much you both mean to each other, but the first step, I think, is to stop thinking your are better than her and to stop making assumptions about her. There is a skill in language, no matter how good you think you are at sex. If you can't communicate to her what she wants and what you would like, then a part of your sex Skills isn't as great as you think.
Posted by geminidude

And why can't you take a step forward of suggesting her some kinky stuffs before she do?


It is apparent that suggesting too much kinky stuff too fast (even before they got intimate) is a big part of the problem, and more of that is not going to help.

The more I think about this topic, the more it seems to me that the OP is looking for a lay more than anything else and he is letting the girl he is dating believe there is more when there isn't.

What is it today with people feeling such a rush to enquire about and flaunt sex? Is it just me or it is now the only thing that really seems to matter? And we wonder why the divorce rates and the rape culture?!
Bad sex that never got better? Could be a deal breaker for me too. It's something that has to happen naturally. Can't force it.
Yeah l suspect Libras are bad in the sack.
Posted by youngali

and... ????

he's not asking for advice. he's venting. i didn't see a question mark in the topic. did u?

you're probably mad because you yourself are a starfish like her which could be why you're a little sensitive on the topic in general. he made it clear what he was about in the beginning, she also made it clear that she was about the same thing. unfortunately, she's not as great as she said she was. wtf are you even mad about? why am i suppose to be sensitive to her? this is a forum boo. get over your over sensitive cry baby self. pfft.
I was just highlighting the fact that you were judging a person very harshly based on limited information. I am sure I am not alone in finding that not helpful for anyone.

You are right, this is only a forum. That also means a place you go to discuss issues serious enough and important enough that you'd rather discuss it anonymously, which has tons of advantages. Maybe you only use fora to waste time, both yours and others', but don't go thinking we are all the same. To each his own.

I am cool as a cucumber. Seeing your rant, you are in need of venting much more than the OP. Have the decency to not hijack his topic and if you really have so much pent up anger and frustration, post your own topic. You can be sure no annoying people like me will bother you there.

By the way, this is what the OP said in the very first post:

i need some help understanding my current partner.
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You might want to learn to read before pretending to think and attempting to write.

Edited to correct the quoting code that wasn't broke but that youngali felt compelled to fix, probably because he didn't take his meds that day.
Maybe she feels the same about you, who knows.

Chemistry.... such a strange and wonderful thing
Posted by Areyoumytwinflame
I'm sorry to say this because I just said really nice things about air signs but you guys are not that intuitive in the bedroom ? And also a little selfish

You're both trying to do what only YOU want and upset that you have to do what the other wants.

....but you're cheating on her anyway...so.....?
I will have to call you out on that. First, sweeping double generalization – not just Libras but air signs as a whole. Really?!

Second, ascribing all of a person's sexuality to their Sun sign... What do you make of age, experience (both quantity and quality), compatibility (just because you didn't like sex with X doesn't mean another different person wouldn't like X's style ), etc.

I am a Libra and have had more partners than you probably ever will. Enough to have sampled each Sun sign, race, age group, size and shape more than once. Not one ever complained, about 80% complimented without being asked and half of those were amazed. Either ALL men are liars or your sexual tastes are questionable.

I am seeing a Gemini at the moment. If you believe as firmly in the zodiac as you seem to, then you will accept that they are generally disinhibited, active, somewhat kinky and most of all quality lays. I can't get enough of him, he can't get enough of me. Both of us are air signs.

How many Libras have you bedded again?
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Posted by Areyoumytwinflame
I'm sorry to say this because I just said really nice things about air signs but you guys are not that intuitive in the bedroom ? And also a little selfish

You're both trying to do what only YOU want and upset that you have to do what the other wants.

....but you're cheating on her anyway...so.....?
I will have to call you out on that. First, sweeping double generalization – not just Libras but air signs as a whole. Really?!

Second, ascribing all of a person's sexuality to their Sun sign... What do you make of age, experience (both quantity and quality), compatibility (just because you didn't like sex with X doesn't mean another different person wouldn't like X's style ), etc.

I am a Libra and have had more partners than you probably ever will. Enough to have sampled each Sun sign, race, age group, size and shape more than once. Not one ever complained, about 80% complimented without being asked and half of those were amazed. Either ALL men are liars or your sexual tastes are questionable.

I am seeing a Gemini at the moment. If you believe as firmly in the zodiac as you seem to, then you will accept that they are generally disinhibited, active, somewhat kinky and most of all quality lays. I can't get enough of him, he can't get enough of me. Both of us are air signs.

How many Libras have you bedded again?
OMG! here u go. ^^^ stop bragging about what you're like in bed. people who are good don't need to state it.

and if you went through that many partners without a ring then maybe you're not as good as you think you are or maybe in fact all the men YOU'VE dealt with ARE indeed liars.

you're constantly trying to correct people and judge people yet claiming we're doing it. she spoke from her experience, just like you're speaking from your experience, and like i spoke from what i'd do if i was in the situation. if she thinks all air signs are trash in bed. let her. who tf cares.

you're grumpy as hell, probably old as hell, and if you were as happy as you said you were, you'd be somewhere with your boo phucking the shit out of him or her right now.

ga'damn.
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Mmmkay, I just realized you are about twelve. Talk to the hand.
This must be true because I am a libra and I am rubbish at doing the sex.
You're plugging her friend, huh. Boy would I love to see the libra's side of the story.
She's lazy and doesn't clean.

The sex Is bad.

Your also with her friend.

You Nasty.

You deserve each other.
It takes 2 too tango.
You are a shallow twat ....sex is not love ..just love her ...work through the issue if you really love her. I don't know how ...that is between couples. Seriously you seem immature though.
Posted by Moetbearer27
me:

aquarius sun

aquarius moon

scorpio asc

her:

libra sun

gemini moon

pisces asc

hey everyone, i need some help understanding my current partner. shes a great girl and all but i can feel myself getting more fustrated with sex and her sexual habits. i think its a combination of insecurity, and lack of passion/interest, but id like more opinions.

im all for oral..i love giving and recieving. i make sure im damn good atit too. and ive never really been so let down untill this relationship. im a keen observer in bed so ive noticed her auctually pushing me away from preforming oral on her, most likley because she cums really quickly and is pooped out afterwards...anyway i can understand not being that into something, but if you know your partner has expressed how much they like/appreciate oral, not showing any effort in that dept is beyond me. at best its alright before she just stops and complains, at worst shes not paying attention and it makes me furious.

then theres the porn/ foreplay issue. she told me she was into watching porn while having sex before we started dating heavily. however i didnt know that was part of her pre-sex ritual. its like i have to stop and plug in a freaking laptop or charge an iphone everytime i want to have sex. then she lays there and wants me to stroke her while she watches. shes tried to "dry jerk me" but ive had to take her hand and put it down or simply tell her to stop many a time.p, astonished that an adult woman has sex this way.

and all of this is so much more upsetting because she came into this relationship asking me my sexual ins and outs. talking all this crap about being really good, and yadda yadda. example she talked so much crap about being the best a riding, fast forward to when were having sex and shes on top, and im thinking about my dentist appointment while she on top of me doing whatever it is that she does.

at times it feels like im having sex with a virgin. it would be better because a virgin dosent think theyre good. i talk a lot of smack but i make damn sure she cums % 90 of the time. and im just tired of washing up and beating off, and im not dealing with this for too much longer. shes a good girl but she knew sex was a biggie for me from jump st. shes hinted to a threesome, but its a slippery slope for me (im just gonna keep plugging her friend) so i denied. how can i get her out of her head?

You wrote a whole text putting the blame on the girl for your horrible SEX life. I mean that's all that's mattering to you right now. You don't care for her emotions evolving sex. have you ever thought that she might need to have a bette rmeotional link to have a better preformance? I mean she's your girlfriend and you talking about her as if she was a transexual thais whore that you picked around the corner.

WHy am I discussing emotional needs with an Aqua? I might as well wait for Trump's hair to look good, it's way easier. Just leave the poor girl, you succubus!
Nvm, this is an old ass thread. Who's the dumb fuck digging up necro threads?
Dude.. If you have to talk about it.. Like really talk about it a LOT... Then you don't have chemistry... She sucks in bed or you do or you're not compatible.... I don't stay with men I'm not sexually compatible with... That's my advice. Leave.
Posted by Arielle83
Omg this was 7 months ago and now you're cleaning.


Dude you're weird for staying.
He hasnt responded....since 7 months ago...
Posted by LittleFairy
You are a shallow twat ....sex is not love ..just love her ...work through the issue if you really love her. I don't know how ...that is between couples. Seriously you seem immature though.
Yes love her, push all that other stuff to the bottom and at least once a day retire to the basement to masturbate ? #marriedlyfe

it takes two in order

for sex to be horrible.

a good partner knows

how to make open up.

how to excite a mate

until she is wild, free.

sounds like you dont

have that skill set but

expect good sex, ne.

Stabbing a dead horse are we? Or should I say it's skeleton?
Check your Venus Mars and Venus Pluto aspects ..... If there ain't any between your charts, the chances are sex between the two of you won't be mind blowing
Posted by bricklemark
Yeah l suspect Libras are bad in the sack.
They suck. Like bad
Posted by LittleFairy
You are a shallow twat ....sex is not love ..just love her ...work through the issue if you really love her. I don't know how ...that is between couples. Seriously you seem immature though.
But SEX is part of LOVE! just love her? are you kidding me? how can you love someone who you don't have any chemistry with. First is sex and attraction and then love can flourish. Sex for men is everything in the first stage of the relationship. OMG that's why men always say women are insane. Why is he immature?
First of all, I laughed out loud when I read your story.

And let me tell you that although libras are very appealing and all of that, they mostly suck at sex. It's true! Super shallow, personally I don't like their energy in bed, and they tend preach about being all this and all of that to people but indoors another story is taking place.

I'm not saying that your libra girl is bad, or that you are good at bed. Chemistry has to be there, is not something you can work out and magically it appears.It just shows! She needs to watch porn before? that's so lame... I feel bad for her. Sorry I feel that the chemistry between you two is not enough, you can't make it happen, it doesn't matter how much you guys communicate, and how much you seem to be enjoying her company. Friends exists for that. In a couple SEX has to be damn good. You just know when you see it, because you can feel it, smell it and taste it.

Go out and find that kinky dirty monster your aqua and scorp are willing to find.
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Posted by bricklemark
Yeah l suspect Libras are bad in the sack.
They suck. Like bad
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Best sex i ever had.
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Posted by Stensco21
Posted by bricklemark
Yeah l suspect Libras are bad in the sack.
They suck. Like bad
Best sex i ever had.
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I'm with the Picses ^^^. Some of the best sex I ever had was with a libra. Better than a scorpio I dated. But we were real serious. I think with Libras if they're really feeling you and they're all about you and nobody else the sex is mindblowing. But if you're like a fling or something they might half ass it. But sex was never a problem with my libra. When she wasn't around I couldn't get her or her sex off my mind.
You need to look at the Mars. I'm a Virgo Mars and I go above and beyond to please.
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Posted by bricklemark
Yeah l suspect Libras are bad in the sack.

The sun has jack shit to do with it. Like others said it might affect why, how, and who they go about giving the real attention to. Good sexual ability is about biological understanding and a focus and attentiveness to what pleases the other person. So if a Libra wasn't putting the person on a pedestal, then they probably will semi-deliberately neglect the other person's needs.

But otherwise it would depend on Mars. I have Scorp Mars and everyone I have fucked has said I'm amazing.

Actually the last one told me to "dick her down" because we were having make up sex. Implying that I was keeping her around no other way than by being a good fuck.

And I'm the dude here.
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I never suggested it was the sun sign.

Idk analyse each person and try and perceive what placement does what.